₦airaland Forum

DrAkpamudehe:
I don't think you are accurate here. When you migrate to the west as an adult African immigrant, it is very difficult to break into white people's social network. These people develop their social network right from childhood, and it is the friends they acquire from childhood that they carry on with till old age. Secondly, many times when you are in their midst as an adult African migrant, you find it boring because their jokes, discussions apart from the ones centred on careers won't appeal to you because you didn't grow up there.
The summary of my rejoinder is that it is easier to mingle or break into the white man's social network when you migrate as a very young person. At most, early 20s.

Even the white people sef no get social network.....that's why they are the mass shooters chain smokers and alcoholics....

laivwire:
I feel sorry for her. It's so bad especially when you're coming from a socially vibrant place like Nigeria.

The western culture is so isolated. Hello, Hi and that's all. Anyone you take as a friend is just for drinks/party o, if you assume any other type of attachment, you're on your own except it's your nuclear family.

What I don't understand is why people act like it is okay to live that way. Even Africans keeping to themselves like the whites only to get to their rooms and cry out of boredom. Because nothing can come close to true friendship, not Netflix not studies not work.

She should try to visit Naija every year. Spend at least two weeks greeting and gyrating with family and friends, chop suya and drink our cheap beer. Enter club and shake body, not all that Tecno electro music.

You hv spoken the truth....

Islie:
Apart from having sex with the patient in the hospital’s toilet on the night of 10 June, Mr Onyekpe still went to the patient’s home the following morning and had sex with her.




https://www.premiumtimesng.com/health/health-news/635647-exclusive-uk-authorities-punish-nigerian-doctor-over-sex-with-patient.html

Lawless black african savages

naptu2:
https://punchng.com/phone-dealer-accuses-policemen-of-extortion/

The black man.

InvertedHammer:
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Excessive prayers have a direct relationship with laziness, poverty, crime and wickedness.

It is not a coincidence that the top 9 are the most retrogressive countries in the world today by all indices.

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You forgot entitlement and special status mentality

seguno2:
Person wey God no give happiness wey dey go lick sugar, go soon die of diabetes.

If this is true, then why are Americans not hustling for the visa to African countries, as we are doing japa to their country

Because Africans hv been colonially brainwashed....

jacobs2015:
It's obvious the major sinister motive of all these western agencies is to impoverish, dehumaize and render Africans redundant, hopeless and helpless.

America's World Bank advised our govt to remove subsidy and like a magic, the economy would bounce back, knowing fully well that lack of funds was never due to subsidy payment, but just to make life harder for us.

Now the twin sister of World Bank is telling the FG again to increase taxation as if the consequence of subsidy removal was not enough, now encouraging the govt again to implement another hardship advice.

No international agency has the genuine progress of Africa at heart. All is smokescreen with stupid analysis to bamboozle us.

You are right...and because the African just like the native Americans has been colonially brainwashed that he is inferior, he accepts whatever he is told without question....

Jennyclay:
Biko, do that yourself .

I just described a wrong man according to my own definition.

You are entitled. Better go and start making your money...

orumba:
Church people are the most wicked people. Period

Why do you say that? Please can you expanciate?

Mystery9:
I promise that my wife will forever be free to use my phone.

What does your "wife" do for you that you cannot do yourself?

No one is your "wife"....all you have is a partner which is a more modern term....

Tallesty1:
Idiot advice.

Is this the man who was trolling Obi?

You gather hundreds of people together and marry them off, even paying bride price for the men. Now, tell me, how can someone who can't afford bride price raise a family? Who will train the children?

How about you tell the men not to do things that will hurt the women when they check their phones? I don't understand how a married person can't easily and comfortably check their spouse's phones without fear.

What is there?

What are you hiding?

Why is it there?

If you're not working with DSS, EFCC, FBI, NIA, CID, etc., then what in God's name are you hiding?

Men are polygamous in nature

Godsonkemz:
Many of them are still single because they neglected suitors that indicated interest when they were younger simply because they had high standards and unimaginable expectations while the others have bad character.

Not necessarily...Many felt a better man would come.....

Ladies postpone marriage based on the amount if interest they are getting from guys....marriage is not their preferred form of relationship...

kernniejay:
The truth is that many of them are only looking for either poverty alleviation program or someone to rescue them from shame or family pressure.

Most of them sef

officialwdhtv:
Senator Ned Nwoko and his beautiful 4th wife Laila at an event recently

#wetindeyhappentv

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CyLryF5p-D8/?igshid=NjIwNzIyMDk2Mg==


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF9nH1kc-K0

Real Nigger....I too like this man....

Zayn00:
So na only man dey kill abi… woman no dey kill is that your point? Smh 🤦‍♂️ You disappoint me sha… so chidinma ataga abi wetin be her name na resurrect she resurrect the man abi or for that canada wey u talk the women wey dey kill their children just to be with someone else na wetin? Abi woman wey dey divorce man for there collect everything wey the man worked for all his life na wetin… just look at what they did Emmanuel Eboue … isn’t that killing the man? Nawa oooo

It's about the rate of occurrence.... for every 100 male murders, there's only about 5 or 7 female murders....men believe they must resort to murder in the first instance and that it makes them manly.....women don't.. ..

@Jennyclay Jennyclay
I agree with you that the male gender are largely murderers and savages.....

The truth is no one in this world talks about the male deficiency i.e. they are mostly murderers....only in feminist countries like Canada is this uncomfortable truth discussed.

dododawa1:
Regretting WHITE people are more INTELLIGENT than BLACK people

Blacks are superior to the western European savages....they said Africans are monkeys but hold on to the art work of the monkeys....take a clue from that...it wasn't only art they stole, they also stole technology and renamed it....Einstein wasn't the originator of relativity theory, it was discovered centuries earlier by non europeans

SirLakes:
No wonder they are still pointing guns at you to mine resources in zamfara and several other parts of Nigeria and Africa.

You are superior Indeed!

Chinese isn't white na....the western European is a savage in need of native American and African civilization

SirLakes:
Black innovators living in white man's land


No cap 🧢 You inherited your stupidity

Don't you know Britain wanted to invade large parts of Africa even post independence.... the black man is superior to white folks bro....whites are savages

Tayorshd87:
Yes that one sure na 😊
Is just that am not really financially bouyant that's why I haven't started yet but I have been cheating on her normally sha 😂😆

How old was she when you married her?

Tayorshd87:
Sorry bro u are not left alone I also made such mistake but after all as long as she can give birth 😜

Just manage am as am managing mine now too 🙁

I no dey manage anything oooo....I must hv side chicks and plenty girlfriends outside while she remains the "wife" (in title only)....

dontrulee:
If you did the above, you'll have more regrets Sir.
I once treaded this path you mentioned verbatim, I had fun but I also had regrets. I wished I sticked to one woman

You only hv regrets if you actually fuk around but if you just date in moderation (focus on forreplay and not fukkin with everyone), you will be happier

UncleKoboko:
YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE SETTLED FOR LESS.
If you grew up not being wayward, you should never settle for a NON-VIRGIN girl. Never.

A NON-VIRGIN girl will pretend to love you, pretend to be understanding and supportive but after some times, their true colours will awaken.
They are mostly USELESS, EVIL, careless and selfish Bastards.

Now I have plenty side girlfriends to make up for my errorneous past....

Waiting until marriage to date and get a romantic partner instead of maximizing my mating opportunites (and I dont mean sleeping around - just talking to different girls trying to toast them kissing if the opportunity presents, having multiple relationships but only sleeping with those that love me back and i could get serious with )... i dont do use and dump...

I never had a girlfriend cos I was doing holy holy and marriage was to evening newspaper....was very disappointing.....

Makenz25:
Your case is 90% similar to mine. Just take heart you come out of your depression stronger just the way I came out stronger now.
I always advise young guys, before you talk of starting a business for your wife make she don born like one or two children for you, e get why. Marriage favours women more in this generation. See now she have moved on with the business u set up for her without even a child for you, nah u loose las las.
In my case I told her to choose between her work and the marriage, she chosed her, immediately I seized everything from her shop. No child oh.
Like I said my story is just the same with urs the difference is that I seized the business from her and she left empty handed.

When shall we realize that marriage is outdated? Thats why she chose her business instead of the marriage....That's the truth....think about it.....

wrongnumber:
Nigeria has no value for human life.

GOD bless the United Kingdom.

Don't quote me wrongly... Nah me know wettin I dey talk. You need to live my experience to understand my point.

I agree with you 100%....after seeing the difference between both countries, it's hard not to become a racist...

InvertedHammer:
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Cram and pass education in Nigeria is a waste of school fees. You will see professors and quasi-intellectuals sit around to watch this kind of rubbish persist in this 21st Century. They will make noise, sweep it under the proverbial carpet until another person becomes a victim. Living in Nigeria should be included in the 1000 ways to die.

Why not a law that mandates the hospitals to treat but must notify the local police before such patient's discharge from the hospital? Let me hear anyone try to convince me that it is God in heaven that created the brains of Nigerians. Impossible!

Out of 250million people in Nigeria, there are probably 1million homo sapiens. The rest are just homo erectus.

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That stuff is rooted in laziness....they know what to do....they just use police report as a tool of work avoidance.

jaxxy:
Some hospitals use police report as excuse to reject patients they cannot handle.

Do these unprofessionals and quacks even understand the meaning if an emergency? and the protocols involved?

The underlying cause of requesting police report is laziness....

NaMe4:
Never heard of a government hospital asking for police report before attending to an emergency. A good number of private institutions don't do this.


So if it was a hit and run, they would have also ignored the patient until a police report was shown to them?

The underlying cause of requesting police report is laziness.

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

Pls first and foremost, confirm that this story is real....and not made up....then il advice you cos o don't want to waste my time typing long texts for nothing....

Alexxx2000:
Intellectuals and the good people of nairaland. I just experienced one of the biggest shocks of my life.

As a student of the federal university, I saw a publication for the post of a front desk at a big cyber cafe close to the north wing of our school gate. I applied and followed the recruitment exercise which took 3 weeks of test and interview.

Out of 15 of us that applied for the job of 25k per month, I was picked. I loved it because it only start from 4pm till 9pm. Normally our lectures is from 7am till 1pm. I was happy because it will help me save for my school fees and I hoped to liaison with the students there to learn graphic designing. A skill I love but finance is a burden to enrol and to get a PC.

I was told to resume on Monday. I went there in the evening and the owner came and say my services are no longer needed. I was shocked. I asked him what I did? He didn't answer me. It was the other staff, the manager that told me he will communicate it to me. From Monday till now, I didn't hear from them.

Please, what should I do? I am confused. For those who had similar experience what was your cause. I am so so sad with this. My hope is dashed.

Maybe he changed his mind and decided to do the job himself....has nothing to do with you....

morikee:
Anything marriage count me out 🙌

I hate marriage....