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“I Love Everything about Him!” Read Comedienne Princess Dammy & Her Beau Adeshola Jeremiah’s Love Story
Posted on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013 at 1:34 PM
By Damilare Aiki

Princess Dammy & Adeshola Jeremiah - May 2013 - BellaNaija02

Nigerian comedienne Princess Dammy and her Yoruba movie producer/director beau Adeshola Jeremiah tied the knot on Wednesday 8th May 2013 at the Balmoral Hall, Oregun, Lagos.

On her wedding day, Princess Dammy arrived with her father in a grey satin dress, accentuated with blue sequins by Frank Oshodi while her Mr rocked a bespoke navy suit by Mudi.

In the latest issue of City People, the ace comic act gushes about her love story; from how they met to prepping for the grand wedding day. Check it out!

On what attracted her to Adeshola Jeremiah
Well he is a quiet person and if not for the fact that I am into entertainment, I also like my privacy, I don’t like unnecessary show-off. If I go somewhere and they don’t recognize me, that is very okay by me, I just love to be myself.

How They Met
He saw me when I went for their program in Odunfa Cancus (A Yoruba Theatre Group). I went because of a friend of mine Latifat, who was also trained there. She was in UNILAG and my junior in Theatre Arts. So I went there and that was where he saw me and that was like so many years ago in 2005.

Every time I visit my friend, because they are always together, he will see me there, he couldn’t approach me, not because of my status but the fact that anytime I come I will just play with everyone for like 5 to 10 minutes and just zoom off. And I play and smile with everyone but I don’t give that chance that I am easily approachable in order not to draw unnecessary attention.

Things Were Different This Time…
Then in 2008, he was shooting his own movie, I also went there to see a friend of mine, he saw me again and went to meet that friend of mine, he told her he wanted to meet me that he would want me to play a role in the movie.

My friend discouraged him saying if he should meet me, it will look like they didn’t plan themselves well. That same year, he was with that my friend when I came to visit and he told her “I really want to marry Princess” (laughs) and my friend started laughing and she told him it’s not possible.

He kept on pestering her and told her why don’t you tell her first and lets hear what she says, she (Latifat) now said I don’t think I can tell her, Princess is my very close friend and I can’t tell her that because Princess doesn’t have time for men now and she has said it’s her work for now. But he continued disturbing her to tell me, so that day we were watching a TV program and I love cooking so she saw a dish and said this dish is very nice how I wish I could eat it now and I said oh you want me to stand up and go prepare this food, so when I went to the kitchen.

She later came into the kitchen and said she wanted to tell me something, and I said what is it, she said this person likes me and wants to marry me, so I just started laughing, it was very funny, she felt embarrassed and went back to the sitting room, I asked her why won’t I be embarrassed, when the person told you, why didn’t you just tell him Princess won’t agree and she said that’s exactly what she told the person but the person insisted.

I told her to give the person my number, and when he called I was just laughing, he asked “what’s funny”, I said nothing, he now said “well he is Latifat’s friend” and I said yes I know that, and I started bombarding him with questions just to discourage him, so he won’t call again.

So when his credit got finished, he called back again. I said this one I have been asking him many questions na wa o but its okay do I have more questions to ask? and I said yes o and started asking him more questions, I asked him questions again till 11:30 PM, he ran out of credit again and called back, and I am like where are you getting all the money for this credit, he just said “don’t worry I will call you back”, when he called back again he asked if I had more questions and I said no because it was already past midnight and we have talking since past 6.

Friend to Fiance
That was it! We later became friends and got very close, then he said he wanted to marry me and even told me many things about myself. I was quite surprised and wondered how he got to know all about me. That was how we started and things continued but we just decided to keep everything low key. At first I felt it was low key and if he disappionts me, it won’t hurt too much, but when everything became too serious that was how everything went then we started meeting our families and I discovered that some people he knew, were also the same people I know.

Princess Dammy & Adeshola Jeremiah - May 2013 - BellaNaija01

On her sudden wedding announcement
Yes we have been planning it but because my sister was getting married on February 14th, we just felt that hers is the reigning wedding and they were the latest couple, so we concentrated more on hers and also we were trying to avoid the news reaching the press.

So I think 3 weeks or about a month to our wedding, we had already done the introduction and that was when we now started distributing the invitations, because we said if we give people the IVs earlier, news will go around. My husband started distributing his cards a month to the wedding but I started 2 and a half weeks to the wedding because I just said everybody will hear.

On not wanting to publicize her Wedding
The thing is, that’s the kind of person I am. I am just there, I just believe I am like every other Nigerian and even though my work has exposed me and made me to be seen or perceived as a celebrity, my partner is not a public person like that and we just didn’t want too much noise.

Even the day I sent text messages to some of my friends, the next day I started reading so many stories on the internet, and you can imagine that people wrote on the internet that Princess is getting married because she was pregnant and now she is trying to get one guy to marry her.

It was even my husband who saw it and called my attention to it. He was lying on the couch and just laughing and I was like, what’s funny and who are you chatting with?, he just said there is something they wrote on the internet and I said what, he just said it’s on Facebook, they said you are pregnant, and I said don’t mind them but I just felt bad because people sometimes naturally find it difficult to be happy for others.

Even now that I am married, I pray to have kids but you can’t start spreading rumours that somebody is getting married because they are pregnant. You don’t have an insight nor information about them, you can’t reach those people so you just write anything you want. But anyway I didn’t let that bother me, I just kept it to myself. Even when I was rehearsing for my show because we had two different dance routines and it was difficult, so I didn’t even have time to dwell on that.

On what she loves most about him
I love everything about him and he is very understanding. He understands the essence of us being on earth which is just to worship God and he is God fearing.

That’s the first thing I noticed about him and I was even surprised. I have always said If I had choice, I will marry a musician but then which musician can I now marry (laughs). He is very God fearing and at least we are not perfect but if you are God fearing, you will always know when you are doing something wrong.

Princess Dammy also speaks on her humble beginnings in the Nigerian comedy industry, her inspiration for jokes and changing from a course in Engineering to Theatre Arts in the University of Lagos. For more details on Princess Dammy’s interview, pick up the new issue of City People Weekly.

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2buff: my views began this thread

Matthew briggs: @bolded I agree to your statement but also understand that no man or woman is infallible and as humans we make mistakes ...and hurt even those we love dearly due to several factors like ego, incorrect judgements, moments of weakneass, moments when our love is going through fire etc.

EG: I love my mum so much but some timea i piss her off to the extent she threathens to disown me, but i know she loves me to pieces like I do love her

Will your spouse annoy you and vice versa, yes! But there is a line you don't cross

I am sure there are some things you can't just do to your mother

No matter what I am commited to making my relationship with her work because she is my mum.

alutacontinua: The love that we talk about btw partners is not the one in 1Cor 13! It goes beyond that, yes, it's all of 1Cor 13 plus a mix of the emotional constituent!

I love evrybody arnd me, and yes, I mean everybody, even my enemies with the love of 1 Cor:13! That is what is expected of me as a believer with love as a fruit of the Spirit!

But do you expect me to love my enemy and my husband the same way I'm guessing no! Do i love my husband the way 1 Cor. 13 puts it, absolutely yes! However, there's an emotional part to it that makes that love transcend the general love i'm expected to have to everyone arnd me.


The same also applies to ur 'brethren submitting to one another' concept but let's talk about 'love' now and leave the submission part!

Nashville: Smart girl. I think people are wrongly defining love. If you love someone, you will be committed to that person. An example is mother and child relationship, even though it is a different kinda love, but it is an example of how love shows commitment. Most people believe love is the physical attraction, and I agree that wears away after a few years. But real love includes understanding, commitment, forgiveness, humility, respect everything needed for a marriage to work.

So I say love is the key but not the physical attraction type of love only.

Matthew briggs: Thanks for your contribution.

Moreover this is what i told him. I said.
Love is needed for marriage to take place but for it to work it take a commiment. reason been that.

Love is not a enough because... you can love some one so much and still cheat, hurt the person, quarell and do nasty things. Also love sometimes can fade away when we get lazy and fail to do the work needed to make the mariage work... hence the need for commiment.

Commimemnt means knowing that I love this person, we shall face challenges but I will do my best and work hard to make this work, for better for worse.

I told him love brings commiment but what sustains commiment is commiment. When love is weak commitment can hold the marriage.

comiment is a concious decision not an emotional decision.

alutacontinua: @bukatyne, care to explain the 'love is not an emotion' part?

njokusboy: Lolzz, I didn't say you are a feminist.... But you said the case that was stated by the other dude was a temper problem and I was trying to point out that feminists do have temper problems...
Safari for instance, she is very angry, whoever she marries must bend to her will or bust... She would just divorce him without considering the children or worse still, roast his balls...
I know of one sociology feminist lecturer lyk dat, she goes around campus spreading her epistle of hate, telling young girls to stand up and fight for their right, that they should ensure their future husband lounges in the kitchen, she is currently divorced, she gave my friend a D7 because he disagreed with her in class.. You see, they do have anger problems..

njokusboy: You are very wrong sir, the ladies have a problem with "submissiveness" in the cultural sense... They feel it was a tool invented by men to oppress them....
I was merely expanding, trying to let them know that even the bible admonishes submission on the part of the ladies... One lady wrongly asserted that submission was equivalent to slavery.. Nd I needed to bring in the bible to correct her, if she still insists that submission was chauvinistic, she could maybe take her grouse to God, because she is indirectly saying God is a slavemaster or a chauvinist... Shey u grab?

njokusboy: I gave you both sides, it was left for you to decide...
If christian submissiveness isnt what is written in the bible, then na only u sabi dat one...

PocketEconomist: i said i wasn't gonna comment again, but this comment struck me. Wow! @koyes, you are right, but everyone here should not resort to calling people names. I think the problem is that some men mix culture and relighon i.e. Telling the woman to be submissive on the grounds of the bible and at the same time,want to be dominant based on culture. I may be wrong though.

mayorall: Hard to build up a house, easy to destroy with bulldozers.

TV01: Man as in generically male and female or just men?

So just men then, women developed no dysfunctional desires as a result of the fall?

So women were simply unenlightened, and now that they are, mens fallen nature makes relations between them even worse?

As women of course do not require regeneration?

You respond to misogyny with misandry and a side dish of confusion? One thing is for sure, with this kind of scriptural incoherence and muddled thinking, things will not get any better.

Bukatyne, I sense you are very earnest and applaud that, but almost every aphorism you make seems too come with a concerted effort to feminise Christianity. "Feminianity?" Sound like it's neither fish nor fowl. Christianity stands alone and cannot be added to.

Don't worry, you don't, not in the slightest.


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warrior101: You've met with your match and he kicked your butt... I'm taking a lesson from that bros. Must be an elderly man I assume...

njokusboy: So you want evidence to proove that men are emotionally stronger? Lemme quote a version of the bible for you... There is a reason why the devil chose to tempt Eve over Adam.. 1 timothy 2:12 -14 says sumtin lyk dat...

If you can't establish the relationship between female submission/ male dominance in relation to a man having 4 wives, then I don't know what to tell you... A man marries, 4 of you, keeps yall under his roof, sleeps with all yall randomly and you don't know what is submissive about that?

A woman should respect her husband because he is just her husband, what does that even mean A husband is the head of the home, do you know what it means to be the head... The woman is his HELPER,do you know what helper is??

I didn't say a woman should respect a man because he is the provider, a woman who refuses to respect her husband becos he is broke was never respectful... I don't know where you dug the provider part from... Oya prove me wrong, " quote it"....

Again I think you are quite confused as to the definition of submission be it "christian submission" or otherwise......

PocketEconomist: nope. Three years plus. This is my second handle, forgot the first ; D but it's all good.

PocketEconomist: @bukatyne thank you. I appreciate.

njokusboy: A man is not only physically stronger, he is also emotionally stronger, hence why he is the leader... Women generally, are emotional creatures hence why the man is to protect and shield her, you are still saying the same thing, "the man is the pillar, so the woman should support and respect him"....
Its a watch my back I watch yours kind of thing like you rightly said, I protect you with my might, you respect me for that... Simple... Isn't it the same? Isn't dat balanced enough?
Make dat "christian submission" then, there is submission in other religion.. And its even stronger than that in christianity... The fact that a man marry 4 wives is proof enough of that...

njokusboy: Owk, gud...

But I'd like to correct sumtin, submission is not only for christian homes, its even less pronounced in christianity in comparison to other religions... Go and do some research on that... Except you are thinking outside the religious context...

Now, that is another angle, in religion, submission is kinda automatic... The bible states that the man should lead the woman... Adam was before eve, it said, and Adam did not err... NOTE: this is what the bible say oh, its not me talking... Now I wasn't referring to irresponsible men, if a man discharges his duties effectively a woman owes him her respect.. I think dis is in recognition of the fact that the woman is the weaker vessel... Its only natural that the stronger gender leads, I am sorry but that is how it was programmed to be.. The man protects the woman... Infact I think the best way for women to avoid this submission thingy is to stay away from marriage entirely or do it the European way, where u can divorce any man as soon as you disagree with his principles... The latter ofcourse is against the principles of Christianity..

I don chill

njokusboy: Owk, what are my definitions of submission in my previous posts...

Did I dispute the fact that a husband should love their wives, did I say otherwise

Again, I didn't dispute that...

Submission is only for christian homes, are u an atheist A muslim cannot even argue this and most of us are either christians or muslims.. The point I am trying to make is that submission is stronger in other religions than in christianity...

Finally, this is the funny part, I quoted what is in the bible "word for word", I neither added, subtracted or implied into it...its not just a version of the bible, they are too numerous for me to start quoting... A simple google search would help you...

And who told you I am not a christian... Why refer to me as anybody Which principles are you referring to?

warrior101: You have the mouth of a truck driver...

njokusboy: Is it only your spouse you show love to, while my verse was SPECIFICALLY talking about how couples should relate, yours was about how people should generally relate with each other,What are you saying? I asked u a question, "how does dat verse negate the verse I quoted and in what way did me or the verse I quoted encourage slavery and battery like u suggested....
I aint fretting, I am just curious...

njokusboy: Excuse me, where did I say dat? can u quote it?? Dat ur verse is talking about love to everybody not neccesarily ur spouse.... I only said women should be submissive and be more humble, how does that negate what was written in dat verse.. Get ur facts right.. I am waiting for the quote

njokusboy: What did I describe nah, I was only answering that chick nah.. The one that said submission was tantamount to battery and slavery...
1 cor 13:1-8... I go read am

claremont: Correct African woman!

njokusboy: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife even as
Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is
himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to
Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to
their husbands. Ephesians 5 :22-24

But I want you to understand that the head of every
man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and
the head of Christ is God 1corinthians 11:3...

No be me write am, na so e dey for bible...
Nd submission doesn't mean the man should make his wife a slave, it simply means the man is the head, he leads the wife follows...

njokusboy: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife even as
Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is
himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to
Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to
their husbands. Ephesians 5 :22-24