scondy: U probably didn't comprehend my post....he wasn't seeking permission ..he was just informing her of his intended whereabout....absolutely nothing wrong in that....since they were going up to an area she has no access to...
How can you tell the difference between seeking permission and informing someone?
There is a subtle line between love and obsession as well as between love and possessiveness/toxicity.
That subtle line is the reason why victims of abuse don't typically know that they are being abused.
Bradford111: Me and this lady has been in a relationship for a year now, on January we had a fight thought she was having an affair with a friend so I confronted her it got rowdy but we settled..
I would say after that day our relationship hasn’t been the same but have I’ve all my best to merge things up
My reason for making this post, yesterday we got talking and she told me she is yet to recover from the issue we had in January that it left a big gap in her
I’m quite tired frankly even though I love her deeply I’m not just sure of what to do right now
Please your suggestions are welcome
You are not being open enough with us.
Tell us what happened between her and Ray.
What made you suspicious? Did she really cheat on you with Ray?
Because, if you don't provide this information, it may be hard for you to get any genuine advice.
scondy: So I just watched the scene were Adekunle told venita he was going to chill with Seyi. The way it was depicted here ehn ....u would think of a worse scenario...whereas it was a very romantic scene...he went to meet her at the dressing area, gave her a hug from the back and whispered into her ears that he wanted to go chill with seyi all the while caressing her waist...then after she said ok...he jokingly told seyi he had taken permission and they can go....
This was just a case of a dude regarding his babe and informing her of his whereabout....then jokingly telling his friend they can go chill and his babe is ok with
All ye agenders....una no fit sleep well o. .na adekunle go dey give una high BP
The issue is "does Venita treat him the same?"
You are a woman so it sweetens you. But there is usually that hypocritical side that comes up if Adekunle were your own brother or son. Then, you might not be defending this as you have done.
Why I believe that every relationship is unique, red flags are the same for every one of them. If you have to play some romance just to seek some sort of permission to hang out with someone else within a single building, then, it pays to want to know whether Venita would do the same.
A toxic relationship is one in which power tilts towards one of the partners. If it is always Adekunle who has to get accent to do something, then there is a red flag.
This is very urgent everyone and I will try to be brief. My marriage is in few weeks time and there have been troubles here and there. Pls, I will like to know what I am supposed to do. This my babe is from Kogi and we have decided to marry eachother, before we got the relationship got deep we were having marriage talks she gave me the impression that we will not be flamboyant which I was happy about, she even told me her father may not want reception and all.
Everything changed at some point, we started planning for registry, engagement and reception. This is where the problem began, our plan is to have the court on Thursday, engagement and reception on Saturday.
My family and I are going to cater for court expenses, and also 70% expenses on clothings and shoes for my would be wife is from me. Now they are saying the groom's family will cater for everything during reception, we told them to do the estimate of the feeding alone and it is close to 300k, where the problem started was when we asked how much they are going to contribute inside, they do not plan to contribute inside. They said they will cater for engagement. There is no much thing in the engagement because we are going to use the same facilities for the reception for the engagement, the hall, the chairs, tables and so on.
I told them why do they want us alone to cater for reception? There is no much in the engagement to do. Note, we will be coming from Ondo state to Kaduna state, we do not have much people that will travel that much from our side to Kaduna, we only asked how much they are going to contribute inside that is where the problem started.
I told them if you want it that way, if you want us to cater only for the reception, the hall chairs and tables I have paid 50% of should be completed by them since we are going to use the same hall for the two events. The engagement list, I have not even bought 50% of the whole thing.
Pls, am I acting strange? Is it too much to demand? My union is at stake, pls I need pieces of advice on this
I don't envy you at all.
Does your wife have a brother that you can talk to about this weight? Emphasis is on brother
madjune: What do you glean off that program besides a satisfaction of your voyeuristic urges?
This is why the Nigerian leaders toy with your future. I know you will say wetin concern this person?
You're definitely right if you say that but, the mind engagements of most of you is worrisome.
Try and watch this show by yourself for a day and stop depending on ignorant hearsays.
The show is a blend of everything about real life. It involves scheming, romance, friendship, betrayal, tears, and all. A true social experiment. There are puzzles and other brain-stimulating tasks for winning positions such as Head of House or money.
There was a time when I hated this show, but that was before I had taken the time to sit down and watch it with my wife. In fact, there was a time I schemed with my electrician to make the TV go blank so that my wife would stop watching what I felt was an immoral and useless show.
But now, I see the beauty of the show because it is far more realistic and more rounded than any other show you can think of.
madjune: It beats me why the NBC has yet to ban this despicable program.
Some youths that support it may not know it; it's stay is a reflection of the present youths values and preoccupation. This works poorly to make any well meaning person or body to take our young ones seriously.
Nigeria needs an overhaul now. There's so much hardship for the common man.
It is rated 18. And even at that, it is still heavily censored.
Everybody rejoicing now should keep the same energy if nothing comes out of the case.
I don't want to hear that Tinubu bribed the City of Illinois or the Chicago State University.
Many Nigerians (even up till now) live very complicated lives in countries like the United States. Complicated lives include using someone else's name to get a job. While this is wrong, it doesn't prove anything against Tinubu as far as this case is concerned.
Is there a case for perjury? No! Tinubu owns the certificate.
They say his academic records indicate he finished at Government College which turned out to be false. But this is an entirely different case which should have no bearing on the post-election case since Tinubu never included Government College in the documents he presented to INEC.
The only issue here is whether the certificate President Tinubu parades is indeed forgery as claimed by Enahoro and now, Atiku.
The thing about US, dem no send your papa, the documents will be released and we will see that the mandate thief and certificate forger is nothing but a glorified crook who used Indian jazz on Lagosians to think that he fixed Lagos…
I keep saying with the resources in Lagos, it should be competing with Dubai and not Anambra or Edo as the mediocres keep shouting…
Lagos has too much potentials .. kiaaaa
I pray they experience proper governance one day..
It is not a matter of having potentials. Tinubu made the most of the potentials. Where was Lagos before Tinubu became governor?
Since 1999, Lagos has grown with purpose. The same Lagos which was dependent on Federal allocation is now so wealthy that it is the 9th biggest economy in Africa by GDP and one of the fastest growing cities on earth.
Titaniumental: Venbitter and Seyi discussed to Pardon Cross and ofcoz Venbitter commanded her houseboy Kuku to also do same and ofcoz u know what happened
KingAzubuike: I was in a danfo one day and one agbero wanted to collect money from the driver. he tried zooming off and the agbero signalled by shouting to another agbero in front buso!!! Buso!!! .. Didn't know what it meant but the way he said it was so funny
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mayor1814: It boils down to choice n different taste. But u see dat Kim n Nengi for me any day any time. As a man oo doz two I go too use enjoyment scatter Dem for bed
mayor1814: Infact I will rate modella as one of the most beautiful in big brother.
Kim Oprah and Nengi 1st tier in beauty rating
Second tier in beauty rating goes to Modella, Erica, Ahneeka and Venita.
Third tier goes to bella, chomzy and beauty
In my opinion, Venita and Erica are more beautiful than Nengi. I would even place Beauty over Nengi as well. And even Ahneeka over Nengi sef.
But if they asked me to choose one of those girls as my woman, I would chose Nengi hundred times over them. There is something about Nengi that makes me feel like any man would find joy being with her.
ThierryJay: In a game like this, loyalty to your fave is first, you can apply objectivity for in-house resolution. No HM is perfect and Ade isnt even a problematic HM.
Except where your stan crosses the line of your personal beliefs then you can unstan based on objectivity.
Then, that is blind loyalty.
Blind loyalty is not the same as loyalty.
The problem with blind loyalty is even in a matter of lapses in discretion from your guy, you (the followers) would not realize it.
From the surface, there is a tension in the relationship between Adekunle and Venita. Anyone who has been through a toxic relationship might sense what I am sensing about that ship. I think Adekunle is even scared of her. But you people don't think it worthy to worry about because you don't want to debate any such issues about your guy. You just want to be loyal to him.
ThierryJay: In trying to be "objective" you are turning yourself to an opponent of Deks.
A "fan" is not a high court Judge whose objectivity has to be 100%.
In life, you protect whatever you are closely affiliated with be it your family, your job, your club etc.
You will find imperfections in all these areas but shouldn't in the name of being objective unduly expose your family or your job's yansh to haters outside.
I'm sure you likely support Tinubu. Do you actively proclaim his shortcomings everywhere under the guise of being objective? Or you think Obi doesnt have weaknesses?
Loyalty is the watchword of a fan. Stop commenting like an hater. Focus on Ade's positives and belt them out like a praise singer!
So, for you, it is loyalty over objectivity?
No wonder, the country is battling with mediocrity.
Moreover, it is not like loyalty and objectivity cannot co-exist. They can. The problem is that people tend to demand blind loyalty.
Eeghe: Dorathy, Bisola and Diana cannot be happy wherever they are now…if they have any modic of shame in their men-filled bones. I have not even played the Seyi videos I have more than 40 hours of video-clip catching up to do startling from the night Ike messed up Baye’s clothes Hei ghod
Lemme start now
I can't understand why you had to bring Dorothy, Bisola and Diana into this conversation.
It is Seyi that should be dragged, not the juries that saved him.
He is accountable for his unguided statements and should feel the full weight of their consequences.