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Connected1:
Bro how will I accept unnecessary spending, it can wreck any man, it's uncalled for, these churches are scams.

You can actually accept it by looking the other way. You would have noticed something common among middled-aged married men. When madam does something they should naturally react to, they won't talk immediately. They will just take shift their focus elsewhere or change the topic and move on.

My late "uncle" was a protestant and his wife is a member of a pentecostal church. I call him uncle but we are not related by blood. She will start with some strange prayer points and songs in the mid-morning after breakfast when he has guests. What he will do is take his guests to the private sitting room or the garden to discuss. He never attended her church till he died but he didn't stop her either. They found balance somehow.

If you cannot comot your mind, then you guys should break up. It is far easier than trying to change her spiritual beliefs.

Gozye:
Thanks a lot Afronight, I work with a private firm in the North, while she works as a teacher in a state government school in the SouthEast that makes it a bit impossible for her transfer since she is in a state school. But all you stated here is what she has been doing.

Brotherly, the distance is not helping matters. Out of sight is out of mind.

Take leave, if you can. Spend a couple of days with your family and observe her. Play with your kids so much that they will beg you to stay when it's time to leave, then tell them to video call you on WhatsApp every night. Hopefully, they will prevail on their mother to allow them to call you.

As for your wife, she is an adult and to be honest, only God can help you with her. She seems to respect the pastor, but for how long. If he tells her what she doesn't want to hear, she can always change her church.

As long as your conscience tells you that her behaviour is not as a result of an offence you committed, don't blame yourself. Don't kill yourself with guilt. It is frustrating to sustain a relationship/friendship/marriage on your own. It will drain you. It will affect your performance at work, if you keep ruminating on it. So, comot your mind, until you can visit and spend time with your family. If she doesnt warm up to you while you're around, just prepare your mind, cos she can wake up one day to pull the plug on the whole marriage.

chatinent:
Nna ehn, na so o

Are you kidding me?

Congrats. In fact I will drink one bottle to celebrate your narrow escape.

Why would you date someone so focused on her church when you can't tolerate the concept? Both of you are deceiving yourselves thinking you can be together in harmony.

Religion/spirituality is a very potent and fundamental part of a religious person's life. If you cannot accept their beliefs, you will just punish yourself by hanging on. Conviction is an important part of religion. How do you sway someone who is convinced in their heart that they are doing the right things spiritually? You want to frustrate yourself. You either accept her or leave.

Na wa.


Mr Oga are you the man? Cos I can feel the anger in your story.

That woman is possessed by familiar spirit. Confirm one. That's how they used to frustrate people. Ordinary call they won't call. Pick, they won't pick. Call back nko? They will somehow forget till one week.

It's familiar spirit.

You need to relocate your family to your base. Or you forget about the marriage. Sorry to say.

Why?

Cos once a woman reaches that stage of airing your messages, or refusing to communicate with you, or always forgetting to call back, she is gone. She has moved on in her heart. Only a big problem that terrifies her can make her change for a little while, then it's back to ignoring you again. Sorry.

How many times will you run to pastor to patch things up? She no longer needs you. Is she "online" on WhatsApp but always ignoring your messages? Then perhaps someone else is giving her the attention she used to enjoy from you. You have your work cut out for you.

It is going to be frustrating journey if you want to get her back. No guarantees too.

So she wanted to dash you the pregnancy? Is that what you're saying?

Narrow escape.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Simple, interns do the bulk of the work in teaching hospitals. They do the stuff no one else wants to do. If they are not paid. Well.
The first person who sees rhe the sick person in a hospital is no longer being paid.

He or she is free to do anyhow with your body and say he/she is still a student

Afterall, they will work for free.

They should not do calls either. So if you are sick at night, Gobe!!

Doctor you are threatening people o. Please, Be calming down.

Culture needs to evolve.

franchasng:
Yeah. A typical woman believes in killing first and asking question later.


They judge first and then start finding out why they passed their judgment after they have caused havoc. Never patient. Only few of them are patient and rational in thinking.


That's why a rich guy will approach a girl in his luxury car and the babe will be like, what does he think I am, he thinks I fall for cars. But she has been praying for a well to do man lol.


Then the man parks his car and walks up to her and say hello, she start thinking who is this broke ass guy disturbing my life this hot afternoon, dont he know his class. Women, confused beings

Exactly bro. Unpredictable, dangerous beings.

Women!

They are dangerous because they don't think things through before executing. They just go ahead and do sh!t. Dangerous beings.

It was you.

Congrats. I hear baby food has doubled. Da lord is your strength.

Kondomatic:
It does matter sometimes.




There's a nairalander that his wife do not enjoy sex if she doesn't have something in her anus(double penetration.

Dude uses gadgets for that.

Damn! That’s sad.

Go to a general or teaching hospital.

Fiscus105:
I pity ur sorry thinking, and I biliv you read the situation very well, I also believe you have heard what we called joblessness and devastating effects.

I also pity those who expect loyalty from you. With friends like you, who needs enemies?

She deceived you.

Your relationship is built on a lie. Why are you still in a relationship with a manipulator?

I don’t really think it matters a lot to me what escapades you performed in the past. As long as you were not a thief, murderer, ritualist or olodo in class, I’m cool.

Some other guys care a lot about their babe’s body count and conduct though.

I can’t forget the look of disgust a guy had when he told me why he stopped dating a girl. In the midst of their burgeoning love, she revealed that she had had an abortion before she met him. Well, that was the end of the relationship. He couldn’t take it.

If you want to be a nacking machine as a babe, make sure you consider if you want to get married and have a family later. Don’t come and expect your man to automatically take you as you are.

SweetCunt97:
But she wanted to abort but d op advised her to keep it. @op advice her to abort if she's not yet ready plsssss. Having a baby alone aint easy walai.

He gave her advice that would spare the life of the child.

OP, never advice anyone to abort. Abortion is a private and weighty matter. Let the pregnant woman and her baby daddy decide.

The “Mind your business” crew will tell you to keep quiet. That’s why when shît happens to them nobody tells them until they lose out big time.

Friendship is about being loyal even when it is difficult to be loyal.

Solution:

Tell him

However, if you are sure your friend is the type who believes in “mind your business” when he sees another friend in danger, then ignore him. He will not appreciate your loyalty. Let him find out the hard way, else you will be casting your Pearls before swine and they will trample upon it and turn against you.

Just know that if you tell him the truth, HE WILL TELL HIS WIFE THAT YOU TOLD HIM. That’s how people in relationships and marriages do. Whatever you don’t want the wife to hear, don’t tell the husband. And if you think he deserves to know the truth, prepare for the consequences. And tell your friend what the consequences are if he reveals your identity to his wife.

They want to dash you pregnancy and you’re still looking like lucozade. Okay na.

You know what to do.

Baba, you are married but you have forgotten. Check your phone well. You will your trad pictures there.

Congrats.






Only God know where una dey see dis kine babe.
E choke.

I can relate.

One babe loved hugging me because of my cologne that year. A pity she was someone’s girlfriend at the time.

lilije:
Stressing him you said?

This is a guy that did not show much care after telling him I lost my elder sister. The news of my sister's death was broken to me a Thursday, I called him that Thursday evening after telling him about what happened earlier that day but he didn't take my calls. I was down just needed someone to console me since I wasn't home but he wouldn't take his calls.

In fact, I don break up finish

OMG I was just messing with you.

I’m Sorry about your sister. May you find strength to bear this loss.

He should be there for you in these trying times, as a friend. No excuse

Onila you are not tired of creating threads?

Who resurrected this old thread?

lilije:
I'm suspicious of this too

Don’t listen to negativity. He is not married. He’s just stressed because you’re stressing him.

Instead of you to be supportive you’re busy looking for ways to stress the innocent young man. Send him a text an apologise for your intrusive behaviour.

Thank me later.

The same DSS that probed him before he became a minister?

It’s either they ignored his fanatical statements and omitted it in their report or they actually advised against him and the president still went ahead to appoint Isa Pandemic.

Either way, the handwriting is on the wall. The government will just wait until another disaster comes to sway the people from this matter.

stancydg, it takes a tone deaf MF to write the nonsense you wrote.

You’re so used to rubbish music that you cannot appreciate the great work Seyi is doing.

Go and wash your dirty ears before you criticise Seyi Shay. Nonsense.

Barrister Ubani!

I like this man.

Lovelyn451:
abeg let's hear word, did anybody force you to give them money, the society has placed more burden on women than men, women are at the receiving end of everything while men get away with anything, u guys have taken advantage of that emotional spot in women for too long, now this generation of women have become so strong that their strength is making u guys weak, they've learnt to bottle up their emotions making u the emotional ones wailing like women of owu and calling them useless and olosho....hehehe, but we on care!!!

This is the kind of woman Chimamanda called nasty. They continue hiding under “strong woman” and using victim mentality to justify their natural wickedness.

No vex.

Lovelyn451:
abeg let's hear word, did anybody force you to give them money, the society has placed more burden on women than men, women are at the receiving end of everything while men get away with anything, u guys have taken advantage of that emotional spot in women for too long, now this generation of women have become so strong that their strength is making u guys weak, they've learnt to bottle up their emotions making u the emotional ones wailing like women of owu and calling them useless and olosho....hehehe, but we on care!!!

See who is calling other people emotional.



No vex.

PrimadonnaO:
Very wrong thing to say.

Tells more about you then the women you're so gleefully bashing.

No vex