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TheArchangel:
Use ear piece while walking to limit the embarrassmen. Many people talk to themselves and pretend as if they were listening to music when caught.
Nigerian is too hard sir. No time to even reminisce in peace without appearing mad.

Just don't overdo it. If you see yourself gesticulating randomly, pointing fingers at imaginary figures or laughing so hard about nothing, kindly get your ass to a neuropsychiatric hospital.

Hahahahahahaha

Acidosis:
Do you see strange things or hear strange sounds?

Ki lo de?

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents. My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor , they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money , he drinks and smoke but he is a good guy , he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water. So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again. So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October. She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened. Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house. I’m
Feeling helpless

Wise people said 'Success is the best form of revenge'.

Yes, your duster did bad however, you should have channeled your anger into making you & your boyfriend worthy of her respect.

Go and undid all you have done.

Your baby father smokes, drinks, has no money, uneducated and knows thugs.

What are his plans for the future?

What are your plans for the future?

You made a terrible mistake however it seems you want to remain down there.

Right now, you have your sister and parents support you so you might not be bothered.

When your parents think you are fit to be on your own and your elder sister washes her hand off, then you will understand life.

@your sister's bobo: did he investigate further or you guys just threatened him and he backed off? How can 7 boys and 2 girls call a man that his fiancée's sleeping with their husbands. Are they gay? Is it not in their best interest for the side chic to even be married so she leaves their husbands alone?

On second thoughts, is this story real?

Stanbic:
Two wrongs can never make a right, dumping his sorry ass isn't the solution.
As a wife, there's a good reason he chose you among all the women he's been with. Just try your best, if it doesn't work then it's not your fault. There's really no harm in trying. feminism sometimes clouds our mind from truth.
If our early mothers behaved like that, I trust we might not know who out fathers are today

Now this is funny.

Does this also apply to cheating wives?

Kelechi009:
Harsh Harsh Aunty, na wa oh!

Baby things are not that expensive, let her go & enjoy herself please

Hahahahahahahaha!

Now you are worse than I am.

Greatzeus:
You have sense, unlike many like the Op

Funny at 'many like the OP'.

yomi007k:
Just my thought...but you harsh small o

It is called tough love.

Omo Yoruba ni yin.

To eyan ba wawakuwa, irikuri lo maan ri.

How can a babe put herself in such a position? Even a landlord sef would not ask a tenant for three months POC. If he wanted to test her ability to pay, he would have requested for her to pay a month upfront.

If he was concerned about her way of life, he would have given rules like 'no male visitors', ' no more than two visitors per time' etc.

Three months trial? After three months, bobo doesn't want her again, what next?

What would I dislike on a first date?

Hmmmmmmmm.

SmartyPants:
Exactly what i've just posted. i don't understand how some people see things in this country.

Hmmmmm

We deserve our leaders.

The Umunna did not remember his mother had his Belle before marriage when they demanded he bury all three according to their traditions?

crackhaus:
Try to get accurate information before posting sensitive things.

The only thing you got right is that there will be no refund, HOWEVER, future payments will only continue to be made if the man decides not to pursue it.

There was a very popular case of such in California and even though the lower courts ruled in favor of the woman to continue receiving child support, that decision was appealed and thrown out by the state supreme court.

Paternity fraud is a serious offense and they are trying to create legislation to make refunds possible. They will get there.

@bold:

Good to hear.

They should also add jail term too.

It would make the women sit up and be 100% sure of the father(s) of their children.

ZIMDRILL:
DNA test is not cheap, if it was cheap most women would do it quietly

Let it be made cheaper.

Florenccce:
I intend relocating to ibadan so I got an apartment. But I didn't have the money for rent. Today I reluctantly moved in with my aunt. She was too nice and she tried to make everywhere comfortable for me. Now this evening I got a call from the owner of the apartment that since the place is sublet he will first rent out the place for 3months to me to see if I can live with him. Now I can afford the 3months and I am eager to move to the place. But the problem now is how I will tell my aunt and leaving. Any advice please?

You want to leave your nice aunt who has made 'everywhere comfortable for you' so you can stay with a strange guy you are subletting from.

You are concerned because your aunt and/or parents expect you to stay with your aunt for a longer period. Secondly, you don't know how to tell them that you are living in with a man.

Why are you in a hurry to move out from your aunt's when you just struggled to gather three month's rent?

Tell us, this three months trial, what exactly does the guy want to determine? The ability to cook? Clean house? Fu*k?

What exactly is this guy judging for the three months trial?

We ALWAYS need to make decisions with foresight and common sense.

@Stanbic:

Your article is '12 ways to encourage/enable a cheating husband' which is fine if it is your thing.

Does your article that into account the particular girl or are you just regurgitating what you have told others?

micronut:
A local woman was to roof her house, she had sent for quotations from different carpenters for roofing sheets. She got many and went for the cheapest.

Then she asked the Carpenter with the cheapest workmanship where she can get the cheapest price of the roofing sheet.

Well, madam, Iginla Stores sell at good and affordable price, one of the best in Ile-Ife, and possibly Osun state – The Carpenter explained.

Not satisfied, the woman having mobilized how planks would get to the site and roofing is about to commence asked the Carpenter to follow her to town to check different prices.

Worried but not discouraged, the Carpenter took the woman around three building material shops in town and eventually the stopped at Iginla. The woman still believes it will be cheaper somewhere else, a bundle of iron sheets at Ile-Ife at N26,000 must be cheap else where.

May be Ibadan, Yes, Ibadan will be fine.

She called a friend where they sell roofing sheets in Ibadan.

Go to Ogunpa Market, She was told.

Oh. I know all those best places in that market, because you need to be wise make dem no scam you oo. If no because of my work today, I would have followed you ma. – The carpenter advised.

Haa, No ooo. You must follow me oo. Please, don’t be disturbed, I will give you your daily labor work. You know all these sellers are thieves, some of them make unimaginable gains, I would never be their mugu. You see those planks, and almost everything on my site, I source them myself. One needs to be wise you know. Lol – Madam narrated!

Then, they headed for Ibadan with a rented truck.

On arriving the busy market, the Carpenter having been used to many of the sellers was greeted and welcomed to the big warehouse.

Immediately, the sales boy ask, Egbon se gbele ni abi normal? (Is it high grade or normal?) The carpenter said gbele ni oo…. (We want high grade).

Well, we sell high grade at 25,000. Normal at N23,000.

The madam asked what is wrong with the Normal?

Nothing, just the different makers – The Sales guy explained.

No be to roof house make e no leak? Please give us the N23,000 per bundle. We are buying 20 bundles.

Meanwhile, All the roofing sheets categorized are same. The grading is in pricing to charge and not by hubin quality of the material.

When an artisan goes to a shop to buy, he buys at customers price – Mostly the last price the business shops can offer. They are stakeholders especially as businesses put their small cut when selling.

When you are not an artisan, you buy at regular or normal market price. If they sell a lamp holder to an electrician at N150, the normal price may be N200 if you go as the owner.

But if owner follows artisans, to market to price and buy, most often, what you get is high grade price unsuspectingly. A lamp holder goes to 250, and any removal depends on artisans price hackling power. Many times, artisans allow sellers to make more gain, on the stubborn owner that follows them and they come back behind to collect the little gains.

Well, the madam transferred and paid, and while the carpenter assisted in carrying them out, he requested for the seller’s fone no openly so he can call next time In case he sees no customer .

Well, It is coded! He isn’t asking for phone no but account no. Lol

He got a paper and put his account no.

Before they reached Ikire, he got transferred.

N3000 on every bundle on 20 bundles.

That’s N60,000.

The bundle price was actually 20,000.

The woman thought she bought at a better price in Ibadan at N23,000 instead of N26,000 at Ife. Lol

The carpenter got home still got paid by the woman as daily labor money.

He narrated the ordeal!

Lessons:

1. There is a price we pay for trying not to be cheated when dealing with Nigerian Artisans. Being too wise can be costly too.

2. It's mere foolishness to think you can outsmart an artisan or any professional in their field.

If you don't trust an artisan and his/her price, go elsewhere. Never be tempted to try buy materials for yourself.

Worse still, you source for materials and they tell you you bought inferior ones to make you feel bad and exonerate themselves if whatever they did got spoilt fast - Oluwapelumi Awotedu.

Source: https://naijalocals.com.ng/the-price-you-pay-for-looking-for-cheap-things/

Except we are missing something, the woman still got a better deal of N23k/bundle at Ibadan instead of N26k/bundle from Ife.

Kingosytex:
The scenario is comparable to boarding a bus from a motor park..."No refund of money after payment"

The bus is sha bound to take you to your destination.

Can't Legal topshots push for a change?

Paternity fraud should be a crime punishable by law.

If the mother is not sure because she had multiple partners, the honorable thing would be to conduct a DNA test for all the possible fathers.

Strong arming a man to pay for a child he did not father is as terrible as an irresponsible father absconding.

If the law recognizes the latter as terrible and seeks to redress, it should also take into cognizance the former.

So the sister was fine with washing it till they 'paid something on her head'.

The guy should ask his family members if he is wrong, only them understand their family dynamics.

Stevecovey:
OAP Maria Okan, while responding to a fan on her social media page, said that she does not receive, take or ask for any money in taking care of the daughter she had for musician, Olamide.

It would be recalled that late last year she put to bed a few months after Olamides wife, Bukunmi, also had a second son for him.
This was amidst insider rumours that she was paid N2 million by Olamide to abort the baby, but she absconded to the UK and decided to have the child instead.

Source:
https://www.instagram.com/p/B65-a1mna2M/

If she collected N2m to abort the baby and decided to still have it, then she wants to eat her cake and have it. Which is a hallmark of lack of integrity.

But again, how can a lady of integrity see a married man, sleep with him and get pregnant?

Please don't disturb us with your whinning.

If you want to be taken seriously, start with returning the N2m back to him that you are not interested in abortion.

Very funny thread.

franklingud:
But where man go see Virgin to marry?
Even a girl in primary 6 is no longer a Virgin, so where dem dey?

And who is disflowering them?

shakmati:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. She is a very nice woman who is not bossy and accepts situations the way they come. She is not the problem. The problem now is that I have become bored of the marriage. Maybe I would not be so bored of the marriage if not for the wife of my brother in law. That is my wife's brother.

I schooled in a university in the Northern part of Nigeria and the said lady was also a student of the same university though my junior. When I started dating my wife, I came to know the lady. Let's say her name is Angela. Angela was all I desired in a wife. Fierce, motivated, beautiful and to make matters most interesting, she was also attracted to me. Ever since we met in my inlaws place, Angela and I have always admired each other. Truth be told, we always steal the opportunity to be together on dates or other functions if the conditions permit. We have only managed to not have intimacy by unexplainable circumstances.

5 years down the road after marriage for me and 3years after Angela's marriage to my brother in law, we have both become bored of our spouses. I have a daughter and a son while Angela has a daughter. Since July 2019, Angela has let me know she is no longer interested in her marriage. I am also terribly bored of my marriage.

We are now seeking ways to amicably end our unfortunate unions to be with each other without causing too much pain to everyone involved in this situation. I am thinking of giving a house to my wife and telling her I want a seperation. Angela has stopped intimacy with her husband for more than a year now.

I need the advice of folks here on how best to do this so everyone involved can move on peacefully without much friction.

Only honest advice needed. No insults please.

You want to divorce a girl and marry her brother's wife?

I can imagine the convo with your in-laws:

You: Papa, good evening sir, after considering all, I am no longer interested in your daughter as there is some else my heart desires.

Papa: is that so? And who may I ask?

You: Your son's wife.

I don't know if the family is under a curse to marry spouses that are fickle or you are sent as an agent to ruin them.

So so sad.

God console all the people they left behind.

crackhaus:
There is no context whatsoever under the seven worlds where it can be rationalized.

What if he is a widower or divorcee with 3 kids? Or he is impotent?

I know a divorced man with about 4kids married to another divorcee with about 4kids and together they have another 5kids.

If he is however a young groom to be eyeing a woman with 5 kids, we need to find out if all is well.

If he is divinely led is another matter.

Those earning N50+, is it per month or per week?

Utanisco:
I got this bomb for all women
if you think this isn't true,
then look round you'd see a similar case like this


please our women out there choose wisely at the right time

lalasticlacla pls help our women

You thread talks of 'when' and not 'how'.

Anyways, the earlier a lady decides to get married and stop frolicking with guys just because (if she was previously doing so), the easier it is to pick a good man who loves her because she is not desperate.

I have seen a number top shot single women (especially when they don't have kids) and the desperation is there. I have also seen men who are always looking for wives and going through several dates to 'find' the one.

Almost everyone wants that special one you can call yours and build with.

The children's faces did not change.

The father is still a baby boy ke.

Good one!

Charleys:
He also posted a video with his girlfriend, therefore disappointing the applicants.


This is a fact

I don't get.

The Tolu guy had a girlfriend prior to the exercise?

Very funny.

What would make a lady so desperate to audition for an unknown guy on Twitter?

Youth (men & women) should be trained from childhood to care for their bodies, minds and spirits.

Not everyone is interested in dealing with leftovers especially if the person has not met with Christ.

Multiple sex partners, drug abuse, unnatural/ inconvenient sex acts, abortions, cultism, baby mamaism and papaism etc etc. all have repercussions, all tell on the body, all affect the soundness of the mind, all affects one's ability to bound with the spouse.

Youths be careful and think of the future with EVERY step you take.

Whatever you do, eat, drink is leaving marks on your body.

This is the only body you have to serve you till you die. Use it well.

A single mother (widow/divorcee) with 5 daughters is different from a woman who is a baby mama to multiple men.

Tell us which category she falls into and what sterling qualities she has.

I would also assume you are not a fresh groom or you have issues reproducing your seed.

YourCoffin:
It is not a crime. It is punishment for a crime.

Hahahahahahaha!

Punishment for which crime kwanu?

RisenPhoenix:
The imposition of monogamy was just another step in the pussification and emasculation of men.

It is only in monogamy that God's vision and plan for marriage will be fulfilled.

I will however admit that in polygamy, a man's needs for sex, attention, respect and recognition is more often than not met without hassles.