₦airaland Forum

Lazycapitalist2:
That is why you have senators, house of reps and governors...to pass laws that can make sexual assault not bailable...

It is your job as a voter to pester them till they do so. That is how they do it in advanced democracies. Politicans, even the decent and good ones, cannot think of everyhting at once. I myself did not know that sexual assault was bailable till this case.

That’s what I’m saying bro. It’s a sh!thole. These legislators only go there to be paid and amend laws to enrich themselves and their cronies. No matter who you vote in, once they flash the goodies before them, they will fall.

In the National Assembly, there is no ethnic division. They all believe in money.

The other day they were debating on creating a database for cattle! People are dying but it’s cattle that they want to account for. Cattle that is private property/goods.

According to the police, sexual assault is bailable. What kind of sh!thole country is this? Why are there archaic laws such as this?

Magnoliaa:
[color=dodgerblue]Need? Yes. Maybe. But not necessarily is a woman broke when/if she has a man taking her out. You haven't seen women swinging both ways? They are rich and they roll with rich men that'll spend heaven on them.

This thing just works for some women like that. Yeah, they can afford to, but men doing things for them (that the men pride in themselves) is not a sustenance of their lifestyle.[/color]

Lol. Op’s girl is not one of those. She is broke and shameless.

Is it a gift? Did the other spouse contribute to the purchase? If no, then it should be in your own name.

luminouz:
Leave her... She messed up with her statements

Lol. She's really messed up with her childish intellectual dishonesty.

You set yourself up.

Why are you calling her “dear”? Just tell her "no".

Don't be afraid to be broke-shamed. If she wasn't broke, she wouldn't need a man to take her out and spend money on her.

Tell her "no" and watch her change towards you. If you spend money on her now, she will always reject your advances but will not be shy enough to reject your money. You too, should not be shy to tell her you are not ready to spend on her since she is not your babe. Put the condition there and ignore her henceforth. I repeat. If you spend on her, she will still not agree to be your babe. If that is your goal, then you are about to waste time and money on a disappointment.

This country is funny. Man asks a babe out and suddenly finds out he is owing her birthday trips.

Are you bothered by your singular status? Why do you care how to answer questions like that? Just say "fine" and be done with it.

debbydams:
dats the truth,,what about jobless and lazy men that depend on ladies huh..I remember one grown up man that stopped talking to me because I didn't give him money,,lol, u guys should stop bashing ladies,alot of men depend on their gf or spouse, in my circle all my friends are working even from school,I really don't know where depending on guys is coming from o,,

You don't know where "depending on guys is coming from"?

You just can't stop lying?

Any Nigerian lady who doesn't depend on her boyfriend or men for treats, perks and even basic stuff is a RARITY. Take that to the bank. You people have turned relationships into jobs. You get paid for expressing affection. Claiming standards that you cannot afford without a man.

GFICECOLD, you are in a toxic relationship.

She most likely has another guy but she doesn’t want to break up. She wants to frustrate you to do that yourself. And honestly, I think you should.

You deserve better. Break up today and save yourself a lot of heartache. Another girl will appreciate you.

The truth is she will not change. Once women get to this stage in a relationship, it’s over. The more you show her love, the more irritated she will be. End it and stop all communication with her. Also, at this point you guys can no longer be friends. She has made that impossible by treating you like an unwanted irritant.

Trust me, you NEED to break up for your mental health.

debbydams:
The world we are now it's very rare to see a jobless lady,,nd most hook up gurls are not after money..date a mature gurl,u are dating a student nd u think she won't bill u,.. anyway it depend tho,. real gurls don't bill

You woke up this morning to tell a spectacular lie. Wow.

You are asking them to stop demanding/accepting free food and free money? That's like asking Nigerian politicians to stop diverting funds or asking police to stop collecting bribes.

Only women, who were raised to have personal dignity, would choose to make their own money and not factor their boyfriends into their financial plans.

Udoji2021, Is this not fairy tale we are reading?

I like the fact that you said things went “north” instead of south. Lord knows the North is the problem of Nigeria.

If your story is real then you should not be surprised by her actions. She’s pregnant. Only banana she asked you with small insult, you’re thinking of fleeing. At least she has not asked you to go and find ice cream at 2 am. After somehow miraculously buying it she would say she doesn’t want ice cream anymore cos it’s irritating her.

It’s like you don’t know pregnant women. Her own demonstration is mild compared to others I know.

Women are not themselves during pregnancy. Pardon her and hustle. Last time, you needed her support. This time she really needs your support. Be there for her.

Julianaa:
mynd44

Lol. You shaded a tribe, someone replied you with a taste of your own medicine and now you’re crying to a mod. Nairaland get characters sha.

Entayali:
My younger brother is about to register for JAMB for the second time and my mum insists he must study medicine. What's so special about medicine?

She feels that doctors are rich. I've been trying to convince her. What do I do to help my bro because he doesn't want to study medicine?

If he is capable academically, advice him to do as your mum says. He won’t regret it.

This is bullshît.

Is interior design / interior decoration not part of the construction industry? Who dominate that profession around the world? Women for fvck sake! They also represent in architecture and furniture design!

In the UK the ratio of female interior designers to male is like 20:1. Even in Canada. In Nigeria, how many male interior designers do you know? Na so so woman!

Women have selected a subset of the built environment to dominate and they are doing very well. Almost ALL the top interior design firms around the world are owned by women.

Quit capping this dishonest nonsense.

Ladies need to be humble and listen to this message of truth.

There are many temptations in this world but your man is still your man. Believe in him. No strange yansh can kolobi your man. Trust him.

Peace

I’m kidding o I actually believe in fidelity

SweetVibe:
Wao, Thanks Alot

You’re welcome

femi4:
Change of ownership

I swear

SweetVibe:
please whats the difference between Pentecostals and protestant churches

Pentecostals are a break out denomination from protestants. Their roots are the same with other protestants which is the reformation movement of Martin Luther, the first protestant. The main difference is they emphasize the baptism of the Holy Spirit with evidence of speaking in tongues. Also, they believe in the performance of signs & wonders in today's world. In other words, pentecostals are more expressive or liberal while the other protestants have a more conservative approach.

Examples:
Protestant = Anglican, Methodist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, African Church, etc

Pentecostal = RCCG, Living Faith (Winners), Foursquare, etc.

RealtorX, by now you would have noticed as you grow older, the pressure to please people reduces. All that matters now are your goals and aspirations in life and how to make money everyday.

Tell her who you are. Let her see how rough the picture is so she can make a decision. If she stays, congrats, if not, we move!

Don’t lie to her cos she will find out and it won’t be pleasant.

DjSwitchaholic my hero.

Switch the Bold.

Switch the fierce.

Scourge of the inept leaders of Nigeria.

A Pennant of justice

A beacon.

The wicked people in Nigerian government and their idîotic doomed supporters will not snuff out your flame. They will not silence your music.

May your days be prosperous on planet earth.

Happy birthday.

Him still get that mental problem.

Confirm Hediot!

PlayMaker14:



Not angry bro, just some little banter to get United fans more angry.

In some organisations, you would just kiss your job goodbye cos if you break up and she’s unhappy about it, she could make life difficult for you at work. That relationship will suddenly be called sexual harassment.

Before you clear your name, many things would have happened.

You need to talk to your HR or your direct boss to help you break up with her amicably and keep your job.

PlayMaker14:



In as much as they're protesting against the club owner, I believe this action carried out by the fans of a Penalty loving club have a political undertone.

An average Brit's is always jealous of the Americans, and the British have never been a trusted ally to the Americans. Sometimes, I see it as a secret battle of Supremacy just like the one Ghana is having with Nigeria.


This act of stupidity displayed by Penchester United fans shows you the mental state of an average Penchester United fans and I believe many have burnt their fathers house if they don't get Penalties to be dispatched by Fernandez.

Lol. Calm down. Brits aren’t jealous of Americans. No vex.

It’s like you’re a Basketball fan or something cos I don’t understand why you’re this angry.

Connected1:
Yes, when she asked I buy her a bottle of plastic coke and suya last night and I told her to go to her church where she had building shares that they would give her there.
To my surprise she began crying and started heading home, it took me series of begging before she could calm down.
I now believe that women are often devoid of logical reasoning.

You said that? Chai! You are not a preacher of love.

Connected1:
Ok Bro
You are experienced, I will need to this your advice on the positive side, we aren't even thinking of break-up. I noticed she even gets annoyed when I talk about what she did.

She gets annoyed because you are trying to correct her on a spiritual issue. People don’t like to be told they are wrong especially when it comes to ideology or religion. They would defend their stance/doctrine vehemently, with even more vigour than they would defend a helpless person in danger.

When someone criticises your spiritual beliefs the resulting emotion is just like twice the anger you feel when someone criticises your political opinions or cultural beliefs.

Na to find common ground. As long as she is not offending you directly or affecting your bank account. If you can live with it, let her be.

Mekaboy, you have spoken well.

Barman, supply this guy 5 big stout for starters.

They can broke-shame even Dangote if he doesn't dash them money. No guy should attach his self esteem or self worth to the amount of money or gifts he can give his girlfriend.

Connected1:
Bro how will I accept unnecessary spending, it can wreck any man, it's uncalled for, these churches are scams.

You can actually accept it by looking the other way. You would have noticed something common among middled-aged married men. When madam does something they should naturally react to, they won't talk immediately. They will just take shift their focus elsewhere or change the topic and move on.

My late "uncle" was a protestant and his wife is a member of a pentecostal church. I call him uncle but we are not related by blood. She will start with some strange prayer points and songs in the mid-morning after breakfast when he has guests. What he will do is take his guests to the private sitting room or the garden to discuss. He never attended her church till he died but he didn't stop her either. They found balance somehow.

If you cannot comot your mind, then you guys should break up. It is far easier than trying to change her spiritual beliefs.

Gozye:
Thanks a lot Afronight, I work with a private firm in the North, while she works as a teacher in a state government school in the SouthEast that makes it a bit impossible for her transfer since she is in a state school. But all you stated here is what she has been doing.

Brotherly, the distance is not helping matters. Out of sight is out of mind.

Take leave, if you can. Spend a couple of days with your family and observe her. Play with your kids so much that they will beg you to stay when it's time to leave, then tell them to video call you on WhatsApp every night. Hopefully, they will prevail on their mother to allow them to call you.

As for your wife, she is an adult and to be honest, only God can help you with her. She seems to respect the pastor, but for how long. If he tells her what she doesn't want to hear, she can always change her church.

As long as your conscience tells you that her behaviour is not as a result of an offence you committed, don't blame yourself. Don't kill yourself with guilt. It is frustrating to sustain a relationship/friendship/marriage on your own. It will drain you. It will affect your performance at work, if you keep ruminating on it. So, comot your mind, until you can visit and spend time with your family. If she doesnt warm up to you while you're around, just prepare your mind, cos she can wake up one day to pull the plug on the whole marriage.

chatinent:
Nna ehn, na so o

Are you kidding me?

Congrats. In fact I will drink one bottle to celebrate your narrow escape.