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emmykk:
There is this lady who said we should meet at a public place,the i took her to lessuka in PH.

After some chat and soft drink she said she want to know my place aha! I refuse because she should have told me that before this Lesuka spending.


The truth is that some ladies like such even when you dont demand.



If you want to know how foolish a lady is,remove sex from your mind treat her like your sister,pet her,give her things,take her out....and you wil see that they are sex loving too.

cococandy:
If I haven't read multiple situations where a lady was raped and was also blamed for agreeing to go to the guys house in the first place, I'd believe those who say they have no ulterior motives when they invite you to their house.

Most of them do because somehow they believe agreeing to visit them in the privacy of their homes is an implicit agreement to having intimate relations. Don't be deceived.

Just go if you're into the dude and want to door with him. Otherwise, na yourself is to blame if you believe his 'professed' innocence. You will be also blamed for believing him. Even those who told you not to stereotype will join in blaming you.
That's how twisted it is.
It's a lose lose situation.

Stillfire:
Buhahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NL men won't kill me abeg.

Timbuktou:
Yes, I believe this to be true.

Stillfire:
So because FT doesn't take your side, he's pathetic?
The women that don't take women's side nko? Are they pathetic too? Or the rule doesn't apply?
Only FT and you guys are already shaking in your pants, what if I unleash all my male feminists friends on this site that one na cardiac arrest for una...

Francis my MAN, ride on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm solidly behind you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anybody that doesn't like your posts, in the words of Oba Akiolu should go and drown in the lagos lagoon!!!!!!

Anyway which due time? With the kind of angst you NL guys show here, I'm sure marital rape would only be illegal in the next 1000 years. You know the black man is almost like a millennium behind from the rest of the world. Teheheheeeeeeeee

houseofphreedah:
Have SEX with her very well, more tips are:

1. Don’t forget special occasions. I track important days with Birthday Alarm. I set it up some 10 years ago. Since .then, the website has changed many hands but they still send me emails prior to those dates. You can set up alarms or alerts using many web/phone apps. I feel forgetting your anniversary or her birthday is the biggest turnoff for her.

houseofphreedah:
2. Give her compliments whenever possible. Whether it’s her cooking or her outfit, you should show your appreciation when it’s appropriate.

houseofphreedah:
3. Let her be in charge of home affairs. Don’t try to argue about the need to buy a new toaster. My wife loves to buy new tea cups, and even though we have around 16 pairs already, I still don’t argue when she buys a new pair. It’s her hobby to drink tea in different cups. Let her take decisions as to which movie you two should watch next, in my case this ensures that I get to watch my favorite sport, and, not another cooking challenge on TV.

houseofphreedah:
4. Never make fun of her. She’s your wife and the closest friend you have. She’s certainly more important than any of your other friends. Talking about your wife’s shortcomings with others is just as bad as cheating.

houseofphreedah:
5. Clean something. Women, mostly, are cleanliness fanatic. If you don’t maintain clean hygiene it will surely turn her off. The floor, the areas at home where she can’t reach (and you can, you need to be Spiderman for that, sometimes) clean those areas. She would love your effort.

houseofphreedah:
6. Criticize her tactfully. Recently SMB bought a pair of shoes I didn’t like. When she asked for my opinion, I said the pair looked good but it lacked….blah blah. You should not start giving your opinion by being negative from the very beginning.If you feel she needs exercise, you start doing it first. Never say that she gained weight.

houseofphreedah:
7. Fix something around the house. Anything. Chances are, she has a list of things to be fixed – ask her, then do whatever you can. Set a goal to fix one thing per weekend. Ask her if her car needs repair or an oil change. Drive her car and see if everything is all right.

houseofphreedah:
8. Let her sleep late if she wishes. I wake my wife up every day, and she prepares my breakfast and packs my lunch. I return the favor on weekends. I prepare breakfast and take it to her. Even if SMB wakes up before I bring her morning tea, she doesn’t leave bed and waits for me.

houseofphreedah:
9. A surprise dinner out can go a long way. Your wife is bound to be sick for a couple of days every month. Its a good gesture that you know those dates and surprise her with a takeout order or offer to dine out. I usually get a mouth-watering dish prepared by her within a few days of showing such gestures. Sickness or none, special treats usually go a long way in a relationship. It shows you care and think about her. (late addition – SMB has a huge objection to this claim)

houseofphreedah:
10. Take care of the kids. At least for a day every week. Change his/her diapers and let your wife take a break. This will give her a chance to go out with friends or have them come over while you take care of household matters.

houseofphreedah:
11. Spend time alone with her. Don’t always plan for a trip with your friends and kids. Plan for an exclusive gateway sometimes. Just book a hotel within a few miles from your home and spend a day there, just the two of you. Let your kids be baby sat for the night.

houseofphreedah:
12. Don’t hide anything. If you have a colleague who flirts with you, tell that to your wife (although I never faced this situation ). If you lose money in the stock market, tell her that. Tell her about the attractive lady who joined your team recently. Openness is the base of a relationship – keep the base intact and develop a mutually trusting relationship on top of it.

houseofphreedah:
13. Don’t try to understand her fully. No man could ever do it. She might behave differently in similar situations at different times. Its the gene! Even if you praise her, she might, at times, think you are criticizing her. On some days, she’ll be unhappy no matter what you do. Just take those days as they come. Don’t feel bad and give it a little time. She’ll soon be back with apologetic love.

houseofphreedah:
14. Admit your faults. I break this rule frequently. I resort to excuses for things she doesn’t like me doing. I need to stop that. The sooner you realize that admitting your faults to your wife is a different ball game (rather than to your boss or friends), the better your personal life could be. Admit if you forgot to pay the dues or to bring the flowers, don’t say the florist was closed.

houseofphreedah:
15. Don’t smoke or drink if she doesn’t like it. I have a smoking habit, I tried to quit and I did when I first started courting her, some 12 years back. Sadly, I started smoking again. She hates it, she hates the smell from my clothes. I will quit one day, it’s just so tough to do it. If you can’t quit totally, try not to smoke at home.

houseofphreedah:
V16. Don’t ignore her for more than 2 hours when you are both at home. This is my special rule. Often I require more than 2 hours to write an article. I make a point to take a break for 10 minutes and talk to her before finishing my writing.

houseofphreedah:
more of this from www.houseofphreedahbodycare.com

vedaxcool:
nothing is more disturbing than when someone speak ignorantly with so much certainty. Mary often pictured wearing a hijab or over garment.





https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Veil

Unfortunately many posters here cannot differentiate between Niqab and hijab nor even know what hijab is.

Blossom023:
"all men cheat" who told you to try them all?

I believe maturity is the number one thing, what will make a man cheat if not that he is immature? the thing you're looking for outside is the same thing your babe has. if you like bigger size, why didn't you go for that one instead?

personally I don't even care if my man is cheating, it's his business... but cheating isn't based on sex.. if u are in a relationship and you have started feeling somehow funny with another woman or even man, you have already started cheating... sex is just the end product.

honeric01:
bukeke..wetin dey do me now pass wetin u dey expect us to discuss jare.

i need one big plate of hot peperrish peppeesoup with a damn sour palmwine under correct standing fan.

dats all.

Timbuktou:
Loosely speaking, saying insulting and demeaning words at someone with the deliberate intention to hurt and cause pain at the intended recipient.

5minsmadness:
Show me a single post where I have insulted anybody on this forum(apart from franchesca)!

My grievance with you and cougar is thinking that rape among the married is "widespread"! Wtf is that? But it's only the marriages you are involved in that are good? You just think all Nigerian men re barbaric illiterates?!? What nonsense! What abject generalization! What Immbroglio!

Majority of nigerian men are gentlemen and it is only the random few that will force themselves on thier wives and end up in the headlines to make sensational news for young folk like you to come up with sh1t like these!

freecocoa:
You go first ask yourself, whether these women even believe it is normal for a woman to be president. It is something still considered taboo around here.

Forget the internet, Nigeria is still very backward on matters like this.

When I try to even talk to some women on women empowerment, the response I get is saddening "babe leave o, we are in Nigeria, unless you don't want to get married bla bla bla"



Sometimes I even think, the women themselves don't want a change, many Nigerian women are intellectually lazy, they fear responsibility like mad, they just want to manage to graduate, get married, have babies and enjoy their husband's money.

Timbuktou:
Quick question: how many women, here, would look favourably upon her sister's husband divorcing her for yabbing. As in, she too dey yab me, dat na why I come divorce am. Please answer honestly.

honeric01:
e.g : Women should start opening doors for their men..

erico2k2:
you will be suprised money has no value in Nigeria nowadays I'm afraid. I know loads of my friends who save 500k monthly.

erico2k2:
good question, they think its 10M

pablomaria:
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hahaha, abeg tell them jare, dem think say lekki na sambissa forest, land in lekki is expensive. hahaha

honeric01:
late comer, go n do frogjump outside

5minsmadness:
They don't know what they r missing

oloyede252:
"once made equal to man, woman become his superior"

....................... SOCRATES(philosopher)

troy20:
i intentionally made the blunt comment cause i know thats what you want to see.well there you have it.women naturally dont believe or respond to equality.women want to be led and led well.so once that leadership is inexistent in whatever sphere they share with men, if they have that fair chance, they will assume authority and assume it very visciously.women are mainly emotion and very little to reason.power majorly influence by emotion has being doing damages.tales abound.women are very powerfull as it is even.it is the men that need to up their game.

Babacele:
I like your Margaret Thatcher's NL signature.

MrP7:
Mr man listen well, do you have a job waiting for u, if you don't stay in US
You can buy a small land in Lekki and build a small house, buy a small car and save some money in your account before u come back if you don't have a job offer
Now if you have a job in an oil company u can come back.
You've been away for 5 years so unless your people have money or have connections , no one will help you
In Nigeria getting a job is not were you studied but your connections