₦airaland Forum

I don't think a single can adopt a child legally.

Let her find out more.

crackhaus:
I believe you understand how irony works, my sweet dark-skin beauty Bukatyne.

Is there another bukatyne on ML, this one is chocolate complexioned o!

crackhaus:
And I am appalled that people offering up 'useful' advise for the OP failed to ask her about the situation of things during the first three(3) years of her marriage.

The OP has disappeared o!

crackhaus:
Ahh she beat me to it... See, I always knew you could be smart when you need to be.

Look at you

Where is that baby's picture sef?

Rock01:
Something I can not exactly place my fingers on is wrong with this piece. The points are right but your tone and presentation is tainted with (maybe) personal, bad experiences or your opinion of women drawn from bad examples.


Women should do what's right, but, not in order to curb your 'broken nature'-your tendency to be promiscuous. The voice of the man hiding in that piece sounds like he's about to cheat on his spouse if she doesn't do the listed.

If I am right, that's not fair on femininity. From the things I've learned, Acidosis and OP, we should be the first to inject life into into that Glorious Union.


(I am aware there are bad women in the world). lol. There is hardly a good woman who will get genuine attention, a hand of help, small gifts, kind words... that will not pour out her fountains like a gushing stream to sweep you off your feet.

I sincerely think (good) women are sweet partners if we take the responsibility FIRST to handle them right.

If you didn't marry a good one then, no problems, you may resort to threats like I sense in the post.

Finally, someone who gets it.

Interesting thread.

OP, keep it up.

Acidosis:
The truth must be spoken

Obviously, your truth is different fromantic mine.

Vorpal:
Lol.....why?

majekdom2:
you are making assumptions and conclusion from media opinions and comments. Have you bothered to do a survey on the percentage of Nigerians that air their opinion online??

I don't need a survey of Nigerians commenting online cos both answers/reactions are from same sample.... Nairaland.

pocohantas:
Noble didn't take it cool at all o, thank God he is a man...my country people would have threatened him with menopause or coming of second wife.

He posted endless rants.
Then proceeded to posting pictures of himself in a restaurant for like one week.
Posted a throwback picture of him pounding whatever, showing mama brought him up to cook his own meals .

When we thought he was done, he posted a picture of himself with a customized top, bearing the inscription #WifeNotCook.

Noble igwe is a successful young man.

Odiegwu!

All this might be a public stunt sef...

Nor bi Tonto dey buy pink jeep and pant for herself dey hala her husband?

Vorpal:
But you deduced correctly.

Really?

You will cook 5 times a day for 1 month!

Vorpal:
Why do you wish to know?

I am curious to know who the living oracle is...

pocohantas:
I've watched them twist the whole thing, even when they know not how it started. Someone is even asking 'no be person bring the money?'...what if the woman is the one bringing the money, does that then justify her not cooking?
What if the man loses his job and stops bringing money tomorrow, does that automatically make him undeserving of good food?

Some people don't know how shallow their rebuttals sound.

@Bold: I have read really shallow ones.

It's good to see most people twist it though. I am sure Noble Igwe is really laughing where ever he is....

Who knows, he might even be asking her for food at 3am.

nextprince:
In response to all the posts by same moniker on this thread, not just the quoted one.

Can you pick out any of my posts I inferred a wife shouldn't cook for her husband?

You need to learn to comprehend what the other person is saying whether you agree or not.

Vorpal:
Well I can't speak for all or some Nigerians,each person has his/her own preference. Look for the one that matches yours and stick with it.

No general rule or 'ideal' can apply to everybody.

I 100% agree with you.

The moniker who said he has a cook yet his wifeet cannot identify with the tag attracted me to this thread.

So tell me who the living oracle is in the other thread.

pocohantas:
Much ado about nothing.
Firstly the #WifeNotCook was started by a man.
Noble Igwe a married man, posted a picture of a meal he was about to eat in a restaurant and people came for him, asking if his wife doesn't cook and of what use is she then.

This upset the young man, and he went on endless rants, stating why his wife's usefulness goes beyond preparing breakfast and they can eat out whenever it isn't convenient.

He never said she won't or doesn't cook. It's over-sensitive people that jumped on it, hence the misunderstanding.

Equating this to #HusbandNotAtm is indeed stupid because in reality, we have lots of women assisting financially and handling the home 100%. Heck.. the Husband is not even an ATM, he should be assisted not just when he needs help but every time! You should assist you wife, not only when she is tired!

I am a prophetess afterall.

Thanks for the explanation.

nextprince:
Hmm. Even to cook for husband is no longer the responsibility of the wives?

Black man with him over sabi. Even in the western world where this gender equality has its roots, cooking is still the responsibility of the wives, but black, by our nature, we must just push it beyond logical understanding.

After working out myself searching for our daily bread, my wife will be telling me she is just a wife not a cook, hmm. Na dat day she dey go her papa house, any man wey like her like dat make e carry, nonsense.

Read the post you quoted slowly and tell me how your post relates with it.

kingreign:
Its a tradition in Adamawa for their wives to cook for their husband especially his own local govt area, Jada LGA. I'm sure when she is at home and less busy, she cooks for him.

I thought it is a general tradition for wives to cook for their husbands?

Or is there a specific tradition catering to such with punishments/repercussions if flouted?

Vorpal:
Madam you are not chatting with a man born in the 1930's. Only a fool would ignore the dynamics of today's world.



Explain that last part, I don't get.

@last part: just yanking your chain

@First part: just wondering what 'some' Nigerians want....

Buhari said his wife belonged to the Kitchen.... They ate his head off.

A lady (if I am correct) said she is a wife not a cook... They have killed her...

What does the typical Nigerian want?

What is the ideal situation to them?

Vorpal:
Depends on what you mean by "belong in the kitchen".
My wife should very much cook my meals as long as there is no inconvenience on her part.

I was referring to Buhari's 'belong to the kitchen, living room and other room' saga.

She get inconvenience not-cooking allowance?

Hmmmm

Vorpal:
Fixed!

O tun ti de abi?

So is your wife a cook or she doesn't belong to the kitchen?

Billyonaire:
My annoyance is not about even cooking. I have a cook, but if a wife has a mindset that she is not a cook, guy it is time to increase the amber alert.

So for you, a woman can decide not to cook as long as she doesn't voice her opinion that she is not a cook.

Interesting

martineverest:
Funny and hypocritical that men that are against this trend were the one that insulted buhari for his statement

Extremely funny my brother.

Even those who claimed their wives didn't belong to the kitchen will still complain of #wifenotcook.

Nigerians say a lot of things they don't mean and mean lot of things that are not said.

Why do I find it difficult to buy the victim card Tonto is selling?

Can she swear that she did not know the kind of man Churchill was/is?

When she got in and saw that khaki is not leather, why didn't she plan exit strategy or analyze & resolve the issues? Why did she use the little funds she had to buy pink cars and phone claiming he bought it for her?


P.S.: It seems female celebrities whose names start with T are doomed martially

Toke; Tiwa; Toyin Abraham; Tonto...

Toolz Demuren, no evil ravaging marriages will come near your dwellings.

Amen.

Acidosis:
I agree with Atiku

Does Titi his wife cook for him?

Drama Drama!

Billyonaire:
1. Because she is a hard working programmer but must cook my meal whenever she is in the country.
2. It is not a punishment, it is a threat and real one.

Note: Just hearing that statement alone #WifeNotACook, I will activate the threat and I mean it. Run your home the way you like, but here I am the Sheriff.

1. So when she is outside the country, she is still your wife even if she can't perform the duty of cooking.
2. Really? Lols!

Billyonaire:
Even though I have a cook, if I read anywhere that my wife supported the #WifeNotCook nonsense, I will not only trend #HusbandNotATM but will also hire a model that can cook 'hot' meals for me.

1. If you believe #wifenotcook is a 'nonsense' trend/ something your wife shouldn't support, why do you have a cook?
2. Is getting a cook who cooks 'hot' meals supposed to be a punishment?


P.S.: All these #wifenotcook and #husbandnotATM trending is wash....

A number of homes have cooks/ helps who cook and are financed by the wives.

Again the tags might mean that a wife/husband is worth more than cooking & spending.

duperola:
been at work since or wld hv replied,she is beautiful,workin and does not look her age,i really dont know what d problem is.i actually told her 2 just get preggy&be takin care of her kid but she feels somehow abt dt

So OP, what's the update? This is two years after.

Thank God the guy is not a homo.

Such sad childhood.

Parents should stop forcing their wards to like a person. Once Jnr doesn't like, don't push it.

Children are very forgiving so if they insist they don't want to play with a person, know something is wrong.

The guy should trace that reverend father if possible. He is the most dangerous of them all.

His neighbor's husband is also clearly gay. Yuck!

motherfucker:
are you scared he might turn into a monster?

I am oooooooooooooo!

I am fighting for my sisters o.

@Susan2017:

You have indulged your husband for so long.

It is one thing for a wife to be the bread winner; it is another for the husband /non breadwinning party to keep living above their means and not doing anything to increase their income to match the lifestyle they desire.

I want to assume your husband was earning in the 1st 3yrs of your marriage... what changed?

Please respond.

crackhaus:
To fvck, sleep, eat, go shopping and go on vacations...and of course let's not forget, donate sperm for procreation.

This your type of husband dey enjoy o!

You see why referring to wives in a traditional setting as leeches is odd... (to be kind )

Except you mean the husband is also leeching on the wife domestically.