₦airaland Forum

Mentholated:
Marriage is an outdated tradition abroad. Totally unnecessary. Humans naturally get tired of one another but cling on each other for survival. Once you exit survival mode, you will naturally want to have more freedom to explore life. Once you are in a non- judgemental society, the rest is history.

I believe that marriage in its traditional form is outdated and needs to be reformed....one of hose reforms is that it should be made normal for women to bring money to run the house.....this is partly because they are more loyal to their feelings than to your sacrifices....even after bearing all the financial burdens, she could wake up one day, with changed feelings towards you and leave you....

sukkot:
So guys we need to understand that women are drawn to protectors and alpha and strong men. It is how they are wired.

Something happens to a Nigerian man when he gets abroad and the women notice it. The man gets emasculated by society.

He goes from being a strong figure of authority in Africa to an unwanted disrespected black man in the west.

Even a 17 year old white boy on the job can almost slap that 40 year old naija man on the job and he will be shaking and calling the 17 year old boy, Sir.

The man is emasculated by society. Goes from being an alpha dog in naija to a puppy in the west.

Our women sense these things and to a woman if you are not an alpha dog you are just useless.

You start emptying the trash and making breakfast and washing dishes now as the man. Jobs that you used to hire maids to do for you in naija.

Not only can a 17 year old white boy disrespect you on the job but you are now a dishwasher at home. You have no value in society.

Anywhere you turn up you are not celebrated but tolerated.

After a while the woman starts to see that this guy is truly worthless to me, why do I need to coexist with this emasculated societal reject ?

I am better off by myself and I can get a better job than him here as a nurse.

He has become a burden to me.

This is why most women chase their husbands away from home after they both relocate abroad

The reason women leave men after they go abroad is because marriage is not necessary abroad....the woman is given money by government, the police are responsive, what do you need marriage for??

989900:
That struck-through part has little or nothing to do with it.

I've had the privilege of visiting a few African countries, and over the past 20 something years, the privilege of interacting, working, befriending/unfriending, almost all the over 50 nationals of Africa, either in Africa or out of it.

My verdict: There are smart people all over Africa, and dumb people as well.

On the average, Nigerians are generally more exposed/informed than most other Africans; above all, Nigerians are more daring, brave, courageous, and confrontational.

Ask people who went to Libya in the 90s, they will tell you Libyan policemen have a saying: one Nigerian is equal to 10 other Africans (in everything, from good to bad).

Being confrontational is savage and barbaric.

Hanndye:
It's the way to go. Housing is a business, there you be no privilege to tenants to take landlords for a ride. The issue of tenants locking up apartments and disappearing into thin air should also be looked into. Methinks there should be a limited length of time that tenants can do that.

This is a welcome sudden awakening.

While the apartment was locked up has rent not been paid?? Why are you trying to control someone else life? The black man is cursed

Akaegwu:
Property agents in Lagos contribute 80 percent of the disputes. They are simply wicked

How??

BennyDGreat:
Monthly rent won't work in Nigeria.
A lot of people are too difficult and dishonest.
It will create so much problems the government will not be able to handle.

Doesn't this show how savage the black man is??

Righteousness2:
One thing many do under Stand today is that the Greatness of America all these years has been because of its relationship with ISRAEL.
America became a super power because of founding fathers deep relationship with ISRAEL.

The relationship with ISRAEL will also be a major cause of her fall.
I know the present America leadership will soon turn its back on Israel as Nomerica today has turns its back on God.

You will just open your mouth and be talking nonsense. America itself was founded on injustice, killing of native americans. The actions of Isreal must be consistent with the teachings of the bible.... this conflict had been solved long ago - East Jerusalem and West Jerusalem would solve the problem according to UN solution.

chazon:
Am in my 30’s, My wife and I have been living in separate locations about 4yrs now. With intermittent visits 3-4months intervals.
Few days back wen she visited, I exchanged one of my new fones with her so while I was checking out the fone so I could delete some stuff and familiarize with the fone(her previous fone ,now mine)I casually stumbled into her FB & WhatsApp and saw sex chats with different men including her ex. This will be first ever I would be checking her SM, calls, SMS or whatsoever.
When I confronted her with these evidences, she rather than apologize to me, began guilt tripping me with how she’s been ignoring my own philandering (but no evidence, she’s just basing them on speculations).
She dragged the fone in a bid to snatch it from me at the Mall in public.
I told her point blank how disappointed & angry I am and am separating from her.
I arranged for for logistics to take her to our house in the town she stays.
She’s called my dad. I have no idea what she’s told them, but I got evidences.
We do not yet have a child together.

Did I overreact??
How do I deal with this situation
Mature advices will be appreciated from experienced people

Nobody is anyone's exclusive property... this is what ive come to realize ooooo.

finallybusy:
Japa gone wrong. Black monkeys will always abuse a system in place. No wonder the UK government banned health workers from bringing family members over. The man has ended his life. I wish the children the best.

Na you and ur papa be monkeys who lick the ass of the British Island savages aka white monkeys....

ednut1:
female gender mutilation is an heritage in many African societies. Child marriage too. Are you in support of , After-all its heritage

Oh ye colonially brainwashed soul....female mutilation also occurs in Europe....and child marriage too...western Europeans are savages....

Discountsempai:
Nurse thought she was in Nigeria where praying for patient is met with gratitude well well.

Again, the problem with Nigerians japaing is that they take no time to find out about the culture of the country they go to.

The UK, ladies and gentlemen, is a post religious society. That means a large percentage of the population is either atheist or agnostic. They don't do prayers. As a Christian,your job is to pray for them in the privacy of your house. Not to place your hands on them.

But Nigerians are so focused on the money that they do nt focus on the things like culture and so forth. UK ,people ,no be Nigeria.


Am sure she will come home and give testimonies about how she was persecuted for her faith. She was not..she was just plain unwise.

Next time, pray in private. If you must pray directly seek consent first. UK is not a Christian country. Has not been since the colonial times self.

Good post. What Britain spread around the world was freemasonry not Christianity. It's more probable that Christianity came to Nigeria thru Egypt and Ethiopia - both mentioned in the Bible than thru the hungry British island savages

Gajagojo:
And what percentage of Catholic church girls are NOT oloshos

The problem with Nigerians Christians and Muslims alike is hypocrisy. Very quick to judge people as if they are clean

You claim to be whatever , who knows Christian maybe
Jesus REPEATEDLY preached against judging and condemning

Remove the Log in your eyes first before the speck in your brother's
Judge not so that you are not judged
Let he without sin cast the first stone

and so on
but you are here condemning White garment
Is any church in Nigeria better or free of oloshos

You say their men are promiscuous are they the ones whose clergy are known for molesting small boys or homosexuality?

The fundamental question is this
YES OR NO

If Jesus was alive today would he associate with Portable

I heard Catholic girls like sex wella wella. Is that true?

victorclean:
You mean your mother is not faithful and submissive?. Bro please man up enough and leave this alone.

Emotional manipulation won't work....no 18 year old is talking of faithfulness cos they in demand....only 28+ years old women talk of faithfulness cos they old and hv no other option than to be faithful

victorclean:
What if she is among those that are very submissive and unapologetically faithful?.

The submissiveness and faithfulness of most women are fake....read my previous post again

victorclean:
At least you are seeing the futility of body counts , provided we are disease free, fertile, respectful, submissive, faithful, intelligent, creative, virtuous, mother to our children and husband, God fearing, non addict to lots etc.

Am very tired of informing the imature of the virtues to look out for in a lady.

Please be a man. Body count is the least relevant or irrelevant in marriage ok. Maybe you need to marry a virgin snake to be wise

Actually I still disagree to small extent....she will not be submissive, faithful in her prime years cos she's in demand....they are only submissive, faithful towards the end of their shelf life cos they getting old not cos they really are....get it? Its all fake....how many submissive 18 or 19 year olds hv you seen?? They are in demand....

victorclean:
But you men rush to LovePeddler old white women or rich ladies like me.

You can't conclude that all virgins before marriage are faithful after marriage even your sisters.

Why not be a man by trying not to base your individual baseless analysis on assumption or force irrelevant conviction on people. HOW IN THE WORLD YOU ARE SURE THAT VIRGINS BEFORE MARRIAGE ARE ALL FAITHFUL?.

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX and try to man up enough for marriage when the time comes for you.

You do hv a point...but men will always gravitate towards young virgins....it doesn't mater if she sleeps with other men in the marriage.....what matters is that she got married as one....

Similarly it doesn't matter if a man goes broke after bring rich when he was getting married....what matters is at the time he was getting married, he was rich....

victorclean:
You are the one that ask questions and provide answer at the same time . Some marry at 20yrs without any body count but have more than 300 counts in marriage before getting to 32. Be a man , don't join the effeminates boys

That doesn't happen and if it does the husband should hv dumped her na...

victorclean:
What of if you marry a virgin and she later become highly promiscuous?. The most important is being unapologetically faithful to the husband and not the body count.

You are one of those very cunning babes....unfortunately the manosphere over the past 10 years has exposed even the most hidden female secrets....

Today most women start thinking of marriage from 26 and up when they realize their market value has started to plummet....most marry at 28 - 30 at which age they are already in decline and have now seen visible signs of aging in their body....

So of course they will be "unapologetically faithful to the husband" lol...and even warn the husband not to look at other girls lolll

Angelfrost:
First time he has said something sensible in a long while...!

I agree absolutely.

Anyone still bound to religion is yet to fully obtain mental liberation.

Religion is good....but in moderation....

jaxxy:
when u date broke girls this is the mindset u unconsciously and arrogantly bt naively adopt to the detriment of safety while providing u with a false marriage security when infact u are seen as nothing more than a paycheck not a human.

based on the personality I seek in girls I have dated mostly independent girls and maybe due to the fact I didn't grow up around hungry dependent girls and neither to I have a dependent mindset myself I don't usually get attracted to girls who are lazy and searching vigorously for sm1 to depend on financially. its a red flag for anything genuine and a turn off until I see reasons to feel otherwise.

if a girl needs needs money or financal security I would rather help her on a neutral ground or a strictly business grounds bt love will never be in that picture because that's not how love works as far as I'm concerned.

You said "dated" independent girls. The independent girls don't need marriage.....if they getting married it's either being out of religious convictions (even then they do it when they want not when you want) or because they value more permanent companionship (don't forget they hv had bfs in their earlier life)...

Are your children not special? Didn’t you get those children through marriage? It’s not all about having kids but meeting with expectations of life. Would you be a happier man single at your age?

Children aren't special because according to the Holy Books, all human beings are born with a sin nature and that the heart of man (including babies) is evil and desperately wicked - who can know it?

Angelfrost:
Let Nigerian doctors be abeg.

They are overworked and underpaid.

How much does you government budget for healthcare every year?!! Compare that to what they budget for their personal cars, houses, yachts, etc?!!!

In some public hospitals, surgeons are practically doing 5 surgeries within a short time frame under the most inhumane conditions...!

Maybe you don't know some surgeries are performed without electricity and adequate ventilators and ventilation.


You need to go out there and do some research! Then, you will see how rotten your nation is.

Barely 6 months in office, your president has already gone abroad for healthcare twice.

Even your Labor President has been flown abroad for mere punch in the face.

So, what exactly are you dragging the few hardworking doctors for?!!! Instead of pressing for better healthcare system and better remuneration and working conditions for your doctors.

You people should continue electing useless leaders, then turn around to wail like idiots.

Blackman with ur funny mentality....if xthey are overworked and underpaid then they should resign....meanwhile those xthat do this are private hospital owners...the Blackman always creating excuses for incompetence.

ijustdey:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/11/bloody-weekend-in-benue-22-killed-in-rival-gang-war/

Men are the problem of this world..why aren't female gang members killing themselves....

tonididdy:
Egyptians are strong racist.
...have you even left your village sef

They aren't....Egypt and Ethiopia worker together even in ancient times....

GO0DHardDick:
Dey play!

Even SA are racists, let alone Egyptians!

U think north Africa countries considers themselves as Africans? Dude when they talk about about blacks, na Nigeria and West Africa along with East Africa dem dey talk about. North Africa no join

Egyptians consider themselves Africans....

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh. You're the one who needs to be decontaminated of racism and ingratitude. Please go and read of Chief Adebayo Ogunlesi

"ingratitude"? Its the British savages that need to be grateful to the Africans - but I dont blame you - because your colonial brainwashing is complete.

Since when did exposing the british become racism? I have many british friends - however the truth about the Mau Mau uprising in kenya which left 11,0000 dead etc must be mentioned.

We gave them science and technology - they are savages!

Ajsmart:
Rubbish!! Britain who are used to stealing Africa. resources and destabilising Nigeria’s growth are suddenly interested in “investing” in Nigeria?

Read my comments on this page. The worst part is those in government have colonized minds....same as most of the nigerians who are rejoicing over british "investment"...

The British are thieves and opportunitists - ...They should give 80% of land in south africa and canada back to the owners - that should be the first "investment"

BigBashiru:
The negro fails to understand that this is both neo colonialism and the uks determination to counter russia and china and other african countries trading among themselves because the british savages still believe africa is their territory. white monkeys....

Simply put, the investor owns the investment... so if britain invests $5m into healthcare - you think its good news - the day they decide to launch bio warfare against nigerians what can you do? its their investment.....they own what they invested in.

its better to seek investment from other african countries. i dont understand why people are rejoicing over british investment - these are people that are actively trying to steal zimbabwean and south african land as we speak.... they are savages and nothing good can come from their investments...

FreeStuffsNG:
•Lagos office joins operations in South Africa, Kenya and Egypt.

•Agency focused on Nigeria’s food, power and industrial sectors



https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2023-11-02/uk-s-bii-opens-in-nigeria-amid-plans-to-boost-africa-investment#xj4y7vzkg

The negro fails to understand that this is both neo colonialism and the uks determination to counter russia and china and other african countries trading among themselves because the british savages still believe africa is their territory. white monkeys....

opamoses1:
https://www.channelstv.com/2023/11/03/france-to-return-150m-abacha-loot-presidency/

When many African countries are looking to cut off the French and to cut off bilateral ties, Nigeria is looking to strengthen it lol.

France in a desperate move to remain relevant in west africa where it still thinks of west african countries as its colonies, is suddenly in nigeria returning abacha "loot". mschew.

omooba969:
It's called partnership - ditch your ignorance.

One sided partnership.

The western Europeans are savages...these are unrepentant colonialists always looking for African prey....

Nigeria is much better off dealing with Iran, Brazil, Paraguay, India etc than the colonialists and savages of western europe.

Electricity was first invented in Africa and Middle East....they claimed it was Faraday that invented....they steal from around the world.... they tried to erase African history....though they partially succeeded (most Africans hv inferiority complex) but the truth such as the Timbuktumanuscripts show libraries existed in Mali before they did in Paris....

Nigeria will be much better off running away from the colonial regimes of western europe: France, UK, Belgium, Germany and Portugal and Italy....