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VickyyB:
Her opinion won't change mine since the one written by Chimamanda didn't change hers.

BTW, I don't have a problem doing all those^^^, with being submissive an exception.

I mentioned that i would love a submissive husband but i was attacked by NL men that i'm a wicked girl.
But here they are, claiming submission. (-_-)

Triple LOL! @ wicked girl

They do not know what submission means anyways

Joavid:


But I think the word submissive is kinda outdated

Is it?

Depends on your interpretations

Nice thread

Mattin:
I laud the way you carry yourself in your home, you are wise, keep it up! . A man does not need to put the rest of the family down so as to feel superior. Once there is a mutual understanding between him and the wife, it would be wrong to make her look or feel inferior.

When EQUALITY is taken for granted or abused from the lady side, on the basis of FEMINISM, then we begin to ask the lady some questions.

Feminism preaches equality, which I agree with, but theory should not be abuse by ladies, because they have gotten a leverage to equate with the husband.
The man is always the head of the family and his should not be rubish for anything.

Feminism is NOT the basis of abuse by ladies

Tenk

pickabeau1:
What of end time wives...



Trust is key

For now, we are dealing with endtime petty husbands and husbands to be

Don't sit like this, don't look like this, don't greet like this etc.

There are se..x dolls these men can marry; no need for giving instructions (who get time for stress?) Just configure to your specs and volia!

Yeye

pickabeau1:
Bros... no be fight oo

If he does not trust her because she has waka waka tendencies
Best you cut off the relationship

The numbers can be backed up on the fone and restored
Key Numbers can be writeen on paper

I agree with this 100%

If there is no trust, why don't you end it?

What will the wife break tomorrow?

#all these end time men ; I don't know where they get them from

mutter:
Don`t call it a problem. It is simply a request your husband has.
You can copy the numbers before breaking the card but remember ..The breaking of the card is symbolic. It means that you now know that you belong to him as he belong to you.
The fact that he does not break his own card should not be the excuse for you breaking or not breaking yours.
The hard truth is that as awoman and a Nigerian you need to know that we have a polygamous society and nothing much has changed. The young cry out the are not polygamous but wait till the get a few years older. Many women that rant about it end up sharing their husbands some years later. This means you cannot compare yourself to your husband in this aspect.
If you have a "problem" with his request then you are not yet ready for a happy marriage. This issue is so trivial that it is not worth being an issue talk less of a problem.

Does the husband also break his sim to show this 'symbolic' joining?

Phoenix619:
Most of the ladies I knew changed their numbers right after their wedding. Like my sweet cousin. E suppose show say levels don change... But the choice is still yours sha...

It shows their hands were not clean

I have up to 8 married relatives and NONE changed their numbers including myself.

I heard of this changing of lines on NL

Mattin:
I based my premises on the tenets of culture and christianity BUT even looking away from that, when Feminism preaches Equality of Gender and along line, the wife starts to see herself as an entity who feels her own Egoism needs to be rated high OR is superior to the husband.
Answer this
When a woman runs her ministry on the guise of Feminism and begins to see herself as superior and not being submissive to the husband, what wouls you call the cause of this attitude?

I think it is a Nigerian problem to be above or below someone; there are no colleagues or middle ground anywhere

What has equality got to do with submission? Everyone submits one way or the other

What really is your problem with equality?

phabulous88:
Yes na! Or how else is she gonna feed her family? With tubers of yam?

With baskets of cassava

ladygogo:
Lol. Omotola na the husband for that marriage na.

Sometimes, there is more to it than meets the eyes.

@OP: they should seek temporary separation while Bey gets her acts right.

I will find it easier to believe that Omo T beats her hubby than Bey.

Don't judge a book by its cover

Rice, plantain and dry fish

cococandy:
fine darl. Just that This winter wan kpafuka for my body
I had to microwave my oil before I could pour it out of the can to cook my egusi soup.

Lol!

Enjoy

takin35:
3 weeks

This is very long time for a relation to spend without you in the loop.

Since you have talked et al, tell the next person that comes 'you did not know they were coming as you would have prepared well for them'. if they mention telling your wife, sweetly ask her if she forgot to tell you

They should both get the message.

Besides, the in-laws should be calling you and not her if they want to stay for long

phabulous88:
Proverbs 31:14 She brings home food from out-of-the-way places, as merchant ships do

And you interpreted that verse to mean cooking?

phabulous fabulous pastor

lanxlot:
nyc write up. My bro n sis aren't entitled to My wealth....Very true. but, it doesn't stop us frm recognizing dere worries. some pple more often dan not are blind to it, Or de pretend to be.

I agree @ bold.

However, we can only pray that 'rich' relatives help us; we are not entitled to the help.

This changes our perspective on giving & receiving

Truckpusher:
This is just the beginning ,no thanks to the Western society for emasculating their men to please feminists.


Now a fragile woman can beat the shiit out of a grown black boy like Jay Z and all he could do was to watch helplessly praying that she doesn't kill him all because some bunch of sissies made some useless law to please their domineering wives at home.


Let omotola just try and slap our oga pilot ,if she will not come immediately to the full understanding that verily verily Jesus is the only son of God

How do you know that Omotola doesnot beat her hubby?

LOL! @ thread

@OP: Just drill wifey to be into all these and you are fine

Phema:
@bolded: That's the reason you want to get married? You can as well employ a Chef.

I did not see your post, I would not have posted

phabulous88:
I think you started out on a deficit mentality thinking that marriage will solve all your problems. Marriage comes with a whole lotta challenges and fights and arguments, at least I saw that in my parents but they always ended up on the same bed, every night of everyday

And so to answer your question, YES I will get married. In fact I can't wait to get married cos I'm tired of being in the kitchen and cooking at 10 pm

So if you're a lady that looks and acts like my mother, please PM me and you just might be lucky

You do not need marriage bro, a good cook will do

lanxlot:
it isn't about whether Or not they are entitled to d wealth accumulated by a brother, even if it is....I say yes o. dix is often a problem when a wealthy man dies and d wife n kids wud want to keep back all of their fathers possesions. m observing jux an exact situation. as it stands, neither d wife n children nor the extended family are at rest.

@OP:

Your thread had potentials until the bolded

@Topic:

We are too greedy, selfish and discontent with what we have (topped up with keeping up with the Baloguns )

It is good/blessed to help? Yes

It is the entitlement of a poor person to be helped? No (except the poor contributed to the wealth)

The amazing/irritating thing is that most 'poor' people do not have needs(or do not prioritize them), they want you to finance their wants. Imagine OP saying the wife and kid wants to enjoy the husband's wealth alone.

God save us from entitlement mentality. I guess that's why some people are not grateful for the 'little' done for them

Like someone would say: If you do 'the boy is good' to everyone and you have nothing to show for your endeavors, same people will ask you what you used your resources for.

@OP:

You have not told us how long they visit/how frequent

Sometimes, family members pass by and decide to say hello.

It is wrong if she knows they are visiting forehand especially when they are staying over.

cococandy:
you're so invited. In fact fedex is bringing your share over at the moment

Fedex never reach my side

How are you doing over there?

babyosisi:
Sliced one of the beef

Chai the thing tastes heavenly

Oga will make the ose for the meat

Weldone,

You are really a good cook

Na was for this life o!

When I was not working after service, prayed to get a job. Now job is here and one cannot focus again.

Before the job, I would think of exotic dishes to prepare daily for my mom then.

Now na to cook sweet soup (2 or more) over the weekend and eat solids @ night.

I make it up to DH now during my leave period

jennykadry:
Bukatyne, are you a cheerful and selfless giver? are you a good samaritan who helps someone out without expecting anything in return just as the good book advised?

Lol!

More like two selful givers

We are each other's first and very open to exploration within limits. Will try out taryour's ice cream method . Sometimes use sweets and chocolates.

EroticAngelina:
Yeah.. They want us to give them blowwjob, but they refuse to return the favour because of different silly reasons, some say it lowers their worth.. Wtf? while some say pusssssies smell like their dickkz dont smell.

Typical

Yes and yes to both questions

Emmalot121:
I watched Trisha two nights ago, there I watched the shock of my life, Men who considered their wives as mere properties in USA. You would have thought, 'At this time in USA'?! These 2 women should be long gone. But we must agree that some women are to emotional to decide on issues like this.
You could feel the disgust of female audience and it got more when one of the men told his wife to help him massage (spelling not sure) his toes. People were calling for them to quit the relationship but we all could feel they didn't want to.
Instead of Trisha to encourage them to quit, she took both men into a room and councelled them. I could feel the remorse on their faces, one even burst into tears as he explained himself. Jesus needs women like Trisha, who could think that she could save a marriage, not people like you that you think you can help free a woman from her holy matrimony. Your worst enemy, through perseverance can turn to be your best friend. Women get easily distracted by people's opinion expectially when they are in emotional distress. A comment today, no matter how honest your motives are can destroy a life. Those two men and their submissive wives are now living a beautiful biblical life. So emotional!

What is wrong with helping a husband/wife massage his/her toes?

mutter:
As women become financially independent the man has lost his typical role of being the provider.
However we tend to forget the meaning of provider. It means so much more than financial support.. A good man gives a woman a sense of security. It is a great feeling to be loved and to know that someone cares and shares his life with you. You can work hard and have money but you can`t buy someone who cares for you. Comparing today with yesterday would be wrong because it is not about staying in a marriage but it is about having a good marriage. I think that today women have a better chance of going into a marriage and it succeeding because they can make their choice and are more independent and exposed. The reason it does not work out in most cases is that society has lost touch touch with the real values in life.

@bold, so on point

@post, great

People confuse marriage length with marriage success/bliss.

In reality, I will say the marriages now are better than the marriages then.

cococandy:
My Oga just came back now and brought cake for us

Remember your NL sister o!

Greet hubby for me

crackhaus:
They are the ones who usually end up with husbands who cheat; or if that doesn't happen, they end up with in-laws that keep causing problems.

#MyOpinion

And what happens to the cheating husbands?

dammyjay93:
Good Morning N'anders, wishing y'all a lovely morning and day ahead.

Now to the Discussion of the day :

In the Past, marriages were most often pre-arranged by families with LITTLE or no emphasis on love or dating but then marriages lasted more but nowadays that people are freer to choose and even date for extended periods, the rate of divorce is so high.

Why is this? Let's discuss

Why is what?

What are you comparing in marriages of old and marriages of now?

Keep in mind that the marriages of old brought forth the adults in the marriage of now

MzJackBaueress:
madam, the marriage certificate belongs to the wedded wife and not the husband. It is rightly yours and not your husband. If a husband is demanding for the marriage certificate when the marriage is shaky,then he is unto something fishy. Make sure you don't give him the certificate. If possible,give it to someone trustworthy to keep for you.

Why does the certificate belong to the wife? If tomorrow you are married and you both keep your documents in a wardrobe/cabinet, would you keep the marriage certificate separately?

@OP: Address the issue of abuse et al and forget who owns the marriage certificate.

For your daughter to compare a man hitting his wife to your relationship with your husband means you both have failed her martially.

Even if you decide to accept your life/fate, please note that you are ruining your children's life gradually.

Your children will see no reason to leave an abusive relationship; afterall their mother faced same.

It is well

tpia5:
I'm not a lesbian dear, why don't you save your wishes and kissy smileys for coogar and co?


Secondly, I do not know you, so please do not start all this wishing crap.

Its usually those of you with evil hearts on here who do that.


I see you are following my posts even though I am not following yours.

Let me check my follower list, to see if you've added yourself there.

Hahahahahahaa

NL my beloved NL!