₦airaland Forum

I agree with only a few of your points.
You need not use God to prove your point because you're twisting things and getting them wrong.

My submission:
People in relationships quit easily and anytime they are not feeling themselves anymore.
In marriage, if you want to quit, your religious leaders, in-laws, families, friends, elders etc will all appeal to you. Even the judge might not grant you the divorce.
This will force you to put up with emotional, psychological, mental, verbal, and sometimes physical abuse.

Lack of freedom of choice to quit is a major reason I don't like marriage.
Everyone will want to salvage the marriage you're not interested in any longer.

As for me, I come home to foment trouble.
No one misses me as I leave. They all heave a huge sigh of relief.

RTID:
I don't know if this also happens in your house.

Whenever it's time to go back to school, my siblings would cry. Most especially my younger sister. A day or two days before I'm to go back, aunty will lose appetite and be extremely quiet. I'd catch her sobbing quietly. It would break my heart.

If you're a female, there's nothing to worry about, whether you're an adult or not.

If you're a male and not an adult, you're still good.

But if you're an adult male...just know that it's your family that will choose a wife for you. And your wife is marrying you and your whole family.
That was on a lighter note.

Family love is great if not in excess as it could make you still dependent when you ought to be independent.

You write beautifully too.

Danyel1z:
I love her so much to the point getting married to her and some weeks ago, she made me know her estrogen is very low and not happy about it despite we still make love. She's 36 years old. Any advice or drugs to take or food

Tell her to visit an Ob/gyn doctor.
If her low sex drive can't keep up with your own libido, find a lady that hers is compatible with yours.
Sexual compatibility is very crucial in any sexual relationship.

I wish to celebrate Ahnie. Baby mama wey get pride.

BigYash:
But its still better than marrying someone with over five body count. Girl when five boys or men don Bleep tire,wetin you wan make out of such girl oga? I just said five guys o.. Some has body count of over 50... Na choice sha.. God forbids bad thing.. If virgins no get good character, na olosho come get good character? Make una dey justify rubbish. One say virginity won't put food on her table. Wetin do your hands? Must your pussy be a tool for making money?

I was not commenting based on body count, I was commenting based on virginity.

Now, I don't encourage women to keep piling up their body count. But whoever will make a good wife will make a good wife.
There is a weak correlation between having low body count and being a good wife, ditto for having a high body count and being a bad wife.

Please, don't use these indicators for selecting a wife. You risk being disappointed.

Nia69:
I'm sorry.

It's fine.

The voice over guy should jejely speak his native language.
No one coerced him to speak the gbagaun English he is speaking.

Nia69:
It's not an insult. 🌚

It's offensive. Don't say that to people.

JimmySwaggart:
M*sturb*to*n won't ever shrink yet penile. It will even help u reshape ur penile overtime depending on how u handle it during the act. If you handle it downside while smooching with Vaseline, ur penile will overtime take the shape of the head of a tap having its mouth facing downward, and that's isn't a good one. If u smooch upwards it helps it curve like a plantain fruit overtime which is a very good shape which improve ur confidence when you reveal it to your woman. But all these analysis won't work for anyone with erectile or neurological dysfunction of the penile region. So m*sturb*ti*n won't cause ur penile to shrink, except u are a chronic addict and u have overworked ur epithelial cells and also probably injured some nerve endings.

Minister of Penile Affairs.
Commissioner for Penile Health.
Chairman Board of Masturbation and Penis Smooching.

siofra:
Please as a holy virgin, I need a virginity certificate like this. Where can I get one?

I believe this is pure cruise.

Let yahoo boys see your virginity certificate if your panties won't go missing.

elipheleh:
Virginity is a proof of good character. It is a good testament that a girl has the following:

1. Self control
2. Not money greedy
3. Good home training
4. A will to keep to her words and character
5. NOT easily deceived
6. Intelligent
7. And used her youth on productive things

These qualities above are GOOD and DESIRABLE.
Any non-virgin mostly does not have any or all of the above qualities

Virgin woman doesn't mean she'll make a good wife.

Marrying as a virgin just means you have self control. This doesn't mean that self control can't be lost.
We've seen women who married as a virgin being disrespectful, cheats, greedy, mannerless with little to no productivity before and after marriage.

You need to travel far and wide, meet people and you'll stop having this mentality.

UyaiIncomparabl:
But, this Gbadebo guy low key acts like a ‘small boy’ who’s still battling with youthful exuberance sha. Lol.

It's because you are used to seeing men advanced in age ruling.

Banilla:
You ignored the part I said I rarely go out. You make it seem like people are magnet. You literally have to meet people, talk and spend time together to know whether you fit or not. That's the meaning of dating. This whole attraction thing is dating. People approach those they like physically, knowing if the person is good enough takes time and a lot of effort. So you made no sense.

When I meet a guy and he's wearing a polo shirt twice his size with dirty dreads, I immediately know he's not on my level. I don't need to date him to see that.

What's your point?

How will you meet high value men when you rarely go out? Or you expect high value men to go about knocking the doors of girls they don't know and might not even worth their time?

You keep evading your own part.
Are you worthy of being approached by a high value man?
How can you distinguish yourself from other ladies that want him?
Do you have the physical attractiveness to attract him? Do you have the inner qualities to keep him?

Banilla:
Lmao. A high value man is intelligent, so am I. That's not something to argue. Meeting one good enough is the problem cause they are so rare. You might spend a lot of time thinking whether or not you're good enough for someone who's high value but I don't. Some of us are really confident.

The weird thing is the other women use class to define high value but Nigerian women use intelligence, something that should be common. That tells a lot. Soon, we'll call Nigerian men with common sense high value...

I suppose you're right... I gotta stop searching for someone with a little exposure, accept the only thing the average Nigerian man things about is yahoo and sex. Oh well.

Intelligence isn't common anywhere! You might not be intelligent but might only be living in an illusion. Because how do you know you are intelligent?

If you are high value yourself, you won't have problem meeting high value men.
You are what you attract. If you're not meeting high value men, make yourself high value and everything will fall in place.

For you to be meeting men interested in fraud and only sex speaks volume about yourself.

Shalom!

guru90:
Chai.......

One day, My money will make EFCC to call me.....
And
i will go and answer them, even they will snap pictures with me that day as i am leaving their Office...


That day ........ Loading.......

You don't dream of Dangote calling you for a partnership nor Otedola calling you for shares holding and bond buying.

It's law enforcement agency that nabs economic and financial criminals that you want to call you.

Cantonese:
Hard work, integrity, accountability.

Get a good job. Plan your life. Avoid yahoo and other illegalities. Work hard. Mind your business. Focus. Walk and work with those who add value to your life.

Connect yourself to God.

Dey play.

You want to be mad rich in Nigeria without illegalities. Of course those who do it won't tell you they do it.

Banilla:
That's the thing.

Intelligence shouldn't be considered high value. I'm surprised you think it is. You're making a point that intelligent men are rare in Nigeria. I should lower my standards and go for someone who's not smart. Or who lacks a sense of humour. Would you?

I am everything I want ... So it's not a matter of being good enough.

Mind you, we aren't talking about wealth or success.

Intelligence isn't high value? Not everyone has it so it's of high value; remember scarcity creates value.
I need to know your definition of high value.

If you don't lower your standards, do you have what it takes to attract a high value man? I already know what you want in a man but no one here knows the value you have to offer.

The emboldened is very narcissistic. It should be "I am everything a high value man wants"(if that's true). You are not going to date yourself, you're going to date a valuable man.
I don't know what makes you think you're good enough for a valuable man.

Banilla:
Don't do this. You said yourself high quality men are rare in Nigeria. Your definition of high quality is being different, smart, etc...

Obviously the women who go for them most have really low standards.

Why are you contradicting yourself?

I'm not getting the point here. But a little clarification:

- It's the high value men that go for women they deem worthy.

- You don't always get what you want in life so you might not get the high value man you desire. You either have to upgrade yourself and have optimum value to offer to get a high value man, or you lower your standards to get a man not as high value as you want.


Like you always do, I don't expect you to agree.

siofra:
Send a PM. I don't want Yahoo boys to cast that site. They have already started anyway.

Sent.

Banilla:
Convenient of you to ignore the fact that I was insulted first. If mister right wants me to be docile, then he is not my mister right. And I don't want anyone who would tolerate being treated badly. I like my men tough cause I am.

I don't need to prove anything. Maybe you do, but I don't. If I meet the right person, we would fit. I don't need tips on how to approach men or distinguish myself... Just needed to you say Nigerian men suck and you've done that.

At least you would have tasted many Nigerian men and many foreigners before coming to the conclusion that Nigerian men suck.
Even those who go abroad still choose Nigerian men. Let alone someone that has only had a couple of online dates with foreigners.

Bradford111:
To you day hungry me

Please don't say that. E fit be cruise but abeg delete am.

Banilla:
You're being hypocritical tho.

I was born 2003, I approach men I like. There's nothing wrong. You shouldn't assume I'm timid.

Your advice is wrong. I'm not desperate to be in a relationship, if I was, I wouldn't be single despite having many options. Why do I need to settle for less? Would you?

In other words, I should give up on finding someone who's my mister right cause he doesn't exist, especially not in Nigeria.

I'm not saying you're desperate now. But as you age, desperation can set in and make you drop your high standards.

You can keep on searching for mister right. But does mister right want you?
How can you distinguish yourself from all those that want him?

With what I've seen so far on this thread, the I-am-always-right, the insults thrown around and all... If mister right were to be on NL viewing this thread, sorry you just lost him.

siofra:
I really admire your confidence.

But I think you should not worry about having a boyfriend now. Guys will come but I don't think you're ready yet. What you should focus on now is building yourself into the woman of YOUR dreams. The woman you would like to be. Pursue your interests and hobbies, trust me it is more rewarding and satisfying than trying to chat with all these time wasters called men.

Focus on your career, school, hobbies, dream big and work towards it. It's going to be hard, painful, frustrating, filled with tears and lonely. But what keeps me going are my goals and the life I have envisioned for myself. I know what I want and I'm not going to settle for less.

And I know you won't like this but Albertone is right. The kind of man you want is already wanted by majority of women. So even if you find him, you're going to be up against stiff competition. They call those kind of men level one men. Very rare and hard to find but they exist.


But in case you need an app or website where you want to meet new people (mostly foreigners though) tell me and I'll send you a PM. I just can't drop the website here.

Heyyyy hanty Siofra come and give me the app too.

Banilla:
So? Are you trying to intimidate me? I know personally, we were kinda friends so this is shocking. I guess you've lowered your standards too cause you're SCARED of meeting high quality women and not being good enough. If you're so insecure, fine. I'm not you.

So intelligent, funny Nigerian men are high quality and rare? Like, you don't even consider yourself one?

I'm not offended, just sad for you.

If you sight a high value man, what if he doesn't approach you because he doesn't consider you worthy? He has many options you know.
But if you lower your standards, you have better chances. He now has narrower options so, you may be easily noticed.

As for me, I don't need to lower my standards to meet high value women. I simply approach her.
Example: You can want a very smart and funny man but guys in that category are not coming to you. I can want certain qualities too in a woman, all I need to do is to keep approaching women of those qualities. I have better chances that way.

We mostly do the approaching, you mostly do the acceptance. You can't accept what didn't come to you.


And yes, intelligent, funny Nigerian men are high quality and rare. Why are you finding it difficult to get one if they are scattered everywhere?



What if Dat berry is not Bored afterall? 🤔

Banilla:
I need to know if I'm the only one or there are others who feel the same way... What I can do to get better...

So...

I'll be twenty soon (a few weeks) but I don't have much friends, never been on a date or even gone out, haven't been in a real relationship either. It's unusual cause it's very easy for me to meet new people and interact... But these days, I hate doing it. I have to force myself to have a conversation.

I don't know why I've changed. Last year, I only met one person who really interested me, unfortunately the relationship didn't work out. It's getting worse, I have no intention to putting myself out there to meet boys (I would really love to have a boyfriend) even though I'm so lonely.

I think it's because I have such high standards... I want a boy who would understand me. He should be funny and smart... I get bored easily so he has to capture my mind or I'll immediately lose interest. Someone sensitive but sure of himself. We would be able to talk about anything and everything. I hate people who are basic and it seems 80percent of Nigerian boys are just that... It's all about making money and being a hustler: Hennessy, iPhone and Benz... blah blah blah... They are disappointing.

I think I'm going to die alone... Aren't there pretty, intelligent boys in Nigeria? I need someone I'll get addicted to. I don't know if I should stop expecting so much...

If he doesn't exist on Nairaland, what other site can I find him?

Being your boyfriend feels like a chore. You have so much expectations about boys and the value you have to deliver is not commensurate with what you're expecting.

A guy who will meet your standards will be a high value man, a hot cake. He will have ladies chasing after him, he will have many options. You will need to prove yourself worthy of him choosing you. With all you've said, I don't think you stand a chance.

Don't worry about your high standards. As you progress in age, the standards will drop. I know of a 40-something year old Nigerian nurse in UK. She came home and was willing to marry any man, divorced, widowed, already have 5 kids, is broke, is 10 years younger.... just any man.

LaIabobo:
Just look for plenty money and go to the UK.
That's the only sure visa to a developed country at the moment.
via study route, budget 5m for main applicant and 1.3m for each dependant.
Excluding flight and accommodation expenses

School fees too?

pocohantas:
No reasonable country makes her visa easy to get for Nigerians.

Na wa o.
See discouragement.

ganisucks:
Money that CBN don burn finish.
You guys just don't get it. Go and read up Maria Antoinette, the Romanovs and Lenin. And that will give you an insight into what CBN is doing.

How did you dig into that history? I'm impressed I must say.

Is there any reason you read about history?

I don't read history because I felt there's no need to learn about what has already happened years ago(dating back to hundreds of years ago).
I might be misinformed though.