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bellong:
Who are the "They" that said this?

What are the too many challenges that first few years of marriage come with?

Is this what you feed yourself?

babygirlfl:
There is nothing wrong with the write-up. The problem is the op who put some part of the write up in bold in an attempt to make it what it is not and blame it on the modern woman even when most of what the woman said led to the breakdown of her marriage is championed by those who want the old ways to stay.

@op,



Ignore him and face your children sounds to me like putting the children first.

When you marry him, you marry his family and they can come and visit when they want does not sound to me like a home where parents/Inlaw have boundaries. I can even add that slapping your partner in his/her house as not having boundaries.

Don't talk back at him. Learn to keep shut sounds like that's what the op does.

Honestly ask yourself if it's the modern woman that gives these kind of advice because every time I have heard it , it's been from those women and men who champion how women in the olden days lived.


In your fast attempt to teach the modern woman a lesson, you have ended up telling us that we are right and if anybody is to change, it's those who love the way women of old lived.

Her point about emasculating him proves that any woman can be rude and bad whether modern or not.

cococandy:
4,5,7 codes to live by.

Roum:
I'm honoured to be here!!! tnx Op

kelechiMarie:
Cool

donodion:
Include:
5. Exhibiting unwarranted SUPERIORITY over her ex-husband and DAILY showing it to him
6.Finding fault over everything he does as long as its not done her way.
7.Uncaring towards his feelings and emotional need.

The woman's predicament is testimony to modern women abuse of priviledges embedded in women mpowernent rights and privileged

...and yours truly she's self suffient as evident in her lamentation


your preference not mine.



Really? Didn't know "longsuffering" wives possess those "vices" you listed above. . .Wow!!!

SAMBARRY:
no they want to align the unalignable.na small small them go dey bring feminism matter into the thread and of course it's being Mrs independent that destroyed her marriage as usual

SAMBARRY:
Please preach it o

donodion:
Yours truly,I pray they learn,especially the "I'm a modern woman crew".

lolaredvelvet:
This is for those "Miss Independent" women who believe women's empowerment means to berate a man. Don't cry wolf when you truly end up INDEPENDENT.

jnrbayano:
You woke up, typed this nonsense and presented it for the world to read?

The ignorant will quickly form opinion about men of this hemisphere but thankfully, they are in the minority.

classicB:
Thanks for correcting me, i should have said 'dnt allow these people that knows nothing about the culture destroy your marriage'

TV01:
Not more, not less, exactly the same? Wanting as an express desire and the effort and timings are totally different. The limiting factors are mostly heavily weighted for females. It's why men can have harems. And children are more biological imperative for women and status for men.

TV01:
Of course we do. We have very little risk and only really have the burden - shared - of provision. Do you know what childbirth can do to a woman? I have a cousin who had 4 by CS. Here the max is 3. I would not have 4 CS' for anything. 1 sef

Yes na. I would love 2 more, 4 sef. But that's effortless for me to say and almost effortless for me to do. One area I don't demand obedience - and wifey has said no more . Truth is, I wouldn't allow it. What even I went through - which was nothing comparitively - I can't go through again. But if I could have multiple wives, why not?

TV01:
^{...and in the West you can have the kids and escape the burden if you are able to act irresponsibly. Some men have 20}

EnlightenedSoul:
This too! My goodness, it's galling.

I'll be back for you, TV. Let me get home.

TV01:
Pondered, wondered and gon' dered (sorry, best I could do off the cuff !)

Can't be true as a biological imperative. Women have shorter windows and limited opportunity. A womans fertile years are limited relative to a mans. A woman can only be pregnant to delivery once for any 9 month duration.

Men can impregnate as many as they can lie with. The delivery risk (non-existent for men) and post-delivery burden is greater on women also. Simply put, spermatozoa is cheap, the effort minimal, risk low and the burden comparitively light. The male urge is more for "expression", the female for "conception". Nothing to engender fervency in men !

Culturally, it's still women who show more fervency - although men do as well. Men don't have ot work against the clock as much for marriage or children. They handle the pressure better as a result and find more solace/respect in status - apart from marriage.

You need to share - insightfully - on this or take a strike for trolling !

TV

Kay17:
The three articles were not enough? How many do I have to produce? 20? 30? 50? 100? When will you be satisfied?!

Kay17:
But you believe since women are incapable of acquiring postgraduate degrees and incapable of accumulating experience they coincidentally fell in the disadvantaged group, right?

Kay17:
At least you were one of those denying unequal pay exists, now you know it does BUT for good reasons?

classicB:
Are you not yoruba ni? You ought to have known all these before you got married to their son.
It is a normal thing here and I dunno why you are suddenly surprised about calling your little sister in law AUNT.
This act as been going on for ages. I have women old enough to be my grandmother call me that, not because of anything else but because they see me as their small mother/sister in law. Will it make them any lesser? Remove a strand of hair from their head? Make their nearer to their grave? NO!!!
These older women have seen it all and it's no longer a big deal to them. And that is why have been saying that to avoid fight with husband family in the future try enough to get to know them very well, even in the early start of the relationship, if u had known you'd be asked to call a girl younger than your sister AUNTY In the first place am sure u might have said no to the marriage proposal.
For the sake of peace in your home, u better start calling her that and dnt follow the advice of some so called feminist here that are ready to spoil others marriage.
You can call her name when she isn't there, but pls add the AUNTY when she is around. It will not reduce your phd certificate to waec.

Kay17:
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yetseyi:
I think we ladies seem to forget number 8

Nonso23:
The second isn't very different just bulkier.
The third seems like a plagiarism of the colorist article sorta with certain questionable approaches too.

Kayworld26:
7...

Goldtop:
True talk

cococandy:
Number 4.

SAMBARRY:
Ododo oro.gbam!

Nonso23:
Can't upload the second. NL servers is returning unexpected error messages.
File is larger than 250kb

Nonso23:
I'm on mobile now. I can't post them all but I'll upload them for easier download via NL servers.