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crackhaus:
Oh great, so someone else understood the type of gym wear the OP was referring to.

carefreewannabe:
Just in case you have missed it the OP thinks that it is inappropriate to wear track suits on journeys, any track suits.

carefreewannabe:
Nobody has said that we should return to the times when women did not cover their b*reats.
The point being made is that it was the West that suggested that African women cover up more. Consequently, the West has not "corrupted" this aspect of the African culture in that it made women show more of their bodies.



Hypocrisy
behaviour in which somebody pretends to have moral standards or opinions that they do not actually have

http://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/definition/english/hypocrisy

How did anyone here, apart from the OP, pretended that they had more moral standards?

If I say that I do not want my child to expose her va*gina or br*easts, how does it mean that I pretend to have moral standards that I do not?
Am I hypocritical when I tell my child not to smoke but don't care whether some stranger does?



Yes, the OP.

He claimed that Westerners corrupt African culture by making African women expose too much of their bodies when it was his culture that was more tolerant of na*kedness for a much longer period of time.



Is it wrong to dress up like this to be comfortable on a journey or maybe on the way to the gym?

https://i01.i.aliimg.com/wsphoto/v11/1177785693_1/3-pcs-clothing-set-New-fashion-casual-fleece-letter-printed-font-b-hoodies-b-font-font.jpg

5minsmadness:
On lagos-ore traffic. Network is horrible.

Notice how its majority of you ladies supporting the blatant nakednes5 of this woman, probably cos y'all think am being prudish. I'm not. I'm just trying yo exercise a little common sense here.


Who in their right minds will wear a gym suit to travel? A GYM SUIT What kind of yeye liberty is that? And yes even in my village young girls with full breasts still walk about in some remote areas but that doesnt mean cococandy or efemena will now decide to go topless in the city! Haba. Let's be honest for once. I would have taken her picture but that could have been a bad idea as in invasion of her privacy. And anyway we are not talking of a sweet sixteen here, I would place her at 30-40yrs. It was more of fermented eye cheese and not eye candy that we were being 'forced' to watch.

5minsmadness:

Na you go marry dis ya pikin o


Hehehehe. Smartmom is really smart o. She don carry her boys run


The funny thing is that nice guys will do ALL of the chores listed above and some smelly mouth pretentious girl will use the opportunity to turn him to a glorified houseboy instead of seeing the kindness in him then turn around to have an affair with a vicious bastard of a man who will treat her with disrespect. Its mind boggling!

aisha2:
Dead. Hahahahahaaa broken bottle husbands and dickk cutring wives.
Goodluck to them jare.
Now if you have a good marriage self it seems worse than the almighty " feminisim " on nairaland. Those who have walk around egg shells with their spouses will attack you and be backed up by those who dont want to do the work for a good marriage
Two topics are most hated on nairaland feminisim and good marriages

I remember the post you are talking about. If he had said his wife left him during trying times they would have enjoyed it better and proceeded on their verbal masturbat- ion attacking the woman and calling all women whores and gold diggers so how dare his wofe spoil their fix for that day by being a good caring wife who stood by him in his hour of despair

Stillfire:
Lol. The stench of 'pull her down' syndrome must be eradicated. I'm yet to see consistent male posters here starting up a thread and chastising their fellow men on their vices which is even more numerous and heart wrenching than the female vice. Imagine somebody like Coogar starting up a thread with a saintly cloak, 'advising' other men on how men should not cheat on their wives and men who cheat on their wives are... ill-mannered . But on the other hand you find women policing other women as if women don't have enough on their plate. I don't blame the OP. All of this stems from old roots where women had to compete among themselves, enhancing their manipulative skills to garner favors from men.

blueberryp:
Yea, if u want a good marriage it usually starts as a single person like Reverend Munroe's omelette principle;
You take a good egg and a bad deffective egg and crack it together, no matter how good the other egg is, the bad one will always win thereby making the omelette useless.
His advice to singles;

WATCH THE KIND OF PERSON YOU GET DOWN WITH BECAUSE NO MATTER HOW GOOD YOU ARE, IF YOU MARRY SOMEONE WITH CRACKS IN CHARACTER(JUST LIKE THE BAD EGG) YOU WILL BE MISERABLE

5minsmadness:
What actually makes a good marriage? What is the key factor? Is it tolerance from both sides, is it the ever slowly elusive submissiveness of the wife? Is it the undying faithfulness of the husband?

What made all those marriages of past generations last as long as they did? And don't dare say they were suffering in silence, that is pure bullshit. You were not there so you cannot conjecture who was feeling what. Why did the marriages of the past last longer than they do now??

Pamcrest:
For me, I tend to criticize my fellow woman more because I expect that as women, we should behave better than men. We should be the role models to society more than d men and we shd lead by exemplary conduct. So when a woman steps out of line, I personally wd chastise her more than I wd a man in d same situation. But what I find is when I do this, some women think it's an act of envy or jealousy or sheer wickedness but it's just that I hold women to stringent standards than I do men....it's just me. Let women strive to put our best foot forward always Avoid engaging in bad behaviour as enumerated by Toyin....let's show the men how to behave in a civilized and dignified manner.
We are the light of the world! To whom much is given much is expected.
My humble submission

skydeep:
Affirmative. Erm...it all depends on your understanding of " career woman"

sean079:
Babe U dey always beleive say something of dis nature ain't generality but alas dis is just a lady lyk U confirming d the theory. Op dis ur reasoning won't backlash on U d future. Coz dis is what no society can't avoid. Haven't U heard of some ppl dat are just on mission to av coitus relationship with a guy no matter what will cost dem. Imagine dat guy is ur hubby.

SirShymex:
Interesting story.

However, regardless of how well they mean - it's always better to keep certain private issues in the private. Because outsiders won't be privy to the dynamics of what's actually going on, apart from hearsay. And with that, people will always tell stories in a way that will favour them - that's just how it's

Kimoni:
Can it be averted? Can you ever be happy with someone that is killing your goals in life?

Imagine if your father stopped you from furthering your education in order to take care of him in his old age? You were top in ur class and always wanted to be a medical doctor. Can the frustration within you be averted especially when you have classmates who also have aged fathers and were able to agree alternative arrangements with them, but ur own father refused to work anything out and insist you must stop school as his time on earth is very limited.

How would you feel? Remember he seems to have very valid reasons.

skydeep:
Yes, the topic is possible but on a slim chance

skydeep:
You are missing the point. The fact that her husband asked her to quit doesn't mean she will become a housewife. Its just that the nature of her job contradicts the happiness of the family. He was planning to establish a small scale business for her.

So I heard..

SirShymex:
And oh, I forgot scandalous and jobless biitchy friends that most women keep. Those who have absolutely nothing going for them in their wretched lives, and all they ever do is give inane advice to destroy happy relationships/marriages. Especially, with things they can never do/accept. However, they all have answers to everyone's problems.

I absolutely love my privacy - not getting people involved in private issues is one virtue I cherish a lot.

vivalableue:
Ya well I'm not trying to make them a scapegoat at all lol. It's just in response to some posters question.

I'm trying to figure out if the head of a home is still applicable to some people and how they define it. Btw I really don't want to bash and insult people at all. This is purely educational.

Also another interesting point of discussion is how soon do men/women discuss family dynamics. I would hope during courtship, but more traditional people may not see the need for such a discourse.

SirShymex:
Bwahahahah - delusional much?

I have never wanted someone submissive, and I've never been a fan of docile people.

My grouse has always been with disrespectful women, and those who're trying to change certain roles that are naturally for women folks e.g cooking.

valmunich:
WTF is he staring at

zboyd:
It was referenced by her, comparing the bashing between white wo/men and the bashing between Black wo/men...

"Come to think of it, White wo/men who bash each other are out of their league, when it comes to Black men wo/men bashing each other. They can't compete."

...and by her husband at the end of the letter.

C"P.S. "Same goes for Black Women who bash Black Men!" - From Her Husband, Mr. Davidson"

carefreewannabe:
Let envy be in church, in the neighborhood and even on the moon but not in my family.

My mother didn't have to compete against other women for my father to appreciate her.
And my father didn't have to worry that envy will eat up his wife and their children.

Just20:
hahahahhahaha no oooo not at all. I'm way older than that. Actually my user name was Just2.0 ( 2.0 like an upgraded version of something) so when nairaland crashed and they had to remove all the commas, full stop etc on people's names. Mine was removed so from Just2.0 I became Just20.

pickabeau1:
True.. however the lady has to be more careful when marrying a much older man

example

There was a thread about a woman who married a twice divorced older man who is not into sex

She is now complaining of sexual frustration

Just20:
Amen! Thank you. Btw I like your username "bukatyne"