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You can even find the companionship and confidant in a true friend. So really no big deal.
But in the religious context, she is a home maker, and a help mate to her husband. So biblically speaking, that's the role of the wife. God said it's not good for a man to he alone, so he created eve.

SexyStrawberry:
This OP sef, u asked a question and answered it yourself again, it works both ways, I don't know what the fuss is all about in having a husband as well if not for companionship? So in ur own words, what exactly is the core role of a husband ?

I'm also interested in this question too

bezimo:
It seems someone stole this thread from me who first created it, no thanks to the biased moderators.
Nevertheless its interesting to see more people responding to this issue.

That guy must not take her back.She should go live with her friends who misguided her.

welcome to NL

"My uncle's place is not good for her health" really?
If she wasn't dating him, where were they going to get shelter before? Ok, he got a girl pregnant, (even if it was true) will smashing his screen "unpregnant" the other lady Such things are painful and hurting no doubt, but please we should learn to sort these things out better.
If I were in her shoes and I hear something like that, ill ask him 1st.he definitely cannot deny such.and if I can't cope with the truth, just leave his life. Simple. Nature will deal with him for you.
Now she doesn't have anywhere to go and obviously doesn't have a job, since she didn't have the wisdom to work, what happened to saving some of the money he gives to her? They will not think of that.
Now, I'm sure if he doesn't accept her, finding another "care taker" will be the next resort. And we all wonder why guys treat women as trash.

My advise to HER is, she should forget the guy (she has already done him enough harm) move on, get a JOB and stop harassing the guy with calls and messages. Imagine asking the mum to beg him I can never put my mum through such humiliation

I'm sure she will genderlise this picture again,
"the commissioner of police didn't do anything because I'm a women"

Linda is just a hypocritical human being!
The way she genderlised  the issue between Wizkid and herself is so not cool. I mean, I don't support violence (and violence shouldn't be condoled on any body. Be it male or female) In anyway.
 But sincerely, let's ask ourselves; Is this really a case of violence against the female gender? (Because she said he threatened her because she is a woman. Which I don't agree with because he would have done same thing if he got the shades Linda gave him from a man. Don jazzy and olamide's beef is a typical example.) even if it was sef, If I could remember vividly Linda is an advocate for gender equality  (I don't mean independency) so let's look at it from her perspective of the "gender equality" she sings about,
   You threatened to end his career, he threatened to beat you up!
This is 1-1 if you ask me . She wants to behave exactly like the male gender and be treated the same way as a man. So why runing to the police now that a "boy" has obliged you of your long time request Isn't this hypocrisy. If wizkid had threatend Davido or olamide about beating them up, will Davido run to the police No, I don't think so, he will rather handle it as a man. So why didn't Linda handle it as the "man" she claim to be?
Why drawing sympathy by genderlizing it? And she is obviously gaining it (if not gotten it ) as some gullible female folks are already supporting her without reading in between the lines.
Linda should calm down and stop misleading young girls who look up to her. Some girls will think it's ok to insult any man and go scott free. No! It doesn't work that way! He will so deal with you and even Aunty Linda that misled you will not be able to help you!
She shouldn't compare this her childish wahala with the women facing REAL violence! It's even insulting to them.
How can she compare this nonsense(that she is even making money from) to people who their husbands are beating everyday for not giving them a male child(ren)

Women who are labeled witches and beaten by their husband and husband's family everyday

Women who their children were taken forcefully from them because they are helpless

young girls who are supposed to be in school, but are hawking on the streets, and still get beaten at home by wicked relatives because they are helpless..

Widows who are stripped of everything they have by family..

These are the women/girls that are facing violence and not some Rich childish Aunty whose ego was bruised by a boy!
Money can obviously not buy esteem. She is not the only single lady due for marriage that is not married. We have the likes of genevieve, Rita Dominic, but we don't hear small boys talking trash about them. Why? Because they carry themselves with grace and not bark at every stone thrown at them.
Please, Linda should learn how to do same!
Lol, and to think she actually wrote that women "should come together and fight" is hilarious! How many women has she talked down on and dented their image on her blog Or she didn't think her actions are also stigmatising the women she blogs trash about? When you can't even "protect the image of your fellow women, how do you expect a man to do so
She didn't think it was necessary for women to stick together then yeah?


She is a blogger fine, you reported a story, whether true or not, is really non of my business. If you are truly a professional, you will understand that, reaction is bound to occur from some of the things you blog about. And your job is to ignore and keep blogging! Now she brought herself to wizkid's level and now playing victim That's just wrong,

And PS; I'm not saying reporting him was wrong, but her genderlizing it is just plain silly!

godfirstawe:
Hmm mm

This lady is smart, she diverted the case to a sympathetic women gender issue!!

Lesson learned: don't fight with a smart woman with pen. The power of educating a girl child.

Wiz kid won't win this war, definitely not from this route she is trending.

thought I was the only one that noticed...

Defination of TRUST in one picture

sixtuschimere:
Pictured above is King Rasheed Adewale Akanbi the Oluwo of Iwo, Osun State. He is being heavily criticized for not upholding his culture because he wore a suit on his throne. Before becoming the king last year, he had spent about 20 years abroad and even his wife is a foreigner…. his people are calling for his immediate removal b4 queen starts rocking bikini for palace.Na the bikini go even make his subject protest for him palace.lol

Source: http://www.trezzyblog.com/2016/04/yoruba-king-who-spent-many-years-abroad.html

I can't stop laughing at this

Kath5kouture:
Lol I am very sure you have aborted more babies than you can count or probably ruined your womb. So why hating on others who would rather bear the shame of babymamaism than kill an innocent soul? Btw who said its only rich people that have babymamas? It can happen to anyone,most ladies just cant bear the shame hence they opt for abortion. You must be very stupid for quoting me! Who send you come my thread? Must you comment? Attention-seeking troll! Claiming fake miss independent! Na ur type dey find maga to catch! Piss off! Even heaven rejects haters like you! Rubbish Quote me again and bear the consequences!

from the bold it's obvious you are missing my point. Anyways, wouldn't blame you for that.

And please, Wear some CLASS

Boboye4slim:
I'm surprised you find sad plight of men amusing. And don't defend your actions by saying they're criminals and deserves it. Finding the pains of others amusing is a prove that you're impaired psychologically. They, being criminal or not, you don't have a right to enjoy or relish in their sufferings. Or else yours is on the way! Read, learn, be wise. This message is specially for you. Be wise.

you obviously have never been a victim....
And at the bold, how are the criminals any different Or you think the victims were rejoicing when the so called criminals you are asking us to sympathise with were operating?
Criminals(robbers, rapist, killers and the likes) obviously "enjoy or relish" in their victims suffering.

Fedayeen:
The truth is that ladies who are very matured and still unmarried tend to take offence tp being called Ma

I don't feel it's offensive tho. It's a sign of respect

I really don't mind.... if you like call me anty, ma, madame Mummy. All join ill answer.
In fact, the caller will be the one looking stupid and belittled so I really don't understand why I should get angry. But I prefer to call people by their surname instead. I don't like all this "Aunty, sister, nonsense. To me it's not a yardstick to measure my respect.
Mrs Mr Miss are better attachments

Kath5kouture:
I would have ignored this but since I opened the thread,I gotta close it mehn! Firstly,wetin concern you with babymamas? Abi dey ask you for money? Isn't it better to be a babymama than an abortionist pretending as if you have never gotten pregnant before?Abeg next time think before you speak! You are not God so don't judge babymamas!

I just feel it's an insult to classify someone who became a single mother by circumstances beyond their control (death of the husband, abandoned by the husband, driven away on account of witch craft by the husband's family) and through it all raised her child(ren) from hard work, struggling and still came out strong. To someone who sees getting pregnant and having a rich(maybe comfortable) man's baby as an occupation! Nah. I'm sorry, I can't accord the same respect to such people because to them, the child is just a meal ticket. But then, I won't blame you if you advocate babymamanism, it's your opinion and it is obviously working for you and as for the bold, i think you need the advise more

Hmmmm very touching life is just funny. Pride is a heavy luggage... it does no good. It doesn't cost a thing to forgive(yet it's very difficult to, still battling with mine.I pray God gives me grace ) . Iv learnt so much about life, especially this past 3years,
Life is just a pot of beans like my friend would say.

firstlady86:

Being a never-married-single-mother doesn’t make you a social misfit like they make you believe,

seem to me like you are encouraging this.
Anyways, I agree with you on the self love ish.
You can't give what you don't have. If you don't love yourself, how do you love someone else?
So its best to draw happiness from within first, and every other thing becomes secondary

Baby mamas excluded

Hehehehe 100% true

How how how

donbenedict:
haahhahhahhahahhaha.. couples feel that reception is that moment where they will get gifts as well from well wishers but times have changed.. u will just be shocked wen u get bak home and u open one big box of gift thinkn it's one big thing like dat, u go see say na foil or cooler.


Food flask na d one wey dey pain me pass

this depends on the kind of friends and family the celebrants have.

My reception will sha be strictly by invitation (family members inclusive )

Copy and paste he really look so much like her
Cute baby

DharmyYinks:
Ofcourse... evry1 has a standard but we shouldn't place it too high. Sometimes... our standards needs to be modified.


Like ur style of argument... devoid of sarcastic insults nd self gender-based points.

Dnt go nd be blushing oo

Lol, blushing already . Thanks anyways

Tell him to buy the clothes for himself instead

No. 12 tho

DharmyYinks:
I would ve agreed with u totally but its nt only guys wu do d bolded. Women do it too nd not all guys will do dat. Example is d guy on frontpage yesterday wu wanted to marry a lady wu helped him.. his parents refused but he still went ahead.

Well said

reason why i said SOME.
Basically everybody should have a standard they work with(men and women).

Just ask her what she wants. To save yourself the stress...

DharmyYinks:
' but the only future u can truly secure is the one u built with the guy while he was a nobody.

the bold is wrong. The only future you can secure is the one YOU make for yourself. Because some guys dump the women that struggle with them all in the name of "upgrading"
So ill advise the ladies, work hard and secure that future you dream of for yourself. That is the only thing you are sure of.

KINGinVALHALA3:
I CONCUR!

Even without the bill, majority of them are already pr@stitutes and lesb!ans.

Only God knows what they would become if the bill was passed.

do you even understand what you are concurring to Anyways, it's not your fault. Is the lawmakers who don't know the difference. Because going by what you are "concurring" to, equal access to education, strengthening of the laws on violence against Women, ending abduction of girls, sustenance and promotion of entrepreneurship opportunities, gender mainstreaming will turn women into prostitutes please, lock your daughters in your house and don't send them to sch, amd teach them how to depend on a man for every they need including breathe if possible. send just the male and if your daughter is raped (God for bid) or physically abused, go to the man and thank him because she is a girl and she deserves it

LocalChamp:
equal access to education, strengthening of the laws on violence against Women, ending abduction of girls, sustenance and promotion of entrepreneurship opportunities, gender mainstreaming and gender equality

can someone please explain what the bold means to me Cause I don't seem to get it.

If everything mentioned there are what the bill is to achieve, then I think the "Gender equality" title they are giving it is wrong. It should be, Equal rights and elimination of violence against the female gender" which is totally different from Gender equality. People tend to mix the two which is why this battle is a lost one already.

Bollinger:
You are right. For a Nigerian. But for someone in another country, it is a thin line between slavery and freedom. When you say that some women consider being married to a rich man is an achievement, then you wonder why Nigerian women are used and treated like slaves. A man will marry a woman and the word marriage will mean nothing. He can decide to wake up one morning and leave the woman and she would want to hang on as if she is hanging on to a life vest. Why, because they are not independent. Sad.

that's why I advocate for woman independency. And marriage is no way near slavery. It just depends on the mindset you carry to it.
Alot of people marry for the wrong wrong reason, and when things doesn't go as planned they cry foul (like what were they expecting?)you can't have what you can't give
But then, like I said, it all boils down to the mindset.

Bollinger:
Theses days? Really? It always been like that. Women mature faster than men. It's a fact. Also, she has not achieved anything except marry a rich guy.

that to some ladies is enough achievement, enough to green with envy plus she was once a beauty queen too
And if you look at her mum, you will know she is really young.
And majority of the haters are definitely women I mean, she is 26 done with sch, married with 2 kids some women will kill for that believe me,
She has achieved quite a lot for a 26 year old NIGERIAN women

The female version is usually more interesting
This one is kinda dry...