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A new word has been added to the oxford dictionary. MUTALLAB. <Mu-ta-lab> n: A rich kid who attempts to throw his life away for silly reasons.

Synonyms- Idiot, Ode, Usage examples: Are you a Mutallab? "Stop this Mutallabness". "Get out of the road you Muta-Muta".

Local Dialect Use> " Wo ma Mutallab ori e", "Commot for, diaaaa! Mutallab oshi", "Aga ma Mutallab isi kita kita".

Accepted abbreviation> Mu-Mu.

Enjoy your day y'all.

Any amount that will make you broke n bankcrupt for the better part of your married life, making you regret and hate the institution called marriage.

CONGRATS n welcome to the club. Wish u a blissful marital life. Cheers

As I always say, MARRY WHO U LUV or LUV WHO U MARRY. Divorce is not an option 4 u. Find a way 2 work it out, All marriages av their perculiar cahllenges and there is no clear cut approach in resolving them. All the best.

Hmmm, quite interesting thread. Thot it was goin to be one those one-off thread, but seems to be gathering momentum with loads of advices since that's what the poster is seeking for. I might be wrong but something tells me the poster is helplessly in luv. (wt butterflies in her belly). But guess wat? Don't be afraid of making mistakes. (I'm not saying go make one now). The guy in question has overwhelmed you emotionally so much dat d thot of losing him or letting go hurts so bad. Honestly ask yourself why u feel this way.

I'm one of those who agree that women have a stronger discerning spirit than men. But yet they make mistakes that makes one ponder at times. Poster, look inwardly, search your conscience and soul and pray sincerely to God to lead you in all your thots and actions as long as you live (including this burning issue) and ignite that discerning spirit in you.

However, if you eventually find yourself with him, I BEG OF YOU; PLEEEEEEEEASE DO NOT "SLEEP" WITH HIM (Even if he proposes marriage). You might live to regret the consequences painfully later in life. Meanwhile, get involved in a hobby or game that takes your thots away from him and focus on your dreams in life. Certainly life is more than just wasting precious time thinking and fantasizing about one person. Good luck.

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Poster, even if u had no responsibility towards ur youger siblings, I'd still say ur finances are still inadequate. Meanning, You'll av 2 save 4 a much longer time. However, U did not state wat catetgory of sch ur sibling are attending @ d moment n hw much u expend on dem n if they live wt u @ d moment. I also assume u av a girl u've proposed 2 n has agreed. Trust me, u'll have 2 deal wt so much pressure than u ever bargained 4. My ADVICE, go get a better paying JOB, if ur wife to is also working, mght just make ur life a bit less stressful. If not, u av 2 choice; Leave ur siblings 2 fend 4 their education or marry ur dream girl now n live happily "ever after".

All the best.

Poater, consider yourself lucky for all dis revelation u are confessing yourself. My guess id dat she's just using u 2 support her education financially after which na waka get am. U av bn blessed n priviliedged 2 witness dis happenings. Don't waste time calling 2 talk anything. Stop communicating in any form, assume sh e never existed, find a new passion in  a sport or vocation, free ur mind n feel gd 2 mingle. Bros, @ ur level, u don't nd a student 4 a lover. There a beautiful, single, working-class, financially stable, no liability and God-fearing babes out there looking 4 who 2 tangle wt. and u are here falling sick n dying for dat which who is even more that willing 2 send u 2 ur early grave. Its not worth it. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

Poster, u didn't state ur age and wat u do @ d moment n hw u knew him. He's just playing smart on ur emotions by avoiding u. Cos he knows u well enuf dat u'll start feeling dis way. If u luv ur dignity as an older person who has respect 4 self n may ur bf, avoid n shut dis spoilt little brat out of ur life cos dat's where he belongs. U sef, why didn't u warn him 2 desist from sending u sms calling u pet names? U like it don't u? Just hope u wont come 2 dis forum again saying u fell 4 him n probably slept wt him! dat wld b shameless. Just keep ur head n mind straight up n focus on how 2 better ur life in d midst of dis economic recession.

Poster, hope you've not indulged stuffs dat has driven ur sexual appetite over the roof? U didnt state 4 hw long u've bn married. Anyway, realise d fact dat ur spouse's sexual appetite, crave n drive are not as same as yours. From experience, there's always a change in a couple's sexual life after marriage. Believe me, it 'll go a long in determining d bissfulness of dat union. Having it only wen she's ovulating make me think she's doin it for d purpose of conception. Or it could be dat's wen she's "hyper" 4 d act. Change ur tactics n stop seeing her as a sex object or toy u can pounce on wen u feel like. Real men don't beg 4 sex, they simply work their way thru it n make d best use of each moment (bros, u fall married men hands 4 dat).
Another reality is dat ur worklife has taken dominance, tho u may not know or want to admit it. U spent much time apart n if not checked might see either of u gettin involved in ofx romance. Seat yourselves down and talk it out. Drive together to n from work, church/mosque, shopping, go clubbing every friday ( I do dat, n its working wella), take advantage of Aero discount fare n book 4 a wknd 2 calabar or any choice location just 4 d 2 of u. Look 4 every opportunity 2 b together n spoil her silly not necessarily 4 sex. Infact, discount ur thots from sex in d meantime n tell her u appreciate every moment u spent together (copulating) n treasure her.
However, no matter d advice u get on dis forum, u still have to device a mechanism/secret to make ur marriage work. No 2 marriages work wt d same principle. Pls no matter wat, dont force urself on her or commit adultery. All d best.

The "get rich at all cost" syndrome is responsible for this act if it is true. Rape is a crime that should carry death penalty.

I think the topic shld extend to those those in the financial service sector including motgage banks, micro-finance bank, insurance, stockbroking/issuing houses (investment banking), etc.

That way, we'll get a broader view.

I've been saying recently that Oil will soon become a USELESS commodity in dis country. This is just d beginning. With Shell's exit, others will follow, revenue from oil will drop to an all time low if not roded which will negatively affect our foreign reserve, the politics of petro-dollar will sing a different song, the north will suddenly wake up to "aggressively pursue agriculture and harness other natural mineral resouces in that region" (leading to transfer of economic power to the north after bastardly raping the south), then they'll clamour for true federalism and resource control with constitutional amendment overnight. The guess what? They will start pursuing a seccessionist agenda. That time, the whole "nation" will realise the fooley that we've been subjected to over the past years. No serious nation will want to invest in this part of the world anymore.

Other foreign interest in other aspect of the Nigerian econmy are also gearing up to "offload their assets" and leave as well. Like they say in foreign policy strategy, "no permanent friends only permanent interests".

Lets revert to d old anthem. NIGERIA WE HAIL THEE, OUR OWN THERE FATHERLAND,  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

This certainly is one of d faces of a rebranded 9ja.

Infact our slogan shld read, "9ja land of possibilities"

Congrats. You've solved your puzzle. To quote you "i would rather be with my ex/bf than him. i feel like i have to force myself to get attracted to him both physically, sexually and emotionally".

How did his family know u are older? Have u bn fair in ur dealings wt ur man in d past? Are u "submissive" enuf 2 allow him feel "manly" n be in control? Do tend 2 relate wt him like a younger friend in d past? Do they see u as a desperate old babe looking 4 a guy 2 marry at all cost? U nd 2 ask ur self some more questions. But, ur man has 2 decide on whose side he's on. If he's 4 u, b prepared 4 series of confrontation in future wt ur inlaws, otherwise be prepared 2 mend ur heart n move on.

9ja is so predictable. some of us saw dis coming. Dis was d last joker they had and allowed all d rumbling 2 go on. Now d stage is set for another "Anambra house of commotion". Trust d 9ja factor, d man 'll win d (s)election as d result is already in d waiting for announcement on d due date. May d good lord spare dis nation from further self destruction.

The House of Representatives yesterday mandated its committee on education to conduct an investigation into circumstances surrounding the mass failure of Nigerian students in the examinations organised by the West African Examination Council (WAEC) and National Examination Council (NECO) in recent years.
The resolution came on the heels of a motion sponsored by Hon. Umaru Kurfi and 17 other lawmakers who said they were alarmed at the development.

The 2009 WAEC result released by its National Headquarters indicated that only 356,981 out of 1,373,009 candidates representing 25.99 per cent obtained five credits including English and Mathematics. Available statistics revealed a failure rate of 75 per cent in the case of WAEC and a similar percentage in the case of NECO.
Kurfi expressed dismay that the trend of poor performance in the education sector in the country was capable of frustrating the realisation of the Millennium Development Goals(MDGs), the Vision 202020 as well as the Seven Point Agenda.
He blamed the phenomenon partly on what he described as the “very weak administrative mechanism” in the nation’s education regulatory authorities and urged the Federal Government to adopt urgent and realistic measures to reverse the trend.

In separate contributions to the debate, some lawmakers urged the Executive to declare a state of emergency s in the education sector while seasoned technocrats should be drafted to man the sector in order to rescue the falling standards.

Minority Leader of the House, Honourable Mohammed Ndume, disclosed that it was the children of the poor that were mostly affected in the mass failure, adding that the 26 per cent pass recorded in both examinations was mainly students of private schools whose parents have the money to fund such careers. There were also calls for a re-introduction of the old Teachers’ Training Colleges to raise a new breed of teachers that would salvage the situation but the demand for a through investigations into the situation was unanimously adopted.

me think d poster is just an attention seeker. but if not, be ready to watch ur wife wt ur driver, steward, nepa man, vendor, house boy, her male colleagues in turn or even her bosses. and if she's a businesswoman, d list is endless.

But seriously, NO TRY AM AT ALL wat goes around comes around.

poster, understand her feelings but dont be rushed. mother's av a way of cajoling only child to fulfil their wish. truth is ur mum 'll not run ur home wen u settle down. neither 'll she help u manage ur finances.(he who wears d shoes knows where it pinches) I was in dis situation some years ago. got 2 a point my mum said she'll mind hawk garri to look after my "kids" cos all she wanted was grandchildren. had 2 use my dad as a wedge cos i was beginnin 2 get irritated knowin dat d pressure 'from my mum 'll distract my goals in life. Was over 33 wen i got married cos i took my time to plan d kind of wedding i wanted. now i av 2 wonderful kids n a lovin wife. just keep ur head up n be focused on ur life goals. all d best.

Benin - Ore road. Slept on the express road overnite with my family. My advice if u're travelling to Benin from Lagos, hit the road by 5am. U maybe lucky to get to Benin by noon.

If yiu are working too, u shld av an idea. Most guys don't like it. Makes them think u're sizing them up or tryin 2 av a basis to make comparison or to determine their competence in terms of footing bills. I'd suggest u observe his spending patterns, ask questions as to his future plans (including projects) and what level of commitment in terms of finance h as he done. You may just be lucky to stumble on his payslip.

For me, I showed my spouse my offer letters when I changed jobs while dating. Different strokes 4 different folks.

What are the documents asked for by FRSC, LASTMA, VIO, COUNCIL TOUTS, CUSTOMS etc?

I would av said u r making up 4 his weakness(es). I mean u doing d calling most times. In those past 5yrs how has communication been btw both of u? If its not better than wat u r complaining of now, then it wont after marriage becos u can't seem 2 deal wt dis aspect of his behaviour. Like my dad wld say, "I can't climb up na down u go talk am not wen u don begin climb". Tell him point blank dis feeling, hear him out, device a strategy 2 put him on his toes n see if it 'll improve. I wish u all d best in life.

some post on dis forum do not deserve any form of response. All u attention seekers, go do something meaningful and sensible wt ur time.

Bros, Keep d lowest profile possible. avoid many visitors as much as u can so don't become a target 4 robbers. lodge d cash in an account n do not use ATM card 2 make withdrawals. Try "language dem say u b student". I hope u av, reserve wen u return back 2 d UK? or else OYO lo wa.
Anyway, wish u a happy stay n b security conscious all times. cheere

Good thing i did not attend one even tho my sch was once a boardung sch. I'm quite sure i wld av bn "rusticated"

Poster, comin to dis forum asking 4 advice shows u can't figure a way out. I really sympathize wt u. However, I know it is far more difficult 4 man cheated in a relationship to forgive that the other wat round. I would suggest you take a break for a while n chill. Ask yourself if u can TRULY continue or not. Decide with your HEAD n move on. Best of luck

married for 2yrs 10 months

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