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mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

ILoveDemMANNA:
Happy married life Seyi and Mariam.
God bless una union

oluwaseyi1992:
We didnt talk for once at the university and now we are getting married.. behold two nairalanders wedding

#MAFO '21
#isaiah 41:110
#FUTAWEDDING
#MARCH

fergie001:
The remains of Alhaji Lateef Jakande, former Governor of Lagos state, have been laid to rest.

He died yesterday aged 91.

Alhaji Jakande was the first Civilian Governor of Lagos State (1979 - 1983), and Minister for Works (1993 - 1998).

Abbeyme:
Nigeria has yet again been ‘disgraced’ internationally, following an assignment Harvard University gave to its students in which Nigeria was used as a case study of a failed African country.


The question Harvard University gave its students reads;

Africa is growing. Seven of the the ten fastest growing economies in the world are in Africa, and the continent’s largest economies are becoming less dependent on extractive commodities. The continent’s rising middle class has demonstrated a taste for consumer goods and technological innovation, and Africa’s population-currently more than a billion people- is booming and overwhelmingly young at a time when populations in other regions are shrinking and aging.

Nigeria, sub-saharan Africa’s largest economy, epitomizes both the promise and the problems the continent faces in the 21st century. The contry had failed to thrive for its first thirty years as an independent nation, despite having a developmental head start relative to countries like China and India, as well as hundreds of billions of dollars in oil revenue.. Now, after pathbreaking reforms followed by signs of retrenchment, Nigeria’s new President faced both vast opportunity and grave challenges. Would the country flourish or founder in this new era? We will analyze key reforms in Nigeria’s economy, significant political developments, and the choices facing the country’s fast-growing private sector.

1. Why did Nigeria fail to thrive between 1960 and 1999, particularly relative to China and India?

2. How would you characterize former President Obasanjo’s legacy?

3. Are you bullish or bearish on the next fifteen years for Nigeria? What would make you change your mind? What opportunities do you see? What are the challenges (and risks)


This is coming after a 15-year-old Nigerian girl was offered admission to the prestigious Harvard University in United States of America. Saheela Ibraheem is the 15-year-old daughter of a Nigerian immigrant family living in New Jersey, United States. Since news broke about Saheela’s incredible acceptance to 13 of American’s prestigious Universities, local and International media took interests in the teen’s success story.




Source: https://howafrica.com/harvard-university-uses-nigeria-as-a-case-study-of-a-failed-african-country/#

@Nairalanders, What is your take?

Adakintroy:
She did not talk to you. Or did not present that angle. Not the same thing as "we" did not talk. You proberly wanted to. But she was not into you. If a girl is into you, she will find away around. We not that hard to get around.

When I was in school na the same thing. Girls hardly date fellow student. belike falling hand for them.if you stay hostel, Contend your self with masturbation.sex? Hardly ever going to happen.


But now weh I de work, if I call or message them on the media. I can tell after the interrogations. They satisfied enough to want in.


I don't judge them negatively. Am just saying it what it is.

Women are hardwired to reject advance from struggling uncertain men. They wait at the finish line and pick the winner.
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Again not judgement just plain truth.

Perhaps We need it that way. Nature ordained it so, So that we stay on our toes at all times. Their rejections at some point propel us to strive or hunger more. Seeing them as the goal, we do not know at times when we reach our goals, attain excellence or cross the finish line.

Wiseandtrue:
Hello foodies,
Akara is a dish made from peeled beans formed into a ball and then deep-fried in groundnut oil or palm oil

It is found in West Africa and Brazilian cuisines.

Àkàrà is a special delicacy in Nigeria we all love to eat.

Some eat it with bread, pap/custard, Eko/agidi, rice e.t.c

Though it is popularly called Àkàrà, some refers to it as fried bean cake and so on.

But here's the real English name.

The English name for Àkàrà is Acarajé

Now you know

MAYOWAAK:
Throwback headline of Premium Times in 2013

SweetJoystick:
Peter Omokaro of Nichole Integrated wey dey front for Stella Oduah

BoneBlogger:
According to reports, the proceedings in an Ikeja High Court took an unusual dimension on Monday when an excerpt of a sex video tape between a married father of three and his ex-lover was played in the courtroom.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the father of three, Peter Omokaro, is an ex-banker, while his ex-lover, Titilayo Nosa-Igiebor, is a businesswoman.

Omokaro who is in his early 60s had sued Nosa-Igiebor, 33, over her non-payment of an alleged N15 million loan he gave her during their relationship.

The tape was played when Mr Victor Okpara, counsel to Nosa-Igiebor led her in evidence.

The video which played for more than an hour showed Omokaro and Nosa-Igiebor lying in bed in a hotel room, agreeing to the terms of the `loan’ before engaging in sexual intercourse.

Omokaro could be heard in the video, before signing the agreement, saying: “I hope I am not signing my death warrant.”

He was also heard telling Nosa-Igiebor that he had no intention of getting the loan back.

The defendant’s counsel tendered a copy of the loan agreement in evidence.

The counsel told the court that Clause Five of the agreement exempted Nosa-Igiebor from repaying the alleged loan because of their sexual relationship.

NAN reports that Clause Five of the agreement, which pertains to waiver of rights, states: “Peter forever waives all rights to loan payback, forfeiting totally loan given if Titilayo agrees to and has sexual intercourse with Peter.”

Earlier in her evidence, the defendant told the court that Omokaro never gave her the N15 million although he promised to give her without collecting it back.

The businesswoman testified that Omokaro became vindictive after their relationship turned sour.

She told the court that the ex-banker intended to punish her for the soured relationship by taking her to court.

See more; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/12/how-sex-video-tape-was-played-as-evidence-in-lagos-court-pictured.html

Hintona:
A few days ago a female friend of mine told me her boyfriend told her no one will ever love her the way he does. Okay lemme put it in her own words, "he told me 'nkem no one will love you better than me"

It sounds romantic to her but I think it's narcissistic

What do you think? Is it sweet to say that to your partner? Or it sounds somehow in your ear too when said aloud.



Or maybe I should just mind my business?

tafabaloo:
This is a fake news ! He has since offered a rejoinder that he was misquoted.

popefrank2016:
You will not understand the importance of this course, until you wear the strong shoes of the victims. Everything that has advantages equally have disadvantages. A lots of people have died because of the fake bank alert as the ungodly ways people goes about defrauding peoples. Technology is good, but the one that will force people to commit suicide in the name of heart attack will be critically look into.

 Cashless policy generation! Yea, i don't have problem with that but the way fraudsters are abusing the idea is so disheartening.

These days, customers walk into your office for a business that will propagate online financial transaction and you will end up receiving the fake alert. Recently, A lady was duped in the name of fake transfer. The transfer were made to her by some well dressed men who came in disguise to buy infinix hot6x smartphone. So it will be very difficult to beat those guys (fraudsters) if your not the careful type. Most of their pranks appears to be real at a glance but with a disastrous end.

This article will softly guide you through in some of the best ways to differentiate from real bank alert to fake ones. All you need to do is to walk down with me as we go through the points.

Your Account Balance Will Not Be Credited:
One of the pranks used by the fraudster in defrauding people using the fake bank alert is that your usual bank balance will not be credited. To found out whether the alert you received is fake or real, you need to look closely to credit information.

The real bank alert will always show you your account balance after every financial transaction. Knowing the exact balance from your last transaction will always help you check with the acclaimed amount credit. When the amount credited to your account tallies with the previous then your on the right track.

Checking The Email Source:
Watch this! Once you received the suspected bank alert, the first thing you should do is to check email source. The original alert from your financial institution cannot be found attached with any other email of whatsoever.

The email from the real bank alert (some banks) normally comes with the supposed official email address without changing of the signs from up to down. To get that straight, any suspected bank alert usually come with another email address at the end of the notification.

Check The Authenticity Of The Mobile App:
The best way to confirm the reality of your bank alert, is by checking the authenticity of the mobile app. Some of the app used in faking the bank alert are not official and it cannot be found in google play stores. Before you can rule any financial transaction, always check the source and the creator of the mobile app.
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Enskynelson:
How do you tell if someone is lying? When Professor of Psychology Richard Wiseman conducted a nationwide experiment to identify the tell-tale signs, the results were surprising.
How do you spot a liar?
Richard’s first mass participation experiment was The MegaLab Truth Test. Question Time presenter Robin Day was filmed talking about his favourite movie, twice. In one video he told the truth, but the other contained a pack of lies. Both videos were then played live on Tomorrow’s World and viewers were asked to phone in and guess in which one Robin was telling the truth. This enabled Richard and his team to identify the cues that we all use to detect when someone is lying. As well as the Tomorrow World footage they also broadcast the soundtrack on BBC Radio and placed the transcript in the Daily Telegraph.
1. Don’t look at a liar, just listen
It transpired that people were better lie detectors when they just heard the soundtrack or read the transcript. Those who watched it on television struggled to detect the lies. This is because visual cues distract us from what is being said and good liars can control their body language more easily than their voice. So, if you want to spot a liar, don’t look at them. Listen to what they say and how they say it. If you want to distinguish fact from fiction then radio, not TV or video, is your friend…
2. Beware a shortage of personal references
People tend to drop out personal references when they’re lying, so “me”, “my” and “I” drop away.
3. Liars say less
Perhaps to minimise the risk of dropping themselves in it, liars tend to say less. Robin Day said about half the amount when he was lying than when he was telling the truth
4. Look for pauses after questions
There’s a bigger response latency – the period of time between the end of the question and the beginning of the answer – when people are lying.
5. Liars are less emotional
With lies, there’s a drop in emotionality.
6. Pay extra attention to your nearest and dearest
Depressingly, Richard has also shown that our nearest and dearest are the most able to deceive us. When you get people who have been friends or partners for twenty years they’re very confident about detecting lies but, in reality, particularly bad at it. The better you get to know someone, the easier it is for them to lie to you undetected.

Source: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/4xCSd5MkvyYtYsPhD3r1KvJ/a-psychologist-s-tips-on-how-to-spot-a-liar

ada9ja:
The proscribed leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), Nnamdi Kanu, has continued to battle for relevance as most of his claims about the federal government and the presidency on the social media have been proven to be false and fake news

These facts were further exposed as he is fast losing many of his supporters whose strong hold is in the South – Eastern States of Nigeria.

Kanu’s Ideology, according to an Obafemi Awolowo University Psychologist, Mr. Peter O.S, is embedded in brainwashing his followers into believing that he is their messiah and he would do anything to cause ethnicity war by pitting Yorubas against Hausas, Igbos against Yorubas, Igbos against Hausa, and push his followers to carry out violent actions.

He stated that everyone who has been following Kanu for a while knows that he is a secessionist and a divisive individual.
The proscribed IPOB leader, last year, claimed that the undue influence of Yoruba Muslims in the affairs of Yorubaland will mark the end of Yoruba as a great race.

Similarly, last week, during a live Facebook broadcast, he asked the South West (Yoruba) leaders to, without delay, demand the whereabouts of their son, Vice President Yemi Osinbajo. He alleged that Nigeria’s Vice President was sick and not in Aso-Rock, but the revelation turned out to be a false claim after the VP attend series of meeting physically and through videoconferencing.

Analysing Kanu, Mr. Peter alleged that the symptoms of mental disorders found in Kanu are strong feelings of anger, which make him always express extreme anger and say things like; burning Nigeria, killing Nigerians, destroying Nigeria and even leaders of South East/South.

He added that: “these traits are similar to those found in Jim Jones, the infamous American preacher and faith healer turned cult leader who conspired with his inner circle to direct a mass murder-suicide of his followers in Jonestown, Guyana.”

The OAU psychologist advised that “If Kanu submits himself for further examination, it is possible that we find more traits of insanity in him.

“From the above, I have been able to establish that he has delusions, hallucinations, strong feelings of anger, denial of obvious issues and confused thinking but there could be more.”

https://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2020/05/17/why-kanu-is-spreading-fake-news-psychologist/

sulaak:
Now I understand Bala Mohammed.

TruthHurts1:
https://www.reubenabati.com.ng/index.php/component/k2/item/25824-we-brought-in-fulani-from-mali-sierra-leone-senegal-others-to-win-2015-election-after-election-they-refused-to-leave-kawu-baraje/

deomelo:
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Full ride scholarship to MIT is no beans.

Very proud of this young man and his parents.

ogbonti:
you are so right - it was Tokunbo Ajayi - thanks for the correction - if na only that rape wey rivers dey rape people wife n daughters in the presence of the man of the house i don’t regret leaving Nigeria - that’s a pretty awful experience for any human being to witness

iCauseTrouble:
Motivational speaker in the day, yahoo boy at night.
Your father

Iamgrey5:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/03/01/food-embargo-supply-more-foodstuffs-southern-nigeria-jukun-association-tells-middle-belt

ogbonti:
She is doing herself a favor- she is free now and all that heaviness of concealing the act is gone. Who knows, maybe one of the rapist is trying to even blackmail her- NOW that she by herself don tell the world, GUESS WHAT, the rapist is the one who should be running for cover now

I wish the Late Bimbo Ajayi - The former NTA Network Newscaster had the guts to tell the world how she was raped by robbers, she would have healed from it and most probably be alive today, But she took the wrong exit because she felt ashamed and committed suicide

Ladies, please let me beg you for one thing, RAPE is a very bad thing, I know - but please if it happens to you, HEAVEN FORBIDS - speak out and if you know the person, expose him. Silence empowers the evil doer and that makes their sick mind happy because they feel they have the power of concealment over you. First, you have to forgive yourself and know you are not responsible for the madness of the Rapist. You were too hot to handle, too intelligent to be deceived into the sex act, too sophisticated to manipulate, too smart to be convinced, too classy to go down to his level and he had no other option than to summon his animalistic nature and over powered you because by nature's doing, he is physically stronger than you and that is not your fault. ONCE you realize this, then forgive yourself, do not bathe after the act, go for medical check up and speak to a qualified doctor, let the doctor notify the police and let Justice takes it's full course from there

The Nigerian and indeed African society and culture must never allow this sexual travesty against females to continue unchecked and unpunished.

We must learn never to ridicule the victims but see them as a testament of societal decadence that must be healed and rehabilitated.

And any weak man out there who mocks a raped lady, you are in the class and realm of the rapist who lacks the spirit of humanity and humility.

Rape is a crime against God and humanity, and it must be condemned in it's entirety - Enough said.

HallaDaTruth:
I remember when onlyfans kicked off. The founders of that Social media network built and designed it for real celebrities who have something to offer their fans. It was a way for you to connect with premium content made by your favourite celebrities, which they did not want to give out to the general public. For example, a musician back then could use only fans to give out a lil bit of his/her upcoming album to the fans just like a listening party, an author used that forum to sell books, a fashion designer used onlyfans to show their latest designs.

Today onlyfans have been abused by Internet pros*''*'titutes to the extent that most decent people don't want to have anything to do with that platform.

HOW DID ONLYFANS FALL SO LOW ?

The answers are simple,

A) The owners wanted more money and they felt that if they let their fans misbehave, they will make more due to the fact that most people can't control their lusting appetite and are ready to pay for it

B) They wanted traffic, only fans wanted to be Facebook overnight. And since they know that sex sells, they chose that path in order to drive heavy traffic to their website.

Onlyfans have become an online strip club and shamefully, the devil is really using it to draw millions. It doesn't just end with only fans. Instagram and Twitter are gradually towing that path and most girls nude twerk for hours unending om these other social media platforms and if this trend is not nipped in the bud, then bigtech such as Facebook, Google, twitter Instagram, snapchat etc might become the world's leading pimps, while your homes become a brothel. Its already happening.

pretydiva:
Any man/guy who is a rapist, is a beast and a monster. Rape should be condemned.

But why do I feel she's clout chasing

Iamdemola1:
https://dailytrust.com/how-an-armed-robber-raped-me-in-my-husbands-house-iyabo-ojo-nollywood-actress