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Mariomadiba:
This would make a cool meme

True.

afrorossiyatv:
Something stupidly funny happened when I was making this video. We recorded the video inside our University's gym/dance studio and I played Ogene music all through the session. When had finished shooting, one man walked up to me and told me he recognised the sound of the Ogene music and told me he heard it's usually used by African tribes to make incantations and appease the gods.

Then he proceeded to ask me the most ridiculous question ever; He asked if I was playing the ogene music and dancing the way I did because I wanted to ask my ancestors to send us snow and make the weather normal again. (Saint Petersburg is currently experiencing the warmest weather in its history due to climate change)

I couldn't stop laughing when he asked me that question lol.

@Bold:

Oya whisper the answer to us, we are listening

Good one.

Irrespective of what happened, some if not all the kids should have paid their last respects.

Korllami007:
If na me be the woman, I go instantly pluck the man's eyes and gladly go to jail.

Why ruin your life because of a scallywag?

The best form of revenge is sucess

sassysure:
Go to malls, places of work, talk show programmes, it's Megan everyday. I'm even tired of the whole thing.

I just said that British people though liberal are very traditional.
More traditional than us.

Here, the senior citizens voice are like thunder. U must respect them o. They have been following and watching and came to the conclusion Megan is a bitter pill to swallow.

I wanted to scream at one old woman at the mall one day.
U need to see her badmouthing this lady, Megan.

As per them staying married. I hope they do but Harry is somebody that is never stable. Megan too has her motives. If it didn't go as she want, with time, we will start hearing some funny stories.

I laugh every time I read here that 'whites' have no culture or tradition bla bla.

crackkhaus:
Not just cutting off, now they even have to pay back renovation costs on their official residence .. Lol

Mama Charlie is savage mehn.

You don't like royal family but you like royal money,

Na beans?

jesmond3945:
harry is second.

Goodluck.

cococandy:
And what would be an appropriate gesture from her to show that she appreciates them offering her the royal life?

Accept the racial harassment?

Girl your previous posts are strong sentiments for someone too remote from your life. I was surprised honestly.

I do wish them. Have no interest in seeing them break up

You are working top bottom; I am working bottom up.

Every wise person counts the cost of a decision before taking it.

If Meghan says she did not think the royal family would be dismissive of her and she would have to triple prove herself, then she is extremely slow.

I also do not have an interest in them breaking up; divorce breaks people and messes their lives.

However, given the trend, they will.

Neither seems to have the characteristic to make their marriage work.

The press is dismissive in two years; they leave the royal family. A challenge comes up in their marriage?

And note that the press is not the royal family. So refusing to grant interviews or associate with the press would actually be a better 'revenge'.

How many 'normal' people disown or step down from their families when there are issues?

sassysure:
There lies the problem.
She should know Harry more than every other person
I, as an outsider know that Harry will explode after that poll.
She should have stopped him.

Run to the queen, his father, do something!

Even if its against her better judgement.

It will.give her a pass mark. U get it. This is a very public family and she is under the ladder already.

Anything to swerve the blame away from her and gain her that public sympathy she crave.
She isn't smart. Some smart woman would have milked the situation.
Her husband posted something online without informing his people. Just because people said she should be stripped of her title?
Everybody will assume she pushed her husband to do that.
And she didn't do any damage control
Haba!

The generation of instant gratification and ignoring the communal good.

No emotional intellience, nothing. Peeps are just getting weaker by the hour.

Both husband and wife whining like a new born baby.

If one million polls were conducted on earth, do the pollers have the influence talkless authority to strip her of her title?

Do they have the guts to come out publicly to support their stance?

People who have not gotten Brexit straight years after will successful oust a royal via online polls?

cococandy:
He’s her second husband. (Not that it’s terrible if he’s the third)
Do you dislike her because she got out of a bad marriage and found love somewhere else? Or is that she’s an actress? What’s exactly her offense

She was never really scandalous (again not even a crime if she was), was not disliked by any remarkable majority until she committed the offense of loving someone above her social class . And that’s it.

Boom!
I’m stunned

Is Kate not below William's class?

Dislike again? She is inconsequential to me.

She has all the baggage possible and instead of her to pipe low, she is acting like she is the best thing to happen to Harry.

Harry's marriage to her is a mistake. But again, Harry himself doesn't seem like someone responsible with partying naked and other stuffs. He also doesn't seem like someone wise enough to grasp who he really is hence his ease to throw away his birthright.

Now, some others are irresponsible with a sense of civil obligation and pursue spouses to help them achieve that.

She is bi-racial, divorced, an actress, at war with all her family yet she could not spin the situation in her favour by going higher when they go lower.

If she aligned herself with the royal protocol, it would get to a stage the British would stand up for her and she will be a guiding light to others after her.

Instead, she allowed instant gratification without the future rob her of it.

cococandy:
I’m sorry bukatyne responsibility is not the same as accepting maltreatment, enduring racism or daily harassment. That’s not a responsibility. The other royal members of the family were not harassed like them.
Does responsibility include accepting that your child is a monkey because he has black blood? And the royal family said nothing in defense of it’s newest great grandchild. Something they would never let fly if any of the other kids were involved

Even when the tabloid carried news of prince Williams infidelity, the royal house quickly issued a cease and desist letter. So they knew how to stand up for members of their family but stood quietly while this young man and his family were being barraged with hate.

You obviously dislike her but for whatever reason that is up to you. Don’t be like this is about her accepting her responsibilities or traditions of the family. Just be upfront about your dislike of her.

Name one thing she did that was wrong so as to qualify as breaking the family tradition?

She knew she was marrying into a royal family and was probably prepared to do the job of a duchess. None of that job description involves cuddling your black child at night and crying because the world thing you’re monkeys and everyone is okay with that.

I guess she chose her black race and hence is not really a victim of the racism

I got this from cosmopolitan on 67 times she 'broke' royal protocol. Some are just for laughs however.
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/celebs/g18197742/meghan-markle-royal-protocol/

Her in-laws demonstrated their willingness to bend backwards for her as shown below:

She Has Her Own Coat of Arms
Before a woman marries into the royal family, her father traditionally receives a royal coat of arms that's then extended to her entire family. However, because Meghan is estranged from her father, Thomas Markle, and he didn't attend the wedding, the palace announced that the coat of arms was created specifically for Meghan.

She Celebrated Christmas at Sandringham
Christmas at Sandringham is legendary, so much so that only spouses of the Queen's invitees are allowed to attend. Back in 2010, even Kate didn't get to go—she was engaged to Prince William, but she didn't marry him until April 2011. However, Prince Harry asked his grandmother to make an exception for Meghan in 2018, and she obliged.

Meghan chose her black race? I laugh in Spanish!

Meghan is too remote from my life to dislike her. After this thread, I will forget about her till another news pops up again. I don't waste my emotions like that

Harry's ex-girlfriend (a white) reasoned she couldn't cope with their shenanigans and moved out. How a biracial thought she would and start crying foul is beyond me.

Anyways, the babe is sharp: Got a royal wedding and recognition she could only dream off. Now, they have left the royal family, she would still be the wife of the ex-royal.

The Diana of her time

Time would tell.

sassysure:
If Harry divorce Megan today, he will get back his title.

He is using Megan to pay his family back while Megan is using him for her own selfish intentions.
I just said it before,the are both using each other.

And, his family will never leave him. They did what they did for the Britons but behind, Harry is still their son and they will give him maximum support.
Megan on the other hand forgot that English people though liberal view thing differently from the Americans.

I noticed wives of the sons of the monarch are groomed on how to talk in public. Megan run her mouth like the normal American lady out there.

One day, the two of them will learn to face the skeleton in their cupboard.

Hopefully, the prodigal son would find his way home one day.

Will it be with Meghan? No idea.

sassysure:
Exactly

They don't put food on my table.

But the hatred is real here on that babe.

She should have know that she is getting married to a very traditional family and some certain standards are expected.

Will they live happily ever after, I doubt it.
Harry is her 3rd husband.
Wish I can see them married in the next ten yrs.

Two of them are using each other.

Third?

I thought he was second.

The guy is certified stupid.

peacettw:
The rest of the world and I are very familiar with the quote. I will like to think that Meghan, a divorcee, is also very familiar with it as well. Can u blame us for acting according to script? Can she say that she didn't know that this will happen?

Oh and incase you may be wondering..allow me to inform you on time that if this goes down the drain, Meghan will be blamed as well.

@Bold:

Hahahahahahaha!

cococandy:
Do you know her from anywhere before?

By their fruits, you shall know them.

sassysure:
U don't know Harry at all.
This is what he wanted for long. Even without wife.
Freedom.

However he gets it doesn't matter.

He and his brother are not the best of friends. And his personality wouldn't want to bow down to him. He has always been a rebel. They all hoped he will marry a traditional British gal that will tamper his rebellious spirit.

I said some posts ago that Harry is a poster child of someone left to his devices.

Wrong choices trail such people.

From lifestyle to choice of a wife to this.

Meghan knew what she signed up for when she decided to marry Harry. The press has always been unkind to people and they move on. They did same to Obama & family yet they did not step down.

They did same to Goodluck Jonathan, he still contested second time and lost.

Shebi madam Meghan was reputed to leave acting because she is marrying into the royal family. Is she not going back to it?

Any relationship that makes one to lose his/her essence would not stand the test of time. Unfortunately, they are even in a clime that divorce is done at the drop of a hat.

In all of this, I have not seen one thing Meghan is sacrificing; Harry is the one giving it all up. His title, his customs, his traditions, his family etc.
The lure of getting his freedom might be 'sweet' till he realizes it is really gone. It is not on suspension; it is not like partying naked in Las Vegas for the weekend and coming back home to his privileged life. It is all gone! Puff!

Meghan's life was not in danger that he would say I am choosing my wife's life over my family.

Goodluck to Harry.

Cc: DexterousOne

@Cococandy:

Did Meghan know what she was getting into or not?

I am a firm believer of rights WITH responsibilities.

Even average people research into the family (customs, traditions, beliefs etc) of their spouses how much more an enlightened actress marrying into the British Royal Family which is the most publicized in the world?

Meghan cannot claim victimhood in this case.

jesmond3945:
leave their kids for them .busybody.

Don't quote me again until you have the capacity to comprehend issues.

peacettw:
To Meghan,

This started out as a short note but I am afraid it quickly degenerated to this. But I promise, it makes for an interesting read so bear with me.

As a fellow member of your race, Meghan, let me start by saying that I am so terribly disappointed. I do not care if this was Harry's decision, your role as a wife was to deter him from making this colossal mistake. For pete's sake Megan, this decision will not end well...not for you or for your son. Their is no so such thing as a normal life for a once royal. People are fickle and selfish, and your celebrity friends will desert you.... If you doubt me, go and look up Prince Edwards who abdicated. He, at least, got to keep his title and was getting some funds from the Royal family to exist but you both have neither. How is that smart? Where is the sense in all of this? Or were you expecting the royal family to bend backwards and beg you both to stay? Do you really thing of yourselves to be that important?

Ironically, now, the pressure on you both will increase as you strive harder to maintain your fantasy, financial upkeep and lifestyle. You threw away the life long privilege that will ensure you never had to work in the real sense of it for your livelihood. Your only job had been to look pretty, smile for the cameras, attend some royal functions and act the part. A script you could have easily aced with your background in acting. Yes, I understand that you were being persecuted by the family and press... but you also didn't make it easy as well for anyone. Not only are you an American, you are a divorcee, an actress, BLACK and not in good terms with any of your family members. You cant be naive to think that you will be easily accepted. Kate fared a lot worse despite being the perfect candidate. Obama and his family also faced intense scrutiny and profound racism by the press but they weathered it quite well with dignity and class. Now Mitchell Obama is the most respected woman on earth (Google that of you don't believe me) and her husband celebrated worldwide.

Meghan, despite your imperfections, you were still chosen and loved against all odds..but you still weren't content. We all could see that you wanted the attention, to be seen and heard, to best Kate and everyone else...to change an instituition as old as time itself. Well, you have your wish so be ready to LIE ON THE BED THAT YOU HAVE MADE. You both will work for the bread that you will eat. Your fairweather friends will leave in droves because let's face it they were only there to gain access to the royal family. You are bound to face the pressure that marriage but only this time, with no buffers. You may think your life will be better but trust me, it will not. It may even be worse.

I wish you both good luck because you will desperately need it to survive your marriage and the slimy press that will forever hound you in the hopes of your noting your decline from grace to nothingness.

What a nice note.

Harry is a typical example of when a child is left to his devices.

He is neither able to make right decisions nor fully weigh the consequences of his actions.

He has forgotten that whatever he has is because he is/was ROYAL.

Funny enough, I am sure that is one of his appeal to his wife.

Let's cross our fingers and watch.

BRATISLAVA:
I wonder.

By the time Meghan is through with Harry, he will see black and call it white.

From the very beginning, they were unequally yoked.

itsme01:
private inheritance not royal privilege, they work and have business intrest too plus estates

he made his choice same choice King Edward made that allowed the victimising racist witch grand mother in law become queen through her father king goerge who wasnt the crown prince... atleast if foolish Charles was brave enough Diana wouldnt had being killed

King Edward was told to choose between the throne and his woman because at that time, the King could not marry a divorcee and he abdicated his throne.

Tell me what Harry had at stake to 'Step down as the senior member of the royal family.'

BRATISLAVA:
Piers is truthful. He's personally experienced the woman's toxic social climbing. Her family gave out warnings that people thought was jealousy. In the end, it is actually true. The fact that she specifically traveled to the UK and told select people that she was looking for a rich guy, preferably Harry, then claimed she didn't know who he was, marks the height of her plotting.

Both she and her husband should've married as commoners if they didn't want the trappings of the Royal life. They wouldn't, though. They're spongers.

Are you minding them?

DexterousOne:
I'm.surprised this comment is coming from you tho

You and Poco that I have been monitoring over the years, with the comments you make and all

Now both of you are saying this?


Anyway
I believe Harry made the right decision
No one should hustle his wife the way the media and other fools are hustling her.

EVEN IF (which I highly doubt) his decision was 100 % Meghan
It means that she is worth it (at least she has to) to him

Most women want to be that woman that her man will damn all consequences for

Now one has done so
And the same women are furious and saying stuff

Women sef

I have updated my comment.

jesmond3945:
if you are in meghan's shoes what would do? die because you want to be duchess of suxxess

Was she daft before she agreed to marry the Prince?

I like that the Royal Family has cut them off their funds. Let them work for their money.

I only pity their kids, they will never belong anywhere:

Too royal to be common and too common to matter in the scheme of royalty.

I hope Harry is thinking with his head and not his d!ck.

Honestly, some peeps get liver.

You tell a lady who married you blind and borrowed money for your eye surgery that you want a divorce because she is ugly?

And you are not afraid for your life! That she would snap or something?

It is well.

AwkaetitiBabe:
personally I don't see anything wrong in she visiting during d weekends to see her grandchild.

A MIL visiting her grandchild every week is too intrusive.

Weekends is the only time most couples can really bond due to the work and other life issues.

Mama around means the couple have to shift some of the attention for themselves to mama.

merahki:
[b[Rich in content and context. Also clear. Good job poster[/b]
I truly don’t like your wife, not even at all
I tried to see something about her in your post to like, but I got nothing
From your post I gather that you may be rather too wimpy (I hope I am wrong because it is such a turn off ).
My advice is, do not sacrifice your mother at the altar that is your wife
Cheers, and good luck

@bold:

Hahahahaha, sounds like an manuscript evaluator evaluating a manuscript.

E685:
My wife and I have been together for 8 years now, married for 5. I am 33 and she is 30. We now have our first child, a son who is just turning 1. He is everything to both of us. Before our son, our relationship was strong, although to be honest I’ve always been frustrated with my wife’s way of handling issues. I’m the kind of person who is very hard to get angry, I hear people out, and I talk out my issues. I listen to all sides and I think logically before emotionally. I seek therapy when I’m stuck. My wife is the opposite. She reacts with emotions first. She is very quick to be offended by anything. She will shut down and refuse to communicate until she has had time to process. I do all of the work resolving issues we have. I sometimes wonder if I ever stop taking the high road and work through our issues, if anything would ever resolve itself. So that being said, conflict management aside, we are happy. We are passionate, have similar interests, and make each other laugh.

Then there’s my mother. Where to begin. My mother, while seen as incredibly loving and generous to many people, is also a person who has been shut out of so many relationships in her life that I really just feel bad. My father and her are divorced. She has a genuine phobia of being left out - of gatherings, of relationships, of family. She is extremely smart and knows how to manipulate people into doing what she wants. She also widely seen as a “difficult” person. She is difficult in that she finds great offense to issues many people would not notice or care about. If she feels wronged, she will overwhelm the person who wronged her with incessant questions trying to make them feel her side until they cave in. In her closest relationships, her absolute need for the show of love and inclusion and validation cause the very people she is trying to reel closer in to push her away, a self fulfilling prophecy. My Mom, while I love her, is her own worst enemy.

Needless to say, these two, my wife and my mother, clash. At first they liked each other. The very first issue involved our wedding planning. My wife had a very clear plan for the guest list, and my mom asked for a number of her friends to be included on the list. My wife did not want that, got immediately upset and the situation blew out of control. My mom called me nonstop asking why my wife could be so cold, unwilling to see her side, or give in even an inch. My wife felt my Mom was making the wedding all about her, and could not believe she was called cold. She was “done”. My mom wasn’t paying for a cent of the wedding either so this was another offense. In the end I brokered a compromise, much to the dismay of both women. Each held the grudge for a long time.

Occasionally my mother would do something that my wife disliked, and my wife would be pissed at me for not standing up for her. Admittedly I had never stood up to my mother, I always took the time to listen to her side and find reason behind her otherwise inflammatory ways. My wife and mother had a falling out right before the wedding, and forced me to choose sides. I struggled as I found both of them to be at fault. I chose my wife and my mother hated it. Ever since, basically anything that my mother says or does, whether good or not, offends my wife. Even the most genuine attempts by my mother to reach out to my wife are smacked down. My wife has never made any effort to release the past resentment. Over the years my mother has attempted to take the high road, only to be barely acknowledged by my wife. I have always pleaded with my wife to at least pretend to like my mother. She did a bad job of pretending because my mother would always call me and ask why my wife appears to never care or never let go of past feelings. So both saw through each other, my mother would continue to act happy and loving, while my wife never would.

Anyway now our son came into the picture. He is amazing and being the first grandchild on both sides, the grandparents want to be around him every chance they can get. My mother visit every weekend. I told my wife we have to let her do this. My wife dreaded this. I told my mother that one of the weekends, we wanted her to visit on a Sunday (staying over till Monday morning) instead of a Saturday because we had plans that Saturday. In actuality the day was a birthday celebration for my father in law, being held at her parents house. She just didn’t want my mother involved in everything so she put her foot down. My mother wouldn’t take no for an answer and pulled it out of me what we were doing that day. Well she took great offense to the fact that she was not automatically invited, and couldn’t believe how cold, unChristian, and I loving my wife and her family were.

This stuff affects me greatly so of course I share with my wife, and she exclaims she is done with my mother. No longer wants to be nice or pretend, she is tired of how much my mother always wants it all to be her way and then throws out insulting and hurtful words about my wife to get her way. I get messages from my moms friends telling me how I need to see things my moms way, they would never exclude their mother this way, and that my wife is causing all of this.

And so here we are. I saw my mother the next day, and my wife removed herself from the situation by staying out for the day. It was incredibly uncomfortable. I told my mother how mad I was at her for always being so difficult and never just letting it go. I told her my real feelings about how I wished she could stop needing such inclusion and love. Her response was that she is justified in wanting to be included in everything, and that my wife has never shown her any love or effort and it was obvious, so what could she possibly do? I told her my wife is willing to work on this, perhaps in professional therapy. But in reality my wife wants no part of that and has no desire to mend anything anymore. I think she resents me for trying to mend things.

So what do I do? I’m frustrated with my mom for being difficult, always needing more and never letting things go, and saying inflammatory things when she doesn’t get her way. But I see that all she’s ever wanted was peace and love, and my wife never gave her that. I’m frustrated with my wife for getting so easily offended at everything my mother says or does, and I wish she could make any effort to see the other side and let go of such a grudge. My mother is definitely strong willed and manipulative but I think there is love there if only we could work through it. My wife is extremely assertive and refuses to let anyone wrong her twice. Both think the other has always been dead wrong, the entirety of the blame, and will never change. My wife is ok never seeing my mother again, yet my mother says she wants to let bygones be bygones and attempt to work through it.

What should I do? Forever stuck in the middle. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I know a lot of posts have passed under the bridge.

I like you OP: you are VERY objective to see through your mother and acknowledge she is not a Saint.

Your wife on the other hand is extremely childish and selfish.

Luckily, she now has a son.

Just tell her that her son's wife would treat her the exact way she is treating her husband's mother.

Case closed.

lilmax:
All I see here is lack of trust


Let's always trust our partners

Lack of trust?

With nude pictures and phone intimacy

I will assume this is sarcasm.

crackkhaus:
Why do you keep referring to the lady as his cousin?
I'm confused

As for your cheat of a husband, tell him to just marry this 'cousin' as a second wife if that will make him stop sneaking around.

Your religion permits this, yes?

According to the OP, he sleeps around.

Marrying one of his side chics would not solve the problem.

bolafez:
FTC for the first time.
Seun, is there any take away for me?

what's this thread all about sef?

Davido, Chioma and Peruzzi abi?

the fact is, a real wife would never be so quite like Chioma on the preference being matured.
All these crazy bloggers using Chioma as a case to study to follow, I hope you have seen something saa.

Any love that's not jealous, reactive and protective, is that one love?
She probably has some bad motives other than relationship with Davido.

Poor Davido��

I hereby declare publicly that, I would always believe madam Kemi stories. She's a genius in this field of journalism.

I Stan��

Words on marble.

If this Chioma's thingy is true, it would prove the point that no woman who truly loves a man would sit quietly when he is stepping out.

Ditto a man.

Funny thread.

Most of the guys on this thread seek to fight the way it was from creation:

When a man genuinely loves a woman, he will do ANYTHING to please her and make her happy.

That is why the Bible teaches balance and says women should submit to their husbands. So you both are pleasing one another and putting yourselves first.

As per Harry & Meghan, I have not done much research.

However, I feel that
1. Meghan should have counted the cost of marrying into the royal family and be READY to abide to their idiosyncrasies which honestly would be only during official duties. I am sure they do not dictate how she has her bath or what cour to paint her room.

2. Meghan leaving movies, marrying the prince, them leaving the prince hood and she going back to her movies sound like a game plan to me. No matter how 'rebellious' Harry is, he was breed for a certain type of life and discarding it all seems somehow. Already, he was the 6th in line or so therefore, the royal office Must have cut him some slack.

3. I hope he really investigated why Meghan divorced the first time and working towards preventing it. Let's also hope Meghan is not the fickle 'irreconcilable differences so divorce' kind of woman.

It would be a shame for Harry to give so much up and end up a broken, lonely man.

Interesting read.

And the fact they are prudent enough to keep the wealth spinning says a lot.

Their great grand father was a man of vision. Just 18 descendants when some people had 30+ kids.

Yes, many other families had access to same things and their wealth disappeared along the way.