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Betty1000:
Good day Nairalanders,

My fiance proposed to me three months ago. Before that, we were in a relationship for six months. Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him.

Last week, a friend of mine told me that she heard my fiance has a son and she already verified this information before telling me. At first, I was hesitant until she showed me pictures of the boy, he looks exactly like my fiance. So I decided to go deeper and found out that my fiance is indeed the father of the child.

I confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding.

I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no.

I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me.

We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July.

He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore.

My family has assured me that any decision I make, they would support it.

How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?

I'm so confused.

For real, you are still seeking advice? Dump his asss and move on.

Can't you read all the signs, within 6 months he pretended to be mr right and his family members aided him, they are ganging up to trap you with marriage.

You will be very surprised after the wedding what they will turn you into, better run while you can.

Any man that will hide this from you doesn't love you one bit, he just want a woman that will labour for his son and his family members.

EMEKUSBOY9:
My guy abeg free this people... I find haed to understand why people are just so negative and very determined to discourage people.

Even after they have made their opinion they still want to force people to follow their advice, and they forgot that some people destinies are not even in America or Europe. Their mindset is just so fixed to one direction, and this made them to be visionless and lack of creativity because they are scared of making an attempt..... Even me that owns the thread is not even begging any one to go there, but to encourage them to make decision for themselves and try, but the negative guys on my thread are so determined to stop any one from trying are u thinking what am thinking ?. Even paid agent are not this determined like this people

But dnt be surprise that it may just be one guy with many monikers

No mind them, I wonder why they have so much hatred for ivory cost.

vivilafrosh:
If a man cheats on you & as a lady you decide to cheat on him too. Know these; He is a player and you are a bitch... Don't allow motivational speakers conform your dignity into mockery.

Of course the lady should not cheat back but she must be careful in the relationship.

The guy may infect her with incurable STDs, and even swindle her of her hard earned money and spend it on his cheating partner.

Labadi69:
Immigration consultant wey never see airport before. Owu na bastard. Come on gerrout of here. Mugu

E pain you ohhh, so both of you can't provide a link for me , and yes I'm an Immigration consultant, just ask me any question about Immigration let me school you.

I don't brag, I give facts.

Sorry I know you don't have any connections outside Nigeria...

Tranquility2345:
Go and do your homework. The northern part of their country has been having issues with militants as well. Just because you don’t see it on NTA does not mean things are not happening outside Nigeria.

You keep talking about security. Do you know how scared people get during elections or any small kasala? People start going to their villages and Nigerians return home to wait. A country that had 2 civil wars within 20 years. Do you know how many people were given arms during those wars? Where do you think those guns are? Why do you think whites are now living closer to the airport?

You my friend are not qualified to speak when people are talking about comparisons between both countries as you have never seen Abidjan with your eyes. Have you even been to Lagos? Go to Côte d’Ivoire first and then come back and let us know if you still believe that the country is better than Nigeria.

I still wish you all the best when you go there to hustle. Godspeed.

You keep ranting about Civil War as if Nigeria never experienced Civil war, let's not even go there, I can't even start listing various ethnic killings across Nigeria is it the Yoruba vs Hausa in shagamu, or Hausa vs Kataf in Kaduna, or Tiv vs Jikum in Taraba etc.

Post just one link where unknown gunmen kill 50 people at a go in Cote d'ivoire and I will post 10 different links where over 50 people were killed at a go in Nigeria.

Please accept this challenge?

Incase you don't know I'm an Immigration consultant, I don't need to be anywhere to get the information I need, the world has moved on, may be you are still in analog age.

Tranquility2345:
You are wrong. Nigeria has the highest FDI inflows in Africa. Nigeria has the largest economy. Nigerian music and movies are idolized in every African country. International businesses make lots of money in Nigeria.

Let me ask you a question. Please don’t take it the wrong way. Have you ever travelled outside of Nigeria? Have you ever befriended people from other African and even developed countries? If you have, then you will know that everyone knows Nigeria to be the giant of Africa.

From the things you write, I do not think you have been to Côte d’Ivoire. Brother, please take a trip to that country. You don’t need a visa. If you go there and come back to repeat what you are saying that the country is miles ahead of Nigeria, then I will know that you must really hate your fatherland.

The reason why I haven't traveled out before is because of the illusion of patriotism but I know better now.

But everything is in the news...

The whole of west Africa in general is poor so let's leave economy aside.

Safety and security of lives is the first thing you look out for in any country then Constant electricity.

As we speak Cote d'ivoire is ahead of us in these two key areas so how can I believe Nigeria is better.

I live in the north, unknown gunmen kill people everyday in Zamfara, Kaduna, Katsina, Niger and Benue and you are talking of patriotism

They also kidnap hundreds of students in Public Primary and Secondary schools..

I haven't heard such in Cote d'ivoire before.

Tranquility2345:
This false statement shows that you have never been to Abidjan. Please be proud of your country and pray for things to get better. They don’t call Nigeria the giant of Africa for nothing.

I have never heard any foreigner called Nigeria "Giant of Africa" except Nigerians because we're just deceiving ourselves

I know people who have been hustling in Nigeria for over 20 years but still Feeding from hand to mouth, it's clear the country can't manage our population again so allow those who want to take a chance outside Nigeria carry on.

And I repeat, Cote d'ivoire is miles ahead of Nigeria.

Tranquility2345:
The Americans, British and French that move to Africa to work are paid ridiculous money to compensate them. They don’t leave their good lives in their countries to come and suffer here. Some Nigerians also move to Côte d’Ivoire to work and get paid very well to move there.

It makes me so sad to see young Nigerians willing to leave Nigeria to go to poorer African countries to hustle to eat. It really saddens me.

You are just contradicting yourself

Greatnnamdi:
I was very happy to see how you want to encourage us that looks that HND has hindered us for any opportunity because I also heard told that I can only start a 3 years Bachelor's degree program as a HND holder in Germany while a Nigerian Bsc holder is eligible for a PhD program in US.

I so much salute your courage.

Sir, please I want to get a information about my program of study as you advice in nairaland that it is only advisable to go for a public school where you can get a full or partial scholarship on your tuition fees.

The University of cyprus Mechanical Engineering and manufacturing department English master taught course is in advanced material and Nano technology, can I be admitted if I apply with HND and also be able to get a scholarship.
Can I also use it to study a PhD in Mechanical engineering for further studies in US or Germany or other beneficial EU, if otherwise, please hint me on a better ground of benefit.

Is it also likely that as a HND holder in mechanical engineering I can get the privilege to study oil and gas and energy engineering in University of UNIC with scholarship since it's a private university and is there any benefit for international job opportunities or further study in the US with the masters obtained.

I hope to hear from you to gain more insight even of what am not aware of.

Thank you in anticipation.

I also have HND too, my plan is to do HND conversion to BSC in Benin Republic, in two semesters you would be awarded your BSc which you can use to apply for masters anywhere in the world.

Everything should not be more than 650K..

The Ukrainian guy is even humble.

Africa is a slum compared to Ukraine, do you know how many Africans rush Ukrainian Universities every year and I have never heard of any Ukrainian studying in Africa.

Before you argue with ukranians better be sure.

People don't listen, no Canadian employer will agree to go through the stress of employing a foreigner from outside Canada when they have many simple options of employing a Citizen, PR or International students.

Don't allow any Immigration Consultant deceive you with their marketing contents.

Even the FSW program in Express Entry has not gotten any draws for over 5 months now...

Your best bet is to patiently dedicate 2 years to Learn french and Blast TEF exams and also blast IELTs, then start attending online recruitment events for bilingual professionals in Canada.

May be, just may be you can secure a qualifying job offer in Canada.

Tranquility2345:
After reading everything here, I have to say that most of you are overhyping Côte d’Ivoire, a country that was ravaged by civil war and just recovering. For you to want to leave Nigeria to immigrate to Côte d’Ivoire to hustle means you have really given up on Nigeria. What a shame.

The country was ravaged by civil war buts its largest city "Abidjan" is far more beautiful than Lagos and Abuja put together.

They enjoy 24 hours electricity.

The enjoy 100% Internal and External Security, I hope you know how many thousands murderers have killed in Nigeria this year alone.

They have a very solid labour law, Multinationals companies from Asia and Europe can't maltreat or mess with their citizens.

They keep churning out stars in the football world like Dedier Drogba, Yaya Toure, Kolo Toure, Gervinho, Wifred Zaha, Casie etc

Cote d'ivoire is far ahead of Nigeria.

Denmark23:
Please how did you get your HND evaluated to BSC?

Use WES

And when another man finally decides to marry these used whoores they will start claiming feminists, they will say house chores is not for women alone, meanwhile they were doing it for a niiga before

queenfav:
Life abroad isn't easy or all roses as many dream it to be.Anyone relocating should be mindful of that fact.Prepare to put shame aside and do jobs you would not even dream of doing back home in Nigeria.

The shock for many who left expecting paradise and soft life is even more, when they land and they can't get a decent job.Pictures like this are key,so that people are reminded to make plans on how they will earn a living before they relocate.If not the person will end up being depressed and may at some point start to regret leaving Nigeria

People know the right thing but they don't want to use their brains.

Don't immigrate illegally.
Developed countries are not stupid, you can't out smart their system, if you don't have the means to immigrate legally just stay behind or else you will end up as a street rif raf and eventually get jailed or deported.

Even after immigrating legally you must realise that Every European country apart from UK don't speak English, they have their local languages but Nigerians are too brain lazy, they will go to a foreign land and refuse to learn the local language thereby making it impossible to integrate.

Finally learn a skill, people should rid their minds off trading, buying and selling won't take you anywhere in developed countries, learn a rare skill and see yourself excel.

AppyDesign:
When you call that your uncle, brother, sister or friend in Europe for money, and he/she hang up, don't hate him/her, don't criticize the person, the hustle is real, have patience nobody dey cook stone!

Nigerians are beggars...

pharmguru:
90% black

With all these, racism against the black race can nevet end. I am even apalled at this

Don't allow the media hype of fight against racism get to you.

Blacks are not ready to be at par with Whites, we just want respect and equality where we have not earned it, if you meet a jobless black man in his 30s or 40s and ask him to put his brain to action and learn a professional skill he will tell you he rather go abroad illegally and do menial jobs or marry an old white granny.

How can they respect us like that, you as an individual can only earn some respect if you immigrate to Europe or America legally.

And this is the main reason why we experience high rate of visa denials, they need to be very sure that you won't end up like the miscreants above.

Labadi69:
OP You don’t own Nairaland. This is not your thread! No talk am again. Na Nairaland get am and I have every freaking right to write here and let people know say you dey use dem catch cruise.

How can I hate Ivory Coast and still be going there to catch fun? You get sense so?

I repeat, Ivory Coast is not better than Naija for person wey no get job or money or better business to do there. Anybody that has something doing in Naija should not leave it to go suffer for Ivory Coast of all places. If you want to encourage people, encourage them not to go suffer for place wey no too better pass Naija apart from constant light wey dem dey get.

Na people like you dey advise people to enter fire just so that you go dey house dey laugh. Just look your stupid Ugandan tales say you enter Abidjan and big bum bum woman carry you go her family house sotey you come dey nack am there under her parents roof. Yamayama fall on you with that stupid lamba. Mugu

So with all this your ranting you agree that Ivory Coast enjoys electricity more than Nigeria.

Do you know that just last week more than 200 Nigerians were reportedly killed by unknown gunmen in various states, do you know how many thousands has been killed like that in the last 3 years in Nigeria and the killers can't even be caught.

Bandits, Terrorists, Ritualists, Ipob are ravaging Nigeria everyday and in your small mind you think Ivorians are dreaming to relocate to Nigeria

Wake up from your dreams niiga.

naijaboy756:
hahahhahahaha. Why you dey insult our detective Abba Kyari

No be only him sabi suspect people naaaa

tenzofall:
Like i said Idabakanta with another moniker.

I should be asking you if you are sick?

Truly you need help.

Go and hustle stop looking to scam people.
But if you insist on scamming innocent citizens, no issue we will see were that leads u.

I will be watching you closely that scam you are bent on doing, won't happen. That i promise you.

May be jonsnow actually didn't get the Visa.

May be you're the same person as him still trying to swindle people here.

OLE...

UFO2029:
Good evening everyone. I have HND and I can manage to raise 3million Naira. How can I get a visa to Estonia? Is there any university that may accept my HND for a masters' programme?

If you have over 5 years professional working experience you can search for universities in Estonia that consider candidates that don't meet the standard and regular requirements for Masters admission, no one will search for you, you have to do it yourself.
For example National College of Ireland offers MSC admission to HND graduates with over 5 years professional working experience but studying in Ireland is very expensive, if you don't have a sponsor then you need over 13M to study MSC in Ireland.

Another alternative is to go to cotonou and do a HND conversion to BSC in any of their Universities, you get your BSC in less than a year then use it to go masters in Europe, converting your HND to BSC in cotonou should not be more than 600k in total.

But 3M is too small now ohhhh, Naira is shitty now, try to double or triple that amount

DDayve:
Most times, when a man goes for a woman, he is after sex. Only in rare cases will a man see a woman for the first time and already decides to marry her. He may demand sex too early and stil be the best man you would ever want. What happens on the long run is what determines if both of you will marry. If you like him, allow him. It's only after sex you would know if he is your man or not. Before sex, he is most likely faking it.
You ladies should start having strong mind like men too. Date him, sex him and observe his attitude. If his attitude shows he loves you, continue, if he doesn't, dump him for another guy.

I hope you would give your daughters and sisters same advice...

Distinction4030:
Can I apply for Bachelor degree in any European countries or USA or Canada at 30 years. If it possible I need countries that will be easy to gain admission.

Admission is easy everywhere, study visa is the wahala...

Princeofwales:
Better than Ronaldo.

Lol, Ronaldo won that award in his first season in Seria A...

RedAbaya:
Use 1.5 m to setup a business you can make 300k monthly. Don't go and start from scratch abroad. If na to gather women to fry groundnut, bottle am supply to supermarkets pay them daily wages like 1500 a day, it's something


Let's end this abroad trip thing abeg

Why should we end going abroad, as long as I'm seen products from abroad all around me, I must plan to go abroad and make money there too.

The people you should advice are the Nigerians that turned Nigeria to dumping ground, they go to China to import all sorts of products thereby killing our economy and currency.

The only way Nigerians can balance this is to migrate abroad LEGITIMATELY and earn a living too.

Shabaleen:
juve won the league 7 straight season without him, hope u remember??

It doesn't matter, only a champion can blend with champions...

When he came to Juve he help them to continue winning the league, he was named Seria A best player in the first season, and now he won the golden boot this season.

ElectronicMoney:
Why would someone who has $100,000 even want to relocate to Malta?

1. It's not 100,000 USD, its actually 400,000 USD.

2. If I have 1 Million USD I will definitely use half of it to buy any EU Passport because of its numerous advantages.

After she turned millions of girls to whoores, now she wants to become a lawyer

I pity the fools emulating the reckless lifestyle of celebrities...

paulolee:
DTS stale bro...winning the UCL is more of a team work, messi n cr7 av now realized dt dey cnt do it on thier own again at such age...
messi dnt need d UCL to win the ballon d or like he did won it ahead of vvd..
d point is dt, messi would be very happy winning the ballon d or again ahead of cr7 n when both are done, we would only count the number of ballon d or won, total trophies won which messi is still leading and total world cup won n both have none..
NOBODY would Gv a FCK abt number of UCL of league title won because its among normal trophies, only world cup stands out..

That means you Messi fans were really pained when Cr7 was tied with Messi in Ballon d or, they tied 5-5 so nothing new, Messi is just ahead with one Ballon d or and y'all are celebrating

CR7 won UCL with Man utd and Real Madrid.....

Messi should win with another club let's see...

Flows001:
Why ur Ronaldo no grow balls join AC Milan like Ibrahimovic to help them qualify for UCL. Na already made clubs e dey run go join and una dey call am challenge. Abegii, leave Messi to live him life joor, the guy break every available record so leave am!!!

Messi should grow balls and join the already made clubs naaaa it its easy.

paulolee:
lolz....all this cr7 and their boring lame talk...so its a must dt messi leaves barca n end up were?? juve or PSG??
Leo said he is happy in barca n pls let him be because winning the ballon d or 6 times means he have nothing to prove to u guys.
u said he is a camp nou wifi but he is still n only player dead or alive with more ballon d or awards. tell ur best player to beat it if he thinks he's better..

Messi should win his 5th UCL if he thinks he is better...