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PapaBornboy:
Hello good afternoon. I don't mean to be vain and all but my personal experiences made me create this thread. I'm in my 20s, tall, dark and have my mother's face (I look like her very much) and I've been mostly told when when I go out I'm good looking or called fine boy which I hate hearing since I was 14. I get different kind of stares when I look at the side of my peripheral eye or catch ladies looking at me before they shift their gaze or even few men atimes. I wanted to post pics before realizing my family or people that know me offline might see it and start disturbing me with questions this coming days. But that's not the main reason I created this thread. It's the sexual harassment I get sometimes from even ladies who are old enough to be my elder sisters or even mothers depending on the age. I've been rubbed on the chest, toasted, caressed with some of their sensitive body parts eg I was ushering at the church one day when this tall voluptuous lady from the choir came close to me, started pressing her hip against mine, looking at my face from time to time despite the fact she would obviously saw I was visibly displeased as I was trying to suppress a boner in church. I've also had occasions where by mistake while rushing or in close proximity I've hit the ass of some ladies while they behave as if nothing happened despite me apologizing.
What of some in relationships that clearly drag or hold me back to talk to them despite the fact their significant other or boyfriend is in the same building? This is one of the reasons why I have very few male friends of my own gender because they just seem to hate me for some reason. If we're in a group and discussing there must always be one or two lowlifes in that vicinity trying to abuse, highlight my flaws they know of or talk me down especially when there are females in that environment. I've been threatened and even almost beat us for no reason which made me avoid interacting with most ladies except my family members for over a year. Then I tend to gain some favours with the opposite gender sometimes even when I do something stupid that would make them abuse or look for a way to deal with another person who probably didn't catch their fancy. Then if some of them keep on shooting their greenlight with me either turning it down or reciprocating, I turn to their public enemy No. 1. I've even heard some close whispers in my quarters while growing up as a teenager of two girls discussing whether I was gay or not man enough. There are a lot of other episodes to buttress my point but these are the ones I think I can share now.
Growing up, I've heard and read both offline and on nairaland that the average Nigerian lady has time and affection whether fake or not for men who have heavy pockets (which is true anyways) So why I am still having this kind of small issues with several members of the opposite sex despite me not being that buoyant? (I'm still a salary earner juggling the job with school) I've heard several guys say to me that if they were me, they would have being a terror to women or I get several disturbing questions of how many girls I have slept with that week. Though I have been in relationships which didn't last due to sometimes trust issues on the part of my girlfriends, I'm mostly an introvert who really doesn't like attention except for mostly staying indoors, getting some good music in my ears, reading books and logging in to sites like Google, X, nairaland to get more information about my country and the world. I'm also trying to work harder and learn more critical skills so I can be very rich, have a family and take care of parents, siblings and my immediate one well.
I'm not a woman where I should be judged on looks, even that has gradually stopped becoming the case as women are now being hailed for their industry and exploits in their career. Tobi amusan is hailed for her sprinting prowess, Hilda back was lauded for her record breaking feat in cooking by Guinness world records. I'm a man, we are firstly judged by feats, achievements and wealth. I don't want ti be fawned over like a toy or judged, liked or hated by my looks which has mostly looked like the case so far. Sorry for my epistle.

I can relate to all of this but the bolded is 100% precise

My advice is you should stay sane and stay in the game … they’ll keep coming and coming so learn to handle it

Igbos never learn

Rokiat:
Wow then life must be easy for me.

On a more important note I disagree, and this is coming from someone with a big booty. Having a big booty most times all it gets you is load of attention and sometimes jealousy from other women also finding a guy that truly loves you is difficult many just think about sex when they see you.

If you see my dms across my social media accounts and see the unnecessary messages and dicks pic guys just randomly send me a day you will be stunned. They just think you are looking for sex because of your body shape.

But physical Appearance matters especially for women so let no one lie to you but you can’t just attribute it to only big booty. Every men has different taste and every woman have their own attributes that make them beautiful.

Nice advert
You’ll get more customers from NL now

Pure clout
How old is her son ? Make she kuku say she will give 100000 not her son

😂😂😂A better society from a prostitute ?

Shoot all of them like it’s CALL OF DUTY 😎
useless people
Y’all ain’t protesting about the price hike in food and fuel but you have time to protest for yeye reasons

From there una go start robbing innocent people and pickpocketing people phones and money


Criminals

TemitayoMark:
With our inferior players Omo we still try oooo. People think sey we go shop like 5 goals to nil but even me sef shock sey we fit play 4-3 wow which means if our injury players are back to the field we will be unbeatable. I love my Man Utd ✌️✌️✌️😂😂

Anytime anyday 🤝

Just look at someone’s son

Fahvvy:
I sha blame women for abusive men ...
And I'll prove it ...

You'll agree with me that the average child spends more time with the mother than with the father, correct? ...

So...
If the child spends more time with the mum, its logical to opine that the child is prolly learning lots of things from the mum ba?

I mean, if you spend time with wise people, you'll be wise ba? And vice versa ...

So since the child spends more time with the mum and is learning loads from the mum, if he turns out to be abusive, shouldn't we hold the mum responsible? ...

I mean...
Women have been claiming to be "the life of the home", "the soul of the family", "the home makers" ...

Women have been saying that "A man can build a house, but it takes a woman to make it a home" ...

So if the home is not well made (children becoming abusive and uncouth), shouldn't we hold the "home makers" responsible? ...

I rest my case ...

Very logical style of reasoning bro😎

Watch how they’ll avoid this

nairalee:
See the guy eye. E still high even for station. Make una sha make sure say no sharp object dey near am

The highness been never clear finish at the time of the pic 😂

Ok you have painted him the way you want … I’d have loved to hear his own side of the story too sha.


You won’t see politicians campaigning and giving money after winning an election ( this is about the guys giving you free money )

Red flag - You’re always collecting money from random guys even when you claim to be working

Quintessence44:
I fear an Igbo presidency. With each passing day, and with each anti-Nigerian comment I read on social media, of which 98% are from Igbos, the more I fear, and the more my soul rejects an Igbo presidency.

I reckon they lack the patriotism to be trusted with power over this federation, and could use that power, if granted them, to sabotage the country, leading to its disintegration.

We can’t afford to take that chance in my view.

I can imagine the ruling classes also see this trajectory of deep Igbo unpatriotism, and are equally taking notes on the need to prevent their presidency anytime soon.

Give one reason why they should be patriotic to a country that has given them nothing

Since you and your tribes have been ruling … how has Nigeria been faring ?
Useless country

22
3 exes
Never slept with any

Caaz:
Expect Nl degenerates to come bash her for still bn single and upping her tables.


..modified ... 2 degenerates spotted!

Rihanna says hi 😎

ceematics:
Liverpool will walk alone today

Sup boy

You’ll never walk alone 🎯

So men Nor be scum again ?

manoflove22
Comrade na you then Dey talk about here

siofra:
Don't generalise abeg.
Not every girl is like your ex

Many of women offer emotional support, comfort, peace of mind, status etc. But you wouldn't know that because you're busy running after kids.

For a fee na ( regular billing )

kestolove95:
This is your boyfriend's type when the money starts coming in But for now he will stick to you because you are building him.

Building him ?? How ??

Relatable

Even those that offer intimacy

Didn’t fall tho

Play mature and keep those emotions away.
No need for malice

duduade:
Either she's got her mind on something or she's bored


You are just there.... Another young man has got her attention... When he is done with her .... She will compare and learn to appreciate you the more..

Don't worry yourself

Seconded

Them talk am una nor hear 😅

Looks like something I can/will do 😂

Obainoman6:
what else do you think is discipline?
i have a cane at home and i used it on my girlfriend steady.

😂😂😂
You’re sick man
You need help


Try emotional way 🙃

I don reason this thing before now and that point 1 And 3 is legit as in introvert .

I’m pretty sure It’s not even biblical in the first place

You took her phone and screenshot this or what am I seeing

This is fake abeg 😂

Sharp shooter 🎯
Cool tho .. you were popular on this platform

brightmorningst:
people please encourage me, this is 3:14 am I couldn't sleep cos my babe broke up with me. I actually did cos her action shows she's not interested anymore.
This is someone we our chats flow but for like a week now,it doesn't anymore stopped calling me claim she doesn't have card. She always do,we can talk for over two hours on phone but everything just changed.
I CHOOSE A LESS ATTRACTIVE LADY,ONE LF HER FRONT TEETH EVEN COMOT ,SHE SHOWED ME LOVE I RECIPROCATED IT, IN MY MIND I WAS LIKE SHE NO FINE, GUYS WON'T ASK HER OUT BUT I WAS WRONG. SHE DON GO.

ALL LADIES ARE THE SAME WHEN SOMEONE BETTER THAN YOU COME AROUND THEM WHETHER BEAUTIFUL OR UGLY.

I DON TIRE FOR WOMEN MATTER.

THIS IS MY THIRD RELATIONSHIP... IT'S ACTUALLY A LONG DISTANCE ONE THOUGH.

ENCOURAGE ME MEN.

My guy you really off me 😂😂😂

Don’t take women seriously , don’t get emotionally attached with a woman (that’s not your mom) you’ll be fine 😉

This post should be in the list of the “Most hilarious post of the year 2023 “ on Nairaland