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TheArchangel:
The women are the cause of their problems, they keep on raising lazy male children that will take over from their fathers.

Merry go round.

Hifi444:
Ten reasons you should be proud to be a woman:

1) Women live longer than men.

2) Women are loved more by their children than men.

3) Women enjoy their childrens wealth than the men.

4) Women enjoy the man's wealth than
themselves.

5) Women get more favor than the men and endure more than men.

6) Women has more avenues of spending Money than the men.

7) Money shows is a woman's body than the men.

Women are celebrated more than the men.

9) Women are the center of attraction.

10) Women will make haven more than Men.

5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

idesylvester:
Na waoo this matter strong ooo

So me wey neva marry hw I go come take get that kind powerful wife wey sabi everytin?

because my father told me that if u r lookin 4 a perfect wife u must b perfect 1st n if it's a good wife u must Polish urself 2 b gud 2...hmm

Me dey wait sha

Timbuktou:
You're just using cliches out of context. How will their marriage work if they cannot resolve conflict effectively? I'll tell you how. By employing effective strategies. Some people shout their way to a resolution, some using physical force, some sulk, silent treatment, etc. Stop painting relationships as a place where husband and wife are programmed robots whose thoughts will always be in tandem and when there is a disagreement all that's needed is a reset of the programme.

I would like you to show me where OP or other married men have prescribed subjugating the women in their lives in this thread. The message has been simple: use your femininity to your advantage. I wonder why females are resisting femininity. No wonder there's so much homo sexuality in the world today

BumbleBee2ice:
Hmmm, if i say i avnt bin tempted b4 to go sneaking in on him to see who he picks up on his way back home i would be lying. bt do i really need dat?

Adaeze003:
is it not funny that keeping your name is "follow-follow" syndrome but changing it isn't?

And then you're a proud person if you don't change but then part of the reason men complain against it is "they want you to be proud to bare their surname".

It is feminism if you don't change but not chauvinistic if you do?

All your reasons for wanting to keep your last name are fit for garbage but changing your name "because your mama did it" is sane?


Anyhow, such topics are important but at the end of the day, it's a decision you make with said hubby.

MCeeShort:
So stress now makes people fat? U will make a good consulting paediatrician!

TheSonOfMark:
[color=royalblue] There's also an issue you haven't addressed : the man's sexual needs.

She stays in a different state from his. There's also a mistress who promises pleasure and only that. A man is only as faithful as his options.



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MidasTouch01:
I really appreciate this, he fought me then because I confronted the girl after o confronted him. Plus he also hides his phone, I got to know about his escapades after going through his phone. So he was like I found what I was looking for. Am I suppose to just end this altogether? When he was last around, he apologised and all. We kind of got intimate but I felt nothing, I insisted on protection. Though i felt nothing, just did as a matter of obligation. During the whole act, I was just wondering if its the same way he touches me that he touches her and all. I really wish I can be strong to make him feel hurt as I feel right now. He went back to his base last week. I asked for people 's advice because I cant help but think about it. I mean wondering what he is doing at the moment, if he is with the girl and all. My problem is I am weak, I mean I have soft spot for this man. I really wanna learn to be stone-hearted cos I am just tired. Sorry for d long story

neoapocalypse:
That's about the only thing that she, or anybody, can play with on her

byvan03:
You are welcome, congratulations Team Mimzy.

abike12:
I don't know how a woman can join her family to extort money from her future husband in the name of list. Shebi you will go and face the gbese when you enter the marriage. One guy bought every single thing on the list and told the wife on the wedding night that she's on her own henceforth, he has finished spending all the money he will spend on her. baddo!

MidasTouch01:
Hi Family, please I need your sincere advice. I created this account for privacy's sake (Mod please don't move this to homepage) . My marriage is just a year old, my husband is 31 while I'm 27. We have a 4year old son (we dated for 7years, had our son in the course of our relationship). Three years ago, he cheated on me with a younger lady. I stepped in and told the lady to leave my man for myself and our son, though he fought me over it but somehow with time, their relationship fizzled out and all was fine.

Earlier this year, my husband started acting suspicious, he became extra careful with his phone and all. I checked his phone, then I saw that the two of them have gotten back together. He claimed the girl asked him to forgive her and he did. Also got to know they have been sleeping with each other (we stay in different states for now as he is running a program). All these I got to know going through his phone. I told him I was done with him and can't take it anymore. He told me that he was sorry, and since he was able to let her go before now, that he will do it again.
Now the problem is this, we stay in two different states, and the lady stays just few kilometres away from my man. He promised to let her go, but I asked him how he intends to, he only replied me that he will. Also, I have the girl's contact, so i see the way they chat away into late in the night.

I intend giving him another chance BUT how do I handle this without overdoing things. As much as I try not to, I end up checking them up on whatsapp, and seeing both of them chat away gets me angrier. Please save a sister's marriage. I believe he is only sorry when he gets caught. After that he seem to throw caution to the wind again. He keeps asking me to trust him. Please how am I suppose to trust him again? And is there a way I can help him, because this seems to be a great weakness of his?

Matured advice please. Thanks a lot.

MrValIk:
Wat exactly do single ladies find so appealing in married men? Its so common now to see young beautiful ladies following man dat are married wit kids. I cnt understand it. Do u ladies tink these men will leave their wives and happy homes for u?
A married man dat flirts wit a single lady has only one tin at d back of his mind... one night stand. For Gods sake. He is married, with childrn. Most men tell their "concubiles" dt maybe dey have problems in dia marriage, or maybe the wife isn't makn him happy, etc. And d girls will always fall for this cheap excuses.
Who is to blame here? The lady, or d married man.

Cc lalasticlala
He may come "complaining" to u, but he'll go back to bed wit her sleeping right beside him. Every night. Daz how all Dez men behave. Be carefull. Just my small advise sha. (this is 2 my frnd MissM).

itstpia8:
you are mistaken. Many male nlers have stated over and over again that they prefer not to have female children.

In Nigeria, mothers might be more sentimental about their sons if they are stressed for not having a male child or they have a lot of girls.

Caleycash:
Hope you will tell that to God, when ur in hell... no be only Diplomatic, bloody liars everywhere!!

pcguru1:
Recently i have thinking about it and really it seems Marriage tend to favour women than men, alot are getting hooked because of societal pressure, and as we know alot of marriages are really going down the drain, if you ask me am not really looking forward to sexless and stressing time. So i'd like to be single for a well, at least being single now, I am not responsible for someone's happiness or feeling the need to baby an adult just to give them some form of comfort, seems so needy in my honest opinion.

cococandy:
Most people probably belong to this group.

Those intro and extrovert categories have got to be the extreme ends of the spectrum.

Yomieluv:
I am happy to inform the house that my wife gave birth to a bouncing baby boy today.
The journey of nine months finally paid of.

I thank God Almighty..I am now a proud Father.

36STATES:
Yorubas should do something about their notoriety around Africa as prolific liars.
My wife's friend from Tanzania cannot stop talking about the lies
she endured in the hands of one Tunde from Nigeria. She says even Tunde's mother and brother were
lying to her to defend his cheating.