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highness25:
if na Nigerian Chancellor go their side Dem go give am this kind treatment? I'm just asking!

Don't mind the inferiority complex laden Nigerians....

The western europe savages including the Germans know that with the assistance of the Russians and Chinese that the world will soon become multipolar with multiple centers of power so they are stylishly begging...

The Germans invaded Northen Nigeria around 1808 and killed millions in Namibia around 1908...


These are savages....don't trust them...

Arutan:
Which OAU compared to Unilag. You just need to be an Akokite to experience modern university learning and environment. Those days you can easily distinguish an Akokite from the rest. Unilag remain and will alway remain the greatest and most modern University in Nigeria.

See as you dey rejoice because beggarly Western European savages came to visit your campus....Nigerians and colonial mentality

FreeStuffsNG:
Only UNILAG can pull a German Chancellor , the Leader of the largest and most powerful country in Europe, down to its campus. No other school can pull this feat.

Greatest Akokites! You rock guys. If you are reading this and you didn't attend UNILAG, if you can still, try and attend UNILAG, you will find out why Akokites have a very high esteem of themselves

See your colonial mindset....the Germans are beggars....they are always begging since the 1700s...

SuperOnyi:



I will have to check this out.

This year I asked myself, why is it that science and technology appears to b in the sole province of the 5 colonial powers of western europe. Ever wondered why it seems everything was discovered in Europe? They also taught us that the industrial revolution started in UK haha....these claims are all but vestiges of colonialism....

The truth is science and technology was invented by a global body of researchers....the Europeans claiming it as solely theirs is colonial education....that's what colonialists do...they give you a version of history that glorify themselves....

They can even steal from you and now change the history and say what they stole from you is theirs and that you were living in mud huts until they came and showed you light. Hahaha.

SuperOnyi:




Every civilization needs the other to learn new things, I wonder why these monkeys keep insulting their ancestors when they were far better than them.

Sub Saharan Africans didn't really go across the Sahara desert except for empires like Mali Empire and others we didn't know about.

Did you know that West African empires imitated the guns they bought from Europeans? If they were so "dumb", how are these guys passed iron age and did some great things a lot of us don't know about?

I used to hate on my ancestors but I was just a kid who had been fed with all those BS. Ask yourself if these ancient guys achieved a civilization all on their own, what would they have done if they were in strategic locations?

Isolation can really hurt anyone not to talk of a large population (North Korea). Remember Japan? Remember China? China sailed across the world but chose to destroy their ships and list everything including the knowledge.

Let us learn to think outside the box and remain logical, it is hard not to emotional in topic like this -- I understand. Africa needs a revolution, when I say revolution, I mean in all areas -- governance, education, mentality, and etc.

If Europeans had done the same thing Americans did to Japan, we wouldn't have people like the OP but the world doesn't work that way -- it is the survival of the fittest.

The Japanese people saw how technologically disadvantaged they were, compared to the Americans and had to end the isolation. They quickly integrated this technology and was able to conquer their neighbors.

Same thing would have happened in Africa -- Ashanti empire, Dahomey empire, and Benin empire would either work together to conquer smaller tribes or fight until the last man wins.

Man...

Read this page or the page before it....a poster mentions that electricity was discovered and used across Africa....now when the British island savages conquer a place, they steal their technology not just their art work....electricity was later attributed to Faraday or so by the British and western European savages....hahaha.... go and Google the Timbuktu manuscripts....

SuperOnyi:




Every civilization needs the other to learn new things, I wonder why these monkeys keep insulting their ancestors when they were far better than them.

Sub Saharan Africans didn't really go across the Sahara desert except for empires like Mali Empire and others we didn't know about.

Did you know that West African empires imitated the guns they bought from Europeans? If they were so "dumb", how are these guys passed iron age and did some great things a lot of us don't know about?

I used to hate on my ancestors but I was just a kid who had been fed with all those BS. Ask yourself if these ancient guys achieved a civilization all on their own, what would they have done if they were in strategic locations?

Isolation can really hurt anyone not to talk of a large population (North Korea). Remember Japan? Remember China? China sailed across the world but chose to destroy their ships and list everything including the knowledge.

Let us learn to think outside the box and remain logical, it is hard not to emotional in topic like this -- I understand. Africa needs a revolution, when I say revolution, I mean in all areas -- governance, education, mentality, and etc.

If Europeans had done the same thing Americans did to Japan, we wouldn't have people like the OP but the world doesn't work that way -- it is the survival of the fittest.

The Japanese people saw how technologically disadvantaged they were, compared to the Americans and had to end the isolation. They quickly integrated this technology and was able to conquer their neighbors.

Same thing would have happened in Africa -- Ashanti empire, Dahomey empire, and Benin empire would either work together to conquer smaller tribes or fight until the last man wins.

Man...

Africa was to suffer the same fate as the native Canadians and native American I.e. wiped out with genocide but the process was interrupted by a combination of local resistance by native chiefs, support of the Soviet Union around 1917 followed by support by China in 1948....other countries that supported African independence movements were Cuba....do you still hear of the native American tribes such as Mohawks, Algonquin etc? No. Because they were driven into extinction....

The European can achieve no evil objective in Africa except thru collaboration with willing greedy or inferiority complex laden Africans....

world123:
What do you intend to achieve with this post? You don't have to post everything that comes to your head. Stop being a baby.🤨

Answer the question. Black man always deflecting facts. Answer the question black man.

CoronaVirusPro:


Atiku should take the case to ICC, he stands a chance of winning


Atiku`s lawyers will not make heaven. They deceived and milked Atiku

Dear black man, everything is not a joke or meme....

mysticwarrior:
Even with this order most hospitals would still request for Police report before treating patients with gunshot wounds, this would be seen as applying precautive measures for their own safety.

No it's not ....its an excuse for laziness....

Dtruthspeaker:
Like saying humans should not be born because they get sick. Another stupid thinking of a mad muslim.

Respond to the question....what is the point of being born if humans would be born with an evil nature? Just respond directly to the question.....

Question to Christians
Is it not better stop giving birth so the race can go extinct.

Your Holy Book also says: "if you being evil know how to give good gifts"

Ensa777:
It is only when you are in marriage that you notice it's much more work than being single.

I dey like live my life on my terms but marriage has and is still bending me. My partner dey hear am too.
Sometimes when I watch those dancing on Saturdays to officially enter it,I just dey SMH.

If not for home training ,I just want to have 2 kids and travel the world without someone always asking me"What of the kids?" Each time I pack for a conference or training or telling me "we need to try for a girl."
I want to spend time conducting researches.
I want to make money and be a great aunt!
To read again the way I used to.The way I used to be in solitude and immerse myself in books.Chai!
Nigerian men are stressful ,they will find a way to gaslight you even when they are seeing pepper in their own

Jewessgratitude,I hope you live your happiness,whether married or not.

Not just dancing but spending millions...

But the children are his too...

Jewessgratitud3:
It is called "self worth." YOU can afford to go with every Tom and Harry because you have have self worth. It's not my fault dear.

No it is not self worth...it is hypergamy...the number one thing that destroys women if uncontrolled...

siofra:
I don't know why but your story is hilarious 😂
You write in a funny way.

Carry go OP, nothing do you♥️
You look very young too, like you're in your late twenties.

This is the path I want to take too. I'm not interested in getting married. I'm going to focus on me and build myself because I'm all I have in this world. May the odds be in my favor. Amen.

Congrats on deciding to take the less travelled path. Do not let anyone force you into becoming a mother if you are not so inclined....not every woman is meant to be a mother...

But be aware of its adverse consequences like loneliness in old age etc...

franchasofficia:
Whenever a guy or a girl feels he or she is too special and better than others to commit to anybody, they always end up miserably single for long if not forever.


Only fools find love.

People who sometimes allow themselves to be deceived end up having meaningful life than those who always overthink life and always on guard against being cheated or used by others.



I was brought up just like you, very strict family, them no born you well to keep a male friend to talk of a female friend while growing up. My only friends were my siblings and few cousins.


I lived a miserable life growing up and even missed amazing people I would have become friends and acquaintance with while I was thinking I was too good and far better than anybody else.


Until I unlearned some of the wrong things I was inculcated into while growing up as a child, I lived a very miserable life; found it hard to talk to girls, avoided girls, always too shy around girls and even guys. My only companion was my book, house chores and my siblings. But when I unlearned and started being open and allowing myself to mingle and sometimes be deceived by others, I began to grow in all ramifications of life and I became more street smart and to the glory of God I ended up a great man with great wife, amazing kids, awesome friends, quality life and more than what I asked from God.


The only thing giving me stress in life now is the useless Nigerian government that always keep me angry at most Nigerians and my new academic study (a cross I carried oh in the name of growing my academic qualifications for bragging rights ).


So op, you made a lot of mistakes, you had lots of things you should have done differently.


Your quick in breaking up is a curse you need to pray over and break out of if not

This is the second post on this thread I am learning a lot from....especially your last sentence... I have a lot of work to do in that regard...

Saintinoo:
That is one reason I don't fancy relationships with women, someone out there will be putting eye on my own money, money I suffered to get. Until I marry a lady, I just can't spend on her anyhow.

In my opinion, marriage is an ancient institution similar to stoning people to death... The marriage provision that everything financial is on the guy's head is old and antiquated..... Just that religious folks refuse to use their head to understand this common sense truth....

Harddiskng:
Imagine having eyes on another person’s money, calling him stingy. She is a thief, you can tell.

What happened to her making her own money even in her 40s... No be small thief...

sonyad:
I don't know u personally and I may be wrong so take my words only if they apply to Ur personality.

I don't think marriage is for you. Plan Ur life as a single. 2 reason below:

1. u come off as flippant, any small thing u run off and break up, u never serious.
That's not the way someone that wants to marry behaves. There will be challenges in dating relationships and u must sit down with Ur partner to iron them out when they arise.
If can't do this, u can't marry. BTW this helps u when married because there will even be more challenges in marriage.
Learn to face Ur issues and address them constructively, not to take flight.

2. U must want something to have it. The attitude of 'if it comes fine, if it doesnt come no wahala' doesn't cut it. U must be deliberate to get a husband, he won't drop from the sky into Ur life. It takes active, not passive participation from u.

Don't be deceived by how good u think u look now, women who never had babies look younger averagely when put side by side with those who have.

In conclusion, no one online should tell what/how to live Ur life. It's your sole decision to make. But if u know u would like to get married someday and maybe have kids, then know that u have some changes to make.

Very wise post...learned a lot from it....

Puss360:
Yes... That's true...kids contunues our lineage... But the main question is as a man what lineage do you want to pass on when you/ the man is poor...
Even bible said A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children, so you need to look yourself well to know if you are able to take care of that child and keep "investment" for him to continue....
So everybody has reproductive organs, but not all has the money to train a child

Well said. I modified one of my posts and wanted to make sure you saw the modification:

It is not a bad thing for a woman not to be inclined to be a mother... The problem we have in Nigeria is we try to force motherhood on every woman... Some women are meant to be career women who have no or little interest in men, some are meant to be nuns in the convent, some are meant to be mistresses and concubines, some female players, etc... its not a bad thing....

Puss360:
To have a child is easy....To see to the needs of that child is the problem..
Try and go out and be exposed and see that there are actually some people living good lives who are aren't bothered about kids...
Some people are actually living for today.. they don't think about anything like future or tomorrow...
So having a child is not a life achievement...
It's just a common option for those who are Sexually Mature to procreate...

I also agree with you that having a child is not a life achievement.... in fact, human beings are an evil specie full of sin and evil mindedness - why then do we continue to have kids as if kids are angels?

The primary reason for having children is to have a successor....

Puss360:
To have a child is easy....To see to the needs of that child is the problem..
Try and go out and be exposed and see that there are actually some people living good lives who are aren't bothered about kids...
Some people are actually living for today.. they don't think about anything like future or tomorrow...
So having a child is not a life achievement...
It's just a common option for those who are Sexually Mature to procreate...

Not until they hit 55 and realize they are now all alone... their friends have their own families... people now refer to them as "pa John"... theres no one to bury them if and when they die... and thats when the regrets start to kick in....they are all alone... no 55 year old wants new friends at that age and their own friends have their own families....

But then I agree taking care of a baby is WORK requires 100% dedication and those who cannot give 100% dedication and commitment to the cause should not have babies....

Finally not every man or woman is father or mothers material... some will not be fathers or mothers - some are meant to be concubines and mistresses and just that (not mothers).... and its NOT A BAD THING if you are not inclined to be a mother...

KyleJason:
Madam Celibacy or Picker,

Keep on with your negative attitude and you'll later realize the hard way that time and tide wait for no woman.

All the sentences about your experience has shown that you have pride and it seems you're already stuck and a prisoner of it.

You're very lucky that all those guys you were able to get close to, were all docile simps... Assuming, you were able to meet an alpha male, your Toto for don tear anyhow.

You cannot find true happiness in a relationship or forced marriage, I repeat, you're loveless.

My candid submission to you right now, in order to get out of this quagmire, is to enroll yourself as a nun in one of these Catholic churches which is certainly your root.

Bst

Time waits also for no man...

3ice9ce:
Just listen to this old glutton . Men want to nack this one and she's calling them suitors.

She is full of herself...

Jewessgratitud3:
It's amazing how I was contemplating making this post before a member here requested or should I say started asking me questions in that line and being a very free and open person, I promised I was going to post about it.

Well... Let me start from my background and up bringing which also contributed indirectly to my nonregrettable actions that has left me in this wonderful marital status.

I grew up in a Catholic christian home where good virtues moral values were instilled in us by engaging us in christian children activities from an early age. The Most social part of my childhood ( apart from school) was around the church then back home with close monitoring. So there was no room for nonsense even up to our secondary and tertiary level. the monitoring was topnotch. So we didn't really get to do shit like our mates who got exposed early to certain lifestyle,; dating number one.

We were overprotected and shaped with these guidelines that a mindset was formed that boy and girl relationship is a taboo ( and it's true). So we knew better than to toll that part.

In the long run, after I have come off age, it became very difficult to date. This was at age 21. Whenever I manage to give a man a listening ear and he mentions sex, I'll run without looking back because that was a danger sign we were taught to look out for. So i was always running away from men because of premarital sex. It got to a point, after looking like that's the only way to get a husband and I was already in my mid twenties, a time when a girl should be getting ready to settle down, I said ok, let me see if I can bend the rules a bit for this one. This man was a chronic responsible bachelor. So I felt it could work out since he's ready to settle down. He was in his mid 30s the and never married. We were in the same compound. So I gave in and we started dating. Mind you there was no pressure from both parents to get married. My parents will never pressure you to get a suitor.

Being a novice in the game, I never knew men could double date or even knew how to handle one when it happens. So, on this fateful day the randy goat came home with another girl. It was our last born that came and told me some girl came to look for him because everyone in the compound knows us together. I was heartbroken and right there I broke up with him without even finding out who or if what they both have is serious. Though I made him cry cos I started entertaining other boys that have been chyking me and bringing them to the compound but I never had anything with them or knew any of their houses. I was just using the to pepper him. Once they say hi, I'll drag them to the compound and we will sit on top of his car sometimes until he now confided in one of our neighbors who now told me to stop that the man is always crying. E never cry. I showed him two can play that game. He tried coming back but I bulshit him.

After that I locked up and never trusted any man. I began to see why my dad was being overprotective. I didn't date again for almost five years and then men were coming but that was when my own shakara increased. I mean responsible well to do men o. That was when men had good jobs from banking, investment and oil companies in ikoyi and vi both staff from five star hotel like Eko hotels and suites, federal palace cos those were the places I worked so I had many suitors and friends but the moment they mention relationship, Ill take off.

Part 2

It continued like that and I was enjoying my life with peace of mind that I forgot about time or didn't bother about it cos I don't care.

When I entered mid thirties, I said let me loosen up a bit but because Ive gotten used and enjoyed single life with peace of mind to that age, I found it difficult to commit again because anytime I tried, I'll start having anxiety. The thought of him cheating on me or even as little as admiring another woman will just make me unsettled and I'll think of aborting mission before it's too late.

So I said to give one man a chance, he too brought another girl in my absence. I found out from the sister and that was it. I called it off he begged and begged that the lady was forcing herself on him and sending him money bla bla.. he made a conference call with his family begging, my mind was made up I dumped him and moved on to a Choir boy Ive been admiring who was also trying to talk me into a relationship. I truly loved this guy and I think I was older than him in age . Though he refused to tell me his age but I was able to deduce from his Facebook profile cos he wrote class of 2006 while I finished 1999 but because I don't look my age, we just looked like age mate and we loved each other.

I met him when he just finished serving and was squatting. I was out of job then but one thing that made me stick with him was, even though he was not working, he shared whatever little he had with me. We were together when a very rich young pastor came asking for my hands in marriage. I told him about it and he started feeling sad that because he doesn't have a bearing now some guy wants to take me away from him. I on the other hand don't really fancy the pastor but wanted to force myself and see if it will work but it wasn't working because I didn't have feelings for him. To now make matters worse, he started showing stinginess. In the three months we courted, we didn't get to sit together because he's a pastor so we only see in church, stand and talk very briefly and disperse and each time he kept posting me about money I asked for to enable me travel for Xmas and the day was fast approaching. It was my Choir boyfriend that wen to borrow money from one girl selling recharge card to give me to travel. Now coupled with the fact that I don't even like him, i just texted him to look for another sister. The highest he ever bought me was two two hundred naira recharge card a stinkingly rich ajebota pastor for that matter ( 2014) but he would always call me.

Lastly, in 2016, my bobo got a job in Chevron with a nice apartment in lekki. Before then we had a small quarrel and we're not in talking terms because I requested for money for hair to attend my twins introduction and he told me no money but he didn't tell me he was saving for an apartment. Even then, how much? So, after months of not talking, he called and invited me over to see his new place. A surprise I guess. I got there and we had a nice time. He tried to make it up to me. He gave me his short and polo to wear that day and took me to a pepper soup joint. **Smiling**
later we got back and ad I was about to shower, I saw a used shower cap in his bathroom. He now handed me a new one from his wardrobe where there were many more. I asked him who used the one in the bathroom, he said baby don't start again. I held my peace.
The following morning he did something that I can't say for sure what really happened.

I slept over because there was no way I could go back from lekki to the mainland that day. That night he came to disturb me and I told him you know we can't be doing this. Please let wait till everything is formalized. When he wouldn't let me be, I left him and went to sleep on the floor. In the morning he woke up and was saying you, you, I was just looking at you as we were talking someone knocked on the door. It was a ladies voice. My ex went to meet her and they were together for almost 30mins before he came back inside. Me i didn't talk. I suspected he went to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left only to come back and it has come down.

We prepared and left together that morning for work. When I got home, I called and told him off. Na small thing dey vex me. He didn't believe it. So many things on my mind that made me take that huge decision. Men are not worth my type.

Since then till date, I stopped anything relationship especially if it's not a born again and I must like him. I faced my God ever since and decided to give myself peace. I can't stand a cheating partner. Disease dey town and I don't want to end up a baby mama.

Now, with the way things are, no jobs, the few decent men can hardly fend for themselves let alone catering for a family, I just decided to let sleeping dogs lie. Make person no come enter from fry pan to fire. Some family men now are dumping their family and running away from their responsibilities leaving the women to carry all the burden. So tell me what will make marriage enticing to me again? Abi na domestic violence? Biko Biko.

And in those 42 years you did not Bleep a male you were attracted to outside of a committed relationship? Its not believable.

Mid 20s is actually even late for a woman to settle down....

Cantonese:
Hopefully the law can do something about it in this country. The law did in in the UK in Ekwerenmadu’s case. The man should face criminal and civil charges.

It was very foolish of him. The victim even dignified him by asking him to fulfil his own part of the agreement.

Does the black man know what justice is? Did the Presidential Election Petition Tribunal not just subvert the will of the nigerian people for peanuts?

Blacks sha...

Kelvinofficial:
Men out there, we need to understand what mind frame is and how to use it to our advantage. The world is against us right from the time we are born. We need to develop unapologetic confidence and strong mind frame. The power that women think they have was given to them by the men in her life. Women are nothing without us. Whether relationship or marriage or ordinary friendship, it’s all about frame. The frame you interact with women and every other person in your life matters! It’s all in your frame!

What is frame?

Freelancerr:
Embrace polygamy.

See my last post on top of urs on this page.

Ogalanyaidi:
I have been married for a little under 2 years. During out courtship, my wife and I were very intimate. Later on, she became pregnant and we welcomed a child but since then, our sex live has never recovered till date. My wife is currently pregnant but the denial didn't start today.

She does everything possible to prevent us from having sex, from laying our child on our bed instead of the court to cleaning or watching movies in the lounge room whenever I am in the room, she will then reenter the bedroom when i am asleep. The last time, she said that I don't do enough to get her arose and that if I want sex I have to earn it. She suggested that I have to start in the morning by being nice to her so when it's night, I would have been able to get her arose.

I work an average of two shifts everyday, and sleep at home maybe 3 nights a week so I can pay our mortgage and other bills as she barely works due to having to look after our child.

Christians who say no sex before marriage how far??

hssd8nland:
The problem is the way our society is in Nigeria makes you want to socialize we are not so used to managing our business . I remember when i was in school overseas you can be in the train and nobody i mean nobody would even look at you everyone is minding his business but down here common passing on the road you just be saying good afternoon or good morning to virtually everyone you are passing till you reach your destination. The society is not the same if you are not so used to leaving by your self leaving abroad will be very challenging for you.

The Nigerian culture of good morning good afternoon is better. Recently about 5-10 years ago, British rail ran a campaign to get ppl to say hello to other ppl....its the social isolation in the west that ultimately causes things like mass shootings