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funlord:


1. What is wrong with getting hitched @ 30? By that time U would be mature enough 2 be able 2 withstand the rigours of marriage while also being in prime condition to bear kids!

2.You women always think marrying early is 1 big thing, forgetting that your 20's are the period when you should explore your options in life as well as your womanhood and sexuality while also gaining valuable experience in how 2 deal with members of the opposite sex in relationships

3. Instead of tying yourselves down so early and then regretting your decisions and becoming bitter about your marriages after seeing your mates doing big things with their lives and living free! I've seen it all!

1. There is nothing wrong at marrying by 30 however, you do not need to be 30 before you understand men, how to handle relationships or the 'rigors' of marriage. Well, prime time to bear kids is relative for each woman. Some a still fit at 50, some are menopausing at 30. How do you know the bucket you belong?

2. I don't know what you mean by exploring sexuality and womanhood but if it is by jumping dicks or dating several guys, it is not worth it. Again, what excites you at 23 will be different from what turns you on at 30. If you think 20 - 29 is long enough to decide what you want to do, then you are on a long thing. At 40, you will discover stuffs you never knew about yourself or new areas of interest. 50 might even bring 'new options in life for you'.

3. Actually any woman who married the wrong husband or doesn't have a purpose in life will feel the same way.... whether she married at 20 or 40.

byvan03:
I don't know any disadvantages as a 21years old graduate isn't a baby. As long as you ain't marrying an aged man boy. If you are feeling it, you are good to go, take your brain with ya. By 26-27 you are done with kids, lots of time to be whatever you want to be. Just know who you are marrying.


Early marriage isn't the cause of failed marriages we read about everyday.

The problem is not the age you marry, it's who you marry and your aspirations in life. It is also your mindset towards marriage. I see a lot of peeps see marriage as an end and so want to 'chop' life, 'discover themselves', build an empire etc. before they get married.

Marriage is both of you coming together to build your lives.

Many people have after marriage and kids launched into a fanastic career. I opened a thread earlier on Danielle Crittenden 's opinion that women marry early (to young men), have all their kids and go to build a career than attempt to build a career first before marriage.

Building a career takes years circa 20yrs so why would I want to start at 21 and be running at 40 to have a family when I could marry at 25, build my family (stay home/ work normally without the pressure of building) and launch deeply at 35 till 65 if I like?

@Fun: I never saw jumping dicks, drinking and excessive partying as 'enjoyment' so I could marry at 20 and still enjoy my life.

Again, I will say the right time for everyone is different.

myking95:
My wife deny me sex in marriage? I will travel and cheat on her...get a side chick and don't bother her for one year

Really?

And after one year what happens?

Lovely genes in the family.

henryanna36:
"I met my husband in Enugu, he was a youth corper then in Enugu. I was also posted to Enugu. So a friend of mine visited me and she came along with her boyfriend who also came along with my husband. That was how we met and it was love at first sight. I think people frown at love at first sight but it worked for us.
I fell in love with his broad shoulders. Then he was really looking very cute. I can still remember what he was wearing that day – a red shirt, long sleeves and jeans trousers. That was 37 years ago. He couldn’t even take me out because he didn’t have money as a youth corper. It was quite magnetic and that was it.
There is a 3-year age difference between us. I am older than him anyway. I was like 25 then while he was 22. It was love that really endured. I had graduated and in my place (Owerri) when a girl graduates from the University suitors come from left, right and centre. And your parents would expect you to go for a made man with everything, but I have always known that there was no way I could have married a self-made man. I will better build a home from the scratch with you because I want to have a say in my home"

Mrs Betty Anyanwu Akeredolu
First Lady of Ondo State


Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2017/03/mrs-betty-akeredolu-met-my-husband.html?m=1

Beautiful story of love.

God continue to bless your home.

LeView1:
Omg! Please lord may I never be treated like a child in my marriage

Women! Let's get our self respect back!

Do you think this lady is treated like a child, if yes... why?

Acidosis:
Chai!

cococandy

baby123

idaya dyt

bukatyne

In fact, I have given up, let the women help her.

@Acidosis, thanks for the mention.

@cuteoly: what do you want out of this marriage except the sewing machines? What are the things you can bear and things you can't?

Truth is everyone have a picture of the kind of home they want. What's yours?

cococandy:

Acidosis typed that when he was having an orgasm.

'Nigerian' marriages na wa.

@OP: you both need to court yourselves financially since it was obviously not done in courtship.

What is her views towards finances? What's yours? And then both meet at a midpoint.

I have never 'inflated' the price of anything right from when I was a kid.... I was taught it was stealing.

Again, we run 100% joint accounts so I might never understand the science behind inflating items.

Nice view by the OP

Eddygourdo:
why should I read a recycled romantic nonsense opinion from a beta male, when I already know he spewing nonesense

Well the 'Alpha' thing to do is arm yourself with knowledge to disarm your opponents.

If you read the article, you would have given a robust rebuttal.... I know 85+ liked your comment. I can assure you that they didn't read the OP either.

Abi your Alpha na for only Se.x?

Eddygourdo:
Because many can now afford cheap data, every fool and idiot now has an opinion on life matters. Including those who found it difficult to pass waec , jamb or graduate. If you cook for your wife, isn't that evidenced by the marriage model you employ ? Does it imply that is normal behaviour for all marriage models ?

Its possible you cook for yours as a beta male you are, many other beta males might not find such appealing. Talkless of alpha males. Simply tell us you cooked for your wife, maany of us have done that, many who did it will regret and stop doing it, many who haven't done it will do it when she is sick or pregnant, many are being beaten to do it since he isn't a bread winner, many have no food to cook to show any bloody romance.

Lastly many women will never put themselves through the horror of eating the poison some of their men cook in the name of being romantic. There is reccession and no need for wastage of food stuffs. Biko him or her who is an expert in the field should cook joor.

You obviously didn't read the article

This story is not complete.

If the wife claims the hubby beat her because of lack of male kids, why would he still beat her after the sixth child is a boy? When that's the solution to his problem? (Afterall, madam claimed her husband has never beaten her prior to boy/girl issue'

If hubby was beating her after the fifth till sixth/boy came along. Why is she just filing now?

If hubby is still beating her, then why?

Marriage

daretodiffer:
She likes the attention. I can't believe the OP took the case.

She has gotten her 5 mins of fame....

Next!

prettyangel09:
That bold part was jus to explain how I doubted his faith as a Christain

Sex before marriage and outside marriage is wrong.... 100% yes.

That said, I have a problem with him not feeling guilty after the deed or seeing nothing wrong with it.

You implied your relationship with God was superb before the sex..... Will it be forward for me to say that you prayed and God said yes to him? Apart from the desire to have constant sex with you, are there other shortcomings that makes you question his faith further?

If he is the one for you from God, try not to meet in secluded areas and start preparing for your marriage.

If he is not the one for you, end it.

I am not of the school of thought that if a man sleeps with you before marriage, he doesn't love you or only needs you for se.x.

daretodiffer:
One of those women who doesn't want to divorce but yet won't stop complaining about their spouse. He didn't start this yesterday when it was just one child. God knows that her concern has little to do with her children. Methinks they gain their strength from pity party. To her now, she is a real and strong woman. Ijiot!

Yes, yes I know about domestic abuse so don't quote me.

Absolutely agree with you.

She doesn't want to go to court, doesn't want to divorce, was converted to Islam secretly bla bla bla.

If the husband truly is desperate for a male child, it will be so easy to walk away with her female kids.

Besides, if the man is a new Muslim convert, isn't it easier marrying a 2nd wife than getting the first for a boy?

Very wrong position by CAN.

I don't know what else should be their business than a member pastor allegedly accused of adultery & sin parties publicly.

I also don't know why Apostle Sulieman's church has not suspended him while they investigate the issue prayerfully.

I understand his current Braggadios to prove the accusations don't faze him; however I feel he/his church should have issued a statement and Apostle goes into prayer & fasting till the issue is resolved.

And if the babe is lying, prayers to expose and disgrace all involved in the conspiracy; if she is telling the truth, prayer for forgiveness and repentance.

@Amarabae,

Amaratrouble brought me here....

Interesting thread you've got here.

I absolutely believe we mould our spouses to our taste especially when you 'catch' them young.

Lovely face too

leyo8965:
To set the record straight, lk i said i nagged cos that was not the first time he started the late home coming nd no it wasn't traffic or anything bt jst that he wants to hang out with his friends nd leave me all alone at home. I asked him to do his worse cos he threatened to hit me nd yea he went ahead to do it severally. He did it so hard nd i got angry nd engaged him too. Lk i said this is a marriage that is barely a year. To say i was surprised is jst a statement cos he was never lk that through out our relationship this is a guy that practically worship the ground i walk on.There was no sign of bn a violent person at all.
For now i can't walk out of the marriage cos yea he begged nd his family beggd too but certainly when nxt this happen i won't even think twice though i pray it never happns again.

I Want to believe this record straightening is for me.

I will respond tomorrow.

I thought I read this same thread minus the Noble Igwe stuff a while back?

Are several people going to visit their neighbours who behave same way?

Is this a script or a real life event?

Acidosis:
aha! Why would you be naa?

There are times you just wish to know one or two things about your loved ones

Loved one kwa?

Dyt:
Where?


A young woman
Really young mother of one

Carol dun, oloyin....

Peperepepe!

Oluwa ku ise re!

Acidosis:



Alright, thanks

I yam afraiding o!

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Dyt:
You forgot to add tattoos and ear piercing

Is that you?

If yes, hmmmmmmmm!

Acidosis:

Reason is because I wish to know

Good... the truth has provided you knowledge

Yes, I am a Yoruba lady.

Acidosis:
just asking

You can't just ask; there must be a reason.

DarkRebel101:
To opine that consent be necessary in a state where consensuality has been forgone is to defy the canons of logic. And, no!, "blanket consent" would not be the right terminology to use in describing the nature of marital vows as we have them today. Both parties "specifically" vowed to submit their bodies to each other, and at all times.

If one has taken the vow to be "readily available" to another, why then must one party still need to agree before the other party can excercise his/her conjugal rights?

This is just another proof that marriage is a fraud.



Apples and oranges. While a child cannot choose his/her parents, a man/woman, however, can choose who they intend on living the remainder of their lives with. There's a big difference. A child never vowed to follow the dictates of his/her parents to the letter; married couples on the other hand voluntarily and conscientiously gave up their freewill – as regards sex with the other party – at the moment they recited their marital vows.
It's only proper that they follow through with what they got themselves into.

Please enlighten me, if a husband wants his wife, what does he do?

@bold: I think that's what you are driving at.

Acidosis:
are you Yoruba?

Why?