₦airaland Forum

mbulela:
In Nigerian politics, if you are not a Muslim you ate automatically a Christian. Even Eckist and Grail Message cross bearers are counted as Christians in the weird political equation of the country.

nyafunyafu:
Yummy thread just finished series of cooking for the week. Two soups edikaikong and Afan.

HFOG:
Hmm. Me share same views with you ma'am. Just that life and the experiences of others makes us a little sober and less emphatic when we discuss these issues. We only pray for His grace and mercy to keep us from evil and keep evil away from us.

HFOG:
Come again? That's my big brother you're talking to oh. Pls we're not polygamous where we come from

LordReed:
Well if it was legal then you at least have no constraints in considering it.

If it was legal...you never know....

LordReed:
Yes.

LordReed:
Would you consider Polyandry for any reason?

mutter:
So in other words the predominant view of the young ladies here is that a woman that is financially independent can afford to leave her husband.

In order words the main substance of a marriage is financial and once you are financially independent marriage no longer has much meaning?

Have you ever considered that a woman may just love her husband so much that she would be prepared to tolerate a second wife just so that she can still be with the man she loves.
I know so many women women who remain in the marriage because the love their husbands and would feel empty without him.

mutter:
Nigerian Laws recognize polygamy as legal.

What is against the law is to have a civil marriage and then go ahead to have a customary one. But that law is a dead law. also Sharia law allows for polygamy.

At the same time the constitution makes all children legitimate. So even if a man goes ahead to have a customary marriage after a civil one the children or the customary marriage are legitimate.

Polygamy is a part of our culture and As much as no woman wants to share her husband sometimes sharing can be better than being abandoned.

sukkot:
and where did you get a name like bukatyne from ? yo mama just decide, ermmmm am going to name her bukatyne ? or you are just so in love with buka food you decided to name yasef bukatyne ?



[size=2pt] lmao cracking myself up. hehe [/size]

AfricanApple:
I tell u

sukkot:
well you visit the romance section alot. a happily married person visiting the romance section is like a man who has just eaten a huge tuber of yam visiting chinese restaurant. thats the last thing on his mind is food because he is so full. if you was getting heavy romance in the crib you wouldnt be frequenting romance section. maybe, just maybe if you got rid of that ya sim and put more effort into ya relationship, maybe, just maybe you will not be gallivanting around the romance section like you done lost your gaddayum mind

AfricanApple:
but there is is one thing and one place they don't ever disagree, on a bed in a bedroom

sukkot:
yes but how is their marriage lmao. thats the real question. i mean judging by the sections you frequent on NL i can tell all is not rosy at home lmao

hasshams:
Hmmn I can see women has d loudest voice speaking with all hatred in their hearts when making cmments about this issue. Leave your lives according to the ways of Allah your creator,the creator of heavens and earth.Allah created you,knows you morethan your self he gave you simple rules on how to leave ur life.but u ignorantly(sm times sentimentally) turn ur back at It, 4 instance one of d rules as a lady is to cover ur body completely at least if you cannot wear hijab when leaving ur homes,but you said u can't do it.u don't believe in his way,u don't even believe that he is the one that created you, you prefer as a lady to walk around without cover like men does .u believe notn will happen to u, u believe no man will hv lust over your body talkless of even harrassing you. please stop wondering and surprising when things like this keeps happening let's go back to our lord and follow his rules

oweniwe:
what objectivity when the thread is somehow skewed to make it seem like its all poor men's responsibility and duty not to hav children cos dey cant afford to tak care of.... Is it the men that get pregnant biko?

A woman who has already had 3 children staying in a one room apartment with her husband.... They shouldnt hav intimacy again? The husband should castrate himself

Man's job is just to "do" and rest.... Its up to the woman to decide if she want to get pregnant or not... kilokeys, if ur wife or babe tell u she's pregnant when u arent really keen on having more kids, WHAT CAN U DO ABOUT IT? Tell her to abort??

Those so called poor kids today could be tomorrow's millionaires.... Even Okonjo Iweala's father had nothing after the civil war.... But look at them today....

Its the same people we meet on the way up that we will meet when coming down.

Remii:
and these are all non muslims, why then do muslims attacked for early marriage?

ak4God:
This is Africa,a man can marry as many as he want so far he can take good care of them.If a girl has more than one man,then whats the difference between her and a prostitute?

mutter:
Is the woman the same as the man? Do they have the same function or role in a family?
For the man even to suggest it shows that the woman is not quite "clean".

SAMBARRY:

Sophyrocks:
Na real confusion galore. The Op is right about some women lying. that one is very true o. But for her to generalise means she believes all men are horrible. I wonder if she is married herself. If she is, is she also going through all these things she has mentioned from her husband?

slightlyMad:
when they live aunts, uncles etc
they see the training at maltreatment

but when it is their direct parent, they just say "my dad is strict", my mum na no-nonsense mama

when she arrives, pls let her stool down

Sophyrocks:
In other words, the Op is saying Good men dnt exist. And i am wondering why the same men in this thread are agreeing with her because they need to ashamed of the fact that she is even insulting them. But here you go, all of them are praising her for insulting them. wonderful!! but if a female nairalander comes out to call all men these things mntioned in the op, this thread will be a bashing fiasco!!! SMH.

carefreewannabe:
I was just trying to remember when we ever had a discussion on being submissive and the answer is never.
We get on perfectly well without having such issues.

I just want to know what people mean when they say a woman has to be submissive. It seems that people are discussing a word they cannot even explain.

Maybe you can explain what it means to you or what you mean by saying that it is party of EVERY relationship.

carefreewannabe:
The people who expect, should first define it.
Nobody knows what it really means.

Joavid:
Thanks

We need a new word to replace "submissive".
That word is giving people high BP

AfricanApple:
I am not misinterpreting anything here. na oyinbo man wey get English interpret am like that

I've checked and rechecked, what I saw is still what I see

u don't have any other tangible reasons to give not all women desired to be led by a man

yes i want a man who can protect me, how does that affect my own power to protect him (my man) we are together in this, u know.
marry me and see if I'm just fronting na after all I still love u even after u broke my heart


abeg helep me explain, here in Arabia, we don't study English


that means men have dog brains cos they like sniffing poosies up and down :\


stories for amadioha

we are not one way traffic, we can't all use the same method to manipulate the world in our favour. what works for Beyonce won't work for rihanna


then yarn me the koko