₦airaland Forum

damiso:
Even though I think Nollywood exaggerates Alooot you are right to an extent.

They do however, you will be surprised sometimes

alutacontinua:
Just why I don't watch nollywood

Lol

naijaboiy:
Thanks,,just tuned in

You pay moi.

Nene has been set up that her kids are not for her hubby. It is now jobless mother + jobless wife + 2 dependent kids.

Omo see gobe

Maybe I should reconsider my stance

I yam discriminating against single women as married women but I now say no discrimination against wise single women. How to discern wise ones na another matter

I am not saying marriage makes a woman wise; afterall, this thread is to celebrate the foolish ones

coogar:
i don't believe it happens...

TruSt me, it happens.

And some friends these women surround themselves with are wolves in sheep clothing. Give them nonsense advice they cannot follow and take over the gullible men.

okotv:
I detest talkativeness a lot...

in a multitude of words, there wanteth no sin

True

coogar:
bukatyne can't separate fiction from realism.

nigerian movies are mostly written, produced & directed by idiöts & they are meant for the idïotic audience. if there are 1 million movies made in naija. only about 20 make sense. the chances of what you have seen happening in the real world is 1/1000000000000.

just watch it for entertainment or to kill time, not to learn anything from them.

Coogar these stuffs happen

I know most Nigerian movies are I.diotic however they happen

okotv:
that's just what it takes to bring down a family. Keeping secrets are an integral part of being married. They have caused their own downfall so they should carry their own cross

Seriously they should

naijaboiy:
Which channel?

@ the second movie

African Magic English

Timbuktou:
Nah, she delivered in my friend's hospital. How is she gonna find out? Discretion is alive and well. Even if she does, the world won't come to an end. I gots to protect myself.

OK o!

So I watched two films (1 Yoruba & 1 English) and I noticed two foolish women.

1. Yoruba: she was engaged to be married in 2weks time and she told her hairdresser to come do home service for her. Hairdresser misses her way and iyawo met her on the way and she started blabbing that hubby to be bough her a car, keeps N5m at home, spends money like dollars etc. Hairdresser sends armed robbers to HTB and he is spared because he had helped them once. Obviously, wedding was called off despite pleas.

2. English: She was married and befriended old single ladies (I think they were divorced) against her mother's advice. As usual, blabbing and giving her 'friends' gift of $500. The friends 'saw' hubby coming out of an eatery with a lady which was translated to hubby kissing and smooching the girl. Wifey refuses to listen to hubby 's explanation that the lady was his account manager and decides to sleep with the gateman. Hubby finds out and sends her parking. Needless to say, her 'friends' were actually prepping the hubby for their single younger sister and they are going for the kill through infamous fellowship and they have deserted her. The film is still unfolding. Foolish wife was not working and All her family life has come to a halt. The film is currently showing: The pain of Nene .

Are there some women so fool.ish that instead of building their homes and protecting their husbands, they actually destroy him with their fool.ishness?

If Yes, change o!

kilokeys:
.. i am humane o.
exactly bukatyne. whats up with u?.. would u do it? the

Cheat?

I would not

I would dump his ass instead

I am neither a 'Nigerian' virtuous wife nor a do or die marriage ambassador

Timbuktou:
It's not the naija way to leave women destitute. It's the naija way that after marriage, every one should answer their papa name. That's fairness as far as I'm concerned. Never will you hear a naija man whine about that his wife divorced him and left him nothing. Abi, naija women don't divorce their husbands ni?

And I insist that any woman who take her husband to the cleaners is a greedy pig. I saw the movie "Why Did I Get Married Too" and was disgusted with Malik Yoba's character for asking for more from his divorce with Janet Jackson's character. She was hell bent on giving only as much as he contributed to their union. That's how it should be.

If the hubby was deserving, she will not take him to the cleaners

Strive to be a deserving hubby

Timbuktou:
Oh, he didn't need to, but times have changed. I did with my first and will be doing so with subsequent ones. 17 years? After buying pampers, paying school fees, being worried about them entering public transport for the first time? Mbanu. Due diligence is the way forward.

Hope your wife does not find out.

What is that saying about 60% of problems in marriages caused by husbands?

Pray wife doesn't find out.

GSKing:
You all can't stand getting paid back in your own coin, right?

Nice one, OP.

Lols!

kilokeys:
i have o.. maybe cos i can't.. so i feel most ladies wouldn't.

Are you a lady?

You can't do that because of morals and not gender

kilokeys:
save ur self d trouble and guilt.. just get a separation.


its a known fact.. women can't cheat on their spouses without involving emotions. it must be thought out and planned.

Reading of too much novels.

If I relied solely on what i read on NL, I would be an alien on earth.

5minsmadness:
It's all part of the devil's plan. Destroy the family unit, destroy the love between man and woman, destroy mankind.

Lol!

Poor devil who is smoking weed in Jamaica!

The things some people do amaze the devil himself.

The heart of man is desperately wicked.

Timbuktou:
He can very well control her financial reaction in Nigeria. I'm a Nigeria who lives primarily in Nigeria, I'm good with that.

These laws do not apply to Nigeria

Instead of concentrating on how to ensure the women get nothing nothing the Naija way, why don't the men concentrate on being better husbands?

I still insist that no woman who is in a loving marriage will scheme on how to take hubby to the cleaners.

lolababe331e:
People do need to be forced to pay child support, because yes there are a lot of irresponsible parents. As long as you have children the law should force you to support them, that is one of the things we need to fix in Nigeria. Even here on Nairaland we've had people tell their stories of how the father would abandon his responsibilities especially once they are divorced and prefer instead in spend money on alcohol and whatever.

Nigerian laws generally do discriminate against women

Yet no epistle about it

Maybe there is balance afterall...

Timbuktou:
Doesn't mean they aren't greedy, does it?

You guys want to eat ya cake and have it

Some women have become smarter than y'all

I don't know any woman who will leave a loving hubby because of $

Like you alls say, a woman should not be verbally abusive because she cannot control the man's physical reaction...

Bukatyne says: a man should love his wife because he cannot control her financial reaction! Shakashaka!

Nor be Naija where husband go leave wife, claim everything including the belle in her womb!

pearlzy92:
Ah! Don't get it twisted. M a female. I dunno abt d guys part. The little I know I shared.

I know you are a female

If you were a male, I would have ignored you

This is the crap guys have sold for years and women buying it over and over again. It takes two to make a marriage work and two good heads are better than one

Nice thread

All I know is that if the marriage was going strong, the 'greedy' wives wouldn't have initiated divorce

Virtuous wife = wife knowing hubby is cheating + abusive and still making food for him and lover

@Aisha,

Good one

God bless you real good

@OP:

Because a lot of people stop living to please others and do what they feel is best for them

Besides, we do not have the stats of older marriages and cannot benchmark with the reality now. Quite a number of men threw wifey out and married sisi eko just how some women left their farmer hubby to marry 'dangote'.

And somehow you think only women cause divorce?

I thought the thread referred to both genders?

pearlzy92:
Its true we put God first. That one is very very important. After putting God first, u don't marry and start to lounge. As a person u have to try ur best in every aspect.
1. B acommodating.
Welcome everyone. Ur husbands family, ur inlaws, ur own family. Treat them well. Respect them. This goes a long way
2. Respect ur husband nd vice versa.
The woman shld always respect her husband. Do what he wants. Cook for him. Don't let ur househelp take ur place in d house. Treat him right.
The men should always respect their wives too. Don't talk to her anyhow in front of family nd friends. This can damage her self esteem.
3. Dress well
Some wives belive that because they r married they have the right to dress anyhow e.g tyin wrapper in d house (I hate that). Wen ur in d house wf ur husband. Dress sexy, wear shorts, show dt ur hot..... When ur going out, dress smart nd clean. Ur husband will be proud. He will showcase u everywhere.
As for d men, they look good in almost everything they wear, so dis is no issue for men.
4.Communication
Always communicate wf each other. Talk abt everything. U guys r married now, u shld b eachothers bestfriend. Talk abt everything
5. Pray together.
This should be no 1. Agree together in ur house, everywhere.
6.Finance
Hmmmn. This one ehn. U need understanding.the husband is d head of the family. YES. But the wife shld also support financially. Don't leav everything to him. If he takes the school fees, rent nd upkeep. As the woman u can take up buying cloths for the children, or the food u eat.
There r some husbands who like to take d whole responsiblity. Fine. As d woman, jst be saving because there will b a day ur husband will need dt money.
7. Have date nights
Drop d kids off at ur mums house. Take each oda out, talk, enjoy each others company. Buy gifts for each oda. Dnt say because ur married now, u shld nt buy anyfn for d oda person.

@OP:

Another thing to be considered is that most rich people get sponsors when their kids are getting married.

A family member married into a notable home and their cake was free. They also got the gown, shoes etc etc. as gifts. Some vendors also do these stuffs for free to promote their brand. For example the makeup artist or clothier of Peter and Lola would go places because of that referral

Don't let them deceive you with all these hype.

Gboliwe:
I saw this for the very first time in my life in Uyo and realised its the standard trend here. There are more female construction workers than male. These women mix cement and carry it for the building. I am always in awe each time I come across them but I never thought of taking their picture

I served in Akwa Ibom and their men are very lazy

The women do all the menial jobs and are still expected to take care of the home and husband

Shame!

nipora519:
women competing wit men since 2000bc

It is NOT compulsory to comment on a topic

Of all places to compete, it is in bricklaying?

Insecurity is a terrible disease

okotv:
am not upset so no need for the apology...
I personally had something against women until recently when it has begun wearing off....I believe everyone deserve respect especially when it comes to diligence regardless of gender

What did you have against us

MissMeiya:
Idíots on NL enjoy deceiving themselves that women don't do back-breaking labor. My mother hates talking about her childhood in the village. It breaks my heart when she refuses to wear anything but long pants and long skirts because she's ashamed of the scars on her legs. I would do anything to make that go away.

Foolish boys, who do you think farms the food you eat?

So stúpid.

LOL!

The most amazing is the husband works hard at work and so should rest at home while the wife (also working) should be strong enough to make food et al. I am still searching for the organization where a Male and female have the same JD and do different things due to gender

Yet, women are the weaker vessels

Most of them are really just passing time on NL

@OP: Weldone to them

Beautiful thread

God bless their home