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Nashville: Most married men do not have time for these long stories but I will just type a bit. First of all mods, if this makes front page, I will sue all of you. ok.

First of all married guys, how do you cope with all these Jezebels all around the place. It seems guys become more desirable once they are married. Men used to be the hunters but now they are the hunted. I do not live in Nigeria and one of the main reason my wife doesn't want to go back home is just because of all these girls. But I visit regularly.

Once, I was home alone in London (when we lived there) and my family had travelled on holiday to the US. So a friend calls and says we should go for another friend's birthday party. It was the guy's 35th birthday so we went there together and I drove. So on getting there, I met one chick that is engaged to the celebrants younger brother, and they were planning to get married in a few months. Her fiance wasn't at the party but she went there as sister in law concern. We got talking and first thing I told her was that I was married and she was even in the same profession as my wife so we talked almost throught. So we left very late and I said I would give her a ride and my other friend was there as well. The moment she entered the car she was all wow, this is the best car she's ever entered etc. To cut the long story short she asked for my number because she claimed she wanted to get in touch with my wife for some professional advice. I innocently gave her my number. Next thing, I started getting texts from her saying we should hang out, what were my plans for the weekend etc. I had to tell her my family was back and so she understood.

What made this particular girl tempting was that she was the exact opposite of my wife. My wife is slim like a super model, even after two kids but this girl was the exact opposite. I had always dated lepa girl but this one was just voluptous. Big in the right places. And she was not even scared that I was friends with her brother -in-law. 9ja girls no dey carry last o. They can smell a successful young man from afar off.
Even when I visit Nigeria, I just meet several girls who just want to hook up, and they know you are married. Some of these girls even come from very well to do homes. I can understand the girls from a poor background but even the ones that their parents are very rich are involved.

Married men, abeg make una dey very careful for 9ja o. Gone are the days when guys were the hunters!

pickabeau1: what the... impressive

Excellent post!

omotenah: Exactly, considering I av lots of male friends, he might see ABCDE in AB (if u guys knw wat I mean)

jumzzy448: I never knew kuyie is this pretty. The way some people insult her on nairaland, I use to think she's one old woman. Girl, you are very beautiful. No wonder she's on fire.

Waiting for the day tpi@ will put her pix online.

I wish to have twins oo. But hubby says no more baby.

kulyie: thanks bukky

byvan: Whatever gave one the morale to cheat, should also enable the person keep the secret.

byvan: Confess ke? ,why ll you want to dump your emotional baggage on someone else?the guilt you feel is your punishment.

ypepe: Buky, shift for corner let's hv fun abeg!
The thread nefa tire u ma?
Me I don tire o!
Na enjoyment galore till thread closes!

RoyPCain: ^ so you ladies have not seen co wives who are like sisters? and their children are like children of each co wife?

i come such a home. and i have seen many in america.

and those who called their husbands dogs, wow is what i say.


you women are so selfish that you do not want the good that you have for your sister in womanhood.

libero00: Then quite bluntly your mother does not love you. If she did, she would respect your beliefs. You are willing to change for her but she is not willing to change for you. Can't you see she is using the tatic of making you feel guilty by inciting fear into you because she's insecure about her religion so she needs to convert you to reassure herself of her salvation?
My advice: tell her the day you go to god, you will go to an early grave as well. Tell her not to worry her salvation is already secure.
I beg you, stick to your belief. Religion has been the cause of many wars in this world.

teeo: That's how parents are oo they feel it's their place to do the correction and not the reverse.
My mum used to tell me that until the day I start feeding her, her word is law in the house.

Her word isn't law anymore but advice that I choose to obey or not. Boys are now men. .

just tell the children to endure soon things would change.

lorretta u: I never truly got the hang of that word "companionship" until now.
I had a bout of cold/allergies some nights ago. One night I couldn't sleep from sneezing and coughing. Hubby stayed up all night to be with me. And we fell asleep in the early hours of the morning. I'd have done same for him. And the next when my dad called to know how we were doing, he said "we were sick thru the night"
That's the goodness of being together

There are plenty perks to being married
E.g sex without guilt (covers face)
Having someone who's with you all along the way and you both can share problems. Nothing like 'his problem' it's now 'our problem'
No more 'his money' now 'our money'

Being together is a good thing.

jdzarrus99: I love dis,u'r kinda funny.9ce 1 4rm u.

Nashville: I'm disappointed. I thought you were hotter than that!

That aint hot!

dayokanu: First thats not you, You wan scam us

Then whom are you trying to seduce with that ten yards of Pa-heint? That material for the paheint reach to do curtain

Post your own photo Bukky

Chillisauce: Hmmm...buka!
So dem don dey ask for your hot red pant and bra pisure.

Ok o...

Na siddon dey look I dey.

*bites kola*

Nashville: Bukky, this is one challenge you cannot back out of.

Just do it!

dayokanu: A picture of yourself would be better than a thousand words

An0nimus: is there a team like that?

Chillisauce: #redPants

Goldenboy007: What do women want exactly? You fight man

He screams at you - Na wahala, He is evil and a bully.
He keeps quiet - Na wahala, He's insensitive and keeps malice.
He stands and look when you abuse him mercilessly- He is mumu and coward, not man enough for you!
He returns your abuse with a stinging slap - Devilish and evil, divorce a potential wife killer.

So it is easier for you to make a resolution not to beg him again rather than to make a resolution not to offend him again?

Take note of this, men have different ways of resolving issues within themselves, whether you beg him or not he needs that time to resolve the issue within himself before he can resolve with you. Men are generally analyst, they need to analyze the impact of that your so called "simple offence" before they can move on, some do it in shorter time and some take longer. Some of you women would intentional repeat a behavior you have been corrected about thinking what it takes is just to say "sorry" and you would now complain he is not accepting your apologies. You can go ahead to stop begging him, when that time comes you would discover that it was easier to beg than to hold a 40 days fasting and prayer in Shiloh or RCCG camp for a failing marriage.

deols: Every pastor has a prophecy. But not all are the same.


If they'd spoken in unison from different parts of the world, I would have agreed. For I think God could not have been saying different things about the same year to different people.

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My honest thought is, pastors are humans like You and me. Worship God like you have been taught and not fall Mugu for anybody.

why would you accept negativity because someone said so?

ronu e daada my friend!

Ewuro707: *shrug , You asked a question and I redirected it to your pastor(if you have any) being the fact we are discussing 'Christian Feminism' *smh.

Buka, Feminism have always and will forever remain a collective movement = Sisterhood. Same ideals & cause. ( I'm not even talking bout the core/radicals. just Feminism)
This is exactly what my stance is on this with Nigerian wannabes. what you simply described is modifying feminism to suit/fit your morals/personal conviction= Individualism.

Apparently the lady in the article and her extended family practised feminism their way too= individualists , she got booted after she got married and started having kids , ventured out and discovered what the term is about.

Stop throwing the Name around just cause, if you ain't part if the movt, you ain't a Feminist period.

I mean You can't possibly qualify as Psychiatrist without acing the boards?

Happy new year.