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How did Emeka know she's a 9 or did he just find out her age?

While I agree that a number of women in abusive relationships are the cause, I do not see How your premises tally with the conclusion.

You said women love ravishment (intense sex)? different from rape. How Does that imply women attract abuse to themselves?

You also touched on divorce/abuse/wealth: That is another kettle of fish all together.

This article is suited to prove women love sex, ravishment, loveware, have fantasies etc.

P.S.: What is ravishment and loveware?

What's up with the west again?

Is the 'West' forcing Nigerian men to pick their wives' surnames

@OP:

Each to their own.

babyosisi:
Is this for a bird or a fellow woman like me?

Hahahahahaha!

edwife:
Abi? but i am far from 14-never been there and can never go there; but do you believe that i weight 67/70 ? Yea muscles dear,that's why i am advising you to never check that scale,only your dress size.I will be worry if i weight less than 65,that's means I am losing up muscles.
By building them it will be a miracle to gain weight easily.

Beside weight goes together with height and age,someone can look okay but underweight,and that's the door to many illnesses...

I agree on the weight stuff

It is the look and size that matters.

Marilyn Monroe was a size 14. I am sure that Kim is definitely not a 8 or 10.

Chillisauce:
lol. Ok, the picture will be displayed on friday evening by 8pm Nigeria time.
All participants should wear black gown

failure to arrive on time, you pay a fine.

cool?

Over cool dey worry am

We have a date

Serious about the bello ng stuff

cococandy:
Bukatyne how much do you have?
I have the raw unedited copy

Gerra way you

You should have called me

Chillisauce:
im sure you are not trying to petronize me

Me ke?

Innocent moi

Trying to be helpful

edwife:
Chillisauce what says you?

Chilli darling

@Transporting stuff, you can talk to bello ng

edwife:
for real?

I beg forgive me.... it must be the wine i took yesterday and still on it today....

But chillisauce will be upset with me,i no want spoil her market.

Just show me the pics

Will still negotiate with Chilli to see the under

edwife:
After you no wish me happy Bday yesterday which i know you know or came across my thread ,do as chilli says....

Me?

You did not see my post + cake abi the kaikai was already working wonders...

Chillisauce:
i have the pics.

Just send me 1500mtn card and i will release the lower section

Lols

Edwife is still here na...

Why should I settle for less

I shall be see the head and not the tail

Pictures gone?

Cococandy, come and describe what you saw

jnrbayano:
Bukatyne,

I'm calling you out.

Come and explain what you meant in the night of yesterday.

Will explain in the morning of tomorrow

iykedare:
Apc has shown that they aren't capable of leading us.

These apc guys are clowns.

Silly news about them every single day.

I honestly pray they are capable of leading us...

Because if they fail, we will all feel the hate of their failure

byvan03:
Nice write up, 9 and 10 is the deal .

Thanks

Which of the 9 & 10 do you like?

If this is true then there is a huge problem if the VP has to 'prove' himself trustworthy.

How was he selected then

Any house built on lies and falsehood will not stand.

APC has achieved their goal of sweeping PDP out of Aso Rock, they are now confused on what to do with themselves.

Babymama1:
Lunch
See the puny chicken
Eating healthier

Hallelujah!

God's working

irunoko:
Wura will say tewa for shewa and if you say what's your name she'll say wuha

lols

sookoo:
Hi all! Would you marry a man who has ever beaten a woman, even just once? My colleague's boyfriend told her that he once beat his former girlfriend, though, according to him, she slapped him first. My stance is this, once a woman beater, always a woman beater. They never change. What do you think?

I know I am late to the party

@OP: If a man slaps back a woman who slapped him first, I would not blame him.

However, she needs to verify the true story.

Also it depends on how he said it; if it was out of remorse or a warning to the current girlfriend.

Fkforyou:
I think what he is trying to say is that , Women are becoming more rude and uncouth because of the various rights and benefit they currently enjoy, which I dont quite agree.
Any woman can be rude whether modern or not, and I will rather be with a well mannered morden girl than with an uncouth village girl.

Thanks

There is hope after all

While we can say the job was not meant for him and a better one is on the way, Let us know that sometimes, we lose What is ours through carelessness.

If something has been prepared for you and you are not ready for it, it would pass you except by grace.

That 15yr old needs training. He should be done with Sec Schl or in Snr. Schl and should know What a job opportunity means. IMHO, he should be punished to train/retrain him.

texanomaly:
Temper

Ravish

yetseyi:
coogaluta calling elder sisters aunty or not depends on the family. I just feel one should go with what works in one family.

For e.g I call siblings and cousins within the same age range by name . If you are out of my range I can add sister but then that's what works for us. In some families even if you are a month older you must add 'sister' or aunty.

For a wife I would also say observe what works in your husbands family.

Thanks

ymdo:

I share your opinion.
Mods, no frontpage please. Some topics on nairaland usually make sense till it is moved to frontpage, then E-diots takeover.

Lol @ 2nd sentence

Rachaelfrancis:
my marriage is just 10 months old.

Ok

Rachaelfrancis:
when I and my husband were dating,I used to think he was a very sweet guy because he made me believe so. He is ten years older than I but looks young except for his white hair

How do your husband make you believe he was nice? Gifts? Money? Actions?

Rachaelfrancis:
He took my virginity after our wedding

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Good one

Rachaelfrancis:
when I got pregnant,he asked me if I wanted to keep the baby and I said 'of course'. he didn't act like he was happy. well,I still kept de baby.

If I get the timing right, you got pregnant after marriage. Why was your husband asking if you wanted the baby Did he ever discuss delaying childbirth? Did you agree? Was he financially buoyant? Could/can he provide for the baby? I get that you are not working/earning

Rachaelfrancis:
sometime later,he invited his mother to come stay with us and I refused and that was when the whole problem started.

Did he mean a permanent stay? Has he ever discussed/hinted it before? Is his mom old? Lonely? Not working?

Rachaelfrancis:
he started to be very stingy with me,he won't drop money for me in case I needed sth to eat..one day I was cooking and de gas finished and I had no dime at home to go downstairs and eat..I stayed hungry till he came back.

Was this a reaction to you not agreeing to his mother staying or did he just choose that time to manifest?

Rachaelfrancis:
despite how weak I was,I cooked delicious meals for him taking my time. I cleaned de house,washed the toilet and of course gave him gud sex.

Did you ever confide in your husband that you were weak (as a result of your pregnancy) or were you doing power girl? Your husband is not a mind reader

Rachaelfrancis:
he stoped sleeping on the bed when I didn't let the mum live with us. he would masturbate in the sitting room instead of doing it with me. I got tired of complaining and let him be.

I am thinking that it is easier for your husband to move his mom into the house than wanking. It also seems he rather punish himself than be unfaithful to you. What was he really reacting to?

Rachaelfrancis:
he used to refuse to on the gen for long and I get very hot easily,he said he doesn't have money for putting on the gen.

Did he lack resources or was it part of his manifestation?

Rachaelfrancis:
I used my own money to buy fuel,when I came back,he asked me where I was taking the gen to and I told him I wanted to on the gen because pregnant women really feel hot he started to shout that I should go and buy my gen,that he would abort my baby if I tried him.

Ok, what was he really reacting to?

For me, it is easier to move his mother into your house than all these stress and drama. Was there any other issues apart from him mother?

Rachaelfrancis:
he started to beat me mercilessly,used bucket to flog my body,pushed a cushion on my body and it hit my tommy. that very night,I started to have serious contraction,i was rushed to the hospital. there and then,they checked me and confirmed my cervix was opened and I was almo losing my child and that I developed a high blood pressure...I am just in my mid twenties./

Here your husband had lost it and beat you mercilessly ( I am guessing because of the gen?) Why didn't you call your family to pick you up from the hospital?

Rachaelfrancis:
I cried that night. when I came home,he still was becoming worse,he will come home by 12,started to lock his phone but I did discover his code twice and saw his conversations with some people. I asked him to buy me baby things for our baby and he asked if money falls from trees.

What conversations did you see? Care to share?

Are you sure your husband doesn't have financial issues?

Are you still pregnant?

Rachaelfrancis:
watch out for part 2 of this story soonest but all I do know is forgiveness in this case wil be very hard. he doesn't deserve me!

Before we watch out for part two:

The first step is not forgiveness, it is resolving the issues

1. I do not think your MIL move is a major issue; something else is biting him. Have you seen your MIL after your wedding? Is she sick? Disabled? in need of special care?

2. The beatings are unacceptable. If he is still pounding you, move out of the house and resolve your issues amicably

3. I think there is no communication between you two. What really changed him from caring to warrior? Did you change from what brought out the sweet him?

4. He doesn't deserve you.... hmmmm! let us get to the bottom of this first.

Would like your feedback

I am wit the other half that she should not have intervened;

She might not have known the genesis of the issue and just knows what they want her to know (depending on the family)

She should have been neutral and make peace instead.

She should apologize to the MIL and stay out of their family squabbles unless invited and interfere wit caution when invited.

Happy Birthday Edwife

God be with you and family

God bless you OP

yetseyi:
Interesting thread

Reminds me of my cousins, their wives and the brouhaha this name calling caused.

A wife (sister S) to one of my cousins ( Their parents dont seem to take this kind of topic serious) usually calls her husband siblings by name except the hubby's elder brother. Now her hubby should be around 7 years older than her, He has an elder brother and 2 younger siblings

She calls the siblings by their first name even though the direct younger sibling to the hubby(a female)is about four years older than her, there are other cousins in the family that are in the same age range of the female sibling and for whatever reason she started calling one of them (sister Y) by her first name (that side of the family takes this matter very serious).

Now every member of the family knows that the other side of the family doesn't care about all this stuff and even their wives know, so the wives takes advantage of it by showing attitude, i mean common courtesy they lack and I m not exaggerating.

There was a function and sister A called sister Y by her name I guess publicly. Sister Y reminded her publicly that firstly both of them are not mates, secondly she is also married and her husband has siblings she doesnt call them by name that just because sister A calls her husband direct siblings by name doesn't mean she can call her too

It was a funny scenario which could have been avoided if sister A had studied that part of the family well.

I am not really an advocate of calling aunty or no aunty. I seem to be neutral about it but if its going to save you some stress pls call aunty especially when the person in question is older than the wife.

A wife should have the common sense to address her in-laws older than her by 'Aunty Y'/'Uncle Y' or 'Mummy X'/'Daddy X'

While I am a strong advocate of scrapping nonsense culture, I equally advocate wives/husbands make use of common sense and courtesy.

Would she address her married elder sister by name or disrespect her?

Rachaelfrancis:
my marriage is just 10 months old. when I and my husband were dating,I used to think he was a very sweet guy because he made me believe so. He is ten years older than I but looks young except for his white hairHe took my virginity after our wedding. when I got pregnant,he asked me if I wanted to keep the baby and I said 'of course'. he didn't act like he was happy. well,I still kept de baby. sometime later,he invited his mother to come stay with us and I refused and that was when the whole problem started. he started to be very stingy with me,he won't drop money for me in case I needed sth to eat..one day I was cooking and de gas finished and I had no dime at home to go downstairs and eat..I stayed hungry till he came back.despite how weak I was,I cooked delicious meals for him taking my time. I cleaned de house,washed the toilet and of course gave him gud sex. he stoped sleeping on the bed when I didn't let the mum live with us. he would masturbate in the sitting room instead of doing it with me. I got tired of complaining and let him be. he used to refuse to on the gen for long and I get very hot easily,he said he doesn't have money for putting on the gen.I used my own money to buy fuel,when I came back,he asked me where I was taking the gen to and I told him I wanted to on the gen because pregnant women really feel hot. he started to shout that I should go and buy my gen,that he would abort my baby if I tried him. he started to beat me mercilessly,used bucket to flog my body,pushed a cushion on my body and it hit my tommy. that very night,I started to have serious contraction,i was rushed to the hospital. there and then,they checked me and confirmed my cervix was opened and I was almo losing my child and that I developed a high blood pressure...I am just in my mid twenties. I cried that night. when I came home,he still was becoming worse,he will come home by 12,started to lock his phone but I did discover his code twice and saw his conversations with some people. I asked him to buy me baby things for our baby and he asked if money falls from trees.

watch out for part 2 of this story soonest but all I do know is forgiveness in this case wil be very hard. he doesn't deserve me!

Will be back