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Kobojunkie:
1. So, you keeping yourself till marriage in order to make another human being pay for it? Is that what you think marriage is about then? Look, use commonsense with these things. If you know your sexual stamina is high please stay away from a woman who does not like sex like you will regret it like over 83% of the other men before you who are in marriage and living in regret of it.

2. No one is asking you to suppress, instead applying commonsense when choosing a mate is the simple solution here. Find another who is sexually compatible with yourself or else you will end up like over 83% who regret their choice in marriage but have taken to glorifying adultery thinking they deceive others.

Oh, my mistake then. I see you are already planning to take to cheating as remedy for whatever foolish choices you make in choosing a wife. OK then!

It is at this stage that I draw the curtain. I will not tolerate insults over expressing my personal opinions just as you expressed yours.


Shalom.

Kobojunkie:
1. Women also pay men for sex. It's not simply men that do that.

2. Wrong! the average married man in Nigeria, after marrying a woman who isn't sexually compatible with him — shows you how very many Nigerian men in Nigeria remain — go out to pay sidechicks and prostitutes for sex. If they had married for themselves an ashawo for a wife to begin with, then they would not have need for the double trips and additional spending.

The main point here is female prostitutes are more than male prostitutes.

Having a wife and side chicks/prostitutes is not always an indicator of sexual incompatibility with one's wife.
We men are polygamous in nature(yes! I said that). We often like varieties. Of course, it is optional.

Modified:
Ignore this post.

Kobojunkie:
1. Sadly, you are suggesting expensive hormone treatment, it doesn't work that way.

2. There are male prostitutes everywhere. Some hide likely because of rejection from society but do not for one moment think there aren't any.

3. It takes more than just body count to become an ashawo. One also has to have stamina. You have read stories of men and even women dying about sex marathons, abi? All bodies are not built the same.

I never said there aren't male prostitutes. But you can never compare them to female counterparts.
A single Nigerian man might have to spend to get sex. A single Nigerian woman will even get paid for sex. So tell me why the services of gigolos are as important here.

For a married woman to require the stamina of ashewo in order to satisfy her husband, then her situation is an exceptional one.
Her husband has an extremely high libido then.
I'm talking about men with natural libido who will only need sex for about 2 to 3 days in a week.

Kobojunkie:
1. Then what you describe is no longer marriage but some sort of indentured servitude.

2. Only if your partner agrees with you can you make that work in a marriage, else, what you have, is no different from a contract with a prostitute. So, it still makes more sense in that case for you to marry a prostitute than an average woman.

Call it what you want, that's the reality. How will I keep myself till marriage and my wife will be telling me "I'm not in the mood, is it food?"?
How will I be suppressing sexual urges like a teen during puberty?
It's either she spreads those legs open towards the west and east pole, or I hire an "assistant" outside!

If you are not ready to satisfy your husband sexually, don't marry. Same way you shouldn't marry if you're not ready to shoulder responsibilities.

Isabi4lov:
I'm not saying married women shouldn't be used to sex but work stresss and the likes do affect some times. We just need to understand each other .

Sex in marriage is like house chores or bills payment. You don't have to like it, but you have to do it.

The only exception to sex should be during sickness and pregnancy (for those with reduced libido during pregnancy).

Kobojunkie:
What you just asked makes no sense at all.

There are also male prostitutes out there who are used to sex. So can it also then be argued that all men should be used to sex since there are male prostitutes who are?

Yes, absolutely! Prostitutes are humans like us. If they can do it, we can do it too. There's no excuse.

Also, are married men also just male prostitutes with class?

Did you read where I typed "many"??
Also, men and women are not same. How many times have you seen male prostitutes compared to female prostitutes?

P.s. If you want a woman that is used to sex in much the same way as a prostitute is, then marry a woman that has had lots and lots of practice before you met her so those sexual muscles go don develop well well before you tie her down to just you. It makes no sense at all for a man who has ashawo libido to then settle for a woman with low body count or mileage ---- no sense whatsoever.

An ashewo also once had low body count and mileage too. They developed the sexual muscles in the trade same way a married person can develop the sexual muscles in marriage.

Jayzel:
Not picture but status

No status

Isabi4lov:
So are you telling me that married men don't cheat or what ? As for the prostitutes, how many of them are staying with their husbands, even the ones that have children, they give the children out or give them to their parents.

For the sex part , the prostitutes are already used to it , it's their daily hustle .

Is it not better for people should go for their type .

How many men have you married that cheated on you?
Many married women are just prostitutes with class. That is, they no longer stand by road side. But they are willing to give any big boy in Benz their numbers.

If prostitutes can be used to sex, why can't married women be used to it too?

Jayzel:
Lol go check my profile at Instagram @stylzofficial
Maybe that can clear ur doubt

Yeah I saw only two pictures that didn't say anything related to what we discussed.

Jayzel:
U speak like u know me in person lol
Well my dad is a doctor a highly physician
And mind u I'm a BDS degree holder
don't judge by my appearance I'm also into music ( cuz i own a clubhouse) , fashion & lot more

At least you're not a therapist nor psychiatrist.

And you can be a BDS holder but not practicing.

Jayzel:
Psychiatrist precisely

Lies.

How will you say a psychiatrist is a sort of therapist?
Psychiatry is a specialty for doctors just like Pediatrics, Obstetrics, Dermatology, Cardiology and the likes.

A psychiatrist can become a therapist though but they'll need to train as a psychologist. It is pretty rare for a psychiatrist to do that.

If that's you in your dp, you don't look like someone who could meet MBBS cutoff.

CHIOMAEZEH:
Kudos to her.... Its not an easy feat to become a pilot.. Both financially, physical and mentally too....

As for the financing, NAF takes care of that.

ImoleNaija:
Odaju ni Emefiele yi. I don buy cash tire from POS agents.

I withdraw my support for the Naira redesign, abeg.

I think it's high time we directed our grievances to the CBN branches & not the common banks.

Restrict your grievances online though.
If you go there, those mopol I saw are not smiling.

If only ladies learnt to preserve their virginity, they won't be relegated to a baby mama.
Some baby mamas are now regretting. I definitely won't mention the infamous Nairaland celebrity baby mama, madam Ahine the great.

Kobojunkie:
You pretty much certify yourself an imbe_cile by taking on another adult such as your own self— a complete adult with a functioning body and mind, only without a penis — as a dependent.

Don't you know wordy sentences are hard to understand?

Rephrase so I can understand what you're trying to say.

Isabi4lov:
Men will always look for reasons to justify their cheating habit

What happens to communicating with your wife and also helping out in the house chores.

Most prostitutes makes use of drugs in other to satisfy their clients and it is the work that pays their bills.

Some couples lack communication in their marriages, if you don't speak out , how then do you want you partner to know what the problem is .

Even the ones that their wives are giving them 24/7 , will still find a way to cheat or rape somebody's daughter.

It takes self control and discipline to stay faithful to one's spouse .

If I help with house chores, will she help in paying house rent + all our kids' school fees?

There are prostitutes that have been in the business for over a decade. You mean they'll be taking drugs everyday for about 12 to 15 years or more?
Sleeping with men pays their bills, wives sleeping with their husbands satisfy their husbands. That's enough motivation.

The emboldened is very fallacious. It should never come out of the mouth of anyone that has a working thinking faculty.

sisisioge:
Ok o.....if other men can give their wives millions to run the home,what is your excuse to be broke as a husband? Do these men have two heads?

You can't give what you don't have.
I don't have millions to give my wife but my wife has her body to give.

donproject2:
Well, let me explain...I had everything in my room while leaving school, enough clothes as well, but I only took my laptop, few personal belongings, and about just 3 shirts while leaving finally.

Oh!🤦
I get now.

donproject2:
Lobatan

Lol
Norms, I no believe sha.

FRANCISTOWN:
I thought you people said God gave people free will, where did that free will disappear to? Adam wanted Eve and God didn't object, same way the Isrealites wanted a king and still he didn't object. So what are you telling me?

If God gave us free will, there won't be 10 commandments. There is no free will. He is our creator and he directs us on what he wants us to do.

Lemme show you something. Do you know that there are some organisms called hermaphrodites? They reproduce thru asexual reproduction. We can see that in earthworms. That could be God's initial plan for Adam and Eve, but due to Adam's free will which God didn't want to revoke, he had to allow him do his thing. What you should ask yourself was , why was it that the first thing that came out of marriage was The fall of man?. The first marriage according to the Bible, brought about the fall of man. Sometimes I wonder why people don't think about this at all.

The first marriage brought about the fall of man because Adam and Eve thought they had free will. God commanded them not to eat the forbidden fruit, but they ate it.

Now, hermaphrodite is different from asexual. But I know you mean more of asexual.
Adam can't be asexual because asexual organisms don't have genitals. If Adam were asexual, he would have reproduced even before Eve was created. If Cows, Dogs, Cats, etc aren't asexual, how will a higher animal be? So that's not the case at all.

After the fall of Adam and Eve, didn't God still help them? Did he not cover them up after they messed up for taking the wrong decision? The same way God had to step in to help them all in marriage since they made that wrong decision as well.

He helped them but cursed them. Read Genesis and see where he cursed the male gender, female gender and even the Snake.
That's what you get for disobeying God.

When Adam and Eve were sent out of Eden, God still gave them instructions that would help them. The same way with marriage, God had seen that you people already made the mistake of marriage there nothing much that can be done but rather to give you guidelines to manage the headache well. Those were guidelines, since you guys already changed God's plan initially.

If marriage wasn't God's plan, he would have warned Adam and Eve not to couple up same way he warned them against forbidden fruit.

When the Israelites offended God by doing what he didn't plan for them, and they went to battle, they will lose the battle. That was the repercussion of their actions.
If God didn't plan marriage, anyone who does it will see the repercussion.
God won't normalize what he didn't plan just because people are doing it. Why didn't God normalize killings, stealing, worshipping other gods?

God didn't create a wife for himself, after the resurrection of the dead. All marriages will be nullified. It means marriages are not recognized in heaven. Apostle Paul didn't marry, and he was the chiefest of the Apostle, had access to mysteries and visions more than any of them all. Yet God didn't tell him to marry. Marriage is forced on us by the society, and we must let people see that.

I appreciate the fact that you have delivered your points without any insults so far, this conversation is mature.

If you want to use your whole life to serve God, you can decide not to marry. However, you must not engage in intercourse.
We have Reverend fathers, Reverend sisters, Popes and other Eunuchs.

Yes, marriages will not be recognized in heaven same way your wealth, status, fame etc won't be recognized.
Also, God is not man and doesn't need marriage.


tl;dr
Marriage is God's plan if not, he won't support it.
You can decide not to marry if you want to serve God with your whole life and body. But you mustn't engage in intercourse.

FRANCISTOWN:
No 1. Give an example of anyone that God joined together in the Bible except Hosea in Hosea 1:1-2.

No 2. God didn't intend marriage, God had to support them just like he supported them when they wanted a king though it was not his plan for them 1 Sam 8:4-22 (but what ended it, they moved from one problem to another) because it wasn't God's plan initially.

No 3. In 1 Cor 7, Paul the chiefest apostle even proposed that they be as single as he was. So what are you telling me?

You can't tell God you want something and tell him you do not want again, so they had to deal with it like that.
Also in Mal 2: 16 ,

If you don't intend for your child to be a thief, will you support him or her stealing?

God didn't want Adam to be alone so he created Eve(a female). They lived as couples and bore children. Why didn't he create a male?

God said don't commit fornication. That means you must be married before you have sex.
God said don't commit adultery, only married people can commit adultery.
If God is against marriage, he won't give us rules relating to marriage.

God said wives should submit to their husbands and husbands should love their wives. Why is God mentioning husbands and wives if he didn't intend marriage?

There are people who choose to be single. They are Eunuchs. However, you mustn't have sex nor bear children. So of course, you can be single.

FRANCISTOWN:
John 16:13 Jesus said the Holy Spirit cannot speak of himself but whatever he(Jesus) asks him to speak. And Jesus said "God in the begining created them man and woman" not husband and wife.

Matthew 19:4-6

4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’
5 And said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?
6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

😐😐😐

kazyhm:
At the bolded......the reason men don't like to grant divorce is women want to quit with life long benefits..........as if divorce is equal to retirement...........


Divorce will be the easiest if partners wouldn't make demands.......they refer to it as divorce settlements...........why will you file for divorce with throat cutting demand...

True and it's sometimes backed by the law.

Divorce in the western world is even a no go area. If you're not financially strong, you risk plunging into poverty.

donproject2:
Can you read between lines??

And by the grace of God I left with 2 or 3 shirts while leaving the school after my graduation despite the fact that I had everything a typical big boy in uni would have.

What's in between the lines to read again other than you had the big boy opportunity to have more but decided to starve yourself of clothes?

That's what your post can be interpreted as.

FRANCISTOWN:
The bible is not secret or banned book, anyone who is interested may bring it. God didn't come down from heaven to explain the bible to anyone. Everyone interpretes according to their understanding, so nobody, I repeat, nobody has the rights to tell me I need not to bring in God, na only you get the God?

The interpretation of the bible requires wisdom and inspiration from the holy spirit. Anyone who doesn't have this will continue to misinterpret the bible.

"Marriage isn't God's institution"
That right there shows you don't know what you're saying. I don't have time, I'd have proven it to you biblically.

Nia69:
Alright.

😂😂😂I copied the text before the thread got deleted. I'm not dating a mod.

Oh I see.

Have fun😊

donproject2:
Person like me who enter school at old age...all the younger ones are almost going to school. I want to school with only 4 shirts and the jeans trouser I was wearing the first day I resumed uni...and by the grace of God I left with 2 or 3 shirts while leaving the school after my graduation despite the fact that I had everything a typical big boy in uni would have

So you just chose to wear same 4 to 2 shirts and same trouser from your freshman year till your final year?

DanseMacabre:
Foment.

Thanks a lot.

Nia69:
Oh wow! But those familiar with my account would easily know I'm not the one. Your account would be so easy to clone, hopefully they don't clone yours. That thread was deleted.

Yeah true.
If I see "your account" typing what I know you won't type ordinarily, the next thing is to check your username.

How were you able to copy text out of a deleted thread? Are you dating a mod?😁😁

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