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thorpido:
You sure say no be village people remote her so?

falcon01:
as Hard as I try to believe, The story no add up abeg!!

RTSC:
You are an interesting character.

TheRedpillguy:
Ok cool.

Poor you

Good luck

RTSC:
What is your opinion on oral sexxxx?

Can you give head? Woud you like to be given head by your partner?

WORDWORLD:
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WORDWORLD:
The designer of this social media platform NARIALAND did put your thoughts in mind, that is why there are sections on this platform for the list you have made above.

PERPHAPS YOU AINT AWARE THAT YOU ARE ON THE ROMANCE SECTION. Here we discuss about puccy

TheRedpillguy:
You don't find it odd saying "poor you" followed by luck and a wink emoji?

proclinician:
Have their own money from where pls?

TheRedpillguy:
Hfhehheehehehherehehehhheehehehdhhdheehhdhehdh No thank you. I will not step inside a prison. I don't need a woman taking over my space.

SegFault:
Unfortunate thing my man, lots of Nigerians have mental issues, both male and female. The nonsense I saw in Uyo proved that.

Dpsychologist:
As funny as this may seem. I have Discovered that simps/nice guys have Financial dominance(findon) complex. Lemme explain

Financial domination (also known as money slavery or
findom ) is a sexual fetish , in particular a practice of
dominance and submission, where a submissive ( money slave, human ATM usually a male) will give gifts and money to a financial dominant (money mistress, findomme, money domme ) woman .

The relation may often be accompanied by other practices of BDSM and master/slave relationships, like
erotic humiliation , but there may be virtually no further intimacy between the individuals.

The relationship between the "slave" and the dominant may take place solely via online communication, but it is not uncommon for the "slave" to accompany the dominant while shopping and paying with the submissive's money.

The submissive guy may grant all their money saved and earned to the dominant(woman) , in addition to many other aspects of their autonomy, and it is not uncommon for both partners to have an intimate relationship as well.

Financial domination can also be distinguished from sugar baby relationships in which a sugar daddy/mama offers gifts and money to the "baby" in return for a relationship, generally without any explicit elements of domination.

In financial domination the submissive has no expectation of sexual contact in return for the money, and often there is no physical contact of any kind between the two parties.

TheRedpillguy:
I personally think sex is over rated. How about you stop manipulating men leading them on to spend then turn around and say don't expect sex.

Let me put it this way. Men don't owe women anything just becouse they have sex with them.

There are threads that talk about the above topics.

You are right on one thing thou. Women don't owe men sex for spending money.

The way I see it, Men don't owe women anything!.

TheRedpillguy:
Do us a Favour and tell us what you know. Will you be obliged to discuss string theory? How about quantum computing, maybe less talk about space x falcon 9. Are you down for that? Nots like there have been threads here where they talk about politics and programming. Typical Nigerians Men, we just sit and talk about sex all day long. Thanks for pointing that out even thou it might be a thread that sex related topics will discuss in. We apologize. Please can you go ahead all mighty non sex talking goddess of all, tell us what to talk about?

Haywhymido:
Ladies treat good men with no respect in their prime then expect to marry such men after they have played around town with the bad ones. Men are learning fast.

Angelfrost:
Nengi is not decent abeg... She is just not into that idiot! He knows this, but dumbly believes persistence will pay off! Smh!!!

CAPSLOCKED:
THIS IS WHY THROUGHOUT MY ENTIRE LIFETIME I HAVE ALWAYS SAID THAT MEN ARE THE DUMB FISHBRAINS. FROM NIGERIA TO USA, SINCE THE BEGINNING OF THE EARTH, IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN THIS WAY AND SIMPING WILL EXIST FOREVER BECAUSE OF TESTOSTERONE.

proclinician:
Ubunja is very much smarter than you and I can't see any trace of intelligence in your thinking. Before a young woman chooses a boyfriend what comes to mind is the competition. Most women below 25 has a group of friends, these are not friends in the traditional sense of the word but they're competitors. They compete on who has the latest bag, shoes, expensive treats, trips, wears the most expensive cologne etc. This factor shows you why there's a lot of jealousy among female cliques because each is constantly trying to outdo the other. In Nigeria where young women are judged to be incapable of doing most of the jobs and where they also have to resort on the ever booming but saturated beauty industry to feedback on the competition, they're not very likely to make a lot of money here so it's guys that finance this competition. When I was in school I dated this particular girl who has about 3 very close friends-cum-enemies. They fight everyday and they're best friends. They lie to each other they say all manner of things out of jealousy that are just unbelievable. One day this girl received a Zara 8.0 designer perfume from her brother in Dubai and she told these friends that I, her boyfriend got it for her. These friends started gisting her how they will change it for their boyfriends until the poor guy buys them perfume worth over 20k. The day we broke up was after the clique was in my room then so I noticed they wanted to discuss something but just going superficially. Before then I have gotten a wind that my girl is cheating with a yahoo guy. I told them I wanted to get something outside so they should stay. I left my phone on voice recording and hid it somewhere in the room. After 30 mins I returned, played the record in front of everyone and all hell was let loose. Just there I called it quit.

You have the wrong perception of everything and I wonder if you've had any experience with young women. When a woman makes it known to u she's not after your money, she has another boyfriend or she's a prostitute. She has to be in the competition and if you're not financing it, somebody else is.

cooooooks:
I knew a foreign person who wanted to know more about Nigeria, I think she was dating a Nigerian guy.

After 2 months, she left all her Nigerian FB groups and quit twitter.

Why?

Every discussion boils down to banging.

GboyegaD:
People need to learn and life based on their society. I have friends like the men you mentioned but thanks to the Nigerian group in my city. They try to quickly let the men understand it is a new terrain and you just need to learn. One was always complaining about baby sitting now, he tells you he isn't interested in too many hang outs because he needs play with his kids. His focus has changed within two years. Many crashing marriages is due to selfishness like the case of the lady you mentioned. We all should learn we are a team and not individuals.

GboyegaD:
Both the men and women have expectations which may not be real. Imagine the ladies wanting a man who is Nigerian and Canadian (he pays all the bills as a Nigerian and does house chores, pushes the cart, run the errands as Canadian husband) at the same time and same for the women (she should share the bills as Canadian and she should take care of the home and be super submissive as the Nigerian wife).

ednut1:
Is it even easy finding a spouse in Nigeria Lets start from there.

lionlee216:
Dating African(Nigerians to be precise) is like an headache over here.. when I first got here, the first Nigerian lady I met, our conversation ended within minutes.

Girl : how long have you been here?
Me : less than a year
Girl : Do you have green card
Me : No
Girls stop responding

In the grocery store/Mall
Me: Hi, You look beautiful. Whats your name ?
AA : Thank you, that's wonderful sweet. My name is Tisha
Me: Can I have your number and call you sometime?
AA : Sure. There you go OR I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend.

The AAs are very straightforward in their conversation. They wont come to you with bills and other bullshit. They got their shit together.

Me : Whats up, whsts your plan for the tomorrow/weekend
Nigerian Girl: I dont have free time. I'm always busy.
Me : Oh, I'm thinking if we can hangout for a bit
Girl : Why?
Me : Nevermind

One thing is AA makes is very easy for Nigerian guys to ask them out. They are always friendly. Its either they like you or they don't.

Dating Nigerian girls will be like Lionlee, I told u about my bills, how much do u want to be helping me with monthly

The moment they get laid, they automatically assume you are in relationship.

Nigerian Girl : where are you? Look at the time. Do you know the last time you called me last? You just chatting me since 4hrs ago?

AA : What's up babe, i haven't heard from you and I guess you are busy. Carry on with your day. Text me when you can. Miss you.

The list is so unending.. The sweetest thing that can ever happen to you is to date an AA woman that is educated(At least Bachelor degree).

If i grew up here, i for sure know I will never get married. Me getting here opened my eye to marriage. Why get married when you can always get everything in a marriage with your partner without getting married?

I really feel for Single/Unmarried Nigerian girls here. I really do.

The one i met last was 37yrs. You clearly put on your dating app you are looking for something serious. You gave me your number. Response always slow, add me to whatsapp, You no gree! Send me some of your pictures, Na wahala saying she doesn't take pictures. Ask AA girls for pictures, you will see a mature response. After sending pictures they will tell you when the pics were taken and location.

Advice for my Nigerian girls? Have a white friend and AA as friend and learn from them

#OkBye

Barbsamiin:
OP, Finding nigerian is a good idea as oneday matters may likely arise, so these are the places with the large number of nigerians in CA if you want to find one.

Ontario- 29,600 nigerians

Alberta- 13,000 nigerians

Manitoba- 3,900 nigerians

British Columbia- 3,100 nigerians

Good Luck.

baby124:
Land is also very important in Yoruba context. There seems to be disdain in his comment for a child with an Igbo mother but Yoruba father owning land in Igbo land. When Yoruba land is open to him to buy. Well it’s quite eye opening that he’s supporting a system where he will scream blue murder if he faced that discrimination in Yoruba land.

baby124:
So you don’t buy land in the SW? Did the SW kingship fall apart? Is that land not ancestral land Chai, so you are afraid of Yoruba’s owning land in your area but you don’t mind buying land in Yorubaland. See your funny thinking... even when the owner’s mother is Igbo. So women are nothing to you? Shame!

Gilgil:
The challenge with many of us is that we don’t do research and understand prior to blanket statements.

Let me clarify the culture to you:

1. All ancestral land Owned by the father is inherited by the sons.

2. Other property including estates that are not ancestral land are shared among children.

3. At their Traditional marriage , the family gives the daughter her inheritance to go with to her new home. This goes from cash, purchased houses/land, shares, furniture, cars etc according to the family’s wealth So that she can go build her new home.

4. All the mother’s estate is exclusive preserve of the daughters including land, houses etc provided they are not ancestral land bearing the family name. Only exception is in the case of a polygamous home where a house is built by the man for each wife. In this case, that house owned by the wife is inherited by the last son ( because it’s built on ancestral land).

5. All daughters have a seat at the family table to influence the direction and growth of their fathers houses. These are the Umu Ada who continue to earn proceeds of economic property ( Agric plantations of old) from their fathers house. Daughters own these and get the yields. Their sons can be given inheritance lands. Again,these same Umu ada culture Upheld in Igbo land to preserve the strength of daughters is being attacked by these same people who don’t understand the inheritance culture when they say a wife has the only say in her husbands house.

So, this culture creates a balance where all ancestral land is kept to promote the family name and inheritance along the male lines while
Other estates are given To daughters.

The key is to understand what “father’s estate” means first in Igbo land. Again an Igbo man builds his wife up with business etc and all that is totally inherited by the daughters. The sons don’t even look in that direction. E.g: Most if the big shops that have been set up and grown By a husband for his wife when newly married Is totally owned by a wife and shared to daughters only, no sons!
No one looks into those.

In summary, most people don’t research but go ahead to denigrate a culture that has kept balance in the society from day 1.

The truth is that Igbo people will Keep their culture regardless

nifton:
These are the salient questions to be answered, not all this back and forth people are going.