₦airaland Forum

Eketem:
Hmmm, while I understand your choice to break the marriage I don't understand wanting to be away from your kids because they didn't offend you. Yes you say you will ask them to come over when you move but how will they keep moving back and forth seperate towns because their parents cannot be adults about a bad situation.

They have school and probably family, you can be seperated and share custody without necessarily moving.

As for your story with your wife, you should not have told her to get out of a house you both built, you could have driven out spent a few days away if you were upset as you should be with a nagging wife cursing your parents but not to tell her to get out of a house she contributed to build.


You are both adults I wish you the best apart, my only concern is you taking an extreme position of leaving town that may affect the kids, you can stay in the same town and be seperated so the kids can enjoy having you both in their lives.

You both need to provide for them and ensure they do not suffer discomfort because two of you cannot live together, they didn't ask to be born but they need both parents even if seperated

His plan is to take the kids with him when he moves. The wife can come along too if she wants but she'll have to abandon the house and her business.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

Your husband is not a good person. He's extremely selfish and proud. Maybe it's good for both of you to take a break for a while. Let him figure out if what he wants is a house or a family. And you can also take the time to figure out whether this marriage is actually worth it for you. Give it a few weeks you'll be able to think more clearly by then.

Hardlife:
please were you addicted to virtual before. How did you overcome it. I cant stay a minute without thinking about my life and money i have lost. Right now, my heartbeat is above normal. I am so frustrated. Please help me.

You are an addict and gambling is your addiction. You should seek out psychiatric help. Tell your parents you need help to overcome this addiction and they should take you to a psychiatric hospital.

Japhet04:
but the lips is having a negative psychological impact on my social life...from what I read online it would continue spreading...it is definitely going to affect my legal career. Imagine I am handling a case in court and the judge and jury are busy focusing on my Vitiligo lips... Who would want to employ me with my kind of lips

Nobody is looking at your lips it's what comes out of your mouth they are interested in. Vitiligo has no cure and it never goes away so get used to it. I know a guy who has the same issue even worse cos it's affecting both upper and lower lips but he's a very successful and social person. Focus on getting your mind right and don't worry about what you cannot change.

Nukilia:
We are all in this shit together till 2019 .... EOD

Hope you've got your PVC. Online votes don't count.

Jamariwolff:
First, i want to be clear that this isn't a case of forming hard to get.
I've been broken once before by a crush and I had to learn the hard way of keeping it all secret.

So I'm a 100 lvl student in a Nigeria university and my course rep is extremely handsome, friendly, tall, and very dope- he walks like a God, dresses with aĺl prestige, and smells like fresh dew. He has nice smile, what i love most is his skin, which is always glowing and very beautiful to look at. He turns me on like stupid.

But here is a problem I DON'T WANT HIM TO KNOW I HAVE A CRUSH ON HIM.

it never ends well, I'll enhance his self esteem at the end and he'll start to avoid me altogether. I also do NOT want to stop crushing on him. Yes, I know 90% that it'll not work out at the end.

Thus, to avoid him knowing I'm crushing. I do the following

1. Avoid looking at him, ever. On the streets, i pretend to look at my phone when passing him.
Although I take a peek with my peripheral side vision sometimes, that's that.

2. I sit faraway in class, where I can focus 100% on myself. I sit in front of him normally and I never look back. Ever.

3. We are just "greeting" friends, we don't talk much, just greet once in a while. And I try to act as uninterested as possible.

4. I once tried getting him a gift (candy)last semester to make him know I exist, and that's how the friendship started, i havent given him any gifts since then. In fact, i simply ignore him.


but he doesn't know I like him and I must be really careful.

I don't know what to do.

PS: don't tell me to confess my crush or give him GREENLIGHTS, because I would rather die than do any of the above options.

Sounds like in your diminished self-esteem you have concluded that you don't stand a chance with him. Good luck with whoever you eventually decide to settle for.

eikechukwu8:
Hello Guys

I was employed in a company on the 8th of January 2018, i was told by my employers that i will be on probation for 3months, and i will be receiving starting salary pending the time probation will end, then i will start receiving my normal salary.

My probation period ended 8th April 2018, but no appointment letter was issued to me and nothing was said about it, am still paid my starting salary instead of normal salary, I sent an email to my employer and she said the test isnt over yet, its the 6month now, pls guys what should I do

Start looking for another job fast. Probably they're not satisfied with your performance and they're trying to replace you.

Bodylover:
If Nigeria a whole was given the opportunity to kill any politician you dislike the most, I will go for Buhari and the whole APC.

And you will spare PDP abi? As if similar tragedies did not happen when they were in power. Mumu.

DrGoodman:
Just a road repair not completed and someone is rejoicing? Whats wrong with these people?

Because the road has been in a state of disrepair for decades including under Mr. Goodluck Jonathan. For it to be finally given some attention now is a cause to give kudos.

resurgent2019:
But playing for a white, organized nation.

See how many chances peru has lost?

Honestly it's just a matter of bad luck for Peru, they should be ahead now. But no country has won the world cup more times than Brazil and it's not one of the white countries.

resurgent2019:
The white man will always be ahead. Why na?!

The person who scored the goal was a black man though.

chyy5:
Buhari lied too, case closed

Wetin concern Buhari in this matter na?

akeentech:
You just started working (3 months), In your appointment letter you must give 45 days notice before you quit, then you got another better job of which you must resume ASAP how do you quit peacefully without honor the 45 days quit notice?

NB. Your present employer invested ( 3 months training and lot more) a lot in recruiting you.

You are not a honourable person if you were employed under those conditions and you're already busy looking for another job.

Sarkin:
Or sold.

IPOB AND CRIMES...

SINCE 1804 THEY HAVE BEEN SELLING THEIR PEOPLE AND EVEN THEMSELVES.

Bini culture is by far closer to Yoruba than to Igbo. They share a great deal of history and tradition in common.

You already have sir. It's too late, you've disappointed so many of us.

meolaniyi:
He is a terrorist. Forget this people.

Why is he a terrorist? Because he protests with a sling and stones?

scholarsarena:
Hello everyone,
few months ago I saw a thread about “Deputy Governor ”

So my question to all is that how much do we know about our state apart from the Governor and his Deputy?

So Nairalanders… Do you know the name of the “Speaker of your State House of Assembly”?

Mine is RT. Hon. Edward Ubos of Enugu State.

So, who is your speaker?

cc: lalasticlala, OAM4J, Mynd44

I thought that after asking the question you would make a list of all the speakers in every state so that people can be educated.

ubergold:
I guess you know more the great Prof Victor Uwaifo sorry the small Victor Uwaifo. You need to teach him about copyright laws sir Afterall his over 50 years in the arts not just as an academia but also as a performer is not good enough. Weh done sir

Let's just wait and see. This issue will die a natural death because if he sues Simi to court he will lose.

dulux07:
so many things wrong in this country, d people always supporting d wrong thing.
Copyright theft is a big issue, even if its just a word u copy without notifying d original owner.

You don't know anything about copyright law. Legally it is impossible to copyright the title of a song or one word in a song, it's not done. So Simi didn't steal anything.

neezar:
another buharist again

election time is near

anything to bring the pdp down

PDP is already down and out. No point flogging a dead horse.

Jirate:
We Need a Similar Order for this Guy, He needs to be Returned to His Daura Cattle Settlement as quickly as Possible.

Get your PVC first. INEC won't count your posts on Nairaland.

Abjay97:
Other Countries celebrate Excellence, Ingenuity and Hardwork.

Your country promotes Laziness, Nepotism and Brain Drain.. And immorality with huge capital

Weep for Nigeria

While I agree in part with your premise, the issue here is with Rochas and Imo state not with Nigeria.

tolexy007:
who cares?....Only the enemy of American will hate Trump at this moment.

Trump is the enemy of America at this moment. Many people are just too blind to see what is happening directly in front of them.

NwaChibuzor44:
This was the only decent non-igbo contestant in the bbn house. Unlike the likes of oluwabamike olawumi aka bambam. Look at the likes of cee c and ifu, they repped the igbo culture well by not indulging in any immoral act. Ceec went into that house a virgin and came out a virgin. We igbos place proper child upbringing ahead of others. Have you ever wondered why yoruba girls have the highest number of teenage and unwanted pregnancies in nigeria? Blame their parents

What about Nina then?

Ajekuniya ni o je.

asuustrike1:
I hope many Nigerians will use their pvc to vote for the right candidate same way they voted for miracle. This show shows that we can vote the right person irrespective of the tribe or religion.

Let us see who are those contesting first. For now we don't know yet.

The problem with PDP is not the name, it's the people running the show. Same with APC. Nigerians, there are other political parties in this country. Why not forget about those two and let us look somewhere else for our future leaders?

Sounds like she's dealing with Hyperreligiosity and probably some form of bipolar disorder. She needs to see a psychiatrist asap.

Ezkid:
Well as an African I believe it's disrespectful and rude to diss or called out my mom for her unhealthy attitudes but I think its high time I make it public so people who has witnessed or experience such can give to me a valuable advice.

My mom was once a successful hair dresser and she was the breadwinner of our family until she became born again, she abruptly stopped plating hair for her customers based on what she tagged "unbiblical" She basically affirmed that she'll never touch attachments and synthetic hair again in her life and ever since then things hasn't been going smoothly again.

My Dad now has got a Rick Ross fatlike woman as a second wife and I think the whole situations has taken its toll on my mom's mental health, she's literally cut herself off from the outside world and everything always mean something extra terrestrial to her.

My Mom would see a gecko on the wall and believe it was sent from hell to drag her to the underground, We always packed from one apartment to the other thanks to her intolerance toward other people. Omg! She'll always find faults with her co tenants, everybody is either a witch or a spy from the underworld.

There's one thing she did that convinced me she's struggling from mental instability, we packed out from one house to a flat like apartment, do u believe my mom went back there and packed the huge rocks we used to make fire? She tagged them as her property which can never be left behind, she'll play with u today only to become unresponsive when u greet her tomorrow, she stopped her work almost 20 years ago and ever since then has become a liability on my dad and a burden on us the children, it disgusts me to feed her with my hard earned money when she's hale and healthy, she's the reason my dad was unable to send me to the university because the burden is too much on him.

What I find ridiculous about her is her mindset, her mind was wired to believe we owed her a living when in reality it's the opposite, when my dad is unable to send money she'll become so tensed and angry, its so annoying how she find it difficult to realize she is the PROBLEM of the family.

Pls I need good advice on what kind of help we the children can seek on her behalf cos its obvious she needs help. Thanks all.

Chaclaitmilk:
She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

Why did she marry a man who she feels can do that to her and her children? Without trust there is no marriage court or no court.

Uyiii:
so this phrase is true, that a particular tribe are known to be ass lickers and slaves to the Fulanis.
I've always doubted and been against the ideology not until I saw this photo.

To the pioneers of this very phrase, I'm deeply sorry for being indecisive with your assertions, I promise it'll never repeat itself again.

Some people are brought up to be respectful of their elders regardless of tribe.

IjeleNwa:
I have a gay friend,we have been friend for 5years and and I have never summoned courage to tell him to stop being gay.

He engages on the act with his fellow gay fellows on the line but yet we are cool close friends.

I never liked the act but can't talk him out

I need opinions on how to go about this.

What makes you think he can just stop even if he wants to?