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crackhaus:
Have women like the one in the OP or those who would support this news, ever be known to make any sense when it comes to reaping from where they had not sown?
They simply want to cash-out.

Being an opportunist and a gold-digger is the new "independent woman".

That lady is probably going to write a book very soon on how to be a strong beautiful 21st century woman, lol...

jaxxy:
That is why some Christians/pastors will call for private vigil and end of doing another thing.

jaxxy:
See grand stupidity by some knowledgeable Christians. She praying and that’s when ur mind starts thinking of rubbish thoughts and trying hard to distract her.

nBag:
ok...? noted

next time keep God out of your bedroom play. mbok

invinzible1:
New generation pastor

crackhaus:
These court judgements keep evolving

They never quite lived together, don't have children together, never bought property together or have shared ownership of anything, yet he is to pay spousal support. Lol

I guess what's left for Canadian men is to restrict every relationship to the 3-year criteria so that it won't be considered a common-law marriage – there's always a loophole in every law if you look hard enough.
Just date a woman for two years and some months, then break up with her and move on to another.

These men are royally fücked.

mariahAngel:
Eko lo'bi mi si nau

Omo eko ni mi

ednut1:
Why will someone still alive allow her house to be sold and proceeds shared with useless kids. This story hard me to believe

usj:
You tried, the double "the" is the answer. I was only pulling the legs of those that identified the error because I wanted to keep the thread alive.

usj:
are sure? please check again.

mariahAngel:
Afrika mejik

crackhaus:
Both of you should kuku kill me and take me to heaven at once
https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/rofl.gif

olarbankz:
Today is my wife's birthday but I've been seriously broke. I just miraculously made N20k cash just now. What can I quickly do right now to still make the day a memorable celebration and also make her happy? Cake is already ruled out.
Help, Time's running out!

Jannuxajj:
wow. I went out with a lady and she uploaded some pictures of her in the place we went to and I was wondering is this the same lady and same place we went

midnighter:
Yeah that was my point. If she doesnt have a disorder, fine. If she has, let them help themselves

I dont think its to do with trophy wife.. he feels that she should make more of an effort with his family even if she is reserved. So I am saying that if he wants her to do that then he will have to understand/help her with practical techniques

She too should understand that some social life is important to him, whether she has a condition or not.

Saying he should just leave her to do as she feels like is an extreme, at the same time forcing her to go out all the time when its not in her nature is not necessary. both of them can meet in the middle if the relationship is important to them

The problem Im seeing here is people trying to justify wallowing in their own issues instead of offering a practical way to address what the OP complained about

If somebody is ill or in trouble why not help them to get better? instead of leaving them to get worse because they're comfortable that way

If he complained that his girlfriend is obese and keeps eating too much will they tell him to leave her alone because they cant stop eating either?

Hello @ginaolo,

I had planned writing an epistle because all I saw in the first pages of the thread was sympathy and people telling you to endure with your anxiety disordered fiancée until I saw the later pages which had knowledgeable comments.

To the females who are suffering from a similar disorder [i](not being reserved, or shy now. Those ones are minor behavioral patterns) [/i]and pacifying themselves, try to visit a sound psychiatrist and you would come back to thank me.

First, anxiety disorder may be hereditary or developed over time from the society. It is developed when a person feels hopeless and have a lot of thought processes on how to survive which triggers low self esteem and eventually lead to the terrible anxiety disorder.

This is a mental defect which she cannot control. You said it that she is normal with you. Therefore, she could be normal with every other person as well but that couldn't happen because of this disorder. The fear is always ' I won't make sense', I can't do it '' I'm bad' and so on. Since you have made her realize that she makes sense and she's okay then you will experience her normal cognitive behavior. Until others go through that process, she won't be able to cope with them.

Just like every sickness and disease, you need to manage or perhaps, cure her. This can be done through therapy and medication by a psychiatrist. - you better go to a standard one.

After taking the medications for some time, she would see how it feels to be a normal human being which she had been locked from for years. The journey may be rough though, I believe the psychiatrist would school you on that.

With that, her your problem is solved.

midnighter:
You don't need to be rude, did I quote you?

You can decide to take hold of your problems at any age, stop promoting victim mentality

If she's old enough to find a partner and maintain a relationship then she's old enough to take control of her personal issues.

If you don't know there are people with such severe social issues that they can't even interact with the opposite sex or someone they like

Don't bother quoting me again since you don't know how to talk

koyyes:
Op, your girlfriend could be a melancholic/phlegmatic or probably a combination of the two. Go and do your research on these personality temperaments.

Sensible people here have advised you on what to do. This is not a trait that can disappear but it can be managed. You just have to help her through it with a mature approach as have been advised.

But if you are not patient because you want a tear rubber extrovert trophy wife like mercy of bbn, biko allow the girl go and look for your type.

By the time you find your type, dem no go ask you where your girlfriend dey. Your friends go enjoy am wella.

Good luck.

philip0906:
See them!

They can type with fire and brimstone behind keypads of phones but will claim in real life, they are anti social sociopaths...Yeye

seanjy4konji:
Leave that lady alone...

Later in life?she will find a way of making your avoid your own family and then you are doomed...

By the time your family have access to youthe slow poison would have had effect and your elder sister will fight her way into the house to pick you up to hospital cos of the love where you will probably give up the ghost..

she might come to hospital then asking if you have done your will...

Funkybabee:
hmmmmm


they are the type that won't want a visitor to stay in their house.

reason very well

don't be fool, you will see the true her after one child.

baby124:
Lol. That’s the other extreme. Those ones who fight everybody . At least that one allowed you to enter the house to show you pepper. This one will not let you enter

baby124:
She has ISSUES! This is not shyness. A shy person will go to the event and may not mingle as much. This one behaves like she has a mental disorder. This is extreme my dear. Don’t mistake mental disorders for shyness. Shy people go out and function in the world. They work, they attend events. This one that can not be around people, Is who you want him to marry. If he was your brother trying to marry a girl that is running from all of you like she has something to hide, will you not be concerned?

She obviously has a lot to hide. She’s not a child she’s 24! She by now should have seen enough of life to know how to handle herself in a social setting. She is even Nigerian and Nigerians are very social people, that if you are shy you would have known how to blend by 24.

It’s Either that she has something to hide, she has mental issues or this is the tone she wants to set before marriage and will give him trouble for attending these functions after marriage.

baby124:
Op,
Please just leave her alone. Compatibility is very important. If she’s not willing to meet your family and friends then that is a big warning sign. Just let her go her own way. Every normal girl will be fighting their man to introduce them to family and friends because it shows that they are interested in commitment with the man. And that the man takes them seriously or wants to marry them. It also shows that they are willing to be part of his life and vice versa.

Please and please don’t marry anybody that will isolate you from your family and friends, except there is a good reason for it. Let her go and find a guy like her, who wants to be isolated. I am a family person, not so much friends. Anyone that did not make an effort to be comfortable around and even love my family was immediately cancelled. I had no interest in marrying anyone that will cause trouble with me and my family.

Now that you are unmarried, is the time to look well and figure out what you can live with. Don’t use sentiments and pity to marry. Once you are in it, we can only advice you how to make it work.

crackhaus:

usj:
Correct this without external help.