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Winnie Mandela At Her 80th Birthday Dinner

This woman 80? Woaw!

thorpido:
RIP madam.
The divorce with Mandela watered down your anti-apartheid efforts.
You paid your dues nevertheless.

I thought he was the one who divorced her cos she had a lover while he was in prison.

RIP to her

swiz123:
Or rather, adesua looks like her.

Is she older than Adesua?

Very beautiful.

ChildOfDoom:
first of all, i won't advice any one to get married if he/she doesn't earn up to 180,000 naira monthly (based on currently economic situation in Nigeria).


Don't be carried away by the glamour that goes with marriages or the free fvck you will get for the rest of your life. Once children (male children especially) set in, you will know then the mess you've gotten into

What about your dad?

Chikita66:
Tomorrow now she will start claiming feminist.

What has feminism or antifeminism got to do with it?

@OP: Her customers have seen her. She should wait for their call.

FakoMaybach1:
Show me where it is in the bible, that God encouraged alimony.

And the practice of taking a widows wealth has been drastically reduced, and we are talking about alimony, this doesnt apply to dead people it applies to the living

Was there anywhere God discouraged alimony?

Shugarlord213:
Listen to me, I personally forgot about women (of course they had nothing to offer) and saved my money, ate once a day and and within four months I got myself a white Camry muscle 2014

Now girls flock from left, right and center, in church, restaurant, new streets, friends neighborhoods etc

Guy I personally hate asslickers and possie nighas that give this h.oes way day bend down piss attention

Work they cannot work, they see work na to open leg for oga them. Trust a naija woman at your own peril


Abi na by force to marry, wedding money why not buy yourself a nice car and marry yourself to yourself.
If you need a child go to a orphanage and adopt a cute baby,

You need sex, go to schools and pick the ever young ones, collect your friends number off their phone while they are washing their diseased bodies in the bathroom

For me I day nacck them, some I no day allow shower at all, I drop them off at the busstop where the touts and agberos are and squeeze #500 naira for their hand. always make sure it’s girl way day rain (hot cake)for her area or school. So you can get a satisfied feeling.


I don banng plenty of my guys gals (way day on leggediz Benz) since they no wan get sense

I don banng 8 girls mama join

Look I treat them the way they deserve and yet they still keep coming back. I no fit spend pass 700 naira for woman head God forbid

Is there any reason you are littering threads with your alleged sexcapades?

Is there a hidden message apart from 'women are scum' you want to relay to us?

Professional heart breaker,

Pele o!

What goes around comes around.

@ Woman: continue, you are about to get your reward.

Don't start crying foul that all men are scum.

@mhizsuzzy:

There is time for everything under the sun and it is good to make hay while the sun shines. Are there exceptions? Yes!

However, late marriage for men and women should not be the norm.

I know a lot of people will say 'no time is late'; yet they will be frantic if a baby doesn't walk or talk at the age of five.

The only way to enjoy sex legally/morally is via marriage and adolescence starts by late teens. Generously, I will say peeps by 20 years are sexually mature and except have strong moral compass will start experimenting with sex.

Imagine someone experimenting till late 30s; what do you think will happen?

Even if the person is chaste, do you want to start trying for your kids later in life? What is {God forbid}, there is a delay?

Nothing trumps early marriage and by the turn of 20, people should be mature enough to discover themselves, they kind of partners they want and be on the lookout for them.

It is easier to adapt to your intended when you are still malleable than you are set in your ways and have to start unlearning all you have learnt.

Happy Easter.

Nice thread. OP keep it up.

SarkinYarki:
Feeding them with their own money

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

OritaIbadan:
Truth be told RCCG as a Church made no provision whatsoever to feed anybody. Adeboye simply direct the pastors to always give food to members every sunday. Which the pastors inturn are tasking both members and workers to contribute toward the feeding. Am a member of RCCG Infact a minister but this issue of feeding is generating a lot of ripples you direct pastors to feed church members without any provision for that. I over heard one of the pastors asking, where did they expect us the get the money when almost 80% of every income is remitted to the national headquarter? This may not be the right place for me to say all of these but is very wrong to make people believe that RCCG is feeding her members whereas is pastors tasking members particularly workers in a bid to satisfy the ogas at the top.

Hahahahahahahahahahaha!

I was not going to say anything just laugh.

RCCG has seriously missed it and this announcement if true is freaking low of Pastor Adeboye.

I honestly pray he doesn't ruin what he has laboured to build all these years.

crackhaus:
Every single thing written there was based on conjectures.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

See my post to MMotimo.

happy Easter.

MMotimo:
Happy Easter Bukatyne. I haven't been around these parts in a while, hope you are keeping well

@ Topic
I agree with #4, the first line only

Happy Easter and new month e-aunty mi. I really admire your style and how you are concerned with your sensuality/femininity/sexuality as well as spirituality. . I have a very similar view of marriage/life as yours and read your diary a lot.

I looked at all her points and I would say they make absolute sense if a woman is married to a man without a moral compass or one who is religious without imbibing the life of the teachings. The thread is actually based on worldly wisdom.

1. Marry a man 10-15 years older than yourself.
Women who marry within their age bracket will most likely regret it, we age faster than men, you will not be 20 something forever. Once that man hits 40-50, he starts going through his mid life crisis. He wants to feel young again, if you’re his age mate, he’ll feel old around you and physically you’ll look like his mother not wife. If he doesn’t leave you for a younger woman he’ll cheat on you severely.: I have noticed that women who marry men with smaller age difference work extra hard to keep their looks. Maybe because we do not farm anymore, Men look younger these days and their wives honestly have to do all sorts to retain their looks and shape. I am not justifying men cheating; after all Halle Berry was cheated on. A godly man who realise that his wife who bore his kids cannot be young forever and love her deeply the way she is especially when she works to still look good. An ungodly man might take the easier way out.

2. You are not bob the builder.
Young women please stop taking out huge loans to help your man start a business or whatever the issue may be. Stop giving him huge amounts of money to build his life please please please. Men like to feel like men, he knows you will always take credit for his success and that takes away from his manhood. He will take your money and leave you for another lady that he can impress. So many young women make this mistake of helping a man succeed and end up with nothing tangible in the end apart from debts, children and a broken heart. Women be wise.: Well, we hear stories everyday of women dumped by husbands/boyfriends/fiancees after they have given them everything.


3. . You owe unconditional to your children, ONLY.
Men do not love you unconditionally, if your vagina cannot make them ejaculate, you cannot prepare their favourite meal, you do not look appealing or cannot produce children for them you are useless to them. They will never love you for ‘who you are’ without additional bonuses. Yet you young women are made to feel bad about wanting a man that can provide for yourself and family. That can provide a lifestyle of luxury. Young women please be smart, and stay focused on what you can benefit from a marriage. Unconditional love is not existent in a marriage my dear. Truly e-aunti mi, can anyone sincerely say that they will still love their spouses if they will constantly not do whatever duties they are delegated in the marriage when they are capable of doing so?

4. Keep up with your looks and do not let yourself go.
Stop listening to your boyfriend that tells you to reduce the amount of makeup. Stop listening to him when he says he doesn’t like Brazilian hair, it’s a trap. Men like to protect their territory, if he can stop other men from looking at you, his job as a boyfriend/husband will be much much easier my dear. He won’t have to spend as much on you, make as much effort because he knows you’re not going anywhere. Invest in your looks and let that man be scared to lose you, always, please! Regardless of your age.: Like you, I agree only with the first line. I know men who genuinely do not like makeup. One met his wife retouching her hair and he prayed until she went natural without using weaves or extensions. Except one is married to a psycho, if he says he doesn't like something, his wife should listen.

5. Stop splitting the bills.
Young Women please, let that man be a man I beg una! Stop contributing huge amounts of money in the house. You’re making life extremely harder for yourself and easier for him. He is there to take care of you, that is his Job. Whilst you are helping him pay the bills and also doing 80% of the household chores and childcare, he will spend his extra money and time on a younger prettier lady who will do absolutely nothing for him. Let him take care of the bills and all finances in the house as MAN. Stack your personal/extra money away for rainy days. Be smart oh, I use God beg all of you. This brings me to my other point. Have something going on for yourself young women. Just because you’re beautiful, that doesn’t mean you should sit on your bottom all day and be unproductive, its not wise at all. Have something going on for yourself, even if it’s small, don’t be lazy This will also help you with rainy days, and you will always have something to fall back on. Wealthier men also like women who have something going on, even if it’s small. I met my husband at 23 I was schooling and had a small hair business on the side. That attracted him more to me as he knew that i had a life outside of our relationship. Quality attracts quality. I agree with the bold especially when it is a home where the husband feels 'chores' is beneath him. I have come to realise women bring the resource of time (that's why care of the home etc.) falls on them while husbands bring the resource of money. When a wife is bringing in bulk of the money without the husband balancing in the resource of time because the wife doesn't have that resource of time, wahala dey.

6.Put yourself first, Always.
Never Compromise yourself for any man, not even your husband. Always remember that he can leave you and you will be left with nothing if you give your ALL. It should always be a give and take, not give give give. My dear, you must secure a future for yourself and children before anything. If one is married to a selfish husband, grab number 6. If one is not, then both parties are obviously putting themselves first.

Honestly, I see a number of women adopt all or some of these to maintain their sanity.

Methodist4ever:
Only our Lord Jesus Christ can give a right partner


Worthy is the lamb!
Halleluyah

I concor.

Any woman married to a man who has no moral compass best adopt this.

Eketem:
Extremely stupid post and I am a woman.

You want the entitlement that comes with equality yet you imagine that financial responsibility is a man's job.

You imagine that every older man is mature and every younger man is immature


You have been damaged probably from past relationships which I suspect your attitude contributed to but instead of making amends and learning from your past you have chosen to be bitter and write long senseless bitter epistles


Women should grow up and stop acting entitled and like victims every time a relationship ends

I doubt the OP stated anywhere that men & women are equal. Infact, she believes in the traditional mode of marriage.

Again, as per age difference, it was more of looks and not maturity.

crackhaus:
Well written load of hot steamy shït is what this is.

What issues do you have with it?

SarkinYarki:
When was it ever a taboo ? Didn't he great grandfather have many wives?

His grand father was a polygamist; he wasn't a serial monogamist.

Humility017:
I am currently in with one lady
I know she is in a relationship but I have automatically made myself the standby boyfriend....
though the guy is not too serious with her...I don't know what's her problem sticking to such a guy.

The problem is more with you my friend.

Are you so insecure that you would rather be standby boyfriend to a girl who doesn't know her own value than get your own girl who would adore you?

Very good thread.

One needs to stand up to these people. A colleague did something similar last week.

Congratulations babe.

If they started from Sec Schl, 14 yrs is just fine.

Besides, it is better to date 1 person for 14yrs and it doesn't work out than serial dating or multiple relationships.

When it comes to relationships, there is no formula.

Very true.

Just how constant use of keyboard makes your writing depreciate.

Leetunechi:
I'm just wondering how deeper life people ask for sex

Them belike. Funke wake up is Time for sexual ministration

Sounds romantic in the right voice.

cococandy:
I would give it back.

Wearing your ring means that I agree to marry you.

When that agreement is no longer in place, there is no reason to keep it.

And this topic has nothing to do with feminism.

Thanks for typing for me

Points 2 and 3 are hogwash.

2. Expect we are in a different Africa, a lot of widows have lost their homes and husband's wealth to greedy in-laws who will not care for the kids. The woman struggles alone to bring up her kids and the man shows up at the end with 'It was the devil's handiwork.'

3. It is not biblical? I laugh.

I think we should look at what really happens around us before we begin to proffer solutions.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

Practical advise.

freecocoa:
Oh! Well, true that, but I can't imagine the juju we all know working like that.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

Mindfulness:
Thank you.

What I know about bc pills is that you should not take them for decades but I know many women who have been taking them for years without any side-effects and I also know that they are low-dose today. The trick is to figure out which ones are good for you, there are plenty on the market. Some doctors even prescribe them to women who have a hormonal imbalance or irregular cycles so they can also be used as a corrective. I do not know any women who are aggressive as a result. One of my very closest friends has been taking them for almost 15 years, they improved her skin condition and of course prevented unwanted pregnancies. She is married now with a kid, awaiting the second one. She is the meekest person I have ever known and the pills have not changed it.

Cc: Crackhaus

@Bold: on point.

Off the counter for people interested is a no no.

freecocoa:
If I hear.

Its the women that will not bother jare, after all, marriage kuku favour the men more, I'm yet to see a married woman who doesn't think having kids is their consolation for getting married. All I hear is "my kids are my joy" everywhere, I just tire.

If she marries the man that genuinely loves her, she will enjoy her marriage.

The challenge is finding the man emotionally stable enough to unconditionally love his wife.

When I talk love, I am not talking of providing.

Good one Obidike Pedro Ifeanyi,

Keep up the good work.

Wives should also learn how to be responsive to their husbands.

TheUpsetGirl:
what kinda misogynistic and sexist thread is this

What is misogynist and sexist about it?