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demmykay: @Uyogable big congrats mommy. So happy for U̶̲̥̅̊, waiting patiently to hold nd cuddle M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ LO. D journey so far has been God. Coming back with M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ testimony in Jesus name aMen

Amen oooo and will be right here waiting for you ooo

adetunrayo: I hav lik 4 wks to go on dis journey but my fear is dat, my baby is still breech.dis is my 1st baby.any advice house?

Where are you located. If you are in Nigeria then i would visit one of those midwives that can turn babies, because if LO does not turn then its a csection and its very costly in Nigeria and takes a long time to recover from. Ive seen the wonders of those women and some are very good at turning babies. GL and safe delivery.

greatgod2012: @op,why did you modify your original post, dont you want advice any longer, seems you are not sincere with yur post here, or truth hurts.
Well, anyhow sha, open up a communication link with your wifey and stop making her feel like the devil.
May God help you.

Thats what im saying

remecy: You are already in it, always please your husband no matter what he says or do especially in the presence of those he talks bad abt you to, even if hurts. Do those things that thrill him while you were dating even if it is against your wish. Soon he will change.
Remember, that divorce is not an option as no man wants a second wife so u must make your marriage work. All the best

Wow!!!!!! She is a human being and deserves to be treated as such. Its this man's verbal abuse that breaks her down day in and day out and you are asking her to tolerate it thats unfair. Things have to change in her marriage for the sake of her mental sanity.

@op looks like you got into a situation that brings much unhappiness. The time you took to write this post you should have invested it into talking to this man again. If you dont have children with him I would hold off until the relationship stabilizes or you go your own way. No relationship is worth dieing over for this to work you both need to work on it collaboratively, that is teh only way. He needs to change his ways and come back to teh true realities of why he married you assuming he did it under good intentions.

You mentioned you feel suicidal and marriage should not make you feel this way. Inasmuch no marriage is perfect and each relationship has its own set of issues but if you are the only unhappy one and your husband behaves like everything is kosher than that's unfair. Is their a third party that is unbias that can mediate and counsel the two of you. If their is then you should make an effort to get them involved. If all else fails and you need to walk awaya at least you have done it knowing you tried your best and did everything possible to salvage the union. GL OP but the work starts with you and not on NL.

great pics didnt get to see the game

@op the initial post reaks of tribalism so how can you expect it not to come into this debate I am not Igbo or yuroba, so as an outsider i can say the post itself has tribalistic undertones.

Mrs mansson: Have you gone back to canada.thought you were in ph.hope you are not their alone.just asking.

Naw, Im not alone I got all my family here with me. Baby due in a few weeks will spend some more time here then return to PH together.

jennykadry: Ok, I thought he was attending day care in Nigeria with all the little girls kissing and hugging him, I was just going to say I don't blame the girls, who would see a Canadian citizen and not work hard at trying to hook him first? First come first serve they say.

lol I agree and he real cute to so its a little easier, but im his mommy so im bias, but some other NL have seen his pictures on other forums i post regularly on so they can definetly back up my statement.

@jk my son was born in Canada and currently attending daycare there also.
@op like some other posters communted ask her who "matt" is if he's her age then np, if he a grown man then you need to investigate,

@psalm 23 all the best to you moving forward,your desire to be a mother has already been created and only waiting to be manifested in this physical world.

[quote author=tpia@]Is there anything one wont read on nl.[/quote]lol thats what im saying

In my opinion a man's place is to provide money and take care of the family he has given to the woman.

@op is it normal to have boyfirnd and girlfriend so young yes it is. But i would ask her some more questions like who is Matt is he a child in her class and what does she do with Matt, why does she call him her boyfrind inquire a little so you can fully understand the situation. I take my 3 year old to daycare and once her arrives teh little girls come up and hug him and take him away to the activities so tbh i think its a normal thing, but probe your daughter more to fully understand her.

Vikin: My dear, looks like you will over take me o .

Next week, I will be 39 th week, am not seeing any sign yet, looks like she is too comfortable in my stomach...going to see the doc on Monday, I no want her to pass 40 weeks oh! She just have to come out oh! Je suis tres fatigué .

ooo vraiment tu est tres fatigue, bonne chance madame

@vikin GL i hope baby engages soon enough
As for me another week closer to meeting my little bundle of joy

aysometin: The 10 days really surprised everyone but they won't let me go with a high BP. They moved me to a side room and took the baby away most times so I could get enough rest.
I live in the UK though, may be different where you live.

Certainly is different in developed countries where women have a much more favorable outcome. Medical treatment is more advanced and health care practitioners are more prone to look into pre e, whereas i found in Nigeria most midwife's are not really aware of it or the serious implications associated with it.

Very good topic OP perhapes its best in the health section but non the less this killer disease needs some more awearness. I have seen women die of this and their death could and should have been prevented. Its sad really I had Pre eclamsia my last pregnancy and it was very scary but i was in Canada where every resource is available for me and my then unborn child. Working on the forfront in Nigeria its really sad when some women go for maternal care from teh midwives and most of them dont even know what pre eclamsia is, simple step like checking bp they dont even do. I can only pray maternal and infant health programs can improve in the coutry.

I would ignore him, he may possibly get sick of it and just give it eventually.

@OP the husband wants to have relations with other women and still keep the wife and least he even gave her the option most selfish men would just cheat and expect teh woman to just accept it/ grin and bear it. Look if yiur sister wants to stay then tell her to get a boyfriend or if she cant handle it then get a divorce. At least teh man was upfront and honest with her.

Congrats mommy

@tjskil its good you are being precautious about taking unknown herbal items during your pregnancy, becuase truely some herbs should not be taken while pregnant

@op if she can afford to do it on your own then she should leave, the trouble is too much and the man needs to change and act more like a man. Nothing in this life is worth dying over.

lovely pictures great thread op

Thanks IB thats great advice hopefully it will work for some other mom's

@tjski i hope you feel better soon, i know some typhid meds are not safe to use during pregnancy
@fretok your wife pregnancy is still very young and cramping is normal in early pregnancy just as long as its not associated with any bleeding. All my pregnancies i had so much creamping from 4-8 weeks then it stopped, tell your wife it will pass in time, but if she starts to bleed then go see a doctor. Good luck and congratulations on your wife's pregnancy.

Safe delivery to the both of you i still got a few weeks to go.

Ill be keeping you in my thought and sending positive energy g-d will see you through. As for me I have no choice in the matter as teh type of csection i had with my son does not allow me to deliver naturally ever. Im just preparing for it im staying with my sister and will stay for an additional 2 weeks after i deliver, just for the help then im on my own with hubby my two year old and a newborn. Be sure to come back and post the birth story oooo, we love those on this thread.

Good luck ooo, i hope you deliver naturally and not by section, is baby head down and engaged yet? Sections take forever to recover from, im not looking forward to it because of teh pain involved. Last time it took me over 1 month to be able to stand and walk up straight i was always walking leaned over once the drugs started to wear off.

This is very very sad!!!

Yes. Dominique i ment to repost this and stress the importance of buying original Johnson product. Ill tell you a story i went to the oyibo store and thorught i was buying Johnson original when i got home i noticed it smelt different and also felt different when i turned it around it said made in South Africa, needless to say I was not happy. The Johnson USA which is the original Johnson was in short supply. Anyways i gave the creams to my husbands sister. I then went to a pharmacy and bought original Aveno.WHen i return i will certainly be packing a few months supply of the cream,powder and body wash for my little rugrats.
Your almost due Madame moderator i hope you got your bags packed and someone coming over to help you out with the two year old once you deliver.

I used the Pears stuff on my son once we had travelled to the village and i did not have his Aveno or Johnsons cream and powder. When i applied the Pears cream my son cried then his skin broke out in a rash all over. I used it on myself and also irritated my skin so i would recommend Johnsons products.