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Science all the way!!!

baby is very cute

@ Congrats of making being term uwani, i remember just like yesterday the first ttc graduate to make it over congratulations mommy.

debrief08: Agi Baby, How is the baby kicking?
You still dey abi you don reach Home? Abeg great ya people.

Agi enters the thread " Im a vessel of positive energy" nothing can get me down i got life in me and it shall not, will not be tainted with NEGATIVE ENERGY, no comment to all the above only @ DB we are doing great mommy, loving everyday of this experience.

hmmmm and the battle rages on @ madame i am often the outsider here, i once was new and was beaten up on to say the least when i put my business out there for ADVICE well i certainly got a mouthful and saw the colors of the regular posters. Now they pretty much ignore me as much as i ignore them. In short Madame you remind me of me a few months ago, its like deja vu. Dont worry ooo if you become a regular you will have many battles to fight until they see you wont back down and they will eventually give up on you like they have done on me.

This one past desperate housewives oooo, i dont think the writters of the show can get this creative in comparison to the stuff that comes out on this NL.

ileobatojo: He pushed for marriage after a week? His papers were probably expiring soon, or he needed a job real quick so he could start supporting his likely wife and child back home. You were conned into marriage my dear. If his papers are not done yet, you better go to immigration and let them know this was a scam.

He has never offered to let you speak to his family? Major crimson red flag right there. This is the worst of all the things he has done to you. Listen carefully and absorb this, it is not normal or proper from an African perspective not to know your husband's family. For an African to keep his wife from his family, it means something extremely fishy is going on. His plan is to marry quietly, get his papers and get divorced quietly and likely bring his wife and child to the US afterward.

Perhaps you have different perspectives of what a relationship should be like? You need to stop trying to rationalize this. It's a waste of time. The sooner you accept what has happened the sooner you can make concrete plans and develop an exit strategy.

Sorry about your plight.

Well said

very nice pictures

^^^^^ and that happpiness will be in the near near future.

Well tbh i would get that divorce and move on. As far as i am understanding this its a marriage of "convenience" for him. tbh alot of Igbo guys marry girls for papers and the scenario you painted sounds like one of those situations to me. Dont be offended. You also mentioned back in your original post if my memory is not failing me that he has a child with a woman in Nigeria. But he calls the woman a witch. My dear this woman could very well be the wife and you need to be careful. You have written a lot of stuff that could be considered warning signs. Also for the mear fact that you are even posting on NL, you have uncertainties. I think you are pretty much gonna be disappointed further so get out while you can. Good luck to you.

Pink22 congrats oooo, its permanent mommmy, enjoy your pregancy oooo

believer84: Hi ladies,
Don't even knw how to start or express my gratituide to God 4 dese wondaful miracle and priviledge.
Had my ist IUI end of last month.Was so scared of the long wait(2ww) and finally summoned enuf courage 2 test on sunday exactly 14 days afta,and it was positive.Son shocked that I kept on testing everyday up until wednesday also did a blood test.Same
thing.
I just still in shock.Will be going for a scan nxt week to check that all's well.Doc says the chances of multiple is high,since I produced quite a number of follicles. Funny thing is,I feel so normal save for cramps and sore nipples

God is def still in d bizness of miracles.Pls dnt give up

HAPPPPY DANCE CONGRATS OOO

Ib glad to hear this, is she sleeping through the night yet?

Folks back to the issues @ hand, Lets refocus and talk about what truely matters. For all those going through IVF and any other form off assisted conception, i am sending you buckets full of sticky baby dust.

Dont even waste time packing a bag. leave the house and dont look back.

lol

[quote author=Busy_body]Just been in the health section. Glad you decided to not only stick it for your son but also found your God-given inner strength to reach out to the "less obvious" victim too. . . Congratulations also to the new bun in the oven. Wish you a safe journey second time round expectant Momma This is just the start, may your household continue to radiate peace that passeth human understanding and unlimited joy that knows no bound in Jesus' Name.[/quote]Thank you

Hmmm "mad people" u say,

People can change and my house is now a different place, i dont put a blind eye to anything, my house is the home of love, understanding and peace. .It took work to get to the point we are at but its worth i. When i see my son and the baby coming i know i am where i belong. Dont let negativity and hatred alter you thoughts on people change its possible, just have patience.

Mrs Chima ooo,i had to go back a few pages to see where the anger was coming from. Well madame i must say that statement Camry highlighted is what has fueled the fire here. On a ttc thread, where people spending tens of thousands of dollars to have children and you write this my sister as a mother you could have done better ooo. This is not the place for such a statement and thats the truth. Then rubbing your kids in the face of these folks saying you'l exchange them. I know its a joke but man, it was in bad taste again. I guess you have never battled infertility so you dont know the mental anguish that is involved in this process. Personally i have been their, I now have a son who is the love of my life and pregnant again. But this took over 7 years of trying befor i could have called myself a mother. So do i understand where the people on this thread is coming from yes i do all to well. I was even contepmlating ivf, was about to start teh process then i found out i was pregnant with my son. Look i dont want to bash you and i am a firm beleiver in adoption but their is a time and place to make that recommendation and i dont think this thread is the appropriate place.
Infertility sensitivity training for Mrs. chima Complete

I own a center in ph, we started off with ultrasound scan, now we have a full lab, scan and xray. I wanted to do MRI and CT scan but tbh, its not feasable, for example an ct scan can cost 60,000 naira, MRI 100,000, the problem is 1.) that some big centers in lagos are offering it for half that price. 2.) most govenment hospitals have these machines and the prices are very low, sometimes people can even have the procedures for free. Diagnostic centers are great, but dont go spening 20 million naira on ct scan and mri and teh market is not their for you to make back your money. I have decided to spend my money in upgrading my lab to be more advanced, so that i can get work from other labs that dont have the equipment to do certain test. Their is a big market for that and the chances off you making money quickly is better. GoodLuck! email me if you have any more questions,

my only grip is that i grew up fatherless.

@op you tried ooo, i breastfed my son for 18 months, he self weaned @ 14 months and then i pumped the breast milk for him, so he can get the nutrition. Congrats on such a great milestone.

yw good for you

what a JOKE

Well I worked on it my goal has always been to make the family work so my children dont grow up fatherless like i did. That was my motivation. So i started to see the route cause of the decay in my marriage and their where many, i started on the issues that where dividing us.

1.) Me being in another country for extended period of time, i went back to my home country for 18 months. This made hubby feel like i was not interested, nor did i want him to play a major role in bringing up our son. We decided that its not enough for him to visit every few months but i need to relocate permanently to Nigeria so he can feel more comforteble. I have done that.

2.) Money was another issue, he thought that i spent to much and demanded a lot from him. I decided to open up my business and day by day i am becoming more independant. My husband has seen the potential in my business and the work that i put into it daily and that has been a major turning point for us, as he is happy what i have done and im currently doing, he actually tells me he is prod of me.

3.) Reduce the nagging, i try not to complain that much put look past his shortcomings and i actually acknowledge his strenghts, he is a wonderful father and a great provider to me and my son, i let him know this and he know beleives that i see him that way and has softned up to me more.

4.) We talk more we still have issues our marriage is not perfect by any means, but we communicate and let each other know what is going on in our world. These days we work as a team and not independant contractors.

5.)We are both committed to raising our growing family and have an objective in mind, that we are working towards.

6.) I take time now to bring back the romance in our relationship and appearently it has worked well in many ways .

7.) I now have a good understanding of what triggers his anger, and i know know its best to let the anger subside and they try to communicate with him. Start to see him as a person that brings joy into your life and not misery, that change of perception is very important.

@ op get to know your husband again, you will be surprised to find out how you enjoy him again.GL

@ OP, last year December i could have written this post myself. My relationship was in shambles, came on NL family section posted my problems and well got pretty much the same response you got, from the same people. Listen work on your relationship as you have promised to do, things will change for you like they have for me. Ask g-d to help you and change your husbands attitude. You will see changes in him, he will return to teh man you originally fell in love with. Im also in this relationship for 10 years like you so i know. Today my home is happier place there is more understanding and appreciation. It does get better but it takes hard work. GL and you can do it.

try drinking lots of cranberry juice

Sorry to hear your news. But HIV is not a death sentence with proper care, diet etc you can still live a very long fulfilling life. If you are in a relationship inform your partner and have them get tested right away. Wish you all the best.

@ dominique try to make sure its someone that has the same MATURITY level as yourself, and not go around nairaland tanting and teasing and being a complete ASS.

[quote author=Mrs..Chima]IVF is a tricky thing and my hat goes off to those would can endure such hardship. I do hope that you all receive positive results however strongly encourage those to give adoption a chance. There are millions of babies/children in the world without mothers/fathers that would appreciate a love from someone that is caring and stable.

I know adoption is taboo with Africans but some of us are made to have children and some of us are made to receive children. Just because a person has a baby doesn't mean that the baby is right for them.

Just thought to share that because adoption is always the last resort for most families.[/quote]Well said