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Happy New day to all....


Reading through comments in the politics section, Facebook posts, online newspaper posts and all other discussion forums about Nigerian politics, I realised that this young generation is more depraved than those old men who plunged the country into economic misery and infrastructural deficiencies...

When issues are raised, we rather attacked the messenger than address the message. How can there be solution to problems when we choose not to address issues but personalities..

Which way forward Nigeria. I weep for this my generation of warped minds and thinking. Whatever, I still believe the nation will flourish in my lifetime.

chaircover: Tachere you are very welcome . . . ermmmm but before we start, there are some fees to pay

Enrollment form is N5,000
Registration is N10,000
Group clothing is N50,000
Monthly dues is N25,000

Pay N20,000 to tayour - I go chop cake this Christmas and the rest into my account and we will register you and send you welcome pack . . . . . .

So, this is what have been going on behind me? Power exchanging hands without the approval of the in-house SAN, Priest and FM.... I will reserve the punishment for the gods to decide...

taryour: @ efe and cc. You need to see when a to be bride is begging me to please deliver her wedding cake cause I usually wunt deliver the cake till I get my full payment but what can I do
Before them label me a witch for ruining their day and making them have a wedding celebration without a wedding cake.
I really don't know debtors live with peace in their hearts.

When you start to ask for your money, they will eventually call you that "witch" you were avoiding.

In business, there is no friend nor foe but business interest. Whoever decides to celebrate already budgeted money for it, hence make them pay. I wouldn't be surprised if you had insisted, she would have paid you. She probably heard somewhere that you are santa claus and will surely be swayed by emotional appease...

Be tough sis..

Depends on the mechanism you employed in understanding and understudying the person in question. Even if you stay in courtship for eons without adopting the right measures, it will still not be enough.

Yes, you can propose within three months of meeting a lady if only you know what you want and what to look out for in a woman away from frivolities. I proposed to my wife within 3months of meeting her. I have got no time for long courtship.

onegig: nothing to panic about,he replied a pm I sent him this morning.

I hope he is doing well and fine?

salsera: By the way RR sticky this thread nah. scrolling for it is tedious.

regards

Probably the Oga at the very top disapproved of it... I wonder why it was delisted from the sticky posts

Nnekacherry: Lol.. 50k just for wrapper..
@Phema.. You have a good heart girl..
I love the way you answer people's questions and also help them out with their budgets..
That's very kind of you..
I never knew that planning a wedding can be this stressful..
My wedding is on 2nd Jan 2014..
Lol.. Yea i know it's already close..
But I'm having the wedding jitters..
I'm scared mehn, sometimes i feel like it's just a dream..
That I'm not about to lose my freedom and privacy.. Lol
And the date is close already..
May God help us all..

The bolded part is a false understanding of what a blissful union is. Marriage does not take away your freedom and privacy if joined with the right partner, it strengthens and builds it.

As advised, the best shot you have at helping him is if you can fix in a different company from yours.

Meanwhile, do all you can to cut off communication with the lady. She may become desperate one day to do what is not pleasant. By that time, you would have gone far with her and it will be a story that touch.

Flee from every APPEARANCE of EVIL...

Op,

Can you arrange a brain reset beating for her?

maureeno: Hmmm.very obvious.A man då̝̅† beats up his fiancee,why won't he beat her up after payin her bride price.Ƅŭţ dere's nothin prayer can't do.if she goes ahead with the weddin,she shud be prepared to amend her ways so as not to offend the guy to warrant beating,then add prayers.

What is there to pray about? That God should change him or what? My sister God cannot be mocked. Every man will live with the consequences of his/her choice. With all the glaring evidences prior to the wedding, she shook her head and expecting God to perform magic?

There is a reason God did not create robots but Humans with BRAIN

What a joy wrenching and destiny killing advice from the sister...

My brother, if he is beating her now, nothing will make him change but will rather become more terrible. However, the guy will change if he encounters God in his life which no one can bank on how ready he is for such encounter..

If she were my sister, my advice will be, the guy will not change. The decision is for her to make, if she goes ahead, whatever she faces in the union is for her to carry.

bonultimate: I plan to take my life today, this night..

I have never felt so depressed and frustrated.

Everybody is against me.... i believe no one will miss me...

I have prayed, cried, shed tears, begged, appealed, but everyone seems to still be against.

There is hope for a tree though it be cut down, at the scent of water it shall sprout....

If an hopeless log of wood can still sprout branches at the scent of water, why would you think yours is different.

Share your grief and people will offer you practical and reasonable solutions.... Before you embark on the mission, empty your heart

here and you will surely have a rethink.... It is well with you

funkybaby: You can check out this site. My cousin got her wedding gown from them. http://www.jjshouse.com

She spoke highly of the quality and the fit.

1k to try on a wedding dress Seriously!!! WTF!

I agree with this. I ordered a wedding gown including shoes and accessories for a friend from this site and it was awesome... The only thing you need is to make sure you have the correct measurement because they usually sew the gown after its ordered.

salt 1: Havila bridals at Ikeja and Benkol bridals are good but somewhat pricy shops. Benkol has tiaras too.
But if you don't mind the stress, go to Azikiwe street, Marina. There are many wedding shops. You will buy the wedding gown at half the price, but it may be Turkey not American.
Please don't blame the shops that insist you pay before trying. Wedding gowns are delicate. If sweaty people keep trying and taking off, the dress will look old and no bride-to-be would like to buy it
I wish you a happy married life

When it comes to Textile, I give it to the Turkish than the Americans. I would rather buy clothing materials made in Turkey than buy from the USA.

Ewuro707: And how is the above contrary to what Nash and Peak said earlier especially the bolded( children) ?

Or is there power struggles ish going on between y'all altogether? I don't get it. This is stylishly nerve wrecking.

Hey, I do not understand what you wrote here. I only contributed my part to the topic and sorry that I didn't read what others have written before I commented.

Could you please explain what you mean by power struggles and what is nerve wrecking?

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How will you marry someone you can't trust with everything in the first place? For marrying a lady you can't or don't trust shows that you already planned your home for failure from the beginning. The marriage is dead on arrival. If you can't trust your own good judgement before marrying someone, why would you marry in the first place? No matter what, truth will always prevail over lies and darkness.


That being said, I took my time before settling for my wife, I knew the decision to marry involves being opened about everything including money. She knows how much I earn and not only that, she has knows all my ATM pins. I did not marry a devil, why hide something from her?

Your brother is an adult and he is not making the decision under the influence of alcohol or "jazz".

The best you can do is to explain to him the challenges that will come with marrying her. The big challenge is not that she is a widow but with three children. He will need extra patience and also exhibit high level of maturity in helping raising those children along with his own.

If he understands all the challenges involved in raising children, it will be in the interest of you all to let him be and make his decision. Afterall, you will not live with his family...

You need to understand who a friend is.... Those you described here are not friends but acquaintance...

Hello,

Please help check this...

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Thanks

True love is being committed to others' earthly welfare and eternal wellbeing. If it makes you sin, it is not love.

What the girl did is not love but stupidity and infatuation. If her plan had been successful initially and later caught, she would end up in prison with her unreasonable boyfriend.

cdamsel: u missed the parry,WHY

Too many assignments and work these days....... Hope to meet up with the next party

To those who need my legal services- Tunapa and Yusuph-, you have to pay the consultation fee upfront before I can even listen to your complaints. The fee is too much to be written here, see me in camera .

Thanks to everyone for the comforting words.....

Thanks everyone... It is well with us all

My mother-in-law lost her younger brother and his wife last Saturday in an accident around Ilorin. The place of the accident is just about 15mins to reach their house. They were coming from Lagos...

Its a sad month for the family but we take solace in His words that "He takes the righteous away lest he see corruption.."


It is well with everyone.....

I hope your friend will not poison her husband one day with the way she is throwing around the 'D' word.

I pity the poor man who is doing his best for his family....

Well, the great healer and surgeon will be with the doctors for a successful operation...

It is well with your dad...

Hey Happy People

When beating a wife is involved, the husband loses all credibility except it is a reprisal action (Although I do not support this either). Madam, you have been reasonably advised, make sure you protect yourself from STD and prevent yourself from being turned to boxing apparatus.

It is well

therealMcCain: pls relate what u wrote with the topic at hand, if the lady decides to stick with what most folks are saying abt not informing ones pastor, how then will she know??

Aren't u getting it, the pastor knows a lot about his/her members, & when brought into the picture on time, he/she can save u a lot of heartache

the guy is impotent & the sister is not aware but pastor is, they both plan their marriage without informing pastor(as most people are saying here) how will the pastor now advice them??

Some folks print their wedding card before informing pastor of their wedding while others will do traditional first before involving the church?? So if there was a hidden issue how will the pastor intercede.

haven't u heard of cases where the guy was treating STD & the bride was not aware & he suddenly says he want a to marry?? If the pastor was not involved, how can he counsel them??

Pls I'm against taking pictures to a pastor or giving names to a pastor, you'll be playing with fire, that's why I said stay in one place and grow!!

we have had cases where the either spouse had a child or was previously married or currently married but in another state or vicinity, their plan was to hide it from their spouse, if the wedding plans was hid from the pastor, how then can they be of help??

So involving them is for your good, YOUR PASTOR, not prayer house or pastor friend or Pentecostal native doctors!! (o yeah they exist)

The epistle you wrote up here has not solved the fundamental question I raised. Must someone who called himself a christian see a pastor for speaking truth with each other?

Why can't the guy declare his status to the girl and why can't the pastor advise the guy to tell her the truth? WHy must they see the pastor before setting stuff in perspective.

Such attitude is not godly and we are not so learned of Christ..

therealMcCain: I'm a leader in church and I know the burden people share with us, imagine the following scenario

1. The guy is impotent and he hasn't told the lady in qxn, and the pastor is aware & maybe they are believing God for a miracle (pastor + the guy)

imagine the lady getting married without informing the pastor!!

The guy is impotent, he hasn't told the lady he is engaged to, the pastor is aware and believing God for a miracle? What example and foundation is your pastor laying? I will say their silence is criminal and ungodly.

The lady has the the right to know about his impotent status without even wasting time praying. It is another case entirely if the lady decides to be believing God with him.

Your pastor is helping the guy lay a false foundation of deception and insincerity. He is a christian and should act as one, sincerity and truth are essential part of christian living..

Godmouth: We do have the mind of Christ and by His spirit we know all things. However you are talking in disregard to shepherds that God has placed over his people. A shepherd can be deceived yes: but there are true shepherds out there. Honestly I have seen more men and women intending to get married deceived than shepherds themselves. God can speak to people about their life partners but He places shepherds over them and what I am trying to say is that He chooses to reveal such an important issue as marriage through shepherds. Cos even though one has the mind of Christ (emotions are very powerful) which can cloud the judgement of any believer when seeking God.

In addition, God speaks only to those who take him seriously: James 4 vs 8. So it's not just about being a Christian and having the mind of Christ: but by having a solid walk/relationship with God.

You are still not getting the point. Is there any place I have claimed there is no genuine minister of the gospel? Even the genuine ones can still be deceived when you both placed idols in your heart.... If you cannot pray to God yourself about the issue of marriage, how can you pray to God when you are confronted with storms of life in the marriage?

Read Ezekiel chapter 14 to understand what I am saying