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1Sharon:
I think women should settle down right before they turn 30.

It's not cool being a 30year old single woman.

apt. of all the guys that have chased her you can't tell me she couldn't find one that was dateable between 16-28 it's impossible.... she was just being greedy. this isn't a female bashing thread guys are also guilty of the same thing... so the 40 yr old guys still on the dating market why couldn't they find someone all those years

Love only exists in the imagination of most men...
While most men are "loving" their girl, each girl is busy making a calculated decision of which circumstances is best for her, which guy is most attractive to her, which guy is best for her, when she should get married etc... A woman's "love" of a guy is largely conditional upon the provision of good sex or resources (money)... most guys feel hurt when their "love" is unreciprocated - well here you have your answer....

dan9ice:
This gender don suffer for this forum

There is no day I don't read about then here on a negative context..
Wetin they do una?

1. Some men go into marriage thinking women are "help meet" only to find out most arent.
2. My money is mine while his money is ours is the attitude that leads to many relationship/ marriage issues.... why do females hv this attitude.
3. Married men chase hot young girls and I think they should be exonerated for it.... since marriage dynamics has shifted...and if the women were in her prime she would do the same...

they only do what is convenient for them and want no stress or skin pain....

zexy2030:
What I noticed about this female bashing threads is simply immaturity. No one is perfect, people make mistakes and they get forgiven. Marriage is not meant for the emotionally immature.

Imagine monitoring your wife social media platforms because u suspect she is cheating is completely immature.

Give her the freedom, let be free, when she cheats or you suspect it, ask her and if she denies my brother, leave her nature will sort her.

There was a story of a woman in ota Ogun states, whose husband is a simp, a school teacher, in his late 40s like nairalander would tag him. The woman actually took advantage and breeded illegal children for the man and the man is aware because they tell him but never one day reacted nor beat the woman. The husband kept his responsibility over the 3kids. The owners of the kids came knocking for their children. She was confused on how to tell the innocent husband about their threat. My friend was going when he saw this woman going back to take snipper. It happened early this year.

Leave nature to judge but warn her or walk away.

May we never marry hoes.

Don't condemn marriage every marriage has its evil, choose your evil and move on with living.

Marriage is good but take time to find a good woman and not a hoe repackaged in religious gatherings and social events

no one has the time for female bashing. great points tho. thanks!

My Money is mine while his money is ours
I want to elaborate on this point - why do the vast majority of girls believe the husband/ bfs money is hers and his; while her own money is for her alone. Why such entitlement mentality? What does a man get in return for subscribing to a lifetime of expenditure on a woman called "wife". What if one day the money finishes - will the "wife" stay or leave? most leave...

more points to follow.

Why are girls 18-25 mostly unwilling to settle down?
Because they have estimated the demand from guys, seen the demand is very high, and estimate the demand will continue to be high....which is why they kind of postpone marriage - notice the female folk only always do what is best for them...

Why are women 25 - 35 willing to settle down/ marry?
It is not because they are "mature" but because they have seen visible signs of ageing in the body and have seen they are becoming less and less competitive in the sexual market place and want to maximize the small piece of their sexual market value that is left.

Is a woman a help meet?
i do not believe that women are help meets - these are extremely selfish creatures who only always do what is best for them. For a woman to be in a long term relationship with you, she has to believe you are the best for her; this also explains why they tend to jump ship when they feel they have seen a better guy. And they are also primarily out for your money so no most are not help meets.

What is in marriage for a man?
Aside children and maybe companionship (in case of medical emergency), many men see no reason to get married... At 32 when a woman is getting married, the guy at 32 is in his prime while the girl is no longer in her prime - so marriage is cheating guys....cos the girl no gree get married in her prime....

My money is mine while his money is ours....
This is the female national anthem of selfishness in marriages.

cooooooks:
Check if the study can be age controlled?

Generally, and in other studies I've seen, people who marry younger (sub 25) are more likely to get divorced.

Why are sub 25 girls more likely to get divorced? Because the girls still feel they have lots of options since so many guys are still asking them out.

And why are girls 25 and up less likely to get divorced? Because at 25/26 they have started seeing visible signs of ageing in their body and understand there will now be less demand so they cling on to the best man they can find (thats for the ones that hv sense oh). The ones that dont have sense wait till they 30.

Kobojunkie:
Grow a brain!

get a life. don't you have a life? and don't you know everyone is not a brainwashed nut job like you? I'm closer to God than u so now go fukkk urself u religious nut job and FAGgg

Kobojunkie:
1a. David was not a Christian. Instead He was a King under God's Old Covenant Law of Moses and the Law did not deny even kings the right to polygamy. The only stipulation was that the King could not have too many wives.


1b. Christianity does not preclude polygamy and polyandry. As a matter of fact, Jesus Christ, the one who is Law over all Christians, made it clear in Matthew 19 vs 2-5 that the same law established by God in the beginning where marriage is concerned also applies to all Christians - followers of Jesus Christ.

1c. God Himself gave the wives and concubines of Saul to David so David did have wives and concubines before he plotted and killed Uriah for Bathsheba.

guy leave my thread na wetin? I hv a feeling say na nyash were dis guy dey find.... but no I'm not gay thanks!

FreeStuffsNG:
Hmmm. Same UK planning to build defence submarines for Australia can do better to manage its energy crisis before they drag their citizens back to the stone age.

Thank God I am a Nigerian.
Even here in Nigeria, nobody digs a hole in your car tank to steal petrol. That's a low for the UK.

Meanwhile, oil is already zoomed past $78 and doing $79 now ,so there's no end in sight for their energy bills rising.

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Nigeria is among the best countries in the world that's why the colonists came in the first place

Kayberg:
Scarcity huh?
If we tell you to read the Bible with understanding, you'd scream No. Now see what you're saying…?

“And David came to his house at Jerusalem; and the king took the ten women his concubines, whom he had left to keep the house, and put them in ward, and fed them, but went not in unto them. So they were shut up unto the day of their death, living in widowhood.”
— 2 Samuel 20:3 (KJV)

If he had 10 women as concubines, was there then any scarcity of women?

the verse u hv quoted supports my argument. he had 10 girls but "went not in unto them"(meaning didn't sleep with them).... he was doing holy holy.... instead of taking one of the 10 as a new wife he went for another man's wife...thats holy holy + scarcity mentality

Ayo081:
Oh I see,

This things aren't new. If you we're a true follower of Christ as you said, you should less shocked and might not open the thread.

Wonder why the Apostles were admonishing God's people? cc Col. 3



Why not we ask for divine guidance instead?

You never mentioned that there're God's people today enjoying their marriage life.

this thread isn't for religious nut jobs...its for rational thinkers whose rational thoughts hv been crucified with Christ

Kobojunkie:
What is written in the Bible as we see here isn't the problem. Instead your special interpretations of what is written in the book is, and my guess is you have bee getting your ideas from the mouths of Mogs who are equally ignorant.

God never said He created all women as help meet for all men... no He instead created Eve for Adam, the only man who existed alone in the garden of Eden at that time. After Eve, God never created another woman, not even for Adam's Sons.

Another problem with so many of you convince yourselves that to go with your special interpretations you also have to blindly follow whatever contradictions results from your reasoning things ghe way you do leaving you devoid of God's Truth.

guy ur a religious nut job. any self respecting person who has been asked to leave a thread will simply leave. thanks.

Ayo081:
Oh great, you know every scripture is God's breathe?

nobody is arguing with the written word of God....what we are saying is that what is written in the bible deviates from real life results...

for example I no longer see women as help meet in the real sense of it though it's what's written in the bible..

I see women as help meets of convenience....whatever help they are giving you has to be convenient for them and or they must be benefiting from it somehow.....

this doesn't mean I don't agree with what the bible says.

when you question what the bible says you gain greater knowledge of the bible.

Ayo081:
OP if you continue with your analysis, it'll get to point where you might discard Christ's promise (that He's coming back)

lolz no I'm actually a very faithful follower of Christ....

These arguments I make here I discuss them with God too.

I believe God expects us to ask questions and challenge things and not just be blind followers....

When a Christian man that's struggling is toasting a girl, because of the bible he believes the girl will consider him though he struggling since bible says the woman is help meet... not knowing that the girl will primarily consider a guy that will provide for her & doesn't want stress

8. The Bible says woman is a help meet. That's God's INTENTION. How many Christian men have taken this to heart only to be disappointed when girls don't perform this role.... the truth is that the vast majority of women aren't help meets to poor men but are only help meets to middle class men or to wealthy men. they don't want poor men regardless of how born again the poor man is!

A woman being a help meet to a man is conditional upon what she's getting in return....

Jas80:
Na wa. The black race is really something

my dear the currency launch was blocked by France... just Google "eco currency launch block france" for details.... it's because France is opposed to it and made manoeuvres to block it to remain in control of its African colonies that it was postponed.

it's because the black race is great that they decided to form colonies here!

Theunbothered:
We are doing well, that's why we beg foreigners for everything.

Beg for loan, beg for debt forgiveness, beg for food aid, beg for military hardware,beg to build infrastructure, beg for clean water.

I don't want to experience the poverty you must have gone through to make you believe that Africa has been "doing well".

it's Western media propaganda that makes you believe that about yourself...

Loan - we beg for foreign loan because foreign western powers ceased the world economy through colonization 100s of years agonand manipulate world trade. Begging for loan is a TEMPORARY measure.

Debt forgiveness - same as above

Food aid - we don't beg for food aid oh. they voluntarily give us...

military hardware - it's trade... we pay for it. and it's called leverage..why build from scratch when Russia and US is good at it?

infrastructure - this one I agree with you on. the indigenous companies tend to do a poor job.

clean water - not true in my opinion as we provide clean water for ourselves

PARADIZEPRIEST:
YOU PPL KEEP CALLIN BUHARI.BUHARI IS NO FINANCE MINISTER,HIS NOT CBN GOVERNOR IS THAT CLEAR? YOU SHOULD BE ASKING ABOUT HIS ECONOMIC TEAM AND POLICY HOLDERS.
WHEN JONA AND OBASANJO WAS THERE THEM CALL OKONJO EVERYDAY! WHEN WHN EVEN IBB WAS THERE HE USED PROF SAM ALUKO (ECONOMIST).
NIGERIA NEEDS OYIBO-TRAINED ECONOMIST WEY E HEAD CORRECT.CLAMOUR FOR WORLDCLASS ECONOMISTS!NOT DULLARD LIKE ZAINABI.
MR PRESIDENT BRING IN ECONOMIST WITH INTERNATIONAL CLOUT TO TAKECHARGE AND REVAMP NAIJA ECONOMY TO BOOMS RECOVERY.LET OKONJA RECOMMEND. MAKE UNA GET SENSE MY NAIJA PPL TO ASK FOR THE RIGHT THING AND STOP D BLAME GAME.

we don't need oyinbo trained economist that's inferiority complex.

Africans have been doing well without Europeans for a really long time.

NGpatriot:
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I said speak for yourself?

Must you bother me with your frustration, hatred and bitterness? Na by force.?

yes you said I should speak for myself which I've made clear I'm doing merely staying facts.

so keep your frustration, hatred and bitterness to yourself.

NGpatriot:
...speak for yourself abeg...

I am speaking for myself you inferiority complex laden and colonially brainwashed british slave.

NGpatriot:
In their hateful and bitter dreams, only.

The world is betting on Nigeria and our future.

Our IT sector is number one in Africa, we received more IT investment than any other country ion Africa.

Our airline industry that was crippled and decimated during the last admin is growing at a breakneck speed with new airlines popping up and ordering hundreds of new passenger jets.

Our rail system is now in the 21st century with beautiful modern stations.

Our economy is growing, and it's still the largest in Nigeria

With the US venturing into Eko Atlantic with a huge splash and massive investment, watch the UK and other major foreign embassies follow the US's lead and pump in more money into EK and LAGOS STATE.

Yes but we must keep the British, French and EU imperialists away and out of Nigeria... the British thieves used military force to invade nigeria around 1856 and they have not really left us alone since then... they are still waiting for an opportunity to pounce again. stay woke guys.

NoSentiment:
A CIA annex office is about to be constructed where torture, rendition, water boarding and other evil activities that America has for centuries been known for would be committed against Nigeria and Nigerians. Yet short- sighted and low self-esteemed Nigerians who always lick the as.s of oyibo will, as usual, turn a blind eye to this truth. Everything America and caucasians do is for the fulfillment of their inordinate interests to control and dominate by fair means or faul, by hook or by crook. Yet they will still claim the moral high ground and their global flock of sheeps will hail them since America controls what they hear, see, watch, touch and think about through the media. If you find yourself always taking the American sides consciously or otherwise, then know ye that you are not a critical and independent thinker.

well said.
And I thought they said nigeria was a third world shit hole.
Why invest so much in it?

Rexwalters1:
Only ignorant tribalistic mumus think Lagos State has anything to do with Oduduwa they should be talking of developing Ibadan capital of Western Nigeria, Lagos State belongs to The Federal Government of Nigeria, We the Citizens of Nigeria, Oba Dosunmu ceded Lagos Colony to the British in 1861 after they helped him defeat Oba Kosoko & seize control of Eko from the Oba of Benin.

Lord Frederick Lugard joined Lagos Protectorate to southern Nigeria in 1906, Great Britain on their exit in turn handed it over to The Federal Government of Nigeria In 1960, the history is there for you to study, in your so called regional Omo Oduduwa politics of Action Group & Awolowo was there @ anytime they controlled Lagos State? Go & develop Osogbo if you are thinking of Oduduwa, Lagos State does not play tribalism.

make una stop to stop to dey call the guy Lord Frederick Lugard - its more like Monkey Frederick Lugard.

NGpatriot:
https://punchng.com/u-s-approves-319-million-for-new-consulate-general-in-lagos/

I thought they said nigeria was a shithole?
No foreign country will be investing this much in nigeria if there was nothing in it for them....

Kobojunkie:
4. One does not first need to be a Christian to acquire self-control, which is key in dealing with lust. Long before I come to know Jesus Christ, I at least was able to live a disciplined life enough so I was not through around mentally and physically by my hormones. Monks spend years honky this art.

So those Christians who struggle with lust as you claim are more than likely those who had no self-control and discipline to begin with.

pls stay off this thread... thanks.

Kobojunkie:
What is wrong with their walking down the isle?

Where did you get the idea that marriage is not for them?

I ask the personal questions obviously so I can get a better idea of where the comprehension issue may stem from. Is the twisted interpretation that I responded to earlier not yours?

I did not say there is anything wrong with their walking down the aisle nor that marriage is not for them. If it works for them then fine.

Dtruthspeaker:
These are the days of blasphemers, mockers and scoffers.

na im not a blasphemer - I refer you to a recent thread of a 35 year old deeper life man that was ruined by judeo christian regulations who is still single - because the church placed heavy regulations on dating/ relationships - I will find the thread and put it up here. It is safe to say that his life has been ruined by the religion (not by God though) . christian religion is one thing but God is seperate.

At 35 he is too old to start understanding how women work and too old to understand that women dont get attracted by bible verses....

Christianity can be dangerous if it is not practiced correctly. The practice of Christianity calls for moderation.

7. The Bible says "do not be unequically yoked with unbelievers" (paraphrased). In order words do not marry non-born again types.
But it has been my experience that evangelical born again type women are among the most selfish, narcissistic, self serving people on the face of the earth. these women are so selfish and evil that they fail to see that they dont love God more than the rest of us. they also value church and their pastors more than their family - so foolish; these types dont know that their husband may actually be closer to God than her.