₦airaland Forum

mr1759:
so in south south where are we going to use as regional city capital

There are many options. We have PH, Benin, Calabar, Uyo, Yenagoa, Asaba, Warri.

But to me the best would be Calabar. It was the first Capital City of Nigeria. Or Uyo.

Calabar would be the least controversial. It is a relatively neat city, not too big, Calabar people are not overly influential to use it to dominate regional politics. Uyo is very modern too and fairly neutral as an option.

PH should concentrate on business, financial services & oil industry HQ matters. Benin would not be accepted as a core SS city, although its long history would have be a good reason. Asaba would be considered an Igbo town and many would oppose it.

Although I can see Ijaw also opposing Calabar.

beardlessdude:
rubbish. Is lagos more expensive than Abuja? Silly excuse

Your very bad language says a lot about you.

How old is Abuja as a city? There are many of us who still remember first hand when Abuja was built. Or we even have people involved in building Abuja then. How old is Uniabuja? What is the female population of Uniabuja? Or population of Abuja compared to Lagos?


Who doesn't know that a Abuja generally has a high level of prostitutes and runz girls?

Is it not the same Abuja that women besiege NASS complex looking for money-looting politicians?

We are discussing the pioneering role of Lagos in many things and the sheer population that makes everything happening in other Nigerian cities seem miniature, you have no patience or cranium to be analytical but condemn others in a crude and uncouth way.

Very immature.

Hmmmmm.

Most things good & bad begin in Lagos.

Wouldn't be surprising if runz girl stuff that is everywhere now also began there. And they may still be leading the way there.

Lagos is expensive, there are many beautiful things/trends to spend money on and many students are poor. These conditions create the fertile ground for runz.

I said yesterday that the romance story is not all that.


Now more stories are coming up.
Time was when people enjoyed their lives quietly.

Now they broadcast on SM.

And SM has a life of its own.

Sparkle777:
Okay, nice meeting u.

Likewise miss.

Sparkle777:
Thanks, u re right. Wats ur major as u seem quite well versed.

Thanks. Learning everyday. Varied my dear. Though not history or arts primarily.

Sparkle777:
Hmmm, then how come I watched an old film in National Archive Enugu about my home town. Only to see them, practically naked.

Not everybody was rich enough to afford clothing for their many kids. Also practices differ in places. We still have portrait of Benin made by the Portuguese and Dutch people centuries ago. There were no stark naked people. Of course there may have been in villages.

Remember Europeans sometimes deliberately record things unusual to them. Often the worst we had to offer wherever they could find it.

Today people in the West still see Africa through the lens of charity films on TV begging for money for victims of famine war, diseases, etc.

SpecialAdviser:
Which Nigerians will resist? The one you politicians failed? Make I hear. Nigerians will simply ague at newspaper stands, some will come online threaten fire and brimestone and then move on.

Ordinary demonstration for fuel increase, your party sabotaged it. But under different party Lagos refused to go work. Don't worry our hypocrisy will continue to hunt us forever.

Na today.

Lol.
So they ranted before Abacha coup. It came, he slaughtered people on top & nothing happened. For 5 solid years.

If not for his death, we would have been civilian president for another 8 years.

So Chiwetalu Agu type of uncle exists in real life?

bedspread:
U ARE A JOKER..... HAVE U EVER THOUGHT WHY GEJ DIDNT TAKE AWAY GEN. IHEJIRIKA FROM THE COAS POST THROUGH OUT HIS TENURE??

THE CDS MIGHT BE SENIOR IN RANK TO THE COAS BUT THE POST OF THE COAS IS MORE SENSITIVE AND IMPORTANT THAN THE CDS.

It is just that the army have chiefly being the coup plotters in 9ja history. By virtue of Army hierarchy in our defense forces and their strategic locations, numbers and weapons they have.

Kaduna Nzeogwu & colleagues, Murtala Mohamed, Dimka, Buhari, IBB, Abacha, John Shagaya, Dongoyaro and others have all been army officers.
So COAS is more sensitive strategically & security wise.

CDS is superior in administrative hierarchy. But 9ja's peculiar system makes it possible to render him somewhat ceremonial depending on the whims & caprices of the C-in-C.

ok

hmmmmmm

Maybe she's referring to Atiku.

OBJ once said that Atiku has marabouts from these francophone African countries that guide him.

Maybe na upgrade to Indian Marabouts now.

Maybe she's referring to Atiku.

OBJ once said that Atiku has marabouts from these francophone African countries that guide him.

Sparkle777:
Am impressed that they dress this well.

Not surprising at all. In the 1600s & 1700s, several Nigerian tribes were making good fabrics already.

When Queen Anna Nzinga, also known as Njinga Mbande or Ana de Sousa (of modern day Angola) died on 17th December 1663, on her burial that followed, the Portuguese carefully recorded the precious objects buried with her. Among them were gold, silver, cloth imported from Benin Empire and other valuables.

Slaves taken to the Americas, many were already experienced cotton growers at home. They just took the skills into slavery, same with rice growing.

Nothing do her jor.

Do you know how many guys will come to church next time to just get that view again?

zomoears:
Interesting and insightful topic.

1. I personally believe the bible does not expressly forbid polygamy. Counter me with a direct quote, not an advisory.
2. A man was designed by the creator to have multiple partners. Women have monthly cycles and can only conceive for a few days in a month, meaning they are the regulated gender. Men on the other hand are 'kick and start', and can get erect at any time,impregnate at any time, etc.
3. Women in circumstances need men in their lives too. Naturally,mostly married guys with experience in managing womenfolk can handle these women of circumstances I.e widows,single mothers and women over 40. Single matured minded guys can too, but they are mostly pressured by society to go for fresh punany. So who will service these other women?
4.[b] I once sat with an elderly man of cloth, and his opinion on widows was quite interesting. He suggested that sleeping with widows was almost like doing society a favor. This, he said, was especially true for widows who cannot re marry cos of either number of kids they already have, or they want to avoid complications of d african society(place of burial, etc). He thinks these women should not be allowed to burn with passion, but can maintain respectable sexual relationships.

[/b]Need to pause at this point.

Actually this kind of liberal disposition is not uncommon among the clergy. Many have travelled widely and studied extensively. Certainly among the catholic & protestant communions.

But this personal position is in dissonance with church doctrine mostly.
Therefore personal belief and official church position seriously conflict.
Therefore some of them cannot even conform to church position in private life.
This brings us back to hypocrisy. Just trying to publicly toe the official line.

A friend told me that Islam first approved polygamy for the reason (among others) that you mentioned.

There are many widows under 45. Should they just stay like that for the rest of their lives?

Conservative societies thrive on hypocrisy, not reality or scientific evidence. And perpetuate social problems by refusing to acknowledge them. Sit on the high horse and pontificate on morality & assumed "rectitude" that were already lost decades ago.

Because a large number of women are already in quasi polygamous relationships.

A 32 years old graduate banker has two kids with a chief or an Alhaji. With or without the knowledge or consent of the wife/wives at home.

The banker lives a good life in her own nice flat with the kids outside.

A man leaves his family in Lagos to reside in Abuja. There he has a live-in young babe. Common with politicians & businessmen.

Frequent traveller businessmen have steady girlfriends in 7 various cities across the nation.

We all know these things exist. The same women that condemn polygamy on social media engage in it.

I think a single woman is hard enough to manage. But the fact is there are lots of men who can cater for several wives economically. They should have the choice to practice polygamy with consenting adult women.

What about love?

Well, already whether monogamy or polygamy, love plays only a very little role. Infatuation maybe. It is mostly an economic security venture. Especially for the women.

anitank:
She got interested in his conversation the minute the guy said he had been to the U.K., not before

Nne eh. Thank you my sister. Honesty is free.

The whole story is not as romantic as I first thought.

Aside the UK thing, if it was this man's driver whose parent died was driving that day & toasted her, would she have been interested?

Most certainly not!

She fell not for an Uber driver, but for a partly foreign educated entrepreneur.

If Dangote happens to be driving one of his own trucks one day, abeg does that make him a truck driver?

If an hotel owner or franchisee has to clean a room one day due to staff absence does that make him a cleaner?

African women rarely look at a man economically below them. That being the case, it can only mean that lots of "love" cases are not genuine but very calculated on the part of the women.

No need to be ashamed of it or be defensive. We all understand the economic situation and the man as "breadwinner" culture we have.

See roasting like making charcoal.

You could have just skinned it easily and dry the skin.

Common monitor lizard na.

EazyMoh:
Lol!
I don't think there is a Muslim family in the north without an Aisha, a Fatima or a Zainab. Either as a wife or a daughter.

Add Khadija. I know of grandma, mother & granddaughter all called Khadija.

Buhari has lost whatever integrity has been touted about him.

If you cannot let go of power when so obviously ill, then you cannot truly love your country.

There are fit and healthy people capable of doing the job.

OrestesDante:
The Bible also emphasized on One man One wife.

Except for the other Religion.

Which book featured our dear King Solo?

King David nko?

Or only new testament matters when convenient.

By the way, there is something called divorce.

I thought Sharia law exists in Kaduna that allows polygamy?

me69:
Lagos is saturated the city cannot support the capacity. FG should build other places

Correct.

It is in the interest of Lagos for other areas to grow faster now.

I expected a much faster growth in Ogun axis to reduce pressure on Lagos.

Lagos will simply get choked if inward migration continues at this rate.

Oblitz:
If them like make them sell am give OGTV that one no consign me




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Nice concrete.

Ishilove:
"[b]Lack of money causes weak erection", so sayeth the guys in ma hood in times past, but it is fast becoming a fallacy because it seems like these days [/b]it's the broke guys with erections as solid as Olumo rock. They will tell you that love should not be based on material things, and then they will bring that their rock hard deeks to your side as if offering you life-giving elixir. Mscheeeew.

Op, nice points.

In the same way poorer families typically have more kids.

Very simple. Gwokirigwo gwokirigwo is one of the very few things they can afford to derive joy from.

No hanging out in posh restaurants, attending exclusive clubs or able to afford exciting hobbies.

Edum13656:
I'm used to hearing Face-Me-I - Face-You apartment

It is Tenement. A tenement house is a multi-occupant house. That is several families or domestic units sharing same house not divided into own independent units.

Technically a flat or a duplex can be a Tenement dwelling if occupied by various tenants.

But in 9ja Tenement house is synonymous with face-me-I-face-you purposely built to maybe harbour the landlord and his family plus tenants. Since it is the most common mult-occupant house usually for the lower classes. Nigeria has far more of it than middle class.

As someone already said it's actually the living arrangements, not the physical building form itself.