₦airaland Forum

cococandy:
Don't mind him. He has nothing to say about his obviously greedy brother who wants to marry arrangee wife for his own benefit.

Instead what he saw was an opportunity to paint a group of women black. Mtchew.

My sister, it is very tiresome.

Like you opined, women never seem to win for some people.

If this guy marries her and they have problems in future, it is still the wife ; If he even marries a saintly Naija woman in Nigeria and issues still surface, the saintly wife will become demonic!

How are you and family? I saw the peek of omomo and she is beautiful

The husband is most likely impotent.

The wife is a shame to wifehood and let the law take its course (if any).

eyeview:
I feel for you.
You're walking into trouble. You've got to understand that the value system women hold in the Us is entirely different from that of ladies obtainable here. Women from there are so empowered by law over the men. Though you'll be the husband,get ready to be thrown out of the house,to be arrested by the cops,etc if she you two have a misunderstanding.
I was besieged with such 'introductions' about ten years ago by aunties in the Us who had 'nice girls' over there they wanted me to meet and marry. First of all,their concept of 'nice girls' are way off the mark by our nigerian standards. For eg,you will run a profile on this 'nice girl' and you will find out that she has a boyfriend whom she spends weekends with,drinks(but occassionally),wears some tattoos in some hidden parts of her body,has smoked. You and I know that by our traditional value system,such doesn't fit the bill of a nice girl,talkless of my christian values.
I know some guys who got married under such arrangements. Today,they are either divorced over there(and the courts always will everything to the lady,leaving the guys to start afresh) or they are constantly being walked out of their own house by the cops because their wives called the cops on them. Some of them now call me to express their regrets and wish to even walk out of the marriage and return to Nigeria.
Most times,your interests are never the same but for the temptation to get 'papers',guys jump in. You should consider what you really want in a marriage.
Goodluck

P/s,there may still be ones whom you can strongly connect with and with good family values too

Of course,

Because they are not inclined to fast and pray for cheating wives like the Naija sistas here, they are evil.

News flash: Women are beginning to wake up here and strangely, you did not condemn a man who wants to marry a woman for papers aka Paper/Gold digger.

@Bold: Nigerian girls in Nigeria don't do this?

It is well.

Mystical888:
Well noted!
Thanks.
That's what I d though.

@OP:

I have a colleague who has a young maid (13+).

The maid decides when she does the required chores... e.g. mom I will wash the clothes on Friday, I will do a, b, c on Saturday etc.

You can also explore that option if your maid is reliable.

The perfect Nigerian wife

None.

And I don't understand this seducing non-sense

Does it mean that the boy's parents did not train him well enough to resist 'seduction'?

Both parents should educate their kids on the need of abstinence.

byvan03:
So so lovely!!thanks a lot dear .

Happy belated birthday sis!

Many many more of God's blessings and favor to you.

Hope you enjoyed your day?

I just watched effizy po last year and knew the industry lost a gem.

Seun, RIP.

May we all be alive to enjoy the fruits of our labour.

Yorubas say..

Omode o mo ogun, o pe lefo

A pikin no know jazz, e call am vegetable.
.....
All these things would work once they are backed up by spiritual powers; it will not work without invoking the demons behind them.

Mediapace:
Nothing really,twas jez funny to me

and @bukatyne you said "As someone also said, what makes you think the barber is not possessed and do you pack your shaved hair from the saloon?"

Me i always pack all my hair remainant when am true with barbing,no barber for take my hair

@Bold:

Really?

Wateva rocks your canoe.

byvan03:
Thank you!

You're welcome

@Topic:

Boys/girls having a distraction free learning environment is MUCH MORE important that an indecently dressed girl's education.

A group of indecently dressed girls/boys can't hold the school to Ransome.

@God2man & Topic:

I 100% agree with your view on human hair extensions; I think they are demonic and I can't imagine wearing someone's hair on my head.

I however find your reference to the people making the hair funny; what is the difference between one lady making your hair & 10 women when it comes to demon possession?

As someone also said, what makes you think the barber is not possessed and do you pack your shaved hair from the saloon?

If however, this is a private revelation/instruction, then God must have seen ahead. Besides, God gives different people different revelations & instructions.

@he is controlling: hmmmm.... He insisted his wife cut her hair is no different from another husband insisting a wife keeps her hair long or keeps putting on trousers. It is still same insistence.

@looks: Amber Rose had managed to look so good with skin cut

P.S.: How do you view the scripture that says a woman keeping her hair short is shameful?

pickabeau1:
Maybe you need to make yourself clearer

It is not as simple as a husband stops earning and the wife automatically becomes a 'witch'

Oko Iyawo malawi14,

Congratulations and thank you for updating the thread.

Can you please remove your IV now??

According to you, this my post below

bukatyne:
Most women do not change
They repay the husband in his own coins. If he treated her well when he was earning, chances are he will be treated well if he is not earning
See the bold:

Translates to this?

pickabeau1:
Irrespective,.... According to you
All women who mistreat their husbands are doing what they did to them too

No problem then

I give up.

Well well!

17yr old girl; early 20s guy.

Better than an older man.

I pray their union lasts; the guy must really be responsible.

pickabeau1:
Don't do it

Make sure you have a job before you quit or have a plan - school, certification etc


Most women change when the man is not earning anything

What does she do.. your post just emphasizes Americana

Most women do not change...

They repay the husband in his own coins. If he treated her well when he was earning, chances are he will be treated well if he is not earning.

See the bold:

okgerald:
Really appreciate all the input. She is ready to stand by me until I get my papers and green p. She is working and earning a decent wage.
My fiance is a very good person. She will remain good as long as I remain faithful. Being faithful has always been a problem for me .
She can take care of things at least until I get my feet and my papers as she earns a fairly good wage.
Here I feel like a free man that can do what I want. But also considering the future. Job security, security , state of our economy and so on.

byvan03:
With another man? Lol!! I will find that very silly, it's easier to forgive that because I will view it as an ailment. With a woman, forget it, just move in with the woman right away because I won't be available.

I just imagined it and honestly, it is easier to accept and attributed to the work of the devil

Forgiveness..... after 100 days dry fasting & prayers and 10 bottles of anointing oil down his ass!

This thread is very amusing!

Here to definitely read comments!

Men think they can cheat on women and those would never find out. Some are so arrogant and careless as to take their lovers home and get sex there.

This woman has spotted the cheater despite all his efforts to cover up. Learn how she did it.
Once upon a time a wife left home to visit her family. The husband decided to have some fun and brought his lover home. They stayed up all night.

He bought her some flowers and they had a romantic dinner with candles plus much fun in bed. In the morning he bid her goodbye and started to clean the house.
He checked every corner of it. He changed the bed linens and washed all the dishes. He checked the corners behind the bed to see if no earring was dropped there or no long hair stuck to the bed sides.

Eventfully, he decided the house was Ok, and his wife would never find out.

When she arrived back home she confronted him over the dinner:
“Honey, was there an electricity blackout last night?”
He said: “No, why you ask?”
Her answer is amazing, Have you guessed it already?
“You, little cheater, explain than why the candles are so burned down?!”

http://naija4real.com/a-man-secretly-had-sex-with-his-lover-at-home-how-his-wife-found-out-is-amazing/

Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe!

Acidosis:
Such methods have always being used wrongly in Nigeria. Same Nigerians that punish the maids, and pamper their own children?

Majority of our grandparents used this method in the right manner and we all read about the trustworthiness of "trade by barter".

It is this mal-generation that gave rise to yahoo boys, where parents buy admission, JAMB score, WAEC grade, for their children.

Look at the religious houses, you'd discover that majority of the fake pastors today are within the age of 30 - 45/48yrs. They're all products of the failed generation. You can hardly find a dishonest pastor within the age of 55-70 yrs. The same applies to many sectors in Nigeria.

I believe in living an exemplary life (a life worthy of emulation). A father who smokes have no right to beat his 12 year old son if caught smoking. Punishment, however, can be applied when a child derails completely from the lifestyle of the parents. Majority of those parents who turn their wards to punching bags failed to build a good foundation.

@ bold:

Strange.

You mean all the dishonest politicians etc. Are all 30 - 48yrs??

@Topic:

Trick question:

How do you judge a homosexual when you are a fornicator or adulterer yourself?

How do you judge a politician who lied during his manifesto when you just Lied to your wife that you are not sleeping with your colleague?

How do you judge a thief while you are a liar?

How do you judge a promiscuous woman when you are a gossip?

Class:

The ability to stun in decency

WellEndowed:
There is nothing wrong with sticking to gender roles....as long as BOTH PARTIES are okay with it.

I recently came across an Indian woman who has refused to further her education because according to her, if she does, she would end up earning more than her husband and wouldn't want that. She in her own opinion, believes men should earn more. Who am I to object if them two are okay with it

Wise woman

She knows what she wants and actively works/un-works towards it.

martineverest:
What is married ebuka doing with grooms men?

Grooms men are friends of the groom

Married or single.

WhitegirlonNL:
Talk of tanning. Yes, i agree most white girls tan but they don't do it to look like any kind of women. It just makes them feel confident and not any less white.

Even when we go through surgical operations, its to enhance whats already there.
But black girls, not all tho, transform themselves completely and prefer Caucasian features all through.

@bold

Then how on earth did you conclude a black girl straightening her hair wants to look like a white

What Caucasian features are you talking about self?

Your so called Caucasians still do nose jobs to look 'Caucasian' so what's the issue?

Orikinla:
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She wants to abort it. But he is pro life advocate and is against abortion.

Then she should have it & keep in an orphanage.

@lovesmile16:

Congrats on your new job.

If you have never sat down to discuss how your finances and home should be run, now is the time.

I would appreciate if you can answer the following:

1. What kind of person/wife are you?

A. Do you believe a husband as the head must contribute bulk of the finances while you take care of the home?

B. Do you believe both of you should contribute financially & domestically according to your capacity?

2. Do you tie respect to finance? Do you believe your husband must be a 'man' and always be capable financially?

3. Can you be accountable to your husband? Or do you believe your money yours and you can spend however you like?

4. Does your man believe a man MUST earn more than his wife? After the euphoria of the new job & fat pay, would your man mind been the lower pay earner?

Why is she constantly flaunting herself when her supposed lover and father of her son remains in EFCC's custody?

Didn't she enjoy the proceeds of the alleged theft?

Did she visit the guy in custody to share her birthday with him?

Looks like a fair weather friend/wife/baby mama.

Every spouse should obviously put themselves first while respecting and caring for their parents together.

Anybody not ready to leave his/her family and cleave to his/her spouse should stay married to their parents.

thorpido:
That's true but in this guy's situation,he does not.I don't blame him though because he is still dealing with the pressures of medical school.

True

Blade21:
no oo e nor go cut you