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Kobojunkie:
1. It is a tried and tested alternative to living as opposed to OP'S current situation which she complains here contributes to her loneliness.

2. Like I said, we, all of us, have desires, so nothing wrong with that.

3. You's have to ask them that. I am personally not against her continuing to pray since God commands we continue. However, I am more interested in her living and enjoying life even as she continues to wait on God for whatever it is He has to give her.

4. I am afraid you have me mistaken for someone else. I never expected to become a babymama. Matter of fact I see no sense in her desire to birth a baby after what she has experienced of life herself.

I suggest you go back through my posts to read again and be sure who your response ought to be directed at.

Kobojunkie:
1.

The reason we tell people they don't need this or that to live is basically to help them see that they have been able to survive without those things they pretend to have great need for.

But why are you enjoying that and trying to convince her that she doesn't need it?

Op has survived 47 years without a husband and children and constant sex. So she really doesn't need them. She may desire them and rightly so but even though she doesn't have them, there is no real reason for her to live miserable as s result.

She needs them because she wants them. And that's because she desires them, biologically and otherwise. Forgive her for wanting to live like everyone else just a little.

2.

We get them because we have been convinced by society and traditions of men that we need these things in order to be fulfilled. But the truth is far from all that.

Society or not, she's just a woman who craves a child and a job and a husband. Things majority of world societies have. She's not out of place to want them, too.

3.

Now the reason we ask God is because God said we should ask Him any and everything we desire.

And she has desired it for long and hasn't gotten it. Why are people still asking her to pray? Is she Hannah or Sarah? Do they think she has not prayed?

4.

I never said it is wrong for her to desire these things, nor did I suggest she should only seek that which is pure - Lord knows what that even means - my suggestions are simply to get her not to forget to live and enjoy life even as she continues to directly seek what she desires from God Himself- not through men and their many voodoo houses aka churches.

You expected her to become a baby mama, which is tantamount to fornication. But you don't want her to go to a voodoo house because they are impure? Which master do you serve and want her to serve?

Kobojunkie:
1. What exactly are the OPs shoes that you assume I am not in or never walked a mile in?.

2. When one refuses to use what one has available to one simply because it does not look exactly the way one would rather it be, then one is being rigid in one's belief and even Jesus Christ instructed His disciples against such living. He said those who will be worthy of Him need to stop thinking about only that which they want.

alphabbey1:
The point is, it has no health defect to men... Females bears the brunt

TkhGuy:
Lot of you are too emotional to read carefully, I said I told her from first month of our date that we aren't going no were. But she kept coming back, I have broke up with her prior yo this attitude but she kept coming back.

Klass99:
Chineke , which light? Yeye dey worry you sha, abeg swerve one side.

Good light can come from a vulcanizer too, you know. You are the third person who has mentioned teaching to me.

In the mouth of two witnesses a thing shall be established. Now, that it is three witnesses I will surely go for it.

Kobojunkie:
1.

Anyone she can reasonably bond with. I remember I used to have roommates of the opposite sex back when I was younger and we bonded as single professionals back then. During the Covid-19 lock down, I did the same with a different group and enjoyed it too before I eventually moved back to my base state.

Great advice for a 47 year old lady.
2.

You probably need to begin opening up your horizons abeg.

The truth is often seen as rigidity.

Open them all you want, and yet some people still want what everyone else has. Even you aren't in the OPs shoes, no matter how open your horizons are.

3.

These are simply choices available to her now so she does not live miserable now. If roommates go, she can get herself new ones. If relatives get tired, she can make herself new ones. The point is life doesn't need to be lived according to frigid rules that are of little benefit to one's situation.

They aren't frigid rules. They are her beliefs.

4. Yeehaw

Kobojunkie:
1.

Who?

The guy who wants private discussions.

2. I am not a student of covenants, but whatever you say on it should be true. Do you believe in the Spirit? Are you one with the Spirit? Walking in it?

Klass99:
Brat my girl, your compliment is well received and appreciated.

I'm a lawyer by training, not by heart. I like that you mentioned teacher, because switching careers to education and training (teaching) has been on my mind lately.

If you don't mind my asking, are you a believer? I ask because I don't know and I'm curious.

Nuttella:
It took you 3 years for you to realize she is not the one for you, you wasted 3 years of her life, that what make people become get so aggrieved and hurt/even kill their ex partners.
They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Men never speak up?

Stop lying abeg!!

Romanceland is echoing with the voices of men. It is men and women abusing him. It is men creating threads bashing women up and down.

lilvicky68:
Lol

Kobojunkie:
The only way to getting anything from God is by submitting to and obeying the teachings and commandments given us by Jesus Christ..... there is no secret to any of this.

Stop deceiving people using God's name..

Klass99:
Oh thank you, I did not want to quote your entire post either but you made valid points too. The biblical reference to Job reminds me of the need, to focus on good things I like/want. I'm not catholic, are you? You just provoked another story .

Some years ago I was at Paul Adefarasin's church for the first African Praise Experience. One of the pastors conducted a beautiful exercise with a powerful message of unity, I will take to my grave.

The exercise was this, in no particular order he asked;

1. All the Anglicans in the house to shout (Anglicans only) after that....
2. Let all the Baptists in the house make a loud noise and baptists alone would shout.
3. Let all the Catholics in the house make some noise.
4. Let the Methodists shout.
5. Let's hear the Pentecostals.
6. Lutherans pls make some noise.
7. Presbyterians, Assemblies of God.......etcetera.

Then finally he said, let all who believe in Christ Jesus make some noise. Omoh, if you see the mighty and thunderous sound, all of us combined made ehn!

The different denominations combined and shouting together as believers in Christ (not as people of different sects) was a wonderful experience for me.

When each denomination shouted alone it wasn't as strong, great or loud, like when we all did it together. That was unity, something the devil hates and is afraid of the most amongst believers. United we are unstoppable and a force to reckon with, he knows this and works hard to divide us.

Ever since that night at House on the Rock, I dropped any and all prejudices regarding other denominations. Now, my concern is, are you a believer in Christ? If you are, can we vibe, collabo and get along for the sake and good of God's kingdom on earth?

2nd Story, a former and senior coworker once asked me are you Catholic? I said no, then he goes......kai I really feel sorry for you, you people are not really serious or solid christians. For one you don't do confessions like we do or take the holy communion. I wasn't even offended or defensive, when I think of him now, I smile. He amuses me like some Catholics I have met. They often act superior, are condescending and act like they are the real deal in Christendom while the rest of us are just jokers

In my mind, I am usually like, when will these people understand that we are one in Christ? And it doesn't matter if I am Baptist, Lutheran or Pentecostal? If we both believe in Christ Jesus, then through his shed blood we are one, we are the same. Vision101 was right when he said, deliverance from ignorance is the greatest deliverance of all of time. Even the good book says it, we perish for our lack of knowledge.

You stll haven't told me where you are from. I will be in a certain African country later this year, if that's your home country, it would be nice to hook up.

Kobojunkie:
1.

I don't expect or advise her to "hang out" with people. I actually adviced her to instead find others to live with.

See, we humans have this habit of thinking we are all alone in our problems when the truth is instead that there are 100s of thousands, even millions dealing with the exact same thing you are dealing with right now, even loneliness.

Who will she live with meaningfully, in the way that matters to her realistically?

Living with people who aren't your spouse and children only works when you're in a care home and old, with people in the same situation as you are, and you just need to be cared for.
2.

I have also seen 65+ women who rather than live alone and miserable have taken to have roommates adopting kids or living with other relatives just so they do not continue to stew in loneliness.

And what if she doesn't want that? Because at the end of the day, the roommates will go, the relatives will get tired of her and the adopted children will look for their real parents, and then who will she have?

3.

Christianity does not stop her from adopting kids if she wants kids. Christianity does not stop her from entering into a marriage contract with a man already married or maybe own she pays for sex. Also Christianity has absolutely nothing to do with the choices of Sarah and Hannah.

Christianity excludes such arrangements, except for adoption and IVF perhaps. Unless you have the Kobo Junkie version? She said she doesn't have the financial backup to do those things, so what will you suggest?

If Christianity has nothing to do with their choices, why is it in the Bible? What is its purpose?

She has her life, but is missing a mate and child,none of these are mandatory to have as far as Christianity is concerned, so she can too live a fulfilled life even without.

I don't mean to be rude, but I notice that we tend to tell people that they don't need this or that to live a fulfilling life when we have those things ourselves. People with jobs will tell those without that they don't need one for a fulfilled life, those with children will say they don't need that for a fulfilled life, those with money will say they don't need money for a fulfilled life, hey this isn't an achievement. If it isn't, why do we get them? Why do we tell her to pray and seek God? It's not as if our intentions were so pure that we got them.
Do we think she has not done decades of seeking since she realized she was getting on in years and nothing has been working out for her?

It's not wrong for her to want those things. I hope she gets them. Because her desperation is clear to see.

Elpibe:
The women bears the brunt of abortions not the men.

princeemmma:
Am not surprised, when my wife got pregnant she did not know, she was even seeing her menst stuffs, but i knew first, i just kept calm thinking it was my mindset....no vomitting, no getting tired or getting sick, she was her normal self ............ not until the day she started feeling like something moving in her stomach, when she told me i smiled and told her she is pregnant, she denied and even did not believe me, that's when she decide to go for test.......... and it was true

thesicilian:
I'd be too ashamed to reveal this level of dumb ignorance to the world

Elpibe:
A girl in LASU has aborted thrice for my cousin who is also a student there , it breaks my heart whenever he narrates their sexcapades to me . I hope and pray the girl's womb is intact .

70% of female students in our tertiary institution have aborted

Ketamine9000mg:
Hmmm! Warning of the graphic nature of the post should be stated.

Kobojunkie:
Feeling of motherhood? Have sex with her? ... LOL....

Why she no become baby mama or hooker then?

Rajosh:
I've never been a fan of this but as it stands, since hijab is allowed, she should be allowed too. After all their reasons are based on religion.

Pele10:
Depper Life core member maintaing the standard.

Kobojunkie:
From her own Op, she has family around her. She has never been truly alone.

udoji2021:
I truely understand the op to a great extent, some mothers can be terribly annoying and it will take a great deal of efforts to avoid hurting them physically or emotionally.

but hitting a woman is wrong talkless of someone who gave birth to you, i willadvice you to find a way and apologise immediately, cos only you knows her weak points which you can use to your advantage and beg for forgiveness. BE FAST ABOUT IT PLS.

Moz22:
he was away when it happened... And he's yet to make a comment nor call me since yesterday

Freestainworld:
I sympathize with you for having such a mother, what was your dad's reaction about the incident.

Kobojunkie:
She is not alone.... from her very own story she has never been alone. Instead she thinks that the only way to not be alone is to be married and maybe have kids, but that isn't true at all. Changing one's mentality can make one realize this and that is why I suggest she disconnect from thinking of marriage some of cure for what she is struggling with.

lilvicky68:
Are you into tech?