₦airaland Forum

Silentgroper:
Lol. Do u work with d police? U should definitely be part of interrogating team.

to d question; 50%, i guess.

Thanks for your patience.

I like to ask questions

So you want 50% of her income for weeding, grooming flowers and picking the kids from school which is less than 5% of the domestics.

Hmmmmmm.

She you see yourself inside camera

You want an archaic wife however don't want to be an archaic husband.

Go and sin no more.

Silentgroper:
ok. Personally i'd prefer we have an acct in which we both drop a particular percentage monthly 4 d welfare of d family. It doesnt have to be an assigned role.

You want a joint project account.

What percentage of her earnings do you think it is fair for her to contribute to this project account?

Silentgroper:
D basics

This is not an answer na.

You stated what you expect the man to do.

What do you except the woman to do?

The basics can be rent to some, food to others.

Silentgroper:
u mean like trimming d flowers nd weeding out unwanted plants 4rm d compound, why not..
i'd even pick d kids from sch if d need arises.
what's d big deal!

Ok, a man should trim the flowers, weed and pick his kids from school. What fraction are these activities to the overall domestics?

What contribution in terms of finances do you except from a wife?

Silentgroper:
How's wanting a woman to work 4 her own money nd contribute to the family's financial need an archaic idea of a responsible wife.

You want a wife to work and contribute to the financial needs of the family; fine.

Do you think a husband should also contribute to the domestic needs of the family?

I sympathize with madam Folashade.

wilblanc1984:
1. Is it a taboo for my wife to pack her things out of our matrimonial home.

2. Her brother and brother-in-law came to move all her items including some of mine. Is this also a curse on their head for helping in breaking our marriage due to external family influence and control from her family in our marriage?

It is not a taboo.

Why did they come to move her things?

Before you worry about the curse or not, why don't you worry about the state of your marriage?

Washed, rinsed and strung!

I wanted to bold important parts of the OP and realized I might bold the whole post.

Just leave the foolish generation alone.

You preach sexual freedom (guys and ladies having sex with random partners as if sex is going out of fashion) and somehow expect them to be 'faithful' when married.

Is there anything on wedding day that changes a man/woman used to mingling with different bodies stick to only one person?

Some have boasted sleeping with their married exes; some are Kings and Queens of 'goodbye sex' etc.

When you sow the wind as a society, you will reap the whirlwind.

Titi03:
Hmm, you are right on this one.. it's quite disappointing that men aren't fighting for Don Davis the same way women are.. I wish they would channel their energy more on things that matter tbh. I've aggressively and consistently used my relatively large platform on twitter to lend my voice to #JusticeForDonDavis and sadly I've seen more women do the same than men.

But back to the topic, I tend to approach things on a level playing field - I do not support what women of this generation have turned feminism into and I don't agree that traditional roles of cooking and cleaning should be classified as "slavery". Every gender has it's own responsibilities - call me a "defender of men" all you want.

@bold:

I am also disappointed that it is women championing Don Davis' case.

odinson1:
We don't Generalize this part

we only say the Only thing MOST Nigerian ladies have to offer in a relationship is Sex! Marriage is quite different because a responsible Wife knows how to cook and take care of the home and kids ( which is a contribution to the marriage).

But as for the normal Dating relationships, Sex is the only things Ladies offer. They don't bring resources like money,Shelter, food or even protection! The man brings all these and still plays the Active role during sexual intercourse. So tell me,what do Men have to gain In Dating the average nigerian girl?

If relationship doesn't pay you, then jump straight to marriage.

Silentgroper:
if this u run/would run ur home, then good for you.
but do not impose ur archaic idea of a responsible man on other7.

You want archaic idea of a responsible wife, you don't want the archaic idea of a responsible husband.

Silentgroper:
Please can u make ur point without using "responsible man".

Hahahahahaha.

cooooooks:
The mom that you think was happy at 31 more than likely got divorced at 47.

Stats?

Uyi168:
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And when they decide not to work, sit and take care of the home, depending on your money solely.. you and your type will still turn round and call them leeches and liabilities..

Patriarchy001:
It is nature's call - an undeniable inbred desire for most women to raise children.. take Linda Ikeji for example who despite all her achievements being a millionaire, admitted that having a child was the most fulfilling experience of her life.

This is the same reason why no woman is happy when she gets married and doesn't have a child... why women start to wish for a husband when they reach their 30s (like Seyi Shay) .. or turn motivational speakers like Toke Makinwa, showing off material things online to mask her unhappiness.

It is an inbred desire for a woman's sense of accomplishment to be tied to her ability to nurture a child - call it God's will or Evolution.

MOST Men & women are hard wired for companionship and child bearing.

If not that women have sold their birth right and offered milk for free under the guise of freedom, men wouldn't have mouth to create foolish threads.

Men need marriage more: that's why it is said when a man makes money, he wants more women.

When a woman makes money, she wants no man.

When a wife dies, the widower married asap; a widow can stay unmarried.

Instead of you to build yourselves and choose whole women, keep dragging your broken selves and complaining when you get broken women like you.

tobechi20:
They are happier than our grandma

How did you judge that?

abumeinben:
Stunning is in the eyes of the stunned!

She is pretty.

Most beautiful woman?

Dating a 35 yr old billionaire

Toor.

People now more than ever need God's direction in their marriage.

Too many snakes and vipers.

I hope they mend their issues.

Happy wedding anniversary.

More of God's love and blessings in your family.

P.S.: never knew baba was married o!

This woman should have just shut it and faced front.

It is obvious she had an affair with the MD and those are his kids.

She and Oga Tunde separated in 2017 and moved on.

Tunde had another relationship heading to the altar and babe is pregnant.

She should have resisted the urge to shalaye and kept moving on.

Some rebuttals make you sound foolish.

BRATISLAVA:
Now we have the two sides of the story they so badly wanted.

Let us see if it will logically affect the judgement by the male masses, or see if they will remain sentimental and bigoted.

This rebuttal makes sense to you?

It proves the wife and MD had no relationship? It proves the kids are for the deseased even with the striking resemblance to the MD?

Hmmmmm.

Is there any reason why a poor family with five kids (four kids too much) are still giving birth?

This is how poor Nigerians recycle poverty and never get out of it.

Tomorrow, someone use them as a reference why Nigeria is not working.

Pochettino:
Nigerian poor people are highly irritating.

When you look at them at first, they look so weak & harmless like they cannot do anything but when you see how many kids they can make you start to understand how immorally energetic they are. Always fucking helter skelter like goats and chickens. If they are truly in need will they have time to feel Hot, spread legs and Bleep anyhow?

Look at this woman. If you see her strugling on the street, you will assume her mind is on how to make money & better hers & her kids lives but No. Its not d case. Her mind is on how she can get home & bend over to be bleeped like a LovePeddler. Same with her ambitionless husband. She has finished fucking now but cannot fend for herself. She & her husband are mad.

I just hate poor people

Immorally energetic kwa?

Making DNA tests mandatory in hospitals would make room for more fraud, bribery and manipulation.

A wife can bribe the hospitals that the kids are for the husband

A husband can bribe the hospitals that the kids are not his if he wants to divorce the wife.

Husbands should do the test discreetly themselves if they have a reason to do so.

ahnie:
The ice cream part got my lolzzzzzzzz.
the she collected it and LICK part is epic.

As in

Very hilarious!

angelfallz:
Definition of successful marriage can differ.

There would be someone married in his field according to his/her definition of 'successfully' married.

Zayttoven:
There was once a time I dreamt of having the life I have now but now that I do, I don't feel so sure again.
2019, I was so optimistic i'll settle down before the end of 2020. Well, I would blame it on the pandemic but not entirely. I would say it was my fault in some way.

2020, I said i'll try again in 2021. Guess what, I got a job offer which pays double of what I currently earn. It's too good an offer to pass by, but then it reduces my chances of getting married this year.

Oh, I also forget that I'm travelling to the U.S this March on a type rating course which will take a couple of months. After that, I'm thinking of relocating to S.A for the new job.

In a nutshell I've zeroed any plans of settling this year.
I feel like my career is the problem here or am I procrastinating too much?
I have all I need except time.

If you've ever been in such a situation how did you handle it?

Male or female?

Age range?

Career?

Why must it be all or nothing?

Are there no successfully married people in your field?

Hilarious OP

How are men their worst enemies according to the OP?

Farki:
Here's the thing though, those foreigners and pan Africans have a rose tinted view of Africa due to not having any solid culture to associate themselves with.

They latch on to anything African in an attempt for forge an identity which is only related to them by the shade of brown they are born with.

I personally find Pan-Africans irritating.

Another view is that colonisation and Christianity/Islam has turned the artefacts into sinful idols lacking in purpose aside from leading men astray into the sinful "old ways of our ancestors".

Good points.

Can Ogundayo in Ibeju who poured palm oil and sacrificed goats or humans to Ogun see it in same light as Frank who sees Ogun idol in a museum?

Chioma1989:
Loneliness and boredom there could be killing. I don't know how Nigerian singles are managing over there, especially those that were formerly living in Nigeria with all the activities and suddenly found themselves in one or two rooms basement apartments. When I had my first child, I went alone but the boredom and loneliness complicated my frustration.

On my second coming, I insisted my mum joined me and I felt better. My people, abroad is good but I can't live there permanently. Though I am still hustling with my second hand clothing and shoes, praying God's continue blessing on hubby, na Nigeria sure pass for me but I won't hesitate not to help any relative willing to Japa if that's where his destiny lies. I pray that my relative, who is a practicing nurse here succeed with her UK pursuit. At least, I would have someone over there and be visiting. We are investing on her with a hope of success.

@bold: