₦airaland Forum

MadeINchenzen2:
I was awake for hours last night trying to figure out what the married enjoys that the single people do not.

I couldn't come up with anything logical or cogent points at all.

I now understand the reason why a lot of persons have chosen to stay single for as long as possible without plans of getting married.

I like the fact that you used "for as long as possible". Fear no let you say till old age

Now, imagine getting to your 70s, still single, and wishing you had grand kids. I'll leave you with that imagination. Your own don be sef if we add poverty to the mix cos no woman will touch you with a 50 metre pole

Even old people's home will reject you when you can't afford the bills.

He's just a typical Nigerian with zero money management skills. His parents already had a good house so most likely, the 60k house was built to impress his village people. The need to impress people will often be the priority. If you think that you're doing too much for the family, please cut down on your expense. If he has to pay loans for the rest of his life for making stup!d decisions, then so be it. The law over there is in your favour. Use it.

Chiefecho:
She was not just a virgin but ordained to be the mother Christ
Read your scriptures if you are a Christian
If you're not then get lost this post ain't for you

Who's arguing with you? I already know your next line of argument. E no dey hard una. The next thing you will say is that Mary is the mother of GOD Like there was a Mary before the creation of the universe.

MaxInDHouse:
She got married, had relations with her husband and had several children after the birth of her first miraculous child. So she was once a virgin but she later loose her virginity in her marriage after getting pregnant for Joseph and having several kids for him! Matthew 13:55-56

True. Every woman is once a virgin. No need gloating over her virginity status all the time.

Mind games for two dishonest people who lack wisdom.

thesicilian:
I'd be too ashamed to reveal this level of dumb ignorance to the world

I think the mistake we make is assume science has all the answers. Science is evolving. Many elements, compounds, etc. have yet to be named. It is not uncommon to see terms like "unexplained condition", "medically unexplainable", and "idiopathic conditions".

It is likely that she mistook abnormal bleeding for menstruation. Given her body size, a protruding belly is also very unlikely.

Imagine saying that you can date a rude girl but can't have one for a wife. It's unfortunate but this is largely the case for many guys out there (I made a lengthy post about this yesterday or so).

I don't have issues with dating for the sake of exploring, fun, etc. But when marriage becomes your expectation from your man, be sure your man really wants a marriage with you.

99% of Nigerian men will "toast" and date Chidinma, the Nigerian Prisons pageant. It's only when marriage becomes the goal they begin to remember their mothers' favourite hair colour and how their grandma prefers Anambra and not Ebonyi Igbo women.

Our definition of online business is extremely flawed in this part of the world.

Your feelings are in order and appropriate. Not having the urge could even be a sign of an underlying medical condition. I don't know what to tell you but if you ever get to the point of choosing either masturbation or s.ex with a random or useless person, please choose the former. Your life will be less complicated with the former.

cococandy:
Got it.

She’s at fault for not diagnosing his insanity and also at fault for wanting to leave when she felt she couldn’t tolerate his insanity anymore.

Smh

socialmediaman:
Both buyers and sellers were guilty. The point here being that there were lots of unthinkable atrocities that happened at the time. Remember the holocaust? Are we overthinking this in Nigeria?

I get your point. We are probably overthinking things. I don't like to tie Nigeria's backwardness to the past. I believe the present leaders are solely responsible and you should be held accountable.

However, this issue right here is somewhat different. It is an individual thing. And mind you, people of the West, Nazi and the rest of the world are not immune to the consequence of idol worship. We don't think that they're going through a lot because we focus on national GDP and other economic indices.

We have seen families in the west where depression, aggression, and loneliness run deep. Terrible things happen in some families. They only don't make the news on CNN or BBC. Some generations have never enjoyed marriage for years. They might mask the pain with new and daily hashtag like #single_rocks, #lonely_but_rocking... Etc. but these things exist.

Idols don't respect hashtags, they gonna do what they've got to do, but it's left to you to respond how you want. The west may turn to sodomy and create new laws everyday to mask these issues, but consequences can never be outlawed. Those who are religious among them also seek spiritual means, by the way.

socialmediaman:
Remember the West was involved in slavery? Remember they conquered natives and occupied what was once the land belonging to those natives? Why didn't it go down to haunt their generations in the ways it does to Africans?

"Slavery on invitation" by an insignificant British population, not vindictive idol worship that degenerated to blood money and rituals in 2022.

cococandy:
You can’t be serious. You must be out of your ever loving mind

But that's the hard truth. The consequences for marrying or dating an insane animal will always manifest. Laws won't necessarily prevent harm. She can only cry and hope for justice. Justice don't raise the dead. Gender equality laws won't raise the dead either.

The most skilful and talented actress in the entire history of Nollywood. Love her.

jerflakes:
I thought Ukraine soldiers weren't captured?

Only russian soldiers were captured.

According to the media.

Surprised asf.

creepsyme:
I truly appreciate the time you took in responding to me, I feel so ventilated.
Firstly, concerning the issues of my finance, I noticed while I worked in the bank I made series of errors that got me paying monies, no matter the department I am being transfered to.
Secondly, I was literally the only one working in my family, it may interest you to know that I am from a family of 10, 3 boys and 7 girls all from the same mother, I am the second child and the bulk of financial responsibility rested on me.
I trained 4 of my siblings in the university upon graduation I thought I could be relieved but not job came around them only menial jobs .
Concerning relationship, saying good things about myself may sound like blowing my own trumpet, I did all I could in my relationships to work but to no avail, it may interest you also to know that I grew up in my family to discover my cousin sisters were just there without marriage, my siblings never got married until from 2016 - 2017 it was so glaring that everybody knew something was basically wrong iny family.
As I speak right now, my major challenge is self discovery, life isn't all about going to school to acquire degrees, I wish I know how to go about it.
However, If I know a different approach to give the situation I will gladly do it without hesitation.

My instinct, when I read that post, was that you spent a lot training your siblings/family. This is why I agree with the idea of self discovery. I think you have invested a significant part of your life making people happy at the expense of your personal fulfilment.

It's very evident from your narration. Not only did you sponsor 4 of your siblings' education, but you also go as far as patronising people who are out to scam you. Maybe it's a personality issue, maybe you don't know how to say no, I wouldn't know but one thing is certain, it is not too late to fix things.

In your path to self discovery, deliverance may be necessary. I don't have a personal experience of how deliverance changed my finance or relationship but I'm convinced beyond doubts that prayers work. You have seen a pattern of late marriage. That's a good pointer. Many of our ancestors committed grave crimes. Some sacrificed human beings, some raped women, etc. Sadly, someone must pay for these crimes. Many victims had no access to a justice system so curses and spells were the only available tools. Some families were cursed and still cursed till date. Some forefathers worshipped idols so much that they dedicated their unborn generations to stup!d vindictive gods. If you have access to aged people in your village, approach them and get real life and terrifying stories.

When people compare us with the west, it usually don't make sense. At the time the US and Britain already had laws in place to checkmate crimes, our forefathers were still killing albinos and twins for "Oro" and new yam festivals. It took the intervention of a few missionaries to address some of these issues.

Bottom line, I'm totally for and not against deliverance to delist yourself from any known and unknown covenant. How to go about it, however, is the challenge. Too many doom and fake pastors out there. This might sound senseless but your chances of getting delivered in a 21st century AC fitted church is slim. Bible school pastors can't help either. Ministry for many pastors today is just a means of survival (an avenue to gain followers, money, and fame).

creepsyme:
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I'm really interested in this part. What happened to your finances? Did you engage in a scam investment? Were you scammed by men? Did you invest in people, or you gave your funds to the needy, or sponsored your siblings' education?

Money don't just disappear to thin air even if the devil is involved.

I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.

This shows that your issues are not necessarily spiritual. Men propose marriage but women have a lot of roles to play in that process. I don't want to make needless assumptions but it's important to ask yourself whether you actually put in the effort to sustain these relationships to the point of marriage or you were just okay with men falling at your feet, taking your numbers, etc., and hoping that one will propose marriage.

What women don't realize is that men also have options. So it's a contest between two indecisive people.

I know it's normal for women to say that "a man who loves me will do this and that..." but that only applies to dating. It is in dating/woo-ing that some men wish to do everything, including feeding you breakfast, lunch, and dinner. When it comes to marital decisions, it is completely different.

In a spousal decision-making process, men's expectations rise above sea level. The sad thing is you will never hear them talk about these expectations. They will buy you a car and still mark you zero or delete you from their "marriage-possibility list". They won't leave you either until they find the right one.

The bible mentioned something about "when a man finds a woman.." but the reality is men who are in relationships are still in the finding process.

Only a woman can hasten, fast-track, and influence a man's marital plan. Mothers do their part, ladies have their roles to play too. With men, there's no such thing as "I think I am now ready for marriage so let me find a woman". Men who say this are typically romance scammers, dating enthusiast, etc.. Finding comes before readiness. That's the hard truth.

That being said, not everyone will be married. I think this is one 21st-century hard truth we all need to accept. The internet is supposed to make relationships and connections better but, so far, it has only improved the alternatives and eroded the need for commitment.

Are your concerns valid? Absolutely! Nobody wants to live a lonely life. I think I had a discussion about this a while ago. Those who think they can have obviously not gotten to that level. So I absolutely understand your concern.

I think at this stage, you should be intentional and realistic with your spousal decisions. The men you will probably marry are not the regular social media user. So you have to be open-minded.

As per your finance issues, I may be able to advise one or two things if you respond to the questions raised above.

beautyhd:
She looks like someone who is running away from abuse/ hiding from an abusive husband.

If she's going to visit a man, she would have used the main gate.

Wait until you hear her own side of the story then you'll marvel.

Some people who are quick to post issues on social media to humiliate another and get validation from people are usually the offenders.

Exactly.

bummyla:
How you treat your parents will be how your kids will treat you!

Not necessarily. If you worship your parents and maltreat your children, will this principle still work? What about those without parents?

Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family,

If this is true, that means OP's mom also hit her mother, implying that she deserves it??


I don't know who gave Nigerians the impression that the God of mothers is stronger than the God of children. The "eleda" of mothers is always on the move looking for people to punish while the "eleda" of children is just sleeping all day long and growing some fat.

This is so nice. Tesla no do pass this one on interior.

PIPPROF:
Make una learn how to trade or save in usdt

Do any of the following

Open a binance crypto account
1
Get a mentor for guidance
Buy coins with potential and keep

2 you can use automated trading exchnages if you cant trade and earn gradually

3. Change your naira to usdt and save on binance or kucoin better than keeping depreciating naira


4. You can buy propert6 and keep of you dont have immediate use for the millions

Note any naira investment paying 15 to 20% per annum is not an investment but ignorance, cause inflation does not favour long term naira invesgments

Avoid all these facebook and pastor led investments companies. They always have story after a while

Avoid agri tech scams
Forex and crypto investment scams (DIY)

Saving in dollar is not necessarily better than a 20% per annum investment in Naira. No assurances that the value of dollar against the Naira will rise to 20% in one year.

At a current rate of N590/$1, Naira needs to fall all the way down to N780 at the end of one year to equal a 20% per annum investment. Even if one dollar is sold for N780 after one year, you haven't earned more than the guy who invested in Naira at 20%.

Can the world just get read of Petrodollar already?

The projections are already showing N700/$1 before the elections. Nigerians won't be able to survive this.

Those who can should get onboarded on freelance sites and start earning in $$. The Naira will not recover under Buhari administration and the new leadership will take at least a year to understand the dynamics of governance.

DSTV has an edge over other pay TV no doubt. The only replacement for DStv in terms of sound and video quality is Android tv/box. If it's not HD, I no dey watch. I want to see all the details, your fingerprint, the length and breadth of hair strands, etc

pocohantas:
Nobody downloads list online. If you like, be in Kuvukiland, if you can’t come, you have to send someone to collect it. That is the standard.

Abeg leave me ooo Poco, I no like stress

Brain, hand (fingers), and eyes.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Hmmm. These villagers can be petty when you don't involve them in these things we may see as unnecessary.

I know right.



Hope our IV is still valid?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Says the "village people".

Life is evolving jare. People now download the list online.

Many don't know their village. Extended family relationships are becoming more impossible to keep.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not your right to compile the list.

Says who?

Kingozymandias:
Trump has always been a realist, as a successful business man you can't afford to not be. He was never a politician.

This is what Nigeria needs and only an Igbo man can reason like this. An Igbo man will bluntly do what needs to be done to fix Nigeria, some may say Tinubu might do same well, I know he is an excellent technocrat, the only thing which disqualifies BAT in my book is tribalism, especially those of his online followers who insult everyone Igbo and anyone who disagrees with them they label as Igbo hence nope.

True, Igbo governors like Ngige will bluntly fix ASUU's problems in 2 weeks. But since he isn't Igbo-ish enough, 7 years after, things have gone from bad to worse.

Philanthropist and businessman Okorocha can also fix Nigeria, just the same way he erected Multinational statues and small gods in Owerri city.

Or is it Martin Elechi, who is as old as Buhari's grandfather, or is it Obiano, the man currently cooling off in EFCC's custody??

You better keep your tribal sentiments in your pocket and face your reality. There are good and bad people in all tribes. It's okay to desire an Igbo president since we run a quota system but to demand one on the basis of "only an Igbo man can...." is the height of self-deceit.

For a sister-in-law, offer to teach her (if truly you want to), and let your husband know along the line the things/materials he needs to buy for his sister.

That line "I am not running a charity organization" is gutter language.

Even when you are not willing to render your service to family or friends, there are ways to go about things. Being blunt does not equate being dvmb, or being unkind, or being insensitive in your (own) marriage, or to your friends.

Do not be deceived. This is not a sign that she values her business rather it's a sign that she has no respect whatsoever for you and your family. Those who value their business try to respect their clients even in the face of provocation. She is still a bad business woman!

With your sister coming to live with you, I hope you're well prepared for more troubles as this is just the beginning of a "new dawn".