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crackhaus:
The idea is not just about taking the pills on occasion, but consistent use. I know someone from this same forum who was perpetually on the patch and always irritable, ready to blow a gasket over any little thing.

These things are bound to affect a woman's psychological state if abused owing to the fact that the chemicals present in them are hormonal, artificial hormones (mostly estrogen), which is how they work in the first place. It's the same reason why men on steroids are on average more aggressive than what is considered normal.

It's not just about birth control pills, and certainly not a study orchestrated against women.

Send that money into my akant instead, I will give her from it. I'm the head dammit.

@Bold: tell me something

i am talking constant use here also.

Because you are the head, I will give her sef. You should learn to sacrifice joor.

Mindfulness:
I have said my own. It has worked out for me so far and I know it has also worked out for my parents. My own mother instructed me not to take any hormones and do the counting. Having said that, she also said abortion is a sin that will take you to hell so in case there is a surprise, you will have the baby I have not had any unwanted pregnancies ever but as I said, I have a very regular cycle and I even feel the ovulation. The man has to play his role too, he must know how to pull out on time on some days.

True, it takes the both of them to work at it.

Your answers here are insightful as always.

crackhaus:
They want to trend

E ku trending.

Awa old school

crackhaus:
Honestly, I don't even know any G that will be 100% comfortable with having his wife contribute half (or even less) of every single thing they have to do financially.

Nigerian men, well most, are not built that way. Never mind what my brothers type on the internet about having it 50/50.

When i mean contribute, it is not necessarily per project or stuff; they have a joint or common pot either 100% or in percentages.

I don't know the Nigerian men who are referring to; I know that MOST working wives contribute and at some point totally support the home financially alone. I don't even do internet references, I am talking live.

The only people I know expected the husband to solely handle the home is Ibos and most times, their wives did not work.

Right from time, in Yoruba land, a wife is 'shamed or called lazy' if she expects the husband to finance the home alone. They are even called 'alabodos'.... Interestingly, the husband is not really expected to do anything domestic.

Mindfulness:
No. I count. It has never failed me. But since many people read the threads here, I repeat, it is risky.

Hmmmm, mama ni yen

crackhaus:
By unbiased I'm assuming you mean not written by a man(with no PhD) in a personal-opinion article.

Okay this one is by a woman:
https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/scientists-hormonal-contraceptives-may-alter-behavior-widespread-use-could

And this, from a medical journal:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/15236788/

There's a lot more on the web, biased and unbiased... Filter as your spirit leads.

Ok checked the first one out.

What options are they putting on the table? I am discussing in marriage, girls on the pill is crazily out of it. Trying to pull the plug on what currently exists without an alternative would not work.

I am thinking of women getting married, having their kids all at once and the husbands do vasectomy.... that way, pills are out of it and they can enjoy a beautiful sex life. I don't like the idea of condoms for married couple either.

Cc: Mindfulness.

Mindfulness:
As usual.



I don't believe you and that's a compliment.



Come on, at your age ou should be marrying your third wife.

You don't use BC?

crackhaus:
Well that seems like a lot of work for most of these women, almost as if they can't be bothered. Swallowing pills incessantly doesn't make it easy for them to monitor their fertile days as it also messes up and moves the cycle around.

I can count the number of women I know personally inside ten fingers who know their fertile days each month to near accuracy. Tested with a seal of approval BTW


Can't you look and throway face?

Again, a number of women don't have regular cycles so they can't monitor. And the issue with pills is that a lot of women especially single do not go to their gynaecologist to test themselves and buy pills off the counter.

I know that there are some pills that prevent pregnancies and will still not 'really' change the composition of the brain.

Truly, there are some terrible pills created to destroy women's wombs and minds as per the 'grand' conspiracy.

@Bold:
Send her account number to me.

freecocoa:
juju kwa? Ha!

Well, how we depend on science in this generation, our fore fathers depended on their own 'science.'

LeOstrich:
[s][/s]

Triggered !

See how emotionally unbalanced you are

I wonder how you cope when you review all the diks you have had and still come out sane

@bold: that best describes you.

Ciao.

LeOstrich:
Jesus! Are you this daft?

There are hundreds of clinical "un-biased" studies that have been carried out on the effect of contraceptive pills on women's mental and emotional health since the pill was invented and you are here talking of unbiased?

This is even coming from somebody who advocates for juju as a means of birth control.

Chai!

Now I see how you LOST your virginity and can't remember how or when

Fowl brain

LeOstrich:
Oloshoooooooooooooooooooooo

You really really need common sense at this rate and with the way you are going, you wouldn't get a sane woman to stay with you.

Well, your parents' disappointment should have started when you entered the house.

Every other thing you did after entering was just a natural flow.

crackhaus:
I walk around completely nakëd when I have to, wearing a wrapper can't beat that when it comes to circulation in the right places.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

crackhaus:
Lol, she was the one who introduced the word into our short conversation. I was more concerned with the point at which one will be taken for granted.

The question was for her, that's why I copied her. It is the same sentiment that makes men feel doing chores is beneath them.

crackhaus:
Of course.

Well, depends on the couple

crackhaus:
A lot of men don't post it on social media na.

I agree with you that the social media madness is something else. Almost everyone is quick to post something on SM to validate themselves and intimidate others.

crackhaus:
Lmao. Are you serious?

Well I guess this generation just has to make do with condoms and by all means try to minimize or completely avoid birth control pills. I don't quite agree with the OPs assertion regarding condoms also having a role to play in behavioural patterns.

Excessive use of pills and patches? Yea, this affects.
Excessive use of condoms? Not proven.

Yes.

There is juju for almost everything in life.

If you avoiding birth control pills because it affects behavioural patterns, then we have to avoid a lot of things.

Can you put up links to unbiased studies about the effects of the uses of these pills and other contraceptives?

LeOstrich:
This thread struck a nerve with the olosho class.

It isn't my fault that your future (unlucky) husband will never be the first to have had you.

It isn't my fault that you lost your virginity to your uncle or some random c0ck that swayed your way before you hit 14yrs and that since then you have been leaving a trail of your putrid puna slime allover the place like some confused snail.

And Yes, it isn't my fault that your womb is a horror chamber filled with the ghosts of murdered bastards that you have picked up along your long career of ashewoism.

You can console yourself as being a modern woman of the 21st century who claims to be in control of her sexuality when in truth you are a nothing but a cheap ass slot who can't keep their legs closed for more than a week without craving for some random c0ck

I just pity the ultimate spineless maga that will settle for your used and wobbly sperm-dumpster ass

On second thoughts, thank God your wife left.

I imagine you ranting like this when she says something you do not agree with.

Mindfulness:
Are you telling us that all parents are happy? Come on Buka, not everyone is like you, not everyone relies on others for their happiness, be they their kids or a spouse. People are different and times have very much changed. I have just attended a funeral of a woman who died childless. And even though she wanted to become a mother but couldn't, she has a lived a very happy and fulfilling life. Also, there are plenty of miserable folks who have children.

Dear, not all parents are happy however, it's like saying not all rich people are happy.

It is not a function of the times; more like a function of human desires which has pretty much been same all through the ages.

We are all designed to procreate either biologically, spiritually, physically, financially etc. We need another one of our kind.

That a woman is childless biologically doesn't mean that she did not have children in other ways.

Mindfulness:
A woman is only fertile for a few days each month, on every other day it is relatively safe. This method has never failed me but I have a regular cycle and can even feel when I am ovulating so the woman has to be in tune with her body 100%. There are also gadgets which can measure whether the woman is fertile on a particular day. They are not 100% safe, as no contraception method is, but they can help. You can get them here for about 100 euros in every pharmacy here. I am sure, they are also available in Naija. To make it even safer, the man should pull out. A woman can't get pregnant during her period but many couples abhor sex during these days, me included, while some women claim to be particularly ho*rny.

By the way, you seem more mature and less misogynistic these days. Which special lady helped you grow up? I salute her.

Was going to say so.

He has changed this year.

The Lord is working and it is marvellous in our sight.

Take heart bros and keep working hard, one day fortune will smile on you.

Goodluck.

Hmmmm

The husband might be innocent however, the lady might have hidden motives.

stagger:
Promotes air circulation in the right places.

CC: crackhaus

crackhaus:
So we are in agreement then. A husband who becomes the chef or maid will be taken for granted somewhere down the line.

Your second paragraph is besides the point and not why I quoted you.

Does cooking everyday make someone a maid?

CC: ImaIma1

crackhaus:
Oh best believe me, if your man does that every single day for two weeks, even you will start to take him for granted.

Really?

If a woman contributes to everything done in the home, will he take her for granted?

crackhaus:
I'm just wondering how he was so comfortable wearing a wrapper beneath the slacked singlet, then went ahead to post it for everyone to see.

A lot of men tie wrapper at home na.

kushme:
Madam, @bolded, the first line can land a man in jail sharp sharp..

So, if men falsely accuse women of been sluts, do they(falsely accused sluts) go to jail for that?

Yea, the similarity could be that both the falsely accused rapists and sluts may lose their reputation for a while or forever...

Abeg, to society the accusation, condemnation and punnishment for rape is way way greater than slut shaming..

I was not applauding anyone; I was stating the facts.

Tomorrow, if a guy calls a girl a slut; investigate first.
If a girl says a guy raped her; investigate first.

I agree that rape is a criminal offence, slutting is not depending on the society.

What is with the average NL guy and feminists?

@OP: The woman should be arrested and made to publicly apologise to the dude. What she committed was slander and punishable by law.

Ladies will always falsely accuse men of rape;
Men will always falsely accuse women of been sluts.

This is why I like to investigate thoroughly non-consent/date rape issues.

Henrypraise:
aside children n disabled, i still opined dat no 1 man can rape 1 woman. its not possible for a man without a weapon or an assistant to rape a woman. its just not possible.

Why did you say so?

crackhaus:
I honestly don't know how our parents and grandparents did it.

Lol!

Try the 14+ kids they had na.... or a husband abandoning his wife when he was done having kids with her and getting another wife. This one man one wife intimacy is new school to us.

I went for a women's program and they were teaching about birth control. Surprisingly, she said that they put jazz (juju/ charms) under their pillow to prevent pregnancies.

I am also curious to know how it was done.

Ironically, the wife might be very fertile and one touch gets her pregnant.

BlowBack:
Have you tried closing your legs?

Birth control and condoms make you women to act like sluts knowing you wont get pregnant.

It was not the same with your granny's generation

Common sense my friend is not common.

When you develop sense, quote me.