No deji, Ive not won anything. Its not about winning, maybe you were right about trying to be sensible in such a situation. My point was just that it would be very difficult to expect someone to think rationally in such a position.

whats is happenings here? Have nobodys ever entered a classroom in this NL? Hows came all of you are spinking this kinds of english?

see what I mean? And IMO its ok for you to feel that way. Youre only human and youre entitled to a reaction like that when something like that happens to you.

And deji, dara is your so no one needs to die !

dejiolowe:

a lot of people in naija r from polygamous homes and they still grew up normally. i don't support it but if it happens to my daughter, i will advice her to stay put.

well just cause daddy says to stay put doesnt mean shes gonna . Alot of people from polygamous homes turned out ok but they dont like polygamy!Its so easy for a man to say sit put but would you be that calm if youre in such a position? What if you find out your baby wasnt yours and your wife was planning to leave you and go join her lover?

timmy, you have a mother, maybe sisters and someday daughters. When you talk, think of all those people and how they would feel if it happened to them.

dejiolowe:

that wont solve the problems. u only hurt yourself more. think about your children. think about the future. long after the joy of revenge has gone, u will still v the mess to clear off.

well i dont know, that kind of problem cant be solved. Besides I think I should be entitled to some minutes of madness if that kind of thing happens to me. Like I also said, I dont know what I'd do, I may not get pregnant for someone else but sleeping with someone else might make me feel better or something. Am one crazy person and I just pray that kind of thing doesnt happen cause I know I wont be rational about it.

Honestly, this is gonna be really painfull. I cant predict for sure what I'd do but I'd definately not stick around for a 2nd wife to come into my home. I cant deal with that. If he wants to marry her, then he should get her her own house cos I cant stay in the same house with her and not kill her. Its really gonna be painful cause I love my husband and I'm someone who believes so much in revenge(tho I know its not right), so I might decide to go do the same thing and get pregnant for someone else. I dont know.

Youre welcomed timmy. I wish you luck and hope you sort things out with your pips. You dont want to be without parents, Believe me. Those who have lost thiers can tell you that.

Pearldrops, how very nice and quite accurate. I'm a lime tree and those annalysis describe me. Thanks gal

Honestly timmy, am sure everyone has had resentments for thier parents at one time or the other. Its mostly all those hormones durng puberty. Are you a teenager? If so that explains it. I would advise you to try and see from your parents point of view some times. They are not your enemies, they love you and are only trying to protect you. Try reading books that deal on teenagers/parents relationships and help yourself deal with these issues. Pls try and be more tolerant, try to have more patience. I know it might not be easy with your mum nagging all the time and your dad trying to boss you around or something. Just try, pls I beg of you.

Sure, why not. Before I got married, I dated, most of them I knew I couldnt marry cause they were muslims. But they were nice guys and I liked them then and Ive learnt from all those relationships. Its no big deal when youre young. Its when you reach a particular age you start the, cant date if he's not a propective husband material thingy.

wow timmy, am sure you dont mean that . We all dont get along with our parents at particular times in our lives but to wish your dad death is alittle too much, if I might say so. Haba, and the man is not even sick. Nawa4U oh!

Well honestly speaking, Ive got no qualms with the man been the head of the family. And thats how God wants it to be anyway.

Well nuru, why dont you just tell us the right view/perspective on jihad cause I seem to have almost the same view of it as donnie.

Yes, north of Nigeria. Its not too much of a big deal to some of my people there.

madam, thank you jo! I believe everyone is responding in relation to the initial story. I still maintain that any man who demands his wife's paycheck is no MAN at all. Even pastors do not do that, I dont believe any man of God would ask his wife to submit her paycheck, HABA! So noone should come here and try to blackmail people with all this submission thingy. For a man to be a MAN in his house he should be capable physically, emotinally, financially etc and not be thinking of what his wife will submit to him at the end of the month. Its a different thing if someone says her husband's pay cannot meet all the family's needs and so she has to chip in sometimes, it can also be a matter of choice. I am fully, completely and wholly submissive to my husband(he can tell you that), but he has never demanded my paycheck and I have never felt compelled to submit my pay to him. I contirbute to the upkeep of my family as much as I can and in a very commendable way (if i might say so myself) but it is my husbands duty to provide for his family. I believe it is even worse for a woman not to allow her husband exercise his rights/duties or wateva as a man by thinking she has to contribute before he can provide for the family.

dejiolowe:

it happened to alheri

I didnt say it happened to me! I said it happened to a friend of mine.

yemstrad:

I don't think it happened to her but come to think of it, after i might have discovered we are cousins, i will find it difficult to enjoy sex with her 'because my mind will be razing haphazardly when on top of her.

Both families were aware of it. It was a family thingy so it wasnt as if they didnt know they were cousins. These things happen up north every day.

Viper:

...na lie jo!!

na you sabi.

@tonisafe. Are you serious? My husband and I just started going to COD like 6 months back. Pastor Eskor is the BOMB!

Yes, am really serious.Shes from Bauchi state here in Nigeria.She moved to bauchi after the wedding and I havent seen her since then. Lets say her name was Queen woods, it remained the same after marriage cause her husbands name(her cousin) was King woods. So there was no need for change of name.

juahjuah:

Two first cousins get married to each other under unforseen circumstances,What would the other family memebers refer to the kids from that union as?

well i think the other members of the family will call them retards or mutants or cousin siblings! It happens though, my friend married her cousin and didnt even have to change her name!

Well I agree with everything deji said. Its so much easier when you know the sex of your baby before birth. When I was pregnant with my son, he also kept on hiding away his genitals from the scan and it was so frustrating. So while doing my shopping, I shopped for unisex clothes(very ugly things) and also bought some female stuff cos I actually wanted a girl. When I had him and he turned out to be a boy I was so pissed cos I had bought some really expensive girl clothes. I had to give them to my sis for her daughter and she has refused to pay me the agreed sum after 4yrs! So when my daughter was coming, I made sure I found out the sex and so I bought all those beautiful pinky stuff for her!

And I just love the feel of the scan all over my stomach, its so ticklish

EvilSlayer:

True that. but what if this chick is like in her mid 30's and the cat is like 14, would that still be ok?

she said younger man, not boy.

If youre happy and you know it
clap your hands (clap clap) X2
If youre happy and you know it then your face will surely show it
if youre happy and you know it clap your hands
clap clap

My father had little dog and Bingo was his name oH
B I N G O, B I N G O, B I N G O
and BINGO was his name oh!

babymine welcome to naira! IMO, theres nothing wrong with dating someone younger than you are. Do you love him? Then feel free to date him.  

OMG dollarboy, I love this.

Here goes

There are two little black birds sitting on the wall
one named peter, one named paul
fly away peter, fly away paul
oh come back two little black birds sitting on the wall

Rain rain go way,
come again another day
little children want to play

Its raining,its pouring
and the old man is snoring
he turns around and bumps his head and coulnt wake up in the morning.
nye,nye,nye,nye,nye

Humpty dumpty sat on the wall
humpty dumpty had a great fall
all the kings horses and all the kings men
couldnt put humpty together again

Little boy blue has lost his sheep
and dont know where to find them
leave them alone
and they'll come home
dragging their tails behind them

Mary had a little lamb
little lamb 2x
Mary had a little lamb
Its fur was white as snow
And everywhere that mary went,
mary went 2x
And everywhere that mary went the lamb was sure to go
it followed her to school one day
school one day 2x
It followed her to school one day, which was a pretty site
It made the children laugh and play
laugh and play2x
It made the children laugh and play to see a lamb at school!

Jack and jill went up the hill
to fetch a pail of water
jack fell down and broke his crown and jill came tumbling after



Will definately post some more later. Gotta go now.

My age? what has that got to do with having a male child? Nuru am really serious oh! Pls help a sis in need naw.

well nuru, if olu is not interested I am. What do I need to do to get a boy next cos I want to put a full stop after that God willing.

kismat:

If you think Islam is violent, please set some time aside and watch this program.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/israel/view/

Just went through the above link, whats the connection? I thought the topic was Christianity and Islam? That link was talking about Jews.