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Is this still a marriage or bill of quantity?? All these calculations because you want to outsmart a so called partner and love of your life??

This "bill of quantity" will only thrive in a loveless marriage. That marriage will crash anyway. A little inflation or life threatening sickness and that marriage is over.

Before you accept an idea, it is important to look at the lives of those who adopt that idea. How many "bill of quantity" marriage do you know? How many thrived after 10 years? How many survived 30 years?

The only person that will sit with you to calculate the 50-50 role is your ENEMY. The second person is your EX.

This thing is somewhat innate. If it's not there, then forget about it.

These policies are extremely sound but you can never trust a career politician to deliver. Anyone can identify our problems and proffer solutions. The delivery and implementation are the challenge. APC promised to solve all the problems, but failed to deliver even the simplest of the problems.

Nigeria accounts for 70% of yam production in the world. Ghana accounts for only 10%. Yet, at 10% production, Ghana is currently the world's largest exporter of yam, "thanks" to our porous borders.

Ghanaians enter Nigeria, buy our yams at ridiculous prices, move it to their country where they have a sound structure in place to preserve, package, brand, and export to the developed world in exchange for Fx since our yam do not make international export standards.

APC identified this problem 7 years ago and appointed a 90-year old great grandfather to fix the problem.

7 years after, Nigeria now accounts for far less than 70% yam production due to crisis in the middle belt. Ghana is still the number one exporter because our borders are still porous. Nigeria is not in the list of top 10 exporters of yam.

The worst is that those that failed to deliver on this promise are still in government whilst some of them now campaigning to be re-elected.

This is awesome!!


To make this restaurant work, "take-aways" should be banned.

Mariangeles:
You mean this type of single mother right? https://www.nairaland.com/7038040/mom-just-ruined-relationship#111188787

LMAO Maria you like wahala

It's a common abnormality. Your marriage is not her priority.

cococandy:
You said you saw no issues.

I’m Just trying to make sure you keep the same energy of seeing no issues when we are talking about unmarried women having indiscriminate sex and having kids with men who aren’t their husbands

LMAO

Of course, I know what you're trying to do. I'm not in support of indiscriminate sex though.

Buhari's personal interest in Chad, Niger Republic (his original home) and oil exploration in the North East has cost the country so much in 7 years.

cococandy:
How do you not see any issues? I thought sex was only honorable within a marriage? Or is it an instruction only reserved for women?

Lol. Coco the women defender.

The rule applies to both men and women. I was only trying to say that many 40-year-old single men do what married men do. So the "relationship" status of a single man at 40 should not be mistaken for celibacy, lack of responsibilities, or poverty.

GloriousGbola:
And Obj enforced this when he was in office.

Naptu2 says yardua is really our worst pres

I think it was in his time we started importing different toyotas for our HOR etal

Very likely. And the good thing is that most of those cars were produced/assembled in Nigeria. In fact, one report claimed that Kaduna plant alone accounted for around 30% of all Peugeot 504 cars in the world. All taxes from the plant were paid to the Nigerian government.

In the early 2000's, 504 was the official car for all unity school principals, and other top officers of federal government ministries.

Yar'adua or GEJ is certainly responsible for the Toyota 'craze' and the heavy importation of fairly used brands. Our borders turned to village market. At a point, Nigerians began to import fairly used pants

Klass99:
Lmao, abeg chop knuckle. You've got a mouth on you sha!

There is one guy here with 3 boys from 3 different baby mamas. When a few of us called him out on his reckless, shitty and irresponsible lifestyle, he actually made reference to and compared himself with Davido, Wizkid and I think Tubaba as well.

I hardly see him posting as frequently as he used to, insulting people unprovoked. This Naija economy must be biting hard at his end and he is fast realizing that sowing wild oats around town and birthing children left, right and center, no be am at all. Because, each baby mama and child comes with their unique set of issues/expenses and unfortunately he is not established or successful as David, Wizzy and 2face.

I only hope he raises those boys well and trains them right, so they don't end up like him or make the same mistakes he did.

Well said

simpleseyi:
I don't understand the attachment between daughters and their Daddy. My 8 years old daughter wants me by her side every minute. My son gives no damn about nobody. If you like, go out and never return, my son won't notice.

LMAO

Hard guy, hard guy. Na woman go soften his heart las las

Marriage can obviously distract you from achieving your life goals.

But don't be f00led. The biggest distraction is when you sleep with different women and still come to Nairaland to claim "single".

Do you honestly think that a MARRIED Banky W or Adekunle Gold is as distracted as a single WIZKID or DAVIDO with different baby mamas and kids here and there?

Do not let the success of a privileged Davido deceive you. Many of his "single" kind with different baby mamas are in Agege motor park, looking for the next driver to extort.

Do your findings. Some are separated (divorced), baby daddies, engaged, on in a relationship.

Some of them have more kids, have more sex, and spend more on women/kids than married men.

So I don't see any issue. They're technically married.

Kpartners:
Assembled in Nigeria is different from made in Nigeria. Peugeot is an assembly plant. IVM is a car manufacturer

Tiktok generation. Back in the 1980s, Peugeot manufactured cars locally in Nigeria. Peugeot Nigeria Limited was a true Nigerian automobile manufacturing company but not a Nigerian brand. This is the notion I am trying to correct.


But I commend the fact that he patronized a "Nigerian brand - IVM."

Calm down. He is not the first. In the pre-fourth republic era, majority of political/military elites used made-in-Nigeria peugeot

Stevenson20:
Talk to Mr Putin. He's the cause of your lamentation

Shut up for once and read the news!

Fridman said: "If the people who are in charge in the EU believe that because of sanctions, I could approach Mr Putin and tell him to stop the war, and it will work, then I'm afraid we're all in big trouble.

Rent the apartment. Reside there ALONE for a minimum of one year. At the end of the 12th month, ask yourself whether you still want to get married immediately. If you've never lived alone, you may never understand the cost of living.

Macaroni lacks wisdom.

Adorable duo. Cheers to more years

Kobojunkie:
Your question makes no sense!

No child should be subjected to such but unfortunately these things happen and as I rightly stated,the home also belongs to her so it isn't that she committed a crime she could have been arrested for.
Again, the woman was, again according to Op's story, a bad mother, however, her actions no explain OP at all.

Oh now it makes no sense? You're trying to say that her mother can turn her home to a brothel because, according to you, she owns the house? Lol. In other words, she owes no one any sense of decency and decorum, not her late husband, not her children, not the people she shares the house with. So much for "gender freedom".

And by the way, nobody has said that she's committed any crime. Even OP has not committed any crime so far. No one can arrest him if he lay curses on his mother or fail to treat his mother. This is simply a moral issue. No part of the constitution says that children must respect their elders.

Kobojunkie:
What's the difference? No be her house too?

No question that she is, according to Op story, far from the image of a good mother, but OP'S fury dey on levels that seem extreme considering the story he has told so far.

The question is how many children, young or old, can watch their mother come home daily with different men to knack? That you can condone such or do such in the presence of your children does not mean it's a popular or acceptable practice in this part of the world.

Bring them back to where? Nigeria?? Abeg, they should keep resting in the bossom of the Lord. We will all join them someday.

I don't think your decision is inappropriate since it's important to keep your business running.

As a matter of fact, your brother is somewhat insensitive. He should be grateful that someone volunteered his resources to sponsor your business. The least he could have done as a "responsible" brother was to encourage you to move the generator.

However, your approach to the matter or the way you went about moving the gen (e.g. without his knowledge) is probably the issue here. Search your heart. Let no one deceive you.

cococandy:
I really think the forum owner needs to do more to weed out and permanently ban posters that call for physical harm on any group of people. Yes the rules states it but they don’t really implement it.

We can all e-fight and argue but it hasn’t reached this level

I agree with you. Creating threads about how women deserve to be molested, barren, etc is the height of toxicity. I'm surprised such threads/posts are still visible.

cococandy:
What will help him heal?

I've just realized he has created many dangerous threads in the past. But I want to believe he's now trying to reconcile his past.

cococandy:
I’m sorry his behavior is absolutely way worse than whatever his mom is doing. That’s why it’s a non-issue to me in this conversation. That’s because I’m actually seeing something terrifying that’s more worthy of focusing on. Why the MODs allow such dangerous posts I’ll never get it.

I haven’t asked him to respect his mom. Believe it or not, I’m not one of those who thinks every elderly person MUST be respected based on age alone. So I won’t care if he respects her or not. Do I think it’s smarter and wiser to have her shenanigans out of the home where those men won’t have access to her kids, absolutely yes. But in the face of OP behavior, it suddenly seems like a trivial thing to focus on than the real and present danger that’s the OP. Because at the end of the day, no matter what his mom does, he’s still going to hurt someone and find a convenient woman in his life to blame it on.

I know to some people , how a woman behaves sexually is the beginning and the end of the world.
A serious crazy dangerous lunatic could be on the loose at the risk of hurting people but let’s focus on how appropriate the woman was acting.


Agreed that he has the right to feel about his mom however he wants. He needs to leave other women out of it. I know it doesn’t matter to you because you’re not a woman. But posts like his have real life consequences for women. Harmful and dangerous consequences .

Okay. I have to agree with you on this. The multiple thread thing shows a more dangerous motive.

cococandy:
Before you start vibrating for me, go through OP’s 240 topics and explain to us how his mom’s sexual behavior after the death of his father warrants any of the putrid nonsense he’s typed below.

Those people who empathize with him I don’t know what to tell you all. Person is just looking for excuse to justify the deep hate in his heart and you people are encouraging him.

Hopefully none of these guys cheering him on loses one of their sisters or female family members to him before they come to their sense and see how unhinged he is. We know it only matters when it happens to someone they care about (like his sisters who he appears to love). Otherwise all other women deserve to die for having a vagina and using it ways he doesn’t approve of.

Like I mentioned, I do not like his approach. I don't see why anyone should attack women or Nigerian women on Nairaland because of their individual experiences. I don't have any bad experience with a Nigerian woman. The few I have met have all been good to me. But that's not enough to say that the experiences of others do not count.

Dude needs to heal but that won't happen when we dismiss his accounts or try to rationalize the hurtful treatments from his past.

cococandy:
He’s not a child. He’s a grown man.
But yes he can feel however he wants to about his mom’s sexual life. He doesn’t need to create 240 threads on nairaland that directly and indirectly encourage harm towards women because he can’t handle thinking of his mom being with anyone that’s not his father. Tough break.

He’s a danger to those around him and he’s spreading his dangerous behavior. All because he wishes to control his mom’s body.



Actually this is the part he needs to clarify. Because me too I’m curious. Is it that the man/men comes to the house or is it that she’s doing it all that’s bothering him. I wanna know.

Okay. I must admit that I don't like the idea of creating multiple threads about his predicament. But I also do not agree with the idea of rationalising his mom's actions. What do you even mean by "control his mom's body?"

You all talk about showing respect for his mom even though we all know that respect is reciprocal. If she does not respect herself enough to keep her sexcapabes to herself or do it discreetly, then her children have the right to react the way and manner they want.

It doesn't matter whether her husband is late or not. She owes her children and those she lives with some level of decency and decorum.

cococandy:
All widowed people don’t have to remarry in order to move on. So cut it out.

Children also have the right to react the way they want when they find their mother with different men. So cut it out.