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Pls tell me the English and Yoruba names of this common tropical plant whose yellow flowers are usually plucked and sucked by children.

Some of the "taken" ladies are actually single (i.e.not married or in a relationship) but don't want to appear desperately searching. Most of the "single" men are actually married with children but want to acquire side chics by claiming to be single.

Is that her way of thanking God for letting her get married and pregnant so early in life? Her husband's exes who were dismissed as "evening newspapers" must be secretly mocking them now.

The Bible allows a cheated spouse to divorce (Matthew 19:9) or forgive (as Hosea did) but never to kill. Murderers (but not divorcees) are on the list of those to be doomed (Revelation 21: 8 ). Walk away when very angry (Proverbs 17:14) to avoid losing control.

Leave that rogue and don't worry about your lost virginity.




Abstain from sex and check your hymen in 6 months' time with a mirror. It is a risk-free experiment (unlike experimenting with sex). Your future husband will mistake you for a virgin unless you choose to tell him .

So what's your advice to women in abusive relationships and marriages? Should they hold on to men who don't want them again until they are killed? Should they use jazz to keep the man or kill off their rivals?

Answer me, Poster.

The single mother of 6 was angry because the lockdown is preventing her from fending for her children. "If no man is helping me feed my children, why should you (a Federal worker collecting salary) prevent me from fending for my children? "












She got away with the slaps (without being shot) either because the policeman is naturally gentle or because she is his mistress.

boxer022:
You were paid money for round of sex but out of it you got pregnant, please who owns the unborn child? It's a tricky one as curled from a friend on facebook. Give it your best answer with reasons.

The woman who got pregnant owns the baby . Maternity is never in doubt. How is the man to know who else slept with that commercial sex worker?

A man cheats because he found another woman willing to date him, and she agreed to date him because : (a) she didn't know he is married; OR (b) she knew but went ahead because she can't find a bachelor of her choice.

A man can't cheat alone without a female accomplice.

Will the tenant be given a rent receipt after the act? If not, she has given herself out for nothing and the man will still demand for monetary payment. Pussy no be food.

Foreigners are allowed to leave but no foreigner must come into Nigeria until Covid-19 is fully defeated worldwide.

Files can be transferred from one phone to another via Bluetooth, Xender,Flash Share, etc without any visible cord connecting both phones.

Is it possible to transmit electricity wirelessly like that from a power source to a phone or extension? If there is electricity in the next house but not in mine, is there any appliance I can use inside my house to charge my phones with my neighbour's electricity without going over to his/her house to give him/her my phones? Please mention the particular appliance, brand name and cost.

Nneka vs Nwanneka(child of Nneka).



Wives, always face your cheating husbands. The other woman may not know he is married, but doesn't HE know? If you successfully chase a woman away from him, he can still approach another woman.

Colourich:
Seriously This life is not fair, I know a lady that married as a virgin, up till now she has not given birth. Sometimes bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. Such is life.

Even in the Bible, Rebekah was barren for 20 years (Genesis 24),while Rahab the harlot had no history of barrenness before having Boaz for Salmon (Matthew 1:5). That's why we shouldn't judge others.

Must you tell everybody? Boko Haram members are also online. That is why you haven't won the war. Boko Haram has never disclosed its weaponry and affiliates. SURPRISE IS THE BEST FORM OF ATTACK.

Continue inviting village people into your matter. Must you post everything online?

May we not fall prey to crooks, even in marriage.


What's your advice for the lady whose story you are about to read below?




"I kept myself for 34 years but my marriage lasted only the wedding night "

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I met Kunle on a Whatsapp group last year.We chatted for a few months. He told me he was based in Dubai as a business man and that he was looking for a woman to marry. He was not ready for games. He sounded like my kind of man. I didn’t believe him initially as it sounded too good to be true. He spent quite a lot of money on me. The first time we met in person after doing Skype and Whatsapp video calls for months was in May 2017. He proposed to me in a popular 5-star hotel on Maryland. I was in total bliss.
I met his parents who were living in Abeokuta after that. He met mine in Lagos here and we agreed that we should start planning the wedding against August 2017. He sent the money for everything. He was always calling and all. My friend Joy was concerned that I was rushing things but I didn’t listen as I just didn’t want to think anything negative. Besides,I already knew his parents. I practically visited his parents every weekend after he introduced me to them. They loved me. They were happy their son was getting married; they had been on his case for so long. Kunle is 42 and this would be his first marriage.

We got married according to plan last August 2017. It was the happiest day of my life. It was such a beautiful day. My friends and family were all there. Everyone was happy for me and I was grateful to God. I had waited for my dream man. I kept myself. I was 34. It was hard but I am glad it paid off.

My problems started after our wedding night. We made love that night. He was my first and it was beautiful. In the morning,he got a call from Dubai. He was called for an important business. He had to leave immediately as the international partners were expecting him in South Africa that evening. Sadly,we had to put our honeymoon plans on hold. He promised to send me a ticket to Miami next weekend so we can start our honeymoon. I bade him goodbye and that was the last I saw of him.

After a couple of hours, I expected him to have called but he didn’t. That day,he didn’t call. The next day, he didn’t call so I called him but I couldn’t connect. I texted and emailed; there was no response. I then told his mom. She became very worried and everyone started to call him. No connection,no response. By the third day,we began to panic. We started a prayer vigil. We started trying to contact his friends in Dubai and the airports.
No word from Kunle in two weeks! I was beyond worried. I began to imagine the worst until I received that phone call.


Kunle finally called two weeks later. He said, "I am so sorry,but I can't do this". "Do what?", I asked him. He said he is sorry but he misled me. He said he cannot marry me. At that point, I dropped the call and fainted. When I recovered,I was in hospital. Kunle’s parents and mine were there to comfort me. I told them to explain why Kunle cannot marry me. It was then that I learnt that Kunle confessed that he has a woman whom he has been seeing for over seven years and they have two children in Dubai.

According to him,they have been having issues so they separated for a while. That was when he met me. He thought he was moving on but clearly he is still in love with the lady. So now he has gone back to her. Even though they are not married,he feels he cannot be without her. So Kunle wants me to annul our marriage. He sent me the sum of ₦5 million and asked for my forgiveness.

That was since September last year. I cannot begin to explain the trauma that I have been through. I have suffered depression and almost killed myself at one point. Kunle’s parents, however, do not want the marriage annulled. They say that I am Kunle’s legal wife since the other lady is not married to him. But since then,Kunle has not come to see me. How do I remain married to someone who wants the marriage to be annulled and is not even here with me? His parents want me to be patient,saying that he will come to his senses. People are saying this is the work of jùjú. How long am I going to wait?

Kunle sent me an email two months ago still asking for my forgiveness and urging me to move on. I gave my virginity to this man! I made a fool of myself before the world by having a huge wedding. Now he doesn’t want me because of a woman whom he is not even married to! What am I going to do? Should I stay and fight for my marriage, or do the sensible thing of actually going ahead and annulling my marriage of only one day? I am going to be 35 in a few days. Please advise me and pray for me too.

Brianna,
Lagos.



(https://livelystones.com.ng/i-kept-myself-for-34-years-but-my-marriage-lasted-only-wedding-night/)

FULL STORY.
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I Kept Myself For 34 years But My Marriage Lasted Only Wedding Night
I met Kunle on a whats-app group last year.We chatted for a few months. He told me he was based in Dubai as a business man. He also said he was looking for a woman to marry. He was not ready for games. He sounded like my kind of man. I didn’t believe him initially cos it sounded too good to be true. He spent quite a lot on me. He sent me gifts and money regularly. The first time we met in person after doing Skype and whats-app video calls for months was in May 2017. He proposed to me in a a popular five star hotel on Maryland (some of you may know the hotel). I was in total bliss…too much joy.
I met his parents who were living in Abeokuta after that. He met mine in Lagos here and we agreed that we should start planning the wedding so the next time he comes,it will be in August 2017. He of course sent the money for everything. He was always calling and all. My friend Joy was concerned that I was rushing things but I didn’t listen cos I just didn’t want to think any thing negative. Besides,I already knew his parents. I practically visited his parents every weekend after he introduced me to them. They loved me. They were happy their son was getting married cos they had been on his case for so long. Kunle is 42 and this would be his first marriage.
We got married according to plan last August 2017. It was the happiest day of my life. It was such a beautiful day. My friends and family were all there. Everyone was happy for me and I was grateful to God. I had waited for my dream man. I kept myself. I was 34. It was hard but I am glad it paid off.
My problems started after our wedding night. We made love that night. He was my first and it was beautiful. In the morning,he got a call from Dubai. He was called for an important business call. He had to leave immediately as the international partners were expecting him in South Africa that evening. Sadly,we had to put our honeymoon plans on hold. He promised to send me a ticket to Maimi next weekend so we can start our honeymoon. I bade him goodbye and that was the last I heard of him. After a couple of hours,I thought he would have called,he didn’t. That day,he didn’t call. The next day he didn’t call so I called him,I couldn’t connect. I texted and emailed,no response. I then told his mom. she became very worried and everyone started to call him. No connection,no response. At that time,by the third day,we began to panic. We started a prayer vigil. We started trying to contact his friends in Dubai and the airports.
No word from Kunle in two weeks!…I was beyond worried. I began to imagine the worst until I received that phone call. Kunle finally called two weeks later. He said he was sorry. He said”I am so sorry,but I cant do this”. ”Do what” I asked him? He said he is sorry but he misled me. He said he cannot marry me. At that point I dropped the call and fainted. When I recovered,I was in hospital. Kunle’s parents and mine were there. They were comforting me. I told them to explain why Kunle cannot marry me. It was then that I learnt that Kunle confessed that he has a woman whom he has been seeing for over seven years and they have two children in Dubai. According to him,they have been having issues so they separated for a while. That was when he met me. He thought he was moving on but clearly he is still in love with the lady. So now,he has gone back to her. Even though they are not married,he feels he cannot be without her. So Kunle wants me to annul our marriage. That is,to say,it never happened. He sent me the sum of N5million and asked for my forgiveness.
That was since September last year. I cannot begin to explain the trauma that I have been through. I have suffered depression and almost killed myself at one point. Kunle’s parents however do not want the marriage annulled. They say that I am Kunle’s legal wife seeing that the other lady is not married to him. But since then,Kunle has not come to see me. How do I remain married to someone who wants the marriage to be annulled? He is not even here with me? His parents want me to be patient that he will come to his senses. People are saying this is the work of juju. How long am I going to wait?
Kunle sent me an email two months ago still asking for my forgiveness and urging me to move on. I gave my virginity to this man!! I made a fool of myself before the world by having a huge wedding…now he doesn’t want me cos of a woman whom he is not even married to? What am I going to do? I started reading lively stones in February. I just want to add my story to the many unbelievable stories we read here.
What will anyone advice someone like me? Should I follow what people are saying:which is,stay and fight for my marriage? Or do the sensible thing of actually going ahead and annul my marriage of only one day? I am going to be 35 a few days. I need to make a decision with what to do with my life. Please advise me and pray for me too.
Brianna,
Lagos
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Mimienudles:
This kin confusion sha, but anyone would still identify the real bride

The bride is the only one wearing a veil.

CoCoLav:
As a lady, wedding etiquette demands that you do not wear white to a wedding. The only person on white should be the bride unless otherwise specified in the dresscode.

What of white ìró and bùbá?

Jesus said, "Watch and pray" ,not "close your eyes and pray". This is how people's phones get stolen and their toddlers wander into trouble (e. g. getting kidnapped or falling off edges) during prayers.

Princesszoe:
I have heard some similar cases in which the wives left their unfaithful husbands who could not got them pregnant and remarried, only for them to have kids with their new husbands. One of these women is my uncle 's wife. The woman now has more than 4 kids and she is really enjoying her second marriage more . I have heard and seen this strange cases times without number.

"A man is never barren" but can be fooled with another man's children. Maybe her ex-husband was infertile but his side chic gave him another man's child, while SHE was fertile and therefore could have children with another man. Men are advised to go for medical checkups whenever there is infertility rather than assuming their wives are solely to blame, to avoid biting their fingers 20-something years later.

Go and read the story of Baba Segi and his wives. His first 3 wives fooled him with other men's children to save their homes while the fourth wife rejected their advice and persuaded the man to go for a medical checkup.

Please come to Sambisa Forest in Nigeria and help us wipe out Boko Haram terrorists with your body. A rich reward awaits you.

Thereafter, go for deliverance.

Paradigm777:
She had a fall out with her friend and the friend sent me a screen shot of their conversation when it happened.

Then send the screenshots of the friends' chat and your informer's chat with you to him, advising him to do further research on his own.

mezynaija:
Who recession help? Although the name of the school was cropped out, the invoice of a nursery and primary school in Lekki, Lagos State is generating lots of buzz after it revealed that pupils pay as much as 2 million naira for acceptance fee while school fees go for an average of 3 million naira per year.

Source: http://www.jtownconnect.com/2017/01/see-nursery-school-in-lekki-where.html

Click here for the school's name: https://www.nairaland.com/4469104/nursery-school-charges-over-2 .

dimmikel:
Only the labour market can decide that. Make fed. Govt find something else to talk about

Each prospective employer will decide who to employ based on :
* your performance at the interview and the aptitude test;
*who you know;
*your dressing and comportment;
*who you resemble in face or name.

You may be the best applicant for the job and still not be employed if your face and/or name reminds the prospective employer of his/her worst enemy.

kingjoe:
when I will believe them is when someone from a polytechnic gains admission to study masters degree without pgd.then call me and tell me it is same

That day will come only when polytechnics are allowed (by government) to run their own Masters and Doctoral programs in technological courses. Universities will naturally prefer BSc holders (especially from their own universities) to HND holders when it comes to postgraduate admissions.


A Yoruba proverb says, "Tí a bá fi ọkọ́ lé wèrè lọ́wọ́, ọ̀dọ̀ ara rẹ̀ ni yóò roko sí" [If you give even a mad man
a hoe, he will pile up the soil towards himself, i.e.feather his own nest]

This is very callous. I hope your brothers' girlfriends are also reading this.



Anyway, a smart man will say, " Let's eat together " and put the first spoonful in your mouth.

Continue comparing yourself to Jonathan.
*Jonathan was caught unawares by the Chibok kidnap; it had never happened before in Nigeria. Why didn't you learn from his case and prevent the Dapchi
kidnap?
* Jonathan is a "bloody civilian ". You had a military background and quenched the Maitatsine problem in the 1980's. That's why we voted for you to defeat Boko Haram.

If you are too old to cope now, please go back to Daura in 2019.