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frenex:
Did you wed in RCCG?did you attend the marriage counseling class or is it hear say?always say what you're sure of. I wedded in RCCG and what I was taught is quite diferent from what you're saying.

pickabeau1:
No need for that now ...

Just the speak in english for now

pickabeau1:
bukatyne

Your initial statement was condescending. like someone is retarded.. speak/write in english


Thats on this thread... no need to bring other things into it

bellong:
Yes you are right. That is why our home is the first church. I wouldn't allow anybody brainwash my wife or children. We search the scriptures to prevent such.

Today's church needs more of Berean Christians.

bellong:


I will not blame them, the blame is on members who refused to challenge their excesses.. After all, Paul challenged Peter who was the leader of the church at the time.. I love how Yoruba bible puts it... "....Mo si ko Peteru loju...."

Every church I attend, they see me as a rebel who will always challenge the authority. We are all Royal priesthoods through His grace...

crackhaus:
Listen, I know exactly why you are now this way and I would have loved to mention it here, but I won't

You need to understand that this is the internet filled with people of different backgrounds, age, intellect, and knowledge.
You should not expect that you do/say something wrong or make wrong claims and not be corrected.

I see you blabbing about me thinking whether you have a life outside here or not. Lady you are not my business and I don't keep past grudges on here past the point where it's domiciled, unlike you...
With the way you get visibly pissed anytime you slip up and end up being corrected, it may seem you really do take having a NL reputation or lack of it very seriously.

Final words:
You cannot be right all the time, and more so, not in a place like NL where different types of people abound that can easily detect slip-ups.
When you notice your mistake and you get attacked/corrected, take it in good stride and move on....after all, you have said you have a life outside NL.

Cheers!

crackhaus:
Obviously something is pissing you off, else you won't be going off tangent like this.

Take a chill pill

bellong:
I guess the OP is too religious to be street smart. The girl could be the problem in her former relationship.

The excuse that the guy was hard on her is too ambiguous to be taken seriously. If she couldn't tell her in clear terms why she left the guy, there's more to the blanket statement.


Don't mind some churches, they can go to any length to dictate how members, who refused to study the Word themselves, should live their lives. If given the opportunity, they wouldn't mind drawing an intimate time table for couples. The most worrisome thing is like what Jesus said, "they leave the weightier matters of the law and be running after frivolities"...

bellong:


If it is the washing of clothes that is troubling you, I guess you are underestimating some more important issues.

Are you sure this girl is really interested in you? Going by reason that you have to force her to tell her parents about your coming for introduction. Is it the real introduction that you will bring your parents or just the normal visiting her house?

Why is your church giving you rules on what you can handle yourself?

My brother, there is more to what you will deal with than washing of clothes.


Did you do a thorough investigation on why she broke up with her ex?

crackhaus:
Bukatyne take a chill pill, no one assumes anything about you.

But if it's the rinsing that's got you bursting a nerve, I'm pretty sure TV meant that in a lighthearted playful way.

satope1:
Can everyone see where we have a problem?

They would never agree that verbal abuse is bad and would never condemn it but would rather advise the man runs his mouth back. When did two wrongs start making a right. ?

When you are ready to accept the truth and not resort to double standards maybe we can start addressing abuse in relationships.

crackhaus:
Why?
Have I been one to use insulting or degrading words on your person in any of our conversations on NL?

pickabeau 1:
Damn

crackhaus:
Yesterday was her birthday so maybe just put her on a waiting list or something.

Bukatyne, you and I both know you're fond of making snide denigrative comments directed at anyone you don't share an opinion with.
You did it to me on your thread when you implied I wasn't conversant with the Bible hence I shouldn't know what the discussion was about, it was this comment that prompted my going back to scrutinize the verses you put up.

You did the same thing on this thread when you made this comment:

But when he responded in a likewise manner, you cried foul.

I'm just saying though, no hard feelings...

TV01:
Obviously no need to justify the woman first hitting the man as that's not physical abuse is it?
TV

bukatyne:
Can you please type in English?
Thanks in advance

pickabeau1:
Too much party tinz lol
He wrote in english
He says that women physically responding to male verbal abuse was not seen as abuse unlike the reverse
Case in point...solange n jay z
meanwhile I will like your thoughts on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/1947677/gender-inequality-why-things-wont/2#27170662

bukatyne:
As I am not a mind reader, I will wait for him to explain what he means. I read the post and had 2 interpretations to it.
I guess I have looked at that thread but let me check again
The party was fun

pickabeau1:
Ok...no problem

TV01:
No, not by a long shot - but I'm way better at it than you !

A Christian boasting that he is better at insults? issorait


Really? Happy birthday Bukatyne. Many happy returns.

What would you like?

1. Anti-wrinkle cream
2. Middle-age spread reducing juice
3. Attitude adjustment pills
4. An extended deluxe rinsing
5. Peace

Choose wisely !

TV

What I would like?

Thinking hard ...

1. A growth serum to make you taller
2. A concentrated alkaline solution to neutralize your acidic tongue
3. A elixir to make you less hypocritical

You see, I am trying to put you first as a good Christian

And you said 'peace'? Are you now Jesus the Prince of Peace? And seriously, you do not sound like someone who has peace. So no 4. will be peace!


Have a splendid day

Chillisauce:
marital status doesnt matter.


NL wife materials..

Idowuogbo
edwife
beeevan
efemenaxy
phema
damiso
Godgreat
have i mentioned chillisauce?
kanwulia
sambarry
cococandy
pickabeau (i no write 1 oh)
carefree
sophyrocks
odilafta
buka
ileogbotojo
chaircover

.....

pickabeau1:
No worries... I really had hopes for it.. since it will be based on scriptures and not anecdotal

A thread can only thrive when there is a healthy debate and the OP brings angles or themes for further dissection
If the OP runs away.. na die be that

pickabeau1:
Yes the same thread

Some of us took time to respond after the initial gif rain
But you did not make a rebuttal or acknowledge any point
Just "thanks"

Since then...nothing

This is not the first time i mentioned this

crackhaus:
I said my knowledge of the Bible may not be at par with a Theologian or someone more religious/spiritual.
Does this mean I'm not conversant with it?

pickabeau1:
bukatyne

That thread had potential but it seems u lost interest

TV01:
I was mentioned so I went to look see.

But I saw where she snidishly asked for "certain people" to stay away, so I didn't post, just followed.

As ever, she couldn't draw a crowd. As ever she posted some rubbish posts, and as ever, when you asked her a pointed question she couldn't answer, she got all "spiritual", snidish and went on the attack.

I think I should put her on todays menu - chopped liver . What sayest thou?

TV

crackhaus:
Lol...
To be honest, my knowledge of the Bible is not at par with that of a Theologian or a more spiritual/religious person, but I do have an understanding enough to detect when someone is misinterpreting scriptures.
As for the thread, if the one you're referring to is on that topic she started on love, marriage, and submission...she's yet to reply a question I directed at her regarding 1Cor 13.

TV01:
I blame you sef
When she claimed you were not "conversant with the bible on that "sickly child" type thread she opened you didn't deal with her well well. Maybe I should go there and continue her rinsing !


TV

nwababy:
Happy belated birthday to Nash and Buka. Wish you so many happy years in good health. I guess you had lots of fun. Mine is 21st oh

Phema:
Oh oh. Where i carry my tatafo sef go since?

Happy belated birthday to you two. Bigger and greater you i pray.

*waiting for Nashville's pix*

TV01:
First, please stop your your whining - it's unbecoming of someone of your advanced years - abi you never come of age?

Second, there is no insult anywhere in my response - and nothing as snide as your initial response;

If you didn't understand - which you didn't - or couldn't comprehend - which you also didn't, a response such as; "I don't understand" or "I don't get your point" would have sufficed. Your comment was rude and impertinent, and provocative! In future, don't make war chants if you can't stand the heat of battle.

Thanks for calling me Mr. Christian - or where you being your normal shrewish self ?

And please get over yourself, I didn't post to converse with you, merely to correct you.


TV

^{**and don;t think your attempt to dodge the questions by attacking my character instead of addressing the content went unnoticed** !}

pickabeau1:
No problem

Let me know when u do

pickabeau1:
LOL.. i get he is controversial especially on the women not to talk in church bit but i dont see how he justified slavery at all
What is your opinion on the debate so far between myself and Shirley

TV01:
There's nowt wrong with my English or my grammar.

The problem is with you statement, which was both unthinking and unchristian. I'll break it down for those who have comprehension problems;

A woman hitting a man first is already physical abuse. To say a woman hitting aman first justifies (his) physical abuse is to say her hitting him is not abusive - the unthinking part of your statement

To say a woman hitting a man justifies him hitting her is base. Not only should nobody (either sex) be laying hands on anyone else, even if hands are laid on you (and particulalry a man), showing restraint and maturity by not retaliating (leaving if you have to) is much better - the unchristian part of your statement.

Clear?
Or do I have to start providing adult education up in here !


TV

pickabeau1:
Not on the thread per se

But the points laid out by shirley on Paul endorsing slavery etc

Misogynist2014:
Teaching boys this stuff will only make them independent of women. I think you guys don't know that men are better than women. My dad is a better cook than mom and seldom comes to kitchen. Swaggzo, 'moral suation' is the only hope. TRYING TO CHANGE NATURAL INSTINCT WILL BACKFIRE. TEACHING BOYS TO BE SOUND IN HOUSE CHORES DOESN'T MEAN HE'S GONNA ASSIST HIS WIVES. I THINK OBJECTIFICATION OF WOMEN IS A BETTER TOPIC.
I THANK GOD THAT FEMINISM IS DORMANT IN NIG.