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pickabeau1:
Who Knows

But honestly how many leading to marriage has he seen?

Just like saying young men like much older women because there are sugar sons.

pickabeau1:
Maybe older men are good for money & phock but not for stay

LOL!

So in essence, they are boyfriend material and not husband material

Happy Birthday

Many more fulfilling years

Have a splendid day

@OP:

Very nice

@ sparklie.. sweet

@OP:

Nice writeup.

Same can be said for black women bashing black men etc.

@OP:

The younger sister was disrespectful to her sister's husband and she sounds like someone who thinks that money/financial capability = respect as she hammering on her sister's husband doing chores immediately he lost his job.

It is not in the younger sister's place to insist her sister's husband did chores; she does not know the dynamics of the home and she could have simply done what she could and left the rest. If the chores were much, she should discussed with her sister

IMO, I see nothing wrong in the younger sister washing her BIL's clothes (underwears apart).

@Poster:

I really do not know why you asked for different views since you already have a standard view and know that 'feminists will support the younger sister' (Still trying to see what feminism has got to do with subject matter). It seems you want to light up family section this morning.

I am also wondering the fault of the parent (mother since she was the one you blamed) in the above story.

@OP:

You said he has lost his job so for now, the wedding has to be on hold.

Finances aside, is he interested in formalizing your relationship? If yes, what way; Traditional? Church/Mosque blessing? since court wedding is a taboo in their family .

Let us go back to the foundation: How do you two meet? Where you friends with benefits, pregnancy showed and you decided you must make it formal? Was there marriage in the pipeline before baby came? Is he someone you would have married babies aside?

Please respond.

tintingz:
I'm raised in polygamous home, I didn't see any hell there.

There are hell in monogamous home too, stop the shii.

The irony part of your post is that we can see women preferring/go into polygamous marriage.

And the irony of your post is that women prefer to be no 2 et al to a already married man

No first wife (there are exceptions though) wants to share he husband with no 2 et al

Congratulations OP

God bless your home

qizick:
I have not told anyone yet non of my fiends or family knw abt it I need critical advise without centiment dats y I brought it up here

@OP:

What is the new development?

aisha2:
Present. . Doing some TLC things

Longest time

Rosarie:
u can nva ve it perfect.ve u evr hit yr wife.why is she nt working yet 2 share her salary to her pple

Even if he has beaten his wife before, it does not justify her actions

No body is perfect but her behavior stinks

Lovely family

The sons are very handsome

They look so young @ 26yrs of marriage

SaltonKey:
1) Your Wife of Your mother?

2) Your Job or Your Family?

3) A Plot of Land or a Car?

4) Your Father or your Pastor?

5) Savings or Investment?

6) 2/3 Kids or a Volleyball/Hockey Team

7) Her Night Food or Champions League

@OP:

A job or business?

9) A girlfriend or boyfriend?

etc.

BetaThings:
Have you seen what Nigerians are wearing lately
The line is coming down gradually and STEADILY!!!
Personally I would have expected ladies to protect their body more
Men prefer to wonder than being confronted with it and remove the mystery value

I agree with you however it is not true that every lady not wearing hijab is indecent.

A very nice thread

OP Weldone

A very nice one OP.

50k is not enough but if it all the hubby can afford, then she should become resourceful and extra prudent.

Ditch her car till she is going to church;
Learn to braid her hair more often, invest in hand dryer and straightner so she can style her hair herself
Manage her tolietries to last longer/look for cheaper options
Be mindful of where she does her purchases especially of clothes and shoes

It is well

Freelancer00:
So u like ur child exposing sensitive parts of her body at a young age?

And so any girl that does not wear hijab automatically expose sensitive body parts?

BetaThings:
Would you kindly read the post to which I responded?
Allah is the creator of ALL things
Muslims want to belong but somebody was suggesting that those who want religious instruction should go to private school
Muslims have no objection to teaching religion in public schools

Actually it is not everything that Christians want that is reasonable but I accept because it is their religion
I don't understand the reason why students of Babcock university cannot read on Saturdays but I accept is as their religion
What is wring with Nigeria making history
Must we be led by the nose
We need to work out arrangements that will make people happy and engender sense of belonging!

This your post just nailed it!

No 7th day Adventist member (owners of babcock) will ever refuse to attend lectures on Saturdays if he/she were attending a public university. It will also not be wise of you to go and Babcock and insist you read on Saturdays when UNILAG is there that can let you read as you like.

Public schools have a general uniform. If you think it is indecent for your wards, please move them to missionary schools.

I am sure that if one of your children's classmate wore ifa's beads or attire to school, you will not be comfortable.

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crackhaus:
The fact that it has to be pointed out to her just goes to show it's a trait she's not even in control of, which is why she doesn't realize when she's sounding condescending.

Bukatyne go back to your 'love and marriage/submission' thread. Read your comments over objectively if you need more examples.

Just saw this now

I wondering why you want me to respond to your posts when I sound condescending.

I am trying to spare you bro

satope1:
"All those men talk less is wash; if a woman runs her
mouth, run yours "


What does the words in quote infer?

Maybe I should help you inverse it to make it more understandable.

"All those ladies aren't physical is wash; if a man hits you, hit him back "


Better perspective now ?

And it infers that verbal abuse is right?

OK, I hear you

Good morning

Things have really picked up in here

5minsmadness:
No matter what I say you'll find a way to keep twisting my words. You are good at it.


Bottom line: her comments are very mature and I admire her a lot.

Really?

That's good

if you need word twisting services, I am available

ileobatojo:
A whole 100 yards o! The material nko? Exquisite! Hehehe!


Oh, and happy belated birthday!

Thanks a lot!

100 yards where are the guys looking for wife material na?

damiso:
Seriously as in seriously the counsellor said you have to kneel down? (Note I am not saying you can't kneel for your husband if it rocks your boat) but to be 'forced' when it's not that important to your or hubby is just mind boggling.I attend RCCG as well and I do know they carry the mummy daddy thing far but THAT is a whole new level.I just think 'forcing' people to do stuff is odd.Even the Holy Spirit does not force Himself on people.

OP, bellong has spoken well.

I am

He said if I do not, he will not continue the classes. After much cajoling, I did so that the classes would continue. we had gone too far and sacrificed a lot at that stage.

You need to attend marriage seminar, you will laugh

5minsmadness:
If aisha2 is a feminist them she is one of the most fairest cleverest and objectivest feminist in the world and I wouldn't mind putting up with her at all.

The bolded na wa; sounds like managing

@ Post: It is good you know that not everyone in a particular group is the same

Great weekend

5minsmadness:
Seriously, I would marry you if I had the chance.

Marry a feminist?

You sure?

@Bellong,

Nice one

ileobatojo:
Lol!

How many yards?

crackhaus:
What's the book of 1Cor 13 about?
How husbands should love their wives or how Christians should emulate Christ's kind of love?

Prove you don't keep grudges or get pissed as a sign of good faith.

There's another instance though, but I'll stop on this for now.

And if I don't?

All these instances around? Why don't you give them and let's see?

After that my thread, you still commented on my birthday thread and I responded; I quoted you on another thread (I have forgotten which now) and I am keeping grudges from a previous thread or is this grudge keeping selective to threads?