₦airaland Forum

donpata:
So we were at the parlor discussing and my uncle's wife dropped the food b4 him without bending her knees-yeah u understand how ladies do it nah. i first tot it was an oversight but its over a week naw ive been at their place and i dont c her do that. I believe is wrong as thats a sign of honor to the husband. Ladies of the 21st century, bash me if u like but its wrong to serve a man food without giving him that honor especially if he's older or simply ur husband.

Just when you think you have heard it all, another one comes from left field. The other day it was one complaining that her brother was a houseboy because he was helping out his wife, today this one say the woman no kneel down serve food. Y people poke nose in other people's homes I don't know. Mind ya business.

EgunMogaji:
Unfortunately, things are at a bit of a premium here in Southern California.

I can see that. Those prices sent shivers down my spine!

EgunMogaji:
Oh I totally understand but I just wished that they can have a more modern and scientific method of testing versus just total ban. The same yams are available in stores in Los Angeles. That's the issue I have.

You buy 3 pieces of tubers for $70 (N18,500) and half of them are rotten.

Good lord, 3 pieces of yam for $70. A box of yams in Brooklyn is $85 and has about 12 yams. If you go for the Brazilian or Colombian yam, a box is about $35 - $40.

tensazangetsu:
That airport is a disgrace. What of the fact that you have to dish our 500 naira to use a trolley. Something that is free everywhere else in the world. This country should be sold to China and the money shared for everyone. Useless country.

$5 to use a trolley in JFK, who said it's free all over the world? Stop spreading lies abeg

Have we as a people lost all sense of decency? This is a sad story, the loss of life (mother & unborn child) is truly sad. The response of a great many on this thread to blame her parents for their initial reaction is so sad and shows how lost we are as Nigerians. The young girl got pregnant and had the gall to demand, emphasis on demand for a gift. I can only imagine what she wanted as her gift. Her parents declined and rightly so and the response of a nineteen year old who felt she was mature enough to have sex is to kill herself? And the court of public opinion deems it fit to blame her parents. What do we expect her parents to do at the news that a child they had/have high hopes for, a child for whom they make sacrifices for days thank you by getting pregnant and for someone who does not have the decency to do what is right. We want the parents to give her a pat on the back and say well done? The parents responded with hurt and pain as any parent should. Her parents would have turned around with time and after such a huge gaffe, she did not deserve a gift of any kind and should have known that. Demanding a gift shows a sense of entitlement that in itself requires a lesson in humility. As someone pointed out teenage pregnancies is not a good thing, many parents know this and that is why they guide you away from that part and the hurt is deep when their child finds herself in that predicament. Who are we to double their pain by blaming them. Put the blame where it belongs, on the shoulders of 2 immature kids who did not think past their hormones.

Chanchit:
So she now checks her hubby's dik when he gets home.

Thank u oh! How person go take examine dat one

cococandy:
Jabs ko. I'm talking to you directly.

The man you're calling a vegetable and dumb as a duck, do you know him personally?
You're forming Mr "cool I don't insult people", now that I faced you but you didn't have problem insulting a man that didn't do anything to you.

@cococandy: you will give this boy in a man's body an apoplexy oh. Sofry for him body oh

daretodiffer:
That was a sarcastic response

Ok, now I get it.

Miami11:
You seem to be having far deeper issues, consult a shrink boss,

nobody formed perfect wife, nobody is perfect, we all just do what is best for our individual families

You have problems man, so divorces are caused by women in entirety, I pity you.

Just take your fight to parliament and congress, you will win by a landslide, bravo man!

"we all just do what is best for our individual families"

Truer words have never been spoken. What I don't understand is why many can't just accept that what works in one persons home most likely does not work in his neighbors home. We seem to have a need to force our opinions unto others and make opinions law and get into a tizzy fit when others don't agree especially if they suffer from that severe form of inferiority complex that small minded boys suffer from. It really is unfortunate that some men, I mean boys do not see the glory extended to them through their wife and reject God's gift under the guise of being the head of the house. They conveniently forget that a good leader knows when and how to delegate, a good leader knows how to carry people along. A good leader earns respect and does not demand it.

I make 2-3 times what my husband does and have done so from the beginning of my career. He was touchy about it at first even though we run a joint account. Against my natural instincts, I massaged his ego it did not work, begged him tire, no way he was driving me crazy so I told him one day "get with the program, enjoy the comforts my higher earning ability gives you and our kids or punish yourself, your choice but me will continue making the money." Eventually he became comfortable. What & why he became comfortable I have no idea. I believe it was choice he made for himself. Regarding my home, I manage my home, no questions asked. We make decisions together, but I make decisions for my husband and vice versa as long as it is in the best interest of our family and those few times I have a doubt then it's tabled for further discussion. Again works for us. If you want something else do it , why the huffing and puffing because others do it differently

daretodiffer:
Nairaland

Are you new?

Nope not new, I understand the typical nairalander's need to assume just expected different from you is all

daretodiffer:
The man must have been one of those men that scremas ashawo, hoes, sluts etc. He must have called second generation Nigerian women names and made them promises he knew he wouldn't keep. He could have knocked up quite a few and just couldn't be bothered because he is a smartass.

How on earth did you come up with all these?

kingcypress:
Little information about me:
1. I'm a male

2. I'm 28years old

3. My height is 5'8"

4. My weight is 55kg

5. No history of HBP in my family (my dad and mum are OK)

6. I don't have any other medical issue apart from this.

7. I hardly exercise

8. My BP has been between 150/90 to 160/100 for the past 3years

9. I have seen a Cardiologist and I'm currently on drugs

10. How long will I be on medications?


Thanks in advance for your helpful comments

If you are already on medication and your BP still hovers around 150/90 to 160/100, these medicines are not working and need to be reevaluated. If your doctor has not taken this step yet then you should by talking to him about it. Also when you say no family history of hypertension how sure are you. That your parents don't have this diagnosis does not mean you have zero family history of hypertension. How about your relatives, aunts, uncles, grandparents. You should do a thorough family history background first. Another thing is to take one day at a time. Take your medicine and don't think of when you will stop, you just might need to take anti hypertensive meds for the rest of your life to control your BP. It's not the end of the world. Don't be checking your BP frantically all the time, you'll simply worry yourself and your BP will definitely rise. Good luck

dominique:
Even with that, his generosity is massive. Not all bosses will go all out and give such huge amounts to their employees after recording a huge profit margin.

The average Nigerian boss will never do this

The average boss anywhere not just Nigerian

EfemenaXY:
Morning Olufam.

Okay, having re-read your initial post and subsequent responses, I think I have a better understanding of your situation and I'll advice as a sister and a mother.

First of all, from the sounds of it, you married into a close-knit family. A very close knitted one and you will do well if you get along with all of them. Yes, everyone - including your sister-in-law. Secondly, your husband's business was up and running before you married into the family. See, you need to draw the line between business and matrimony. Don't get them mixed up.

When doing business, you have to be cool, calm, and calculated. Unemotional even. There's no place for tantrums or strops. Right now, your hubby's business seems to be what keeps your home afloat and also helps certain members of his family - your extended family - keep their heads above water, and this is inclusive of your sister-in-law. Look at it this way: he is the owner of the business and his sister (by way of her of skills and experience) is the manager / 2^nd in command running that business. Like she rightly mentioned, she's been in it for a while, long before you joined in. You cannot just just muscle your way in and 'promote' yourself simply because you're his wife. Mba, it doesn't work that way. You have to work your way up for this. This is a family run business and yes - even though your hubby has 100% control over it, he still needs his foot soldiers to keep it afloat. That business must be successful and have a good turnover, in order for you all to move ahead and progress with your lives, and in order for that to happen, you all need to work cohesively as one unit, and not as dis-jointed fragments.

Oluafam, what I'm going to tell you isn't going to be an easy read but you really need to take a good look at your situation and be realistic with your expectations. Right now, you've got 3 kids under the age of 4, inclusive of a baby whom you still carry on your back. That in itself is tough work. Your kids are still very, very, young. Babies even - and at this stage of their lives, they need you more than ever. They need not just the love and warmth of their mother close by, but they also need you to be happy. Children pick things up easily and are very sensitive to our moods. Not only do they need a mother whose emotional well being is "up there", they also need a peaceful, loving environment to thrive in - and you have the power to give them exactly that. For starters, you need to go back and make proper peace with your sister-in-law because whether you like it or not, she plays a multitude of roles there that can help you move forward. I'll explain.

She helps run your hubby's business so not only is she experienced with a lot of knowledge you can learn off her from, she's also got a lot of contacts she liaises with for your husband's business. If you're going to have a good chance of kick starting your own trade / business, you need a good, solid customer base. Potential customers need to know that they people they do business with are reliable and trust-worthy. You already have that solid base by virtue of your hubby's business, so you won't really be starting from scratch in terms of having to work at gaining their trust - not really - as the ground work's already been done for you. One of the fundamentals of any successful business is having a good KYC (Know Your Clients) in place. Every customer is unique and will have specific ways of wanting things done. Your sister in law is best placed to let you know the moods of these people and how they operate. For example, she could let you in on things such as, ah! Mama Bisi is a no-time-waster kind of person. If she says she wants X, Y, Z on Monday morning, it must be delivered come rain or shine at that time... or, Mama Ngozi is easy going...if we don't have A and B to give her, she won't mind accepting C and D.. or Papa Ali is one of our regulars and needs 50 crates of P, Q, R for his restaurant every Tuesday.... etc. Once you fully understand the different nuances of these customers you can then build on from there in marketing your own business as per letting them know, "Oh, by the way, I understand your daughter is having her traditional wedding - I do native beads if your interested..." and then you show them samples of your work. Even if they don't need your services right here and now, there's not telling they won't in the future. Or they may know someone who needs what you offer. D'you get where I'm coming from?

Secondly, you mentioned your sister-in-law was married and it didn't work out? Now it's no one's place here to cast aspersions as we don't know the circumstances under which she left, or if she ran away from a bad marriage - but that's beside the point. I'm guessing she's older than you too. Has she got any kids of her own and do they stay with her? If not, then try and understand that she sees your family as her family, and your kids as hers. Your kids (her brother's kids) are her nieces and nephews and she wouldn't do anything to harm them. You even leave them at the shop with her when you've got to be away anyway, so you must be comfortable with her looking after them for you. My dear, take advantage of the free childcare on offer here. You're young and full of energy. Why would you even consider wanting to sit down all day in a shop beside the tills (money drawers)? Are you an old woman? How are you going to get customers to patronize you if you don't go out to meet them? Let your sister-in-law do that while looking after your very energetic kids. Use your youth and energy to go hustle. I know you have that burning desire within you to carve something for yourself, despite having your hands full.

See, I like you a lot. You remind me so much of myself many, many, years ago. Let me tell you a little bit about myself. D'you know that when I was about your age, at one point, I was studying for my Masters degree full-time (Monday, Tuesdays and Wednesdays 9:00 a.m - 5:00 pm), working part-time (Thursdays, Fridays, and Saturdays 6:00 a.m. - 12 noon), had 3 kids under the age of 5 and was pregnant with my 4th kid? It was tough work, I won't lie to you but I got there in the end. I was the only one from my set who graduated with the full degree (so many people dropped out like flies), and yes, I paid solely for my course on my own, without any help. But I couldn't have done it all without the immense emotional support I got from hubby and my father in law. Even my elderly father-in-law (God rest his soul) helped a lot with childcare as both hubby and I were working. So the point I'm making here is that you've got family willing to help out with childcare at the shop - take advantage of it and use this foundation to see you to achieving greater things. That's what I did and that's how I came to be where I am today. So I'm encouraging you to swallow your pride and do the same too, girl.

I also noticed you're quite good with your written English. You communicate your points across quite well and I think this will come in handy with your desire to teach. What did you study at Uni? You could consider teaching English Language to kids private schools / teaching centres. You could also do some freelance Essay writing / marking. At least that's flexible and will give you the time to spend with your kids. I don't know how it works at secondary school level but I'm guessing you'll need some sort of teaching qualifications - but if you've got that, then consider marking GCE / NECO papers in English too. Again, market yourself for this the way you'll do with your beading business.

I see that you're still very much in love with your husband, despite feeling let down by him but use that love to achieve a positive outcome. I think your husband feels the same way about you too, but is trying to be fair to you both, hence him saying he can't send you away, nor can he send his sister away. Like I mentioned earlier, there is a decisive line between the business and home sphere. Two completely different entities. You are the queen of your matrimonial home. The madam-de-madam and no one can take that from you. Not even your sister-in-law (and I don't think she's interested in that or even interferes). That's your exclusive domain. But the "family run" business is a separate entity and for now, she's the second-in-command. So, I'd like you to work with her and this was what your brother-in-law meant although he could have put it less brusquely to you. You have an open relationship with your hubby (as per he tells you what he's doing and vice versa), so keep it that way. Don't entertain thought of being secretive with him. Let him know you'd like to expand the family business by virtue of your beading (and possibly teaching) but in order to do that, you need the funds for your marketing strategy.

Make him understand that you prefer doing the hustling / ground work but you'll also need to print out business cards /fliers / place adverts in local papers / radio or tv stations and you need the funds and allowance to do this. Have your own ledgers to show your running costs inclusive of transportation. Prove to him that you're also an astute business woman who can - not only hold her own ground, but is very good with expanding the business and acquiring more customer bases by virtue of her marketing and sales technique. Learn the gift of the gab i.e: "sweet talking people" and once you master that, you're well on your way to achieving this. However. I repeat, however, you must open up a separate account for your beading and teaching businesses. An account you and you only, would have full control of. The deal should be this: You will put your heart and soul into marketing and promoting his business (and yours) on condition that he understands he meets the running costs (transportation et al as I explained above), and the monies from your beading and teaching business goes into your account in your name. And with the festive season in place, what better time to strike when the iron is hot?

So Oluafam, dry your tears, get up and get stuck in. This is a trial period for you too which you'll overcome. Your hubby did it. His sister did it. Now it's your turn. Take heart and all will be well.

If I could like this a million times. I admire you efe, your wisdom is humbling. I thought to myself, why is she fighting for the till when she can focus on herself but I would never have passed the message across as clearly and in a non judgemental way like you did. To oluafam I say take this advice to heart and follow it. Nothing else comes this close

Onegai:
Either this or she really needs therapy. Abeg let's start this!

#AWiseWoman will smile agreeable and excuse herself from her marital bed when hubby comes home with a side chic

#AWiseWoman sends all her husband's Gfs Christmas gift for a job well done.

#AWiseWoman not only packs a condom for her husband on trips, she calls the hotel he's staying ahead of time to ensure they've lined up pretty ashawos for him.

#AWiseWoman is her husband's wingman abi na wing woman

rosalieene:
What a "fellow" woman wrote...
"To be a wise woman u, have to act like a fool,
morons, some one that doesn't have brain, let go
back to the olding days,I mean our grand mother
or great grandmother era, they apply wisdom to
remain in their husband home, they respect every
member of their husbands family either young or
old, they try to buy every body's love with their
character just to remain the best wife among all,
which we are lacking now, now back to the main
topic "the wise woman" A wise woman is a
person that will know that his husband is
cheating on her but pretend as if she doesn't
know, she is a woman that include a condom in
his husband luggage while going on business trip
nd tell him seductively to remain protected all
2ru nd to remember that her nd the children love
and care for him more than any other person on
earth, a wise woman is a person that will ignore
any love text message, either on Mobile, social
networks or any form of message, a wise woman
is someone that will excuse husband during
phone conversation with a female, a wise woman
goes to the extent of getting water in the
bathroom when the husband bring a concubine
home, a wise woman doesn't resolve issue with a
physical fight, a wise woman doesn't cursed the
husband bocs of one skinny lady, rather a wise
woman keep calm, ignore a lot of things at the
moment things is very hot nd address dem at
the right time, a wise woman solve most of her
home problem behind the scene I.e in prayers,
fasting good character and meeting with the
highly spiritual men and woman of God. but a
foolish woman will fighting with hubby every day
nd night because of ;Done love text message making
the home unbearable for the man, making him to
look for solace some where else, a foolish
woman is woman that goes through hubby phone
to get the
mobile number of all the female caller nd start
calling them one by one, abusing them even
resulting in physical fight with them, a foolish
woman doesn't know how to solve her problem
with calm."

sukkot:
live foods is anything that is not cooked. when you cook your foods you destroy all the enzymes and as such enzymes will be drawn from your body to digest this dead cooked food. however if the food is alive it will not require your body to provide enzymes and will in fact replenish your body enzymes. this is how all the tissues are repaired again. so live food is any food that is not processed or cooked like bananas, apple, coconut, mangos etc. you have to stay away from meat and anything cooked.

Seriously

abah009:
Please, nairalanders your candid advice will save my friend.This guy is married to a lady.His complain is that, the lady cannot cook well, she nags, talks alot, not ready to take correction, she is not good in bed(she lied down like a wood when sex is in progress) she is a fanatics(she hates christains) she is very secretive, she tell lies,she likes to be in control.Worst of all, it is my guy who provide for the up keep of the family.Another worst thing is that, the had no issue after one year of marraige. My guy is thinking of dirvorcing her.Candid advice, please.

Haba, divorce ke. He should pray hard first maybe God will change her. He can cook, teach her how to cook or order food. If he is loving and nice maybe she will eventually trust him and not lie. He should dress sexy, wear sexy clothes, find what turns her on, maybe she won't just lay there anymore. He might want to go check to make sure he is not shooting blanks. If all this does not help he should add fasting to the prayers oh but he must not divorce

oyalunasamuel:
Its not that... You see, she is a very nice person, she is just my kinda girl but the thing is am scared very scared. I cant stand the sight of suffering. I've been reading, asking questions and talking to people about it. Am just worried or lemme say trying get myself prepared.

You do know that at any point in a persons life you can develop health issues. So what would you expect if tomorrow you are diagnosed with asthma, diabetes or hypertension? Should your gf/fiancée or wife leave you because you have one illness? Actually are you in perfect health? What you are looking for is a guarantee that your partner will be perfect and that is one thing you can't get. If you are that shallow move on and let this young woman be.

amokeme:
I won't agree to the word "lying" cause it is not
Let's say she has malaria( ) now, she didn't tell him about it because he did not ask.. she goes to the hospital for treatment, and act as tho she never had malaria, will you regard that as lying as well?

Yes ma'am it's lying however way you present it

omogidi234:
I really don't think the man should force her to do so. With time she could do so. However, the truth is whether she changes the name or not, if you are married under the Marriage Act in Nigeria, the Marriage presupposes that whatever a Spouse holds in his/her name is held in trust for the other Spouse. You can only escape this if you are married under Customary Law.

How many likes can I give you. It is amazing that many people believe that by keeping property or money in your maiden name it prevents your spouse from having access to it. Not unless you have a prenup or contract to that effect.

missyadorable:
I know the truth,even though it bitter but I choose to live by the truth..

Am getting married next month. Up til now,my closest friends don't know my fiance..Who takes such risk? Its better my man sleeps with 100 ladies I don't know them and they don't know me than with one of my friends(thank God I have no sister or close female relative)....A man must be a man..Every female is a potential bleeping mate.Its just nature

Wow! I am truly at a loss after reading this post. You set us back a million years if you truly are fine with a philanderer as long as you can't put a face to them. I don't even know what else to say, I might have to come back to this one later.

jascon1:
English heals ignorance, try it! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mind_control

Follow that link and get some education. So, do u think u are a smarter thinker than the UK govt.? They have found the family guilty on charges while you of all sages find the man guilty of not escaping. Why not escape out of corruption in Nigeria?

Guilty of not escaping, I am dying with laff.

DollyParton1:
When your wife's father or mother leaves her a property, do not covet it. Work hard so that you can leave properties for your kids too. Shikenna.

In marriage 1+1=1. So if one inherits something it belongs to both. That's the way it should be. Yes many don't practice this, doesn't make it right

DollyParton1:
I don't understand. So you are your husband's property because he takes care of most of your financial responsibilities? Safe to say a child who is responsible for his aged parents' finances can call his parents his properties?

You are getting it wrong. Most men shy away from housechores or childcare because they believe their only responsibility is financial provision. While the woman is responsible for the housekeeping, child care and other stuff. Really I could care less if a home is ran like this, if the wife is a full housewife. Because the wife can't bring any physical thing to the table per se
But if you as a husband is demanding to split bills with your wife ( am talking about the woman adding something very substantial), then be ready to split other household duties with her. Because if she helps you with your duties, the responsible thing is help her with hers too

If you work why can't you take care of financial responsibilities in the home? How is contributing to a home where you live, your home sharing in his responsibility? It is a joint responsibility. You did not address the other chores men do I gave examples of, should the woman share it if the man helps with the house or with kids? By the way this generalization of all men as the same is wrong. They are not all the same just as not all woman are this perfect wife of cook, clean and take care of the husband. Marriage is not 50/50 or black and white. The ratios vary and trying to fit it in a box is the easiest way for it to fail but what do I know? I have only been married to one man for more than 15 years and I have not met the kind of callous men described on this forum.

olatunji21:
The fool is not even ashamed of himself...Commissioning the road constructed by the one he so much hate..

So what was he supposed to do? Award a contract so they can damage the road before he fixed it? You are saying there should be no continuity because he dislikes or hates fashola? What has personal feelings got to do with implementing good policies and finishing projects beneficial to the people? Tomorrow you guys will be commenting on how wonderful New York is. As much as De Blasio could not stand Bloomberg he scrapped policies he thought were not good and held onto policies that were beneficial. Nigerians completely insatiable

kilode100:
That your wife must be a learner.
Just negodu this golddigger?

How much of your money will be going into that joint account Mr brokeassman??

Smh*

See his mtn gworo stained he is using to thank nairalanders.. If I marry you eh, I go reformat, reboot and reshuffle that your yamayama head.


This Aunty has given this one license to cheat on her recklessly.

What works for one does not work for another doesn't mean she is a learner. She is putting her home first and they are figuring out what will work for them. We need to stop this behavior of putting everyone in a box and those that don't fit are ridiculed. I have always shared my finances with my hubby and we have been married more than 15 yrs now and u know what I know quite a few couples that their major problems are related to secrets regarding money. Money secrets broke my in-laws apart. Not worth it.

T

thotianna:
I was just about to say this.

OP's wife it sounds like your marriage is still young.
You see, the thing that makes women hide their money from husbands is because if they find out you have small money they will want you to spend it first and exhaust it before you ask them for theirs forgetting that it is their job to provide. Infact the more a woman has, the less willing the man is to provide anything for the family. So the woman ends up being both husband and wife, both provider and homemaker, hustler and childcarer, breadwinner and kitchen CEO.
Let me not draw wrong conclusions anyway.
@OP's wife: since you both are now operating a joint bank account and now jointly providing money for your needs, please ensure that you are also jointly running housechores and childcare and cooking.

I wish you happiness.

And she must go to mechanic too oh, do repairs in the house, fix light bulbs you know those little things men do that women conveniently forget like it does not exist and before you ask me if I am married and if my husband knows how much I earn? From the first day. It's a marriage what is the benefit of secrets? doesn't mean I don't know my role because I pay bills? Am I not an adult? In one breath we say the woman is not his property and in the next breath the man should take care of all the financial responsibilities without any contribution from the woman. Total BS. Smh

You had to create a second thread for this fake news. I must congratulate you though for showing how deep the self hate and low self esteem runs. The comments here make me shudder and I wonder what went so wrong?

A quick google check discredits this story. Pretty sure this is a made-up story.

shoksimba:
Madam, its clear from your response that you indeed have a wonderful and caring husband, that both of you have a perfect marriage in bed and in home generallym. I'm only interested in the PERSONAL INTEREST YOU OFTEN COMPROMISE. If its not a serious thing like hving a child outside your marriage or likes of such that may later bring a threat to your marriage, I would advice you seek family intervention on this matter. Divorce is not advisble yet in this matter, many alternative problems solving are open to you(both) to make use of. Until when all efforts made has failed, tht you may seek divorce.
Before now you were "miss"
Now your are "Mrs"
Did you even remember all you went through before your title changed to MRS; as a lady you'll understand better.
Beside, I'm not soliciting nor support your hubby's cheating on you, but men are just too weak before their wives. You caan use your powers to make things right and with the help of God.
Remember: What God has joined together...let NO MAN not even a woman put assunder.
Please I'm sorry you're been cheated. Forgive him, approach him, sort out and iron out things and make your marriage work, make your son happy having you as a wonderful parents.
Stay Blessed

Seriously, "all you went through before your title changed to MRS" sometimes I think the ladies are too harsh and then I come across a post like this. So being a "MRS" is all fulfilling that she should put up with a philandering man? Remember the scriptures you quote also say adultery is the legitimate basis of divorce. The woman asked for legal advice not pray for God to change him advice

InvertedHammer:
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One guy was here a few weeks ago bragging about how he found a wife for the cousin in Nigeria. How a cousin that lived many years in US would get entangled in.such arrangement befuddled me.

Why would anyone in his/her right sense travel to get a spouse in Nigeria? The ones that did learned the hard way. Leave the.Nigerians in.Nigeria to live with their shenanigans. When I saw a Nigerian couple living under the same house with two locked refrigerators, it changed my whole understanding of going home to.marry a stranger.

Anyone in.my family that takes that route sure know that I am not going.
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Good lord 2 locked refrigerators "smh"