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Lordmech:
One of my colleague at work came begging for cash and I ask him. What happen to your ATM or salary and he reviewed that the wife is the one who sees alert and holds the card.. I was shocked.
My pipo is this love or stupidity?

Nothing wrong with it if your colleague is a careless spender. Let everyone do what works for them. Stay out of it.

GeneralKoko:
I just saw a post on Facebook that was talking about how some pastors fornicate with their members, both married and unmarried. How true is this ?? Have you witness??

Yes wolves in sheep clothing. End time pastors. Eg Apostle Suleiman

ZiniPips:
When I stopped worrying about what other people think about me and stopped overthinking past situations, mistakes etc, It’s truly liberating.

Happy Sunday.

Surgery

Wayne1994:
I will b straight about it......
Am beginning to lose in interest in sex because I observe recently dat whenever I have sex I tend to lose so much weight and I become too lean instantly, after some days I will start recovering but d reason am concerned is dat I don't know if it normal or I shud visit my doctor.
My wife started observing me recently too, so pls is there any solution to it and wat are d tins I need to do too to maintain proper structure and body too even after having sex.
I will b reading comments. Thanks

Are you sure you are eating nutritious food and how often do you do the do.

haggai247:
Abeg comrade where you see for where God give someone wife?
You make your decision when will people learn to live God from their affairs?
The Adam wey God give Eve you no see where adamu dey complain to bros J.

Here's the real truth know what you want and go for it.

All men wey sabi dey Attract they will never chase any woman.

God guides .

GooodHardDick:
Comrade, how come you haven't read my post on nairaland?

https://www.nairaland.com/6959418/why-dont-date-nigeria-girls

I hope you won't end up dumping her. Or getting married to her for selfish reasons then you end up leaving her once you have achieved your aim. Later you will be looking for Nigerian girls. If this is the case,bro how are you better than the people you castigate. Their are good girls, very good girls out there you just have to be a good person, and open your eyes. God will give you your kind. You can't be using and dumping girls, and expect you will ever meet a good one. God will always end up with your type. The so called loving Russian girl, will do you shege if she finds out you are cheating or trying to rip her off.

GooodHardDick:
Comrade. You know say Na true I dey talk. Don't waste your time dating a Nigerian girl bro, u only bang their pussies, dump them and move on.

The OP is busy thinking about a community hoe and her friend who's dying to get another guy's dick. Nawa ooo. Simps will never seize to amaze me!

So you want to marry a foreigner or you don't want to get married at all.

GooodHardDick:
Which love you find? Bloody simp.

U mumu sha. That girl just dey whine you. Oga that girl is obviously jealous that the guy has gone for her friend and she actually likes the guy and wishes to bang him. Alaye, e sure me die say that guy Don bang that ur gf pussy tire. And of course she won't tell you. Simps will never seize to amaze me on nairaland. U don't date Nigeria girls oga, u only bang their pussy, dump them and move on

I thought you were a good , irrespective of the Harddick. Please change that mentality. Remember you have females that are family. What goes around comes around do. I know you may be talking from a place of hurt. Don't make a bad experience change the good person you are.

AdeniyiAr9:
My relationship with my girlfriend is about 7 months old.
Early Las year, she had a little intimate session with a male friend of hers who they attend the same church. That was before we met. They never had sex, (I Know this cos I deflowered her). She told me about this from the outset cos we told each other our past.
She got close to the male friend through one of her besties, a childhood friend and a member of the same church.
Ever since we've been dating I noticed the closeness she still has with the guy. She claims he is just a friend, whereas the guy keeps calling her my love of which she sometimes does reciprocate.
The guy keep wanting to kiss her each time they meet. Infact, the guy wants to sleep with her despite her insistence that she has a boyfriend. The guy disturbance continued till like 2 weeks back after she left nysc camp.
Now this is the issue, last week, she found out that the guy wooed that her close friend and that one is hell bent on dating him. Infact, they are an item already.
From my own observation, the guy is a player. That my babe friend is quite close to me too.
The issue now is, should my babe tell her friend of her one time kissing and touching with the guy to warn her ahead?
I'm thinking the guy switched to the new girl after he failed to get my babe. We've had a big fight over this cos I wonder the secrecy in the first place. Both friends wanted the guy but couldn't tell each other. The guy would have had his way with my babe if I didn't come into her life. But am just worried for my babe's friend
Should she tell her the truth?

Leave it to your girlfriend to decide. She knows her friend better. What you should be worried about is that your girlfriend still has the hots for some other guy . To me a good friend would tell her friend,what has happened between herself and the guy. For me it's hoes over bros or bros over hoes which ever the case may be.i keep very few loyal and trustworthy friends, who knows that I don't lie. I hope her still wanting to have the guy is not her reason for not telling her friends. This should give you an insight into your girl's character.

Lalami3232:
For men, I would say YES.
For women, I would say NO.
Before una go chop my head, make I analyze somethings. When it comes to man and woman eeh, the ball game dey different. Cry all you want, men are polygamous in nature. Right from Bible to our ancestors time, no be crime to marry more than one woman. That's why you go see a man wey get 3 babies with different women, and nobody go talk anything. But immediately a woman born just one or two, she don turn second hand material and almost abandoned project.
Same way a man no fit marry empty handed, he must work hard for money first. While a woman only needs toto and makeup before she's qualified for marriage. So both get advantages and disadvantages. Once again, if a man cheat, society no too dey frown about am like women.

Except the man is cheating with a man then yes ,men are free to cheat.

DarkCaesar:
I don’t feel convenient and comfortable hearing my friend and his gf pray, she kinda hold prayer sessions like she’s in Shiloh or something and I sometimes have this feelings that she thinks I’m behind her boyfriend financial crises even though we all greet and talk like there is nothing but deep down we all feel this kind of tension between us and I’m not happy with this to the point I had to start playing gospel songs whenever she starts her prayers with him and my friend has refused to let her stop coming, she stayed as though they married in the flat…….I honestly don’t know to go about this anymore and I don’t want my friend to think I’m being wicked if I should leave the flat and go get mine because he’s not financially capable of securing one now and the rent is about to due.

Rubbish, fornicating and doing prayer session. Are they stupid or something. Don't they know who God is? ABI is it not the same God we are serving. Call me self righteous. But when I am in sin I know I have offended God, I don't go praying and asking him for favours.
Please look for an excuse and move. Infact start searching now.

SeaTrade:
First of all, reason I created this thread in this section is ,as we all know,alcohol and women go together.
No disrespect meant but it's a great feeling to enjoy it in their company.
So in this thread we'll discuss the flashy lifestyle,the drinks we like,reasons why we love them and also what we don't like about them.
Bad experiences as well and nice memories if any.
It's for educative and enlightenment purposes and for fun.
Who knows,we might just decide to lunch a party from here
Okay guys,so let's do this.
Share your preferences and memories,this should be fun.
For me I've discovered a new friend in Teeling Irish whiskey,the single malt variant.
Had almost a bottle yesterday and didn't get any hangover whatsoever.
Woke up by 5am and executed my tasks effortlessly.
Lalasticlala, Seun...wider audience please.

Smirnoff and action bitter

QuinModah:
From DM,

Thank God for video calls and intimacy gadgets. Not in support though, even of husband and wife should be separated it should be with agreement and for a very short time.

Cerebellum:
Women whose... Not who

Thank you. Very annoying. If you talk now thru will start with lame excuses.

Ezendimmuo:
Good day people..
I called my girlfriend this afternoon...
While we were talking..I heard music playing in the background..
I asked her who was with her...
She said it's a friend in the lodge
I asked her who it was because I know everyone I her lodge
She started asking me why I was asking her all the questions...
There is this guy in her lodge she told me she was attracted to while we were having an argument (she wished she hadn't said that)
The Truth is that this girl has cheated on me in the past twice(those I know of)...I found out when i was with her phone...
Tbh...I don't trust her anymore..
Anytime she says she is somewhere...a part of me says it's a lie..
I know she loves me..at the same time she is confused..
My question is this ...
Is it a bad thing to call my girlfriend and ask her who she is wit or where she is??
Does that make me insecure??
Its a LDR...she is in Enugu..I am in Lagos

if you have cheated before don't ask us any question. Just enjoy each other. Two cheats. You are perfect match.

Badboibipo:
this woman in my compound that’s married to this American man , perfect couple in their early 50s. I recently came to their compound and as usual my appearance deceived her just like everyone that ever sees me. You would assume I have a picture perfect life, innocent face with style. But I’m a broken psycho, y’all on nairaland already know say I dey abnormal. She recently noticed I smoke and live a very weird life and I noticed she’s stop being very friendly, aunty It’s not like their is a chance we would ever fvck so why tf should I try to impress you all for small talk? Women want you to not smoke, dress fine and look handsome but you will still toast them after all that and it’s shakara you will dealing with.

As much as I agree with you. Living a clean life is not about impressing her it's about yourself. I don't think she wanted you to impress her, I think she realises that anyone who doesn't value himself and his body can't value any other person and might have other hidden destructive hidden characters. So get over yourself oga.

LucyArts:
Pls dont mind my errors
So my mum died from stroke related ish 2020 . My father started having an affair with a lady in her early 50's earlier last year but I think its been longr than that as I suspect this affair must have been on even wen my mom was alive.
So during my 4weeks dere throughout 2021 she was a regular presence .

Then as at January this year, she stopped coming i guess. Then when ASUU strike began I came back to visit my dad. He told me he had seen a wife and dt d lady was coming the following day.
So i was expecting this woman abi lady in her Early 50's bt lo I was wrong. The lady who my dad brought home was bout "cant even figure her age sef ".
So everything was going fine until today. My fada hv already promised the lady in her early 50's marriage bt he(my dad) didnt inform her that he had already married the new lady.
So today the lady in her early 50s called my dad DT shes already at d junction without informin my dad abt her coming. Omo I could already see d drama dts coming .
My dad told her to go back DT he didn't tell her 2 come
15 minutes later d lady was already talking and shouting
And den she called me thinking I was going to take her side not knowing that am always a non aligned person . She said a very shocking but not surprising thing
DT my dad and her HV been having ds relationship b4 I was born dt after my mom died she was expecting that d marriage wouldve been done. Naso i juss dy look madam wit bad eye
She tried to explain and asked my dad wat she did wrong BT my dad no even mind am.

D bad tin is DT my mom was thrown out on 2 separate occasion bcus of dis woman so
Now she has been thrown out for anoda woman. As i dy speak now madam dy trek go bustop

Karma is real
Brea

Why are you giddy
Your dad has issues. He is the one with the problem not the women with his community pe.nis. If he is not careful the karma will reach him soon. I also hope you don't take after him. Sorry I am always blunt

FullBlastLight:
A young beautiful Ghanaian lady has expressed gratitude to God for giving her a private part that she can use to make money in order to survive.

From her point of view, ladies can still manage to survive even when not working or doesn’t have a great job.

Taking to her Facebook page,

“No paying job, talent or handwork but we eat every day, thank God for the private part”

So basically from what she said, a lady’s private part alone can provide all the needs for them without talent or hard work as long as men still live.

See Post & Pix Below:


https://www.ghgossip.com/no-paying-job-talent-or-handwork-but-we-eat-every-day-thank-god-for-the-private-part-lady/

She is just confirming what you people say about ladies. So why are you alarmed.

Microwhy:
Most studious guys don't know how to make money..
They believe every situation is a learning curve, even when paid peanut for 200% well done job . They will continue to stick to same under paid job, saying they want to carve a niche but forgetting that they also need money to setup their nitch.
So be ready to help him channel his knowledge into something profitable.

Mine doesn't fall into that category.

MadamVanessa:



I can do that with any other addiction, like smoking, because I smoke a bit, but I can't try it with masturbation. Using my Love Machine to service myself is another level of heavenly feeling. I can't imagine stoping that any time soon. Stopping it means I have disconnected myself completely from this world.

I like ladies who speak freely. I hope you are a lady.

Alaefulu:
Nawa oo,I never reach such extent to get money abeg

Ok no vex. But don't blame me, strange things are happening.

Alaefulu:
Any available girl in suleja,currently in storm star hotel ,I no fit sleep

Ritualist

Moreign001:
So my ex girlfriend who dumped me because I wasn't rich enough for her, chatted me up and requested for an urgent 35k.
I told her I'm having issues with my bank, but that I'm going to ask my girlfriend to send her the money... She got very upset! How did I offend her??

heehee.

Stephen2324:
What attracted you to your current partner?

Spoke very well. Very studious.

Iyaebe:
I’m not wrong,if my husband can be so cruel to starve me because I acted silly then I can starve him too of sex and like I said I hate tit for tat partners

You hate tit for tat and yet you are doing the same thing. Two wrongs don't make a right.

franksam2009:
so in other words he should waste her time for another 6 months and then dump her abi, Weldon sir

My point is ,put her to test. It might not be up to 6 months. Should he dump her over just this incident

Oyinda2022:
I met this guy of recent, we got talking and we got along. He asked me out and I accepted his proposal because we vibe. He told me he’s not in any relationship as he broke up with his ex because she cheated. I started noticing traces on social media that they are still connected. I asked him and all he said was she’s never coming back as she did a lot to him. I asked severally so I could be sure before we go too deep in it. He said she’s never coming back as he resent her now. You resent her and she still posts on social media and tag you, she still comes to your house despite all you said has happened. He sha kept on saying they are not together again. I was now going through tiktok and boom I bump into the girl’s page on tiktok. I saw recent videos of him and her , like two days back . So I screen recorded it sent it to him. I was kinda upset and I sent him both text messages and WhatsApp messages. Only for him to tell me he got my messages late last night since afternoon. I was like I want us to talk about this and he said what do we talk about that , I didn’t believe him initially when I told him they are not together again and then why do I need to stalk her. I was like stalk her ke. I was really disappointed at his response, person wey you talk say una break up last year because she cheated now it turns out to be a lie and now he’s making it look like it’s all my fault. I really do not know what to do?

You are lucky you found out on time. It's obvious they are still together. This is the type of lies married men tell their side chics. They will even say they and their wife are no more intimate until the side chic receives the evidence when the wife at home gets pregnant during their affair.Please ghost him.

Iyaebe:
You already promised her,so fulfill your promise and you shall be rewarded for it.Please her in every way you can

Very stupid advice. He is a married man. From getting her the place ,he will start coming to sleep with her, from there pregnancy will come in. How long will he keep paying rent for her.

funkmrflexx:
I ended the relationship with My ex due to her bad characters. And then I later got married.
While we were dating I wanted to get my ex a place for her to stay due to d fact Dat she doesn't have anywhere to go when she graduates.
Both of her parents are divorced and remarried with kids. She can't go back to her father's house because he harrases her sexually and his wife his not welcoming. She can't go to her mother's house cus her stepfather won't agree. During d time we were dating she was staying with me for this reason but as soon as she got into school her character changed so I ended it all.
Now think of her predicament I'm thinking of getting her d house I promised so as for her not to go back to her dad's house. I have the money to do it that's not a problem.

I'm still having second thoughts though. Abi Make I just use my money package myself

Oga ,tell your wife and sees if she agrees. Also would you like your wife to do same for an ex? ABI you are looking for opportunity to eat your cake and have it. You want to keep humping her

sizzoo:
I think the what the flipsides can cause explains the point best, as there's nothing I can do to the one who choose to hate, but the one who disrespects may get a reaction.
So Respect over Love.

Love covers all things.

Carcholce:
So many users are bashing the OP for being petty. But they are ignorant of the real world and how it works.

https://www.nairaland.com/7055209/denied-wife-food-night-right


Women are very known for shlt testing a man. His wife gave him a shlt test and OP passed with flying colors but that’s not the end of it.

If OP had cooked the food and invited her to eat, that would be the beginning of

“I cooked yesterday, you should cook today”



Never let a woman catch you unguard. If She had gotten away with her test. She’ll introduce more test to see what and what She can get away with. At last you’ll become “that man wey dey go market for em wife”


One demented user called “Iyaebe” said she’ll deny him sex for doing that. That explains everything you need to know. The moment they realizes their shlt test is not working on you, they use their only lifeline to try manipulate you to delusion.

Iyaebe was totally wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right. I don't want to believe it was a test. I don't support the man not giving his wife food. Being suck doesn't mean you can't press phone. Let love lead.

emmanuelbrown26:
Another follish comment

You can't even spell,even with auto correct on your phone. I bet you are not married. When you have been with someone for 15 years and are still with them and you say this maybe I might agree with you. Now run along nit.wit.

yinkaOdutuyo:
So the main issue that led to me denying her food this night.

I asked her for the two of us to go and get ingredients for food, she said she's having serious headache so I went alone.

When I came back I washed the rice and put it on fire and I also start grinding the pepper and tomatoes with manual grinder.

After few minutes when the rice was done I asked my wife to go and put down the rice from fire, and fried the stew afterwards.

She just started shouting she's so tired, her head is hot and making hefty sounds inside that she can't stand up from this bed.

I insisted and she went to put the rice down and off the gas, instead of her to start frying the stew. She just came and meet me on the bed.

And she started shouting I didn't tell you am hungry, am not even eating this night at all. Do whatever you want to do, I'll never stand up to make any stew in this house. If you want to eat go and make the stew yourself.

I just stood up and enter the kitchen to make the stew. As I was making the stew, my wife that said she's not feeling fine was busy watching film om her phone. She complained earlier that her head is hefty and aching her that she can't stand up from the bed, but she stood up and start looking for the BT Audio to connect to her phone so that she'll be able to hear the film audio very well.

Immediately I finished making thr stew, I served the food on the table and the next my wife wanted to stood up from the bed to join on the table so that we can eat.

I just told her that You can never eat from this food this night and tomorrow morning, because you were the one that said you were not hungry that I was troubling you to make food.

I also told her that the headache allow you br watching films and also allow you to be looking for BT Audio. But denied you to cook for me.

So house I want to know if this is right or wrong pls or what can I do.

For you to be coming here to ask shows that your conscience tells you, you did wrong. I guess you don't have kids yet. The best way to punish her was to allow her eat after eating then you can talk to her. If she is not feeling fine get her drugs to take. Then watch what will happen. I believe she will be too ashamed of herself to try it. In marriage you take care of eachother.