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yellowpawpaw: I hvnt tot about them for once. I still don't know why considering my kind of person.
Maybe, I'm shy to initiate such. But its good for those who hv d mind to explore.
That's part of what I call variety and since d essence is to attain maximum intimate satisfaction, why not?

(I miss jidegal, cos she is a specialist in this field)
It has its disadvantages too like u can't get s*exual satisfaction with ur partner alone if u get addicted just like p*orn.
CC, where r u?
Yes, it can enhance bedroom action for the naughty minded.
Ladies, don't be shy pls, let's rob minds together.
Some might hv inhibition bc of religion too.
Some women r yet to go raw in d bedroom bc of religious beliefs and we r here discussing s*ex toys.


Buky, can u use them? (I pray u r born again o!)
Deol I know is a muslim so I will ask her how its viewed in d muslim community.
Baby gal pls we need ur input. R they frowned upon?

Yellow PawPaw! You are wacked!

I am just reading this and you really knocked me off

I am not married but my fiancée is not ok with in from discussions, how we are very open people and he might be willing to experiment in future. I guess it has to do with your believe system. They preach daily in my church that o.ral s.ex is wrong and bla bla but I just face front.

Try and brooch it in discussion with oga and get his feedback

Baby mama: I got married right out of the university and got pregnant immediately
We moved to Obodo oyibo shortly after
Since we were in JJC in Obodo oyibo ,I had no choice but stay home,it wasn't by design
I did some menial jobs at some point part time here and there to help out while he was a grad student
I always wanted to work ,I didn't like being at home full time and when the opportunity came for me to get my license,I took it and we worked hard to make it through .
There are women who enjoy being stay at home moms,I don't advocate it
A woman needs to work and earn her own money IMHO
I have seen marriages fail and the woman has no working skills
I have also seen the man pass away and the woman is left with kids and no working skills
For those two reasons,a woman should work outside the home even if part time
Nobody knows tomorrow
You don't want to be stranded with no where to turn when things don't work out as planned

Thanks for your response

I will feel wasted if I stay at home too. I guess it's just a spirit

Baby mama: All of una wey just dey read,write something na
Ask questions
Give your opinions and counter opinions
Let's make it a discussion

the thread was to learn, you are changing the rules half way! lol!

how did you cope with staying at home for a while? were there no options or was it what you guys agreed before marriage?

fellis: What I meant was, is there any man who doesn't have at least one of the traits on that list? Is there any one who is completely free of all the qualities there?
I don't think so.
No offense to anyone.

i understood you perfecting and i am telling you that there are a lot of good men out there

fellis: Is there any man that doesn't fall into one of these categories?



No offense to guys.




Or if una like, get offended. E no consain me.

There are a lot and I have one beside me.

Even though we have a lot of damaged goods parading as men, there are still a lot of good men out there.

It is the duty of every woman to find hers.

If we complain that some men are bad, how about the foolish women who chose them with their two eyes opened?

Sweetlemon: I don't know why people equate financial generosity with being caring.

Please abeg. They are two different things entirely. Can you call a rich man who lavishes money on a lady but has done juju to take her womb, destiny, etc away from her "caring"

Please money is just one of the ways of showing that you care. A man who cares about a woman does not even want to see her hurt, not to talk of being the cause of her pain!

Ladies get that into your skulls!

We need to stick this beautiful post somewhere permanent

But the affinity between ladies and money (esp. money they did not work for) is an epidemic

byvan: Sometimes deep within me,i feel sorry but to say it nah war,but am getting better at it.

We will get there In Jesus Name

Bashirhendricks: I can see that this is an old post, but guys I need help. I got married 1 and half weeks ago, my husband and I were sexually involved only 3 times each in the quickest possible time. I have tried to seduce him and I seem to be failing to a point were he snubs at me and says NO to my advances. I recently discovered that he flirts with his ex and have lunch quickies....could this be the reason of denying me

Dear,

Open a new thread in the family section, you will get the answers you seek

byvan: At least I scored an A in the jigijigi part and no third party part,i ll keep working on my ability to say sorry without arguing unnecessarily,i ll get there soon .


@pocketeconomist,It's not hard for all men,i had to learn the word "Sorry"from my husband,his maturity kept it together in our early days.

Lol! @ bolded

@ your last line, same applies to me too

@BabyMama,

What a wonderful thread.

It is filled with wisdom and we learn daily.

By my experience and God's wisdom, I had known a lot of these esp. third party part. I can say I have never complained/reported him to anybody before in our 7years together. we have also never carried a quarrel overnight or for more than a few minutes before.

I really learnt about the rationalizing part from this thread. When I do/say something I feel it's not offensive and he takes it otherwise, I always try to justify/rationalize and I apologize when I see he is not seeing. I guess I sometimes can be too logical I have learnt not to even rationalize sef; sfterall, he is the only one I have

I also learnt something vital yesterday when we had an issue that communication is extremely important because we both can not see things the same way.

God bless you

ikp4succes: IS DAT YOU!!

The fact that humans are not perfect does not mean a woman or man should settle for a nonentity

OP: nice tips

i might not agree to all but they are really nice.

for those chanting equality, i was thinking equality will mean you treating her like a queen and she treating you like a king.

does the fact that you are equal with your mates make you rude or nasty to them?

i believe most of the guys on this thread are joking

it is well

@OP:

as important as the love of a man to a woman. True love is God's gift to man

coogar: and how did you reach this conclusion?

Don't bother yourself,

I am not interested in a debate on what is glaring

Donxavier: In the context of a loving relationship, 'this means you act in a way that pleases your hubby and there is a oneness when it comes to taking and implementing decisions. You are also obedient and respectful and do not unilaterally go against your hubby's wishes'.

This doesn't mean the wife becomes a non-entity, a person with no input or concerns or being treated like a slave. It doesn't mean the wife is treated without respect and love.

I actually meant in NL's definition.

I don't like to think obedience in husband -wife relationship; it's submission. Obey is more for kids to their parents. A child cannot submit to his parents; he obeys them

I know that submission doesn't make one a non-entity but the way people define it on NL, you go fear

Nashville: Bukky, you are arguing with Coogar again? You still haven't learnt your lesson!

You can never win!!!

Me arguing ke?

I get plenty work to do!

Just making my observation in passing

According to Coogar,

If a woman is not 'submissive', she will be breaking all the stuffs in the house

What is even the definition of submissive sef?

Anita looks older than Lola

Lola is prettier (based on the pictures in the OP as I have not met either ladies in person)

They both look and are 'chopping the money'

CORDROSS: thanks...

Check Konga

A+ was 34k; A2 was 41k

As at last week

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

Now, you can look back in future without regrets that you made the right choice.

God be with you

Take care and take a while to analyze what signs you saw/didn't see before jumping into the arms of the next available guy.

frenex: My brother inlaw's wife(my husband's younger brother) told me that she want to walk out of her marriage. The white wedding was done 2 months ago after the traditonal wedding. Her reason is that the husband is not very rich as she wants. That he cannot take care of her. Meanwhile the husband is living in a 2bedroom flat and has a good business (footwear wholesale selling) at lagos island. I ddnt take her serious until my friend also told me she told her the same thing. Should i tell my brother inlaw her wife's plan? Please i need your advice. Cos he doesnt know her plan and he loves her so much. I dont it to look as if i'm meddling in his marriage.

Did the wife know his worth before they did? If yes, then she has some serious problems

Whichever way, I feel she will still go as it is only a matter of time before she sees a richer man.

As for telling your BIL, please don't as when she is ready, she will tell him herself so that it does not become your word against hers and you become tagged 'enemy of progress'.

Pray for them

It's well

Welcome to the world ATINUKE!

You will be a source of joy to your parents, a solution to your generation and the light of your world.

God be with you

[quote author=babe_online]OP congratz to you in advance. This is really good news.

I wish mama Atinuke safe delivery. [/quote]lol @ mama Atinuke

Obinoscopy: And you think there's an amount of love a man would love his wife that would make a hitherto unsubmissive wife submissive? It goes both ways my dear.

A good wife shouldn't wait for her husband's love to be submissive. A good husband as well, shouldn't wait for his wife to be submissive before loving her.

However, I still maintain that most women don't even need their husband's love to be submissive. All they need is his wealth, and they'll bow. This is very bad. I pray such women don't cross my path.

If submission is what I think it is, then a woman needs a man's love to be submissive. it is a response to his love

Why will a man marry who he doesn't love in the first place? Why will a woman marry a man who does not love her?

Ewuro707: Ogas Nashville & Peakabeau. I guess you just can't win this battle- even though you both have repeatedly made your stance clear about this issue like a kumon tutor teaching chronic ADHD students.

Madam Efemena : you win , give it up already.

Was there a competition?

Efe, congrats!

Black Kenichi: https://scontent-a-lhr.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-frc3/1471791_767903663225963_118799301_n.jpg

Expect if the pictures are playing tricks on the girl or she has aged, she should just stick to low cut

Obinoscopy: For most women, money makes them submissive, not love. Infact, nowadays that the economic situation has warranted both man and wife to work to earn money, the woman will lose her submissiveness the very moment she realises she's the breadwinner, no matter how loving and caring the poor husband is. And this is so sad.

A good wife is supposed to be submissive to her husband. A good husband in turn is to shower her with love and care. Money should not be brought into the equation.

A good husband showers his wife with love and care;
A good wife in turn submits to him. There is no amount of submission that can make a man who does not love a woman love her

[quote author=4C2215131][/quote]you mean because a woman sees a man as her equal, she will not reciporate when he treats her like a queen?

deols: I was going to say that. Not pregnant, I like sand. I especially like the smell of sand when it rains and I could eat sand or sniff it when I think it is pure. Only God knows what a pregnant me would do.

@Op, you sound like a good husband. Do keep it up.

hi,

are you a mind reader?

i love the smell of the soil when it rains especially at the beginning of the rainy season

i guess we are destined to be farmers; what''s your take?

@OP: God will keep you and wifey and grant her a safe delivery. you both will grow old together and your love will continually blossom.

threads like this dey sweet my belle

name your daughter Atinuke

Hmmmm.....

OP, give us feedback on the outcome

[quote author=oko-omoge]In my opinion, I think black African women
are retarding instead of progressing when
it comes to marital issues.

They learn the wrong things, I have observed
that educated Caucasians are very respectful
of their husbands. It blows me away to his
Successful Doctors,Engineers,dentist just
mention a few build a lovely home with their
husbands.

I think most Nigerian lady after watching
the so called real house of wives of this and that, pick all the bad stuffs.

My 2 cents,

The success of the children lies solely
with the mothers. Success is not just attending D'ivy colleges around the world , real success begins at home
with the right moulding/foundation.[/quote]And i know that most African men do not respect their wives. Why can't husbands learrn from the western marriage to see how to build a respectable home?

If according to you, white women are getting it right and black women follow what they act in films without the desired results, could it be that the black man is the problem?

You say the success of the kids lay solely on mothers yet when we say fathers are good for nothing other than sperm donation, you begin to vibrate like Nokia 3310. The average black man wants to eat his cake and have it.

Make up your mind: it is eeither you actively care and train your kids with your wife and invset to make your home blissful and be called a father or you leave it all to your wife and be a sperm donor

Shinatu: Is it the same Bible that says 'so shall a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife'?

Na wa o, for the way we have 'traditionallly doctored' this bible.

Have you not gotten the Nigerian Bible?

Please do

Virgin Finder: I thought the Bible said women are the weaker sex? Are you an atheist?

Weaker sex or weaker vessels?

Stop reading your Bible upside down (if you read it at all)