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IyaebeTheGreat:
Women who spend on men are gradually digging their own grave, men naturally don’t appreciate this kind of gesture. Men don’t value women who spend on them , they value the ones they spend on because it boost their ego. I don’t pity her because she sold her sense of reasoning for some useless sweet talk and brainwashing. How women dy take give man money sef? As in how you go take give am? E even dy do my body somehow as I even type am. I can only dash or help a random man with money and gifts but once you are my lover I will never spend a dime on you because I’m setting you on a path of irresponsibility. I can only spend on a man I love after marriage because that’s the only time it makes sense. No be me another person’s son go take practice gigolo .

advanceDNA:
U are just talking theory.....

Theory is that u can be approached by 100 men in a week...reality is that u may nit even be approached by any man in 6 months.

U are not seeing reality...Rejecting suitors shows just how limited ur options are.....and the fact that u cant choose or ask the men u want out when u see them shows just how incapacitated you women are even though u claim u have many options.....

Be truthful...havent u heard the statement "he was never my spec but i just said yes because he was bugging me so i later liked him" thats the reality of the gender that doesnt have the luxury of asking out men whenever they want

advanceDNA:
He doesnt have to show you both....pple dont have to give their views how u want it....... its not dishonesty...its called writing from a single perspective

.an article or write up can be about pros only ...it can be about cons only....and it can be about both......it all depends on the writer...

If i say women are beautiful...its a perspective /context..... i am not being dishonest even though there are tons of ugly women in the world

advanceDNA:
I ddnt think or say he has changed the mind of thousands....i said u cant measure the impact so dont assume.....jeez!!!...why do u like to assume alot when u dialogue...
..u jump from A to Z like a gazelle....i dont know if u do it so u can have a reason to insult or u are finding it hard following the context of the discussion...

There are billions of men who want to settle down?? Okay...i never disputed this statement with you....

But talking about options....its the men that do the asking out...so technically, its men that choose and its men that have options
Unlike u women...though u carry marrige on your head but cant chose whenver u want simce most of u cant ask men out.

...u have to wait to be chosen.... and thats why the statistics shows there more single women in their 30s who have never been married than men......

So yeah...in theory...there are millions of options for u women...in reality u have to eait to be chosen...so ur choice becomes limited since u have to wait and even sometimes settle for men u dont technically want

advanceDNA:
Btw...I dont have to assume ur gender...its clear from ur chat pattern....

Now.......u are the one with the issues here...Its the op's opinion..he can write it how ever he likes...he doesnt have to say his mind how u want it....u are the one thats not getting it...

Furthermore...U assume alot....and its not a nice way of dialoguing....just because a person is married for 30 years doesnt mean they wont advice someone else against marriage....so it is possible his father can agree with his opinion..

I have seen many successful people who went to college but said college is a waste of time..if they could go back in time...they would take back their 4 years and use it for something more productive.....

I have seen plenty bankers with big houses and cars but advice young graduates against a banking career...

.i have seen plenty older men tell young men that if they can, its better to be single, even though they have been married for many decades...

Life is not black and white...no need to view it that way,

advanceDNA:
Yawn!!... u assume alot...
U know he's poor ...how?? Or u just want to insult him for his opinion
...leave the impact...there's no way to measure it for real...and quit ur fallacies and assumption for once.
u cant assume a site thousands of pple view will have zero impact. Do u even know how data is collated from many sites these days and used to form basis of research? Jeez!!

Lol...she said what happens here has no impact.??..tell that to śeun making huge money from nairaland...

No one here is asking to marry you ...how did we arrive at ur outburst that u dont want to marry me or the op?? Did we ask you?? You are tge one flattering urself thinking i or anyone here is interested in you in the first place...

All ur ranting just shows i was right that u women will come here and rant over the op's opinion... its just an opinion..why are u triggered by it so much..??

Semen leakage
🔹Loss of sexual drive towards the opposite sex
🔹Premature ejaculation (ejaculating too early during sex)
🔹As a lady, you kill your ability to enjoy sex in future.
🔹Erectile dysfunction (weak erection).
🔹Dizziness
🔹Vaginal dryness and low sensitivity during sex.
🔹Great exhaustion after exercising.
🔹Nervousness.
🔹Insomnia (lack of sleep).
🔹Loss of appetite leading to weight loss especially in female.
🔹Decrease in manhood size and length.
🔹Prostate enlargement which eventually leads to Prostate cancer.

Money cannot save, that is why most people with money still get killed, are barren, are lonely, etc. Most people with good health just drop death, most people with new car still die through accident, most people goes to the best hospital in the world and are still sick.
The question still remain, who can save you from sickness, failure, loneliness, family curse, setback, death, limitation disappointment, accident, barrenness, poverty, hardship, etc?

advanceDNA:
Na woman she go be...na dem dey carry marriage matter for head

advanceDNA:
U clearly have a challenge seeing things from.people's perpective ....he doesnt have to share both sides of marriage....pple do it all the time on nairaland....another moniker opens a new thread to counter arguments ..no big deal...he doesnt have to do it ur way

Since he didn't, he's just posting his opinion which is: there's no disadvantage of having a wife (read the title). But his father would disagree, no? And millions of other happily married men. Therefore, his opinion is biased and toxic and illogical.

livenija:
free card kill u there

Kingofhoes:
The grace of God . But on a serious note tho, I've just been lazy. Might I have acquired a fan of my writing?

Zonefree:
Would be easier to see chilled bottle water in hell than to see a virgin Nigerian girl.


God bless the virgin South African girl. Virginity remains the greatest gift a woman can give her husband.

Kingofhoes:
You've gone through my journal already lmao. Yeah i am and dark too

Kingofhoes:
I recently started talking to a girl in school that i met through her "best male friend" and if not for anything i would swear you're her. Just the little time i've spent with her and she thinks exactly like you, she even told me this bomb ass story about how a secondary school friend attempted to ruin her life through a boy, i'm still laughing weeks after. I'd like to know you more even though your post says a lot about you, who knows i might be your kinda guy. PM?

advanceDNA:
I'll try and ignore your insult....and no i dont think his post is mischievous...cos what has being honesty or dishosnest got to with a simple line of thought he chose to write about....... must he write in support and against marriage at the same time??

To the honest...there are more samples of bad marriages these days....that may be the reason for his views from a male perspective......its possible he might speak differently when the topic of advantage of being married comes up....but thats not todays topic... u clearly are biased here and cant seem to dissociate ur personal opinion about marriage from the op's view or motive of writting,


If u like...u can speak about men being horrible...thats fine u are not wrong....still doesnt chnage the fact that men are also great

advanceDNA:
U are calling his views irrelevant...why?? U sound like u are taking it personal.....
Marriage is a serious matter and a lot of pple enter it conventionaly....so the op's views might help some pple audit their lives and see if marriage is truly what they want or something they are doing because their parents and society expects from.... for someone that doesnt want to get married, its weird that u dont reapect another person's view about marriage, calling it irrelevant.....

If u like keep ur opinion to yourself.....thats ur choice....its is choice to think out loud on nairaland...

JOACHINpedro:
If this thing near FP, 40% of NL single guys will opt to stay single.

advanceDNA:
Lol....I am playing victim?? This is not about me...we are talking about the op......so how am i playing victim......please explain...

Oh..so u know this is a public forum...so he has the right to pen down his views...just as u have the right to comment...so why say nobody asked him for his opinion??

Again u are boxing the dude and commiting fallacy.... Learning from home is learning from just two persons out of a large societal sample size...

there are other overwhelming evidences in the society that could make him say marriage is a bunch of nonsense... its his view....

.... u asked how u invalidated his view..mayb u should read ur comment again and perhaps u will see ur own small dose of toxicity..

Kobojunkie:
So, at 14, you loved the image of God, Jesus, and Mary presented you during your masses? OK. And what I am telling you is that even that image presented to you, which you loved, at the point in time, was all a lie fed to you by conmen who are the priests whom you respect.

advanceDNA:
All this epistle because u dont agree with the guy and want to guilt trip/ invalidate/flaw his opinion ... u even said no one asked him but here u are giving ur own lenghty views that no one asked for..

saying one would think he's from a broken home because he's against marriage is sterotyping.........his views can be formed from societal happenings...

Kobojunkie:
The last time you attended mass was when you were 3 years of age? You were 3 years of age when you claim you loved God, Jesus, and Mary?

Dtruthspeaker:
You wish young lady.

It is even rather that you are already frustrated with life already and you are not yet 20, I can see how grey haired gaunt and thin you would be by 40 when you still are not yet married.

And as you see men ain't marrying no more.so more frustration

pansophist:
Yes, it is, because you are at the age where it will be your biggest temptation. Also, I would have said the same if you were a boy. I initially thought the post was from a man (which can be noticed in my first comment), until you clarified you are a girl. Regardless, a wise person will pick lessons.

Kobojunkie:
1. They were conmen!

2. You loved God and Jesus and Mary so much that rather than accept the truth narrative presented of them in Scripture, you chose to adopt the flawed narratives presented by your priests?

jaephoenix:
Once more, the legendary DTruthSpeaker pulls out more data from his ever resourceful ass.
I don't know any atheists offline, but from my interactions here, out of 3 I met here, they sound ex-pentecostals. I am ex-pentecostals. I tell people, if by chance I'm to choose any religion, it won't be christianity. And if I'm to choose a Christian denomination, it would be Catholics(remember I'm a former Pentecostal). So why Catholicism?
1. They tend to be more accommodating in their love. They don't discriminate
2. They don't often tell you in your face youre going to hell for not praying to Mary(I may be wrong here). Pentecostals would tell you that you'll roast in hell for even dare open your eye during prayers

pansophist:
Nothing is wrong with you. Give yourself time to grow, and just focus on being a good girl. And I will advise you, just like I did to my younger sister. If you meet a good man with promising potential, stay with him. Better if he is in his late 20ś or early 30ś. men like that wont waste your time as they may want to settle down too.

You are at your prime, and at the age where every man wants a piece of you, and this is the ultimate test to secure the best man ever. So don't sleep around and act slutty. You may think you hold the power to sex, but men hold the power to commitment.

And the kind of men you will want when you are ready to marry will most likely be the kind that will expect sexual purity from you. So do not fork your way through life and think settling down will be easy.

Lots of women reached a place where they met the man of their dreams, but he rejected her because of her dirty past and high body count. And no, you can't hide it. A man knows an innocent woman just from her behavior.

Kobojunkie:
But you did attend mass in a church at some point, right? I am simply making it clear that there has never been any point in history that those men who you bowed to even at that time were nothing more than conmen.

Kobojunkie:
Any religious church. All of them.

helinues:

My curiosity is why should one waits for others to take him or her out?

What the is the essence of working when you can't enjoy your money alone even if it's once in a while